Libra girls help me out
This topic was created in the Libra forum by virgoguy79 on Wednesday, January 9, 2008 and has 14 replies.
I'm a virgo guy and really love this libra girl but she is already dating a cancer guy. My question is, while libra is in a loving relationship, does she still think about someone else she might like or is she pretty much satisfied and single-mindedly focuses on her bf?
stay away if she's in a relationship. you'll lose credibility if you pursue her while she's involved with someone else.
Depends.
Libra always has to choose between two things. Two lovers, two jobs, two interests, two friends.
She may think about you but that doesn't mean she will ever do anything about it especially if she is happy.
Libra always has to choose between two things. Two lovers, two jobs, two interests, two friends.
She may think about you but that doesn't mean she will ever do anything about it especially if she is happy.
Don't go there.
I've been in this position before, and I dearly loved both of the men. I think, now in hindsight, I loved the man who was not actually my boyfriend most. But I chose my boyfriend.
Libra's like being in relationships and they especially like to make them work. You may be able to get a little emotion from her, she may cheat with you, but this will not turn out the way you want it to.
If you love her so much you cannot remain friends, you should tell her how you feel. Otherwise, I suggest sitting back and waiting to see how it works out. If you remain her friend and things deteriorate with her current bf than you have an angle to work with.
Libra's like being in relationships and they especially like to make them work. You may be able to get a little emotion from her, she may cheat with you, but this will not turn out the way you want it to.
If you love her so much you cannot remain friends, you should tell her how you feel. Otherwise, I suggest sitting back and waiting to see how it works out. If you remain her friend and things deteriorate with her current bf than you have an angle to work with.
wow thanks for the insight libras! Yes, i totally agree about not pushing her and leaving her alone if she is happy right now but to let her know how i feel about her and hopefully one day if she is single she'll remember me (sorry for that long run-on sentence lol).
Unless she's a snake, she won't cheat on her present bf, she'll break it off first if you're who she wants. Just be careful...we love attention and may get caught up and since we don't like hurting other people's feelings she may not tell you what the real deal is.
We have been know to stick in a bad relationship until the bitter end...so protect yourself don't show to much until you are sure.
We have been know to stick in a bad relationship until the bitter end...so protect yourself don't show to much until you are sure.
I am a libra and I always try to stick it out in my relationships...I have never left a relationship unless I knew there was some possibility with someone else out there though, and even then I leave when I know it is absolutely going no where and when I have tried everything to make it work...if she is unhappy in her relationship, you have a shot..but not by pursuing her now, while she's still in it. Libra's love security, and even if she's not inlove with her current boyfriend, something is working for her, by staying in the relationship she feels safe and secure. But if she is happy, she will be loyal to her boyfriend...we don't generally cheat unless we are completely unsatisfied with our present situation...Stay her friend, if you give even the slightest, little hint (hinting is better than telling her, she'll freak out if you tell her and she feels like she has to make some sort of decision)...she will defintely wonder about you if she hasn't already....knowing there is another possiblity out there will get her thinking, we are always looking for our Perfect match, our perfect soulmate...
wow! sakesumo ur bang on! Unfortunately i received this info too late. I told her over text messaging my feelings for her (while she is still in her current relationship and seems very happy and satisfied with him....they've been together for almost 1 year now). You are totally bang on! After i told her, she started texting me all these questions about why i like her and stuff and i really didn't want to tell her anything but she kept on insisting so i felt the need to just be honest and open so i told her. After that, she literally wrote this, "I'm so scared. I'm really freaked out right now." and she never texted me back in over a week since then.
She was definitely thinking but i think me answering all her questions just freaked her out and she has decided to retreat 100% to her cancer bf and hasn't texted me at all. I didn't text her either cuz i figured she just needs the space and i won't hassle her or bother her ever. I will just wait until she texts me back...if she ever will.
All this happened right after i took her out shopping and we texted that night....but never heard from her since. Yikes!
I totally agree that she doesn't want to cheat on her bf nor does she want to hurt anyone....but i don't know why she had to just give me the silent treatment so abruptly right after we went shopping and exchanged about 100 texts over the day and previous 2 days. I sort of feel hurt by her just leaving me without even telling me that she wants space or doesn't think we should pursue anything at the moment. She just left me hanging here......i feel like i did something so wrong to her and i feel like such a horrible person because her just leaving me without every explaining or texting me back makes me feel like i'm some monster she has to run away from and never see again. I still love her but i feel really wounded.......i think i know what she was thinking but i just thought at least she'd tell me or say bye or something instead of leaving me hanging here.
She was definitely thinking but i think me answering all her questions just freaked her out and she has decided to retreat 100% to her cancer bf and hasn't texted me at all. I didn't text her either cuz i figured she just needs the space and i won't hassle her or bother her ever. I will just wait until she texts me back...if she ever will.
All this happened right after i took her out shopping and we texted that night....but never heard from her since. Yikes!
I totally agree that she doesn't want to cheat on her bf nor does she want to hurt anyone....but i don't know why she had to just give me the silent treatment so abruptly right after we went shopping and exchanged about 100 texts over the day and previous 2 days. I sort of feel hurt by her just leaving me without even telling me that she wants space or doesn't think we should pursue anything at the moment. She just left me hanging here......i feel like i did something so wrong to her and i feel like such a horrible person because her just leaving me without every explaining or texting me back makes me feel like i'm some monster she has to run away from and never see again. I still love her but i feel really wounded.......i think i know what she was thinking but i just thought at least she'd tell me or say bye or something instead of leaving me hanging here.
...talk about running away and hiding in the cave.....i thought only us virgos did that 
* I sort of feel hurt by her just leaving me without even telling me that she wants space or doesn't think we should pursue anything at the moment. She just left me hanging here......
She told you she is really freaked out right now. She also loves her boyfriend and possibly feels like she already did something wrong by going shopping with you so she is avoiding all the drama.
She probably doesn't want to upset her boyfriend. That is where her loyalty lays.
She told you she is really freaked out right now. She also loves her boyfriend and possibly feels like she already did something wrong by going shopping with you so she is avoiding all the drama.
She probably doesn't want to upset her boyfriend. That is where her loyalty lays.
Virgo guy 79
I can relate to your situation...My Libra pursued me for months until I dated him...then when I had feelings he told me he wasn't ready for a relationship with no explanations or apologies for hurting me, except, sorry that his roller coaster emotions led me astray..
We stayed friends for awhile and then he asked to see me again as friends, so i agreed, and spent time with him again...mistake..he told me how much he missed me and how he liked me more every time he saw me..so I got screwed up again...and asked him what he wanted from me...the same not ready for a relationship nor does he want one...
once again with no explanation...
I felt hurt as well and didn't understand why he would say things like that and then not want to be with me...he left me hanging as well, so I cut the rope...no contact
It's very hard and I miss him a lot, but I figure if he was the right person for me, we would have gotten together when we were both ready...
Very painful experience, do yourself a favour and just be friends and if you can't be just friends, cut off contact until you can...
I can relate to your situation...My Libra pursued me for months until I dated him...then when I had feelings he told me he wasn't ready for a relationship with no explanations or apologies for hurting me, except, sorry that his roller coaster emotions led me astray..
We stayed friends for awhile and then he asked to see me again as friends, so i agreed, and spent time with him again...mistake..he told me how much he missed me and how he liked me more every time he saw me..so I got screwed up again...and asked him what he wanted from me...the same not ready for a relationship nor does he want one...
once again with no explanation...
I felt hurt as well and didn't understand why he would say things like that and then not want to be with me...he left me hanging as well, so I cut the rope...no contact
It's very hard and I miss him a lot, but I figure if he was the right person for me, we would have gotten together when we were both ready...
Very painful experience, do yourself a favour and just be friends and if you can't be just friends, cut off contact until you can...
oh. I think she is really truthful when she said she was really scared. You rocked her scales!!! She's out of balance!!! It will take her some time to regain it, and meanwhile, you need to be patient.
I understand you are hurt about it, but love hurts and we all warned you that she might not respond the way you wanted her to. She is mulling it over, turning it around, looking at it from 18 different angles. She is a libra and cannot make a decision until she has seen the issue from all possible sides. She is being smart to not contact you right now, she doesn't want to say something to you she doesn't mean because that would be insincere.
You've told her, good for you. That was brave and lovely. She has a little gem from you, she likes it (i'm guessing) she's keeping it hidden and mulling it over. I hope you can become friends again and that things work out for the best for you both.
I understand you are hurt about it, but love hurts and we all warned you that she might not respond the way you wanted her to. She is mulling it over, turning it around, looking at it from 18 different angles. She is a libra and cannot make a decision until she has seen the issue from all possible sides. She is being smart to not contact you right now, she doesn't want to say something to you she doesn't mean because that would be insincere.
You've told her, good for you. That was brave and lovely. She has a little gem from you, she likes it (i'm guessing) she's keeping it hidden and mulling it over. I hope you can become friends again and that things work out for the best for you both.
thanks, i absolutely agree with your assessment. I probably rocked her off her scales and she's probably taking the time to regain it and being smart not to contact me and say something she isnt sure about. I'll just play this waiting game....but i know there is a chance she may never contact me again and if that comes to be....i'll let her go. Sometimes two points have to go opposite directions in order to meet again and complete the circle.
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