Libra guy constantly in contact........ WEIRD!!!!

So, I met this guy at university.He was a friend of my friend. Next thing, he friends me on facebook and I accept.He pings me at 1 am, and next day 2 am, I don't reply because its late night. Now, this guy keeps texting me all the time, if i dnt reply, he will catch me on facebook or if not there, text me on whatsapp. Hes like what am I doing, where am i, when will i meet him ...bla bla bla. Initially, i was like , maybe hes a extra friendly person, but then the last time, he invited himself to my house for dinner, I gave some excuse and came out of it. He made me feel bad for i didnt welcome him, so to cure my guilt, i called him on a lunch. He himself converted the lunch to a dinner. He came, we ate, talked, and then as he was about to leave, he asked me to hug him,,,,I said NO, Sorry. I just blurted it without thinking. He insisted to hug over 4-5 times!!!!! He left and as soon as he left, he started texting me again. I tried telling him that hes over friendly, and asked him if he had some hidden agenda. He told me that he liked my company and liked talking to me,,,,thats it. I reconfirmed, if he had some liking feelings, as thats what i can read from his behaviour, but he denied it.

To be honest, he seems like a sweet guy, buy hes someone I would be friends with, but hes always bugging me like every day, and 50 times during one day.

I have been brutally honest with him, he knows i ended a long relationship months ago and I am not looking for anything at this point. How do I deal with this libra guy in a nice way without hurting him and vice versa.


Thanks for reading!!! 😄

Lol same situation im dealing with 2 libra guy friends 1 who lives few blocks from me and another lives in the same city.. the 1 who lives in the same city bugs me all the time like idk whats up with him.. he texts, calls, email me.. say goodmorning, goodnyt, lunch time, dinner time blah blah blah.. if i dont respond on his txts or or dnt answer his calls he'll blow my message box.. i know libras are very friendly but this guy i find somewhat exhausting like no space.. he always find ways to contact me send me messages in wechat and all.. hmm sometimes i prefer not to respond anymore coz i know he'll never stop talking but i do respond though when i feel guilty so what id do is send him like 1 txt and he'll send me like 5 in return lol.. now he kind of lay low i guess he's read between the lines that im not really that interested..

He's trying to manipulate you into something. I'd be pissed off at all the pushiness. I just dropped someone who was trying that same shit with me. It's a huge turn off.

Daily talking is one thing, but pushing to invite himself over, changing plans to his liking and a more intimate setting, and insisting on invading your personal space against your wishes is beyond over friendly. It's obnoxious behavior.

Guys like him are the same ones that will whine about how women are all the same and only like bad boys. The reality is that they're absolutely stunted in how to really deal with women.

I don't think it helps that you eventually respond to all his harassment of getting in touch with you. If you hadn't been out with him before, you probably shouldn't have entertained the idea to begin with given his behavior. Now he thinks it's a green light to get what he wants from you despite your statement in not wanting to get into anything.

It sounds like he's just used to getting his way with this tactic and it wouldn't surprise me if girls gave in, since many are raised to feel guilty for ignoring such crappy behavior.

Stop giving him something to string himself along with. If you don't care for it that much, either directly tell him why you don't like his behavior, or just drop the dude all together.

I just cut all contact with a strange Cancer guy pulling the same shit. I'd kept an eye on it for awhile, but it took one bs comment to make me sick and tired of the pushy, manipulative approach to get a date and I just blocked his ass without warning (I refused to give him my number because I could only imagine the barrage of texts I'd get).

You should only have to make yourself clear once. If they choose not to listen, then that tells you a lot about them.

I don't understand this behavior. Why do women feel obligated to be nice to someone they find obnoxious or even entertain their demands when you aren't even interested?

You owe him nothing! You are leading him on by being Ms. Nice.

Posted by aquarius09
I don't understand this behavior. Why do women feel obligated to be nice to someone they find obnoxious or even entertain their demands when you aren't even interested?

You owe him nothing! You are leading him on by being Ms. Nice.

Agreed. Women feel like they're being "mean" by saying no. Hell, I was told I was being "mean" when I blocked that dude.

I freaking told him I'm slow about this stuff. He acknowledged my response and continued to be a pushy ass about what he wanted instead. Fuck that. Talk about lack of respect for one's wishes. You ain't getting NOTHING from me, buddy. gtfo. :/

OP you need to do the same. Figure out what you want to happen, and do something about it. This meek bullshit won't win you any favors.

Yes, if you don't give them much attention, at least they invite themself to you house ... The thing thst I hate in a man the most ! There are restaurants where they could invite you, but Libra are so selfish in general and the thing for what they want to come to your home, I think you know it.... only to obtaining some sex from you after dinner,.... if there is time for him to take dinner or not, in fact he wants come for this ... Weird ! Run !

Have you try'd talking to them to wonder why they coming on so strong like that, find out whats going on

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Posted by aquarius09
I don't understand this behavior. Why do women feel obligated to be nice to someone they find obnoxious or even entertain their demands when you aren't even interested?

You owe him nothing! You are leading him on by being Ms. Nice.

Agreed. Women feel like they're being "mean" by saying no. Hell, I was told I was being "mean" when I blocked that dude.

OP you need to do the same. Figure out what you want to happen, and do something about it. This meek bullshit won't win you any favors.

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+1. Only a pushover would tell you that you're being mean, their opinion doesn't count.