Libra guy help with Aquarius girl who was a friend
This topic was created in the Libra forum by Libra927 on Thursday, June 15, 2017 and has 26 replies.
We knew each other for awhile and then dated a handful of times which the 4th time I turned her down to go home with her because she just got out of a serious relationship. We went on talking for months as the ex passed and she was and has been devastated. She texted me a lot telling me she missed me, we got together and would tell me I was sexy, flirty, etc etc but then told her friends that she wasn't interested in anything romantic right now IE I am not attracted to you. (I was shocked based on how she acted all the time and really confused though I guess nothing romantic ever happened) I texted her when I found out that I wasn't interested in friendship and that I cared because I felt like I was led on. I reached out to her a month later after there was some bad blood from her friends in our circle because we share the same circle and told her I wanted everything to be ok and was trying to forgive her and myself, that I was sorry. She told me she was just thinking about me and how she missed me and wanted to do something soon. Did she not understand that I still didn't want friendship? It never worked out because she was really sick and then I went on vacation. I told her I wanted to have fun together soon and have a chat and she sent me a bunch of blue hearts.
Am I the one that needs to be reaching out to her? I feel like that may be stupid because it would just to be telling her once again that I am not interested in friendship.. If she contacts me again do I need to reiterate my expectations? I want there to be harmony really bad and feel like there has never been closure. I am seeing other women but still think about her all the time and believe that I really do love her. Any advice dealing with crazy Aquarius helps? Do they act interested then pull away? Did I miss the signals?
Am I the one that needs to be reaching out to her? I feel like that may be stupid because it would just to be telling her once again that I am not interested in friendship.. If she contacts me again do I need to reiterate my expectations? I want there to be harmony really bad and feel like there has never been closure. I am seeing other women but still think about her all the time and believe that I really do love her. Any advice dealing with crazy Aquarius helps? Do they act interested then pull away? Did I miss the signals?
I think that maybe people in the circle of friends that you guys had might have been haters
The person who told you that she was saying things like she didn't want a relationship was in females or males and in the past if those same females ever show an interest in you?
Could you explain what you mean by "haters"? Like hating on I walked away so easily?
That is crazy it was her best friend that is a female and has now been pursuing me to hang out...Do you really think her friend would do something like that? I never thought about it that way...
I find it strange that men ask the question - should i pursue her? Come on! Do you feel it? Do it, damn it! Aquas are not predictable, they can keep it away, hidden, of wide in the open. Just be yourself!
Posted by compyShe already said thoiugh that she wasn't interested like that and she wasn't looking for something romantic IE I don't see you more than a friend...
I find it strange that men ask the question - should i pursue her? Come on! Do you feel it? Do it, damn it! Aquas are not predictable, they can keep it away, hidden, of wide in the open. Just be yourself!
Posted by Libra927
That is crazy it was her best friend that is a female and has now been pursuing me to hang out...Do you really think her friend would do something like that? I never thought about it that way...
Yeah dude, it sounds like her best friend might have had some shady intentions.
Posted by tizianiI acted most of the time like I was interested, telling I wanted to see her, hey beautiful. I've reiterated every step of the way "I miss you too".
She's either very honest or playing up to your expectations for attention.
It is hard to tell which one because of the way you told your story. There were no details about how you acted and spoke towards her.
I just found out too she's been hooking up with a best friend of her ex boyfriend on the regular recently so I'm tempted to just back away.
Posted by tizianiPosted by Libra927Ah OK. You dodged a bullet there, man.Posted by tizianiI acted most of the time like I was interested, telling I wanted to see her, hey beautiful. I've reiterated every step of the way "I miss you too".
She's either very honest or playing up to your expectations for attention.
It is hard to tell which one because of the way you told your story. There were no details about how you acted and spoke towards her.
I just found out too she's been hooking up with a best friend of her ex boyfriend on the regular recently so I'm tempted to just back away.
What do you mean I dodged a biullet?click to expand
Update: She texted me my buddy and her friend in a thread and asked us if we all wanted to go disc golfing yesterday or today. Her friend said she could only go Monday as she was goinc out of town and I said we couldn't go tonight as we had band practice.
It seems like she is just trying to put me back in friendzone which is not what I want and I've already made that explicitly clear. Do I just ignore her texts now?
Anyone there?
It seems like she is just trying to put me back in friendzone which is not what I want and I've already made that explicitly clear. Do I just ignore her texts now?
Anyone there?
Posted by compy
I find it strange that men ask the question - should i pursue her? Come on! Do you feel it? Do it, damn it! Aquas are not predictable, they can keep it away, hidden, of wide in the open. Just be yourself!
I think she needs healing from her ex who passed away... That cannot be easy one anyone and I think you should be there as a friend to her and reject any advances she might try to give you. I think she has been maybe gving those advances to get an emotional reaction so she can give an emotional reaction due to death of (even if its a former) "loved" one
Seriously dude just be there for her. Death is horrible and can really fuck someone up. Just know it's not about you, it's about her. Maybe she needs to find a healthier outlet for what she's going through but just be there for her. You clearly care enough about her to come on this website, so just be there for her
Posted by FafaGirl I dealt with Aqua too but i think you knew that lmao. I went through a very painful death when it came to him (Aqua man), and he called me selfish for wanting to hang out with him after his long day at work (my long day was 17 hours in the hospital waiting for someone very near and dear to me to pass away)
If this helps my aqua female friend sexes her crush all knowing he is involved and also sexes her cancer ex. I disagree with it all and think it's wrong but I keep my opinions to myself because they hate to feel like they are being judged. My advice to you in dealing with aquas is to run now. But seems hard seeing y'all have same circle of friends. Commitment isn't easy for aquas and they easily get bored and distracted by the next new think. FYI I am a libra also. I dealt with an aqua while on a break from my Pisces and it was pure confusion. I expressed my feelings and he got distant. Best thing that could have happen for me!
Dude be there, but don't have many expectations
Posted by bittercupcakeHER EX IS DEAD HOLY SHIT
..she's still hung up on her ex...at least that's what it sounds like... she was just using you to mask the pain.. and using her ex bfs friend as well... the fact that she's messing around with more than one guy shows where her heart truly lies... in neither one of you... at least not right now
Posted by bittercupcakeSORRY ABOUT THAT. Her ex is dead. He died. He "passed" away. I'm sorry is that better?Posted by kmri365??... i don't get the OVER CAPATALIZED LETTERS....Posted by bittercupcakeHER EX IS DEAD HOLY SHIT
..she's still hung up on her ex...at least that's what it sounds like... she was just using you to mask the pain.. and using her ex bfs friend as well... the fact that she's messing around with more than one guy shows where her heart truly lies... in neither one of you... at least not right nowclick to expand
Posted by bittercupcakeWelllllll it's probably gonna be a hell of a lot harder to get over him now and what she needs now is friends and supportPosted by kmri365I know he passed away... you imbecile... that still doesn't mean she's not over her ex...Posted by bittercupcakeSORRY ABOUT THAT. Her ex is dead. He died. He "passed" away. I'm sorry is that better?Posted by kmri365??... i don't get the OVER CAPATALIZED LETTERS....Posted by bittercupcakeHER EX IS DEAD HOLY SHIT
..she's still hung up on her ex...at least that's what it sounds like... she was just using you to mask the pain.. and using her ex bfs friend as well... the fact that she's messing around with more than one guy shows where her heart truly lies... in neither one of you... at least not right nowclick to expand
This guy is not going to have the patience to wait for her to heal, not to mention to try to help her ease the pain, at least. The most beautiful relations with Aquas start with friendship and real unconditional support, but he is too young and restless to understand it. The girl still pays attention to him, which means she might consider something more in the future, but not now.
To fulfill his needs for love (or lust, whatever), he should look somewhere else. If he wants something long lasting and serious, he should be there for her, when she needs him as a friend first and foremost.
To fulfill his needs for love (or lust, whatever), he should look somewhere else. If he wants something long lasting and serious, he should be there for her, when she needs him as a friend first and foremost.
Posted by compyVery well put
This guy is not going to have the patience to wait for her to heal, not to mention to try to help her ease the pain, at least. The most beautiful relations with Aquas start with friendship and real unconditional support, but he is too young and restless to understand it. The girl still pays attention to him, which means she might consider something more in the future, but not now.
To fulfill his needs for love (or lust, whatever), he should look somewhere else. If he wants something long lasting and serious, he should be there for her, when she needs him as a friend first and foremost.
Posted by FafaYep! We dated for 8 months at the time. It was a great story. I went out to the bar with some friends (one of whoms father passed away a few days before so he was home from the marines for a bit) and that friend took my phone, seduced him to come to the bar pretending he was me, then threw him on his car and just yelled at him "thats my little sister you better treat her with respect" that was pretty awesome and i miss them all everyday (that friend passed away as well)Posted by kmri365he called you selfish????????? I promise that is one sign i will never date ever again in life. life is just way too short.Posted by FafaGirl I dealt with Aqua too but i think you knew that lmao. I went through a very painful death when it came to him (Aqua man), and he called me selfish for wanting to hang out with him after his long day at work (my long day was 17 hours in the hospital waiting for someone very near and dear to me to pass away)
If this helps my aqua female friend sexes her crush all knowing he is involved and also sexes her cancer ex. I disagree with it all and think it's wrong but I keep my opinions to myself because they hate to feel like they are being judged. My advice to you in dealing with aquas is to run now. But seems hard seeing y'all have same circle of friends. Commitment isn't easy for aquas and they easily get bored and distracted by the next new think. FYI I am a libra also. I dealt with an aqua while on a break from my Pisces and it was pure confusion. I expressed my feelings and he got distant. Best thing that could have happen for me!
Dude be there, but don't have many expectationsclick to expand
4 years later that indecent still boggles my mind and makes me question why i dated that aqua for so long. he knew how important my uncle was to me
Posted by FafaJust my life I guess seen way too much death. Friends father passed away due to heart problems, uncle passed away due to lung cancer, that was kinda crazy though he passed only 2 months after he was diagnosed, and friend passed away due to terrible car accident. Friends father was 3-18-14, uncle was 3-23-14 and friend was 8-18-16Posted by kmri365why are all these people passing away, what is going on? what hapen if you dont mind me askingPosted by FafaYep! We dated for 8 months at the time. It was a great story. I went out to the bar with some friends (one of whoms father passed away a few days before so he was home from the marines for a bit) and that friend took my phone, seduced him to come to the bar pretending he was me, then threw him on his car and just yelled at him "thats my little sister you better treat her with respect" that was pretty awesome and i miss them all everyday (that friend passed away as well)Posted by kmri365he called you selfish????????? I promise that is one sign i will never date ever again in life. life is just way too short.Posted by FafaGirl I dealt with Aqua too but i think you knew that lmao. I went through a very painful death when it came to him (Aqua man), and he called me selfish for wanting to hang out with him after his long day at work (my long day was 17 hours in the hospital waiting for someone very near and dear to me to pass away)
If this helps my aqua female friend sexes her crush all knowing he is involved and also sexes her cancer ex. I disagree with it all and think it's wrong but I keep my opinions to myself because they hate to feel like they are being judged. My advice to you in dealing with aquas is to run now. But seems hard seeing y'all have same circle of friends. Commitment isn't easy for aquas and they easily get bored and distracted by the next new think. FYI I am a libra also. I dealt with an aqua while on a break from my Pisces and it was pure confusion. I expressed my feelings and he got distant. Best thing that could have happen for me!
Dude be there, but don't have many expectations
4 years later that indecent still boggles my mind and makes me question why i dated that aqua for so long. he knew how important my uncle was to meclick to expand
Posted by FafaThank you! I was pretty messed up after my uncle for a while. I was with my friend too but I had a much better support system when he passedPosted by kmri365Posted by FafaJust my life I guess seen way too much death. Friends father passed away due to heart problems, uncle passed away due to lung cancer, that was kinda crazy though he passed only 2 months after he was diagnosed, and friend passed away due to terrible car accident. Friends father was 3-18-14, uncle was 3-23-14 and friend was 8-18-16Posted by kmri365why are all these people passing away, what is going on? what hapen if you dont mind me askingPosted by FafaYep! We dated for 8 months at the time. It was a great story. I went out to the bar with some friends (one of whoms father passed away a few days before so he was home from the marines for a bit) and that friend took my phone, seduced him to come to the bar pretending he was me, then threw him on his car and just yelled at him "thats my little sister you better treat her with respect" that was pretty awesome and i miss them all everyday (that friend passed away as well)Posted by kmri365he called you selfish????????? I promise that is one sign i will never date ever again in life. life is just way too short.Posted by FafaGirl I dealt with Aqua too but i think you knew that lmao. I went through a very painful death when it came to him (Aqua man), and he called me selfish for wanting to hang out with him after his long day at work (my long day was 17 hours in the hospital waiting for someone very near and dear to me to pass away)
If this helps my aqua female friend sexes her crush all knowing he is involved and also sexes her cancer ex. I disagree with it all and think it's wrong but I keep my opinions to myself because they hate to feel like they are being judged. My advice to you in dealing with aquas is to run now. But seems hard seeing y'all have same circle of friends. Commitment isn't easy for aquas and they easily get bored and distracted by the next new think. FYI I am a libra also. I dealt with an aqua while on a break from my Pisces and it was pure confusion. I expressed my feelings and he got distant. Best thing that could have happen for me!
Dude be there, but don't have many expectations
4 years later that indecent still boggles my mind and makes me question why i dated that aqua for so long. he knew how important my uncle was to me
i'm sorry to hear this. Stay strong.. Sounds like your doing just that.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakeyes but im sure support would do them well. i agree lots of patience, but a lot of empathy as well. i think in the sense of death, theyll want to deal with someonePosted by kmri365...true...but aquarius don't like to deal with people when theyre hurting....OP has to be extremely patient and forget about any relationship right now... as this might take a while.Posted by bittercupcakeWelllllll it's probably gonna be a hell of a lot harder to get over him now and what she needs now is friends and supportPosted by kmri365I know he passed away... you imbecile... that still doesn't mean she's not over her ex...Posted by bittercupcakeSORRY ABOUT THAT. Her ex is dead. He died. He "passed" away. I'm sorry is that better?Posted by kmri365??... i don't get the OVER CAPATALIZED LETTERS....Posted by bittercupcakeHER EX IS DEAD HOLY SHIT
..she's still hung up on her ex...at least that's what it sounds like... she was just using you to mask the pain.. and using her ex bfs friend as well... the fact that she's messing around with more than one guy shows where her heart truly lies... in neither one of you... at least not right nowclick to expand
Posted by compy
This guy is not going to have the patience to wait for her to heal, not to mention to try to help her ease the pain, at least. The most beautiful relations with Aquas start with friendship and real unconditional support, but he is too young and restless to understand it. The girl still pays attention to him, which means she might consider something more in the future, but not now.
To fulfill his needs for love (or lust, whatever), he should look somewhere else. If he wants something long lasting and serious, he should be there for her, when she needs him as a friend first and foremost.
Wow that was some heavy brutal honesty. I was selfish. I was upset she didn't come to me. I don't know how to mend this but I'm scared of getting close. but you are right and someone else who said if I truely cared and pushed her into a box of being serious, of course she would act the way she did.
You're right. She has always come back wether it be Facebook comments or trying to hang out with my friends and whatever else.
Posted by Libra927Just be there for her. As a friendPosted by compy
This guy is not going to have the patience to wait for her to heal, not to mention to try to help her ease the pain, at least. The most beautiful relations with Aquas start with friendship and real unconditional support, but he is too young and restless to understand it. The girl still pays attention to him, which means she might consider something more in the future, but not now.
To fulfill his needs for love (or lust, whatever), he should look somewhere else. If he wants something long lasting and serious, he should be there for her, when she needs him as a friend first and foremost.
Wow that was some heavy brutal honesty. I was selfish. I was upset she didn't come to me. I don't know how to mend this but I'm scared of getting close. but you are right and someone else who said if I truely cared and pushed her into a box of being serious, of course she would act the way she did.
You're right. She has always come back wether it be Facebook comments or trying to hang out with my friends and whatever else.click to expand
Investing an emotional relationship with an Aquarius is like washing your car during the rainstorm. Just forget her, trust me you're dodging a bullet.
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