Libra, how ALOOF are you?
This topic was created in the Libra forum by kristalaries on Monday, August 8, 2011 and has 9 replies.
I am Aries with Libra rising. I constantly find myself being distant with people.
Before I study zodiac, find out about my ascendant, moon sign etc..I thought I am a bit quirky.
But now I understand it's a normal Libra trait.
I can be nice and friendly with a person and the next day be distant.
It's not because of arrogance but I see it as a matter of balance. What about you? How aloof are you?
And..do people ever complain regarding your aloof behavior?
Before I study zodiac, find out about my ascendant, moon sign etc..I thought I am a bit quirky.
But now I understand it's a normal Libra trait.
I can be nice and friendly with a person and the next day be distant.
It's not because of arrogance but I see it as a matter of balance. What about you? How aloof are you?
And..do people ever complain regarding your aloof behavior?
The good sides of being ALOOF...
(based on my experience)..
- I always give people benefit of the doubt. If they don't pick up the phone, I assume they are busy or perhaps engaged in an activity (driving etc) that they can't pick up. Usually after one ring, I leave them alone and get back to what I was doing before.
- I think I am more easy going
- I don't get angry if friends don't get back to me asap because I understand perhaps they need to sort things out first before being able to relax.
(based on my experience)..
- I always give people benefit of the doubt. If they don't pick up the phone, I assume they are busy or perhaps engaged in an activity (driving etc) that they can't pick up. Usually after one ring, I leave them alone and get back to what I was doing before.
- I think I am more easy going
- I don't get angry if friends don't get back to me asap because I understand perhaps they need to sort things out first before being able to relax.
"As for answering my phone, depends on how lazy I am and how far away my phone is! Haha..."
Perfect answer. I am more of a "I don't take calls; I make calls" kind of gal. Only because I don't want attention or connection unless I am ready for it.
People always say that I am somewhat standoffish especially when the first meet me, like I'm not very friendly. I am actually very nice and I'm not trying to seem so distant, I just don't really care
Perfect answer. I am more of a "I don't take calls; I make calls" kind of gal. Only because I don't want attention or connection unless I am ready for it.
People always say that I am somewhat standoffish especially when the first meet me, like I'm not very friendly. I am actually very nice and I'm not trying to seem so distant, I just don't really care
I have been told that I am aloof and I guess I see it. I play most things close to my chest. People have often commented that they can't tell if I am paying attention or not because they get no visual reaction when they tell me things (good or bad). It's because I leave emotion out of my decision making process (as much as I can), especially when it is about me. I've had people come up and tell me some pretty fucked up shit before and I haven't flinched... outside. Inside, I say, "wow, that sucks. Set aside the emotion for now. What's the next step?". I'll absorb the news and think it all through quietly. Outside, all the other person gets is a pause and, "Okay, here's what I'm going to do". My replies make it clear I was listening and often leave people thinking I was expecting the news because of how thorough the reply is. I have strong thoughts and feelings about things I just don't share them. I am not interested in what most people have to say, so by default I assume no one cares what I am saying. It's different with close friends and family, I'll tell them anything and listen to/help them in any time or way I can.
I've also been called cold hearted before because I truly do not understand crying for someone else's pain. I don't fault anyone for crying, I've done it a few times too haha. Perhaps some of it comes from many many experiences which make me doubt that people are truly good inside (I really try to believe that), but I have trouble with sympathy. I can empathize with people, I've been through some shit myself so I can even add personal (or second hand) experience with a lot of stuff. If not, I can still empathize with someone in a tough spot and I am willing to help if I can but I can't sympathize with them. I can't feel your pain. Sorry, I just don't... it's yours.
As for the phone, I rarely call anyone. One of my kids lives with his father out of state and I call him every weekend. I call my own father every month or four. Other than that it has been maybe two months since I made a pleasure/friend phone call. I use my phone for banking, and bills, and the kids school, etc. That is one thing I'd like to change because I have lost touch with some great people just because I don't call anyone. When I really think about it I suppose it goes back to the (unconscious) assumption about people not really caring what each other are saying. Even when I know it isn't true I still just don't use the phone.
I've also been called cold hearted before because I truly do not understand crying for someone else's pain. I don't fault anyone for crying, I've done it a few times too haha. Perhaps some of it comes from many many experiences which make me doubt that people are truly good inside (I really try to believe that), but I have trouble with sympathy. I can empathize with people, I've been through some shit myself so I can even add personal (or second hand) experience with a lot of stuff. If not, I can still empathize with someone in a tough spot and I am willing to help if I can but I can't sympathize with them. I can't feel your pain. Sorry, I just don't... it's yours.
As for the phone, I rarely call anyone. One of my kids lives with his father out of state and I call him every weekend. I call my own father every month or four. Other than that it has been maybe two months since I made a pleasure/friend phone call. I use my phone for banking, and bills, and the kids school, etc. That is one thing I'd like to change because I have lost touch with some great people just because I don't call anyone. When I really think about it I suppose it goes back to the (unconscious) assumption about people not really caring what each other are saying. Even when I know it isn't true I still just don't use the phone.
Very aloof - but I really pertain this to Saturn in my chart.
The type of friends that understand this and are the same way, apart from Libra would be Aquarius and Virgo, with the occasional Leo. Gemini springs up after half a decade and tend to go from where we left off, so yah.
The type of friends that understand this and are the same way, apart from Libra would be Aquarius and Virgo, with the occasional Leo. Gemini springs up after half a decade and tend to go from where we left off, so yah.
I am working on that. I am extremely aloof about things that aren't connected to my friends and family. I do care about children but other than that I could care less.
i'm noticing that i can only relate to people in a superficial way and i can't get deep with that many of them.
and the ones i do wanna get deep with don't seem to wanna get deep with me
i show compassion when im talking to people and i try to look like i'm genuinely interested in what they're saying and stuff (which i am) but people seem to pick up on my superficial vibe and they stop coming to me after awhile.
i feel like i need to start showing more and more interest in other people. i don't wanna be that superficial chick that nobody wants to connect with on a deep level because they think i won't understand them. i feel like this is why i keep attracting superfical girls in my life. because I'M superficial. I need to change.
It's not really cute to be aloof, if you think about it. I wouldn't wanna be around someone that's aloof or indifferent.
and the ones i do wanna get deep with don't seem to wanna get deep with me
i show compassion when im talking to people and i try to look like i'm genuinely interested in what they're saying and stuff (which i am) but people seem to pick up on my superficial vibe and they stop coming to me after awhile.
i feel like i need to start showing more and more interest in other people. i don't wanna be that superficial chick that nobody wants to connect with on a deep level because they think i won't understand them. i feel like this is why i keep attracting superfical girls in my life. because I'M superficial. I need to change.
It's not really cute to be aloof, if you think about it. I wouldn't wanna be around someone that's aloof or indifferent.
melanieG--I am experiencing the same! especially this part : " i'm noticing that i can only relate to people in a superficial way and i can't get deep with that many of them.
and the ones i do wanna get deep with don't seem to wanna get deep with me "
Perhaps people notice from the way I present myself and that i am always nice with everyone..they assume it as superficial.
I also dislike being in crowded places..
and the ones i do wanna get deep with don't seem to wanna get deep with me "
Perhaps people notice from the way I present myself and that i am always nice with everyone..they assume it as superficial.
I also dislike being in crowded places..
there's nothing wrong with wanting to be nice to everyone. i think that's a great quality to have so long as you are genuine towards these people. so that's not what you need to change.
maybe it would help for people like us to start being more selective and cautious about who we choose to cultivate a deep relationship with. i admit that i have a fear of being disliked so that's one of the major reasons why i choose to be nice to people. i basically just do it to protect my reputation and also to avoid drama (it's totally a libra thing lol)
you kinda need to be persistent about these things. the only way to earn trust is to be persistently caring.
you need to act like you genuinely care about people. it's the only way to get people to open up to you.
we don't have to be aloof if we don't want to.
maybe it would help for people like us to start being more selective and cautious about who we choose to cultivate a deep relationship with. i admit that i have a fear of being disliked so that's one of the major reasons why i choose to be nice to people. i basically just do it to protect my reputation and also to avoid drama (it's totally a libra thing lol)
you kinda need to be persistent about these things. the only way to earn trust is to be persistently caring.
you need to act like you genuinely care about people. it's the only way to get people to open up to you.
we don't have to be aloof if we don't want to.
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