Libra male pulls a cyrano

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Lionness718 on Sunday, January 14, 2018 and has 21 replies.
So in an earlier post I said that my cancer friend was rekindling a relationship that she thought was years in the making with a Libra male from her past that reached out to her. He is married to an Aquarius and gave her the impression that he wanted to and was planning to leave his marriage. Well his wife caught on to him and he lied about everything instead of being honest so he and my friend stopped talking. I told her to move on (also with advice of people on this site) and she started to (she was pretty heartbroken). She started to look like her old self and she was healing. After three months, no contact from either side, he showed up at her apartment and called her name till she came to her window. He said he missed her so much and literally he said I have to leave before I get in trouble and took off just as fast as he got there. Any insight to that behavior? Wtf was that?
that was the night he had a fight with his wife.
Wow whatever happened to talking it out. That’s sad I thought a Libra would be more communicative with his spouse. She dodged a bullet.
Posted by jeane
that was the night he had a fight with his wife.
Right
I guess I’m a little blind to this issue. I would usually tell people what my issue is.
I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Posted by Lionness718
I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
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Posted by Lionness718
I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
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He showed up unexpectedly and she froze but she hadn’t heard since And she hasn’t tried to find him. She’s never been through anything like that so I guess in the moment she just didn’t know what to do but listen to him. Perhaps a text telling her not to do that again
Posted by Fafa
Call the police next time. End of day he is married and a cheater. She needs to move on
I agree. I never understood why someone just doesn’t get a divorce if all they wanna do is cheat.
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I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
He showed up unexpectedly and she froze but she hadn’t heard since And she hasn’t tried to find him. She’s never been through anything like that so I guess in the moment she just didn’t know what to do but listen to him. Perhaps a text telling her not to do that again
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she shouldn't text him. it would just be an opening to start talking again. she should just ignore him. he'll find the next shiny thing to entertain him.

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I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
He showed up unexpectedly and she froze but she hadn’t heard since And she hasn’t tried to find him. She’s never been through anything like that so I guess in the moment she just didn’t know what to do but listen to him. Perhaps a text telling her not to do that again
she shouldn't text him. it would just be an opening to start talking again. she should just ignore him. he'll find the next shiny thing to entertain him.

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Hahaha shiny things. Can’t be that simple can it? . I thought Libras were the relationship ones. They find true love they don’t cheat but I’m hearing quite the opposite.
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I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
He showed up unexpectedly and she froze but she hadn’t heard since And she hasn’t tried to find him. She’s never been through anything like that so I guess in the moment she just didn’t know what to do but listen to him. Perhaps a text telling her not to do that again
she shouldn't text him. it would just be an opening to start talking again. she should just ignore him. he'll find the next shiny thing to entertain him.

Hahaha shiny things. Can’t be that simple can it? . I thought Libras were the relationship ones. They find true love they don’t cheat but I’m hearing quite the opposite.
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cheating is not determined by sign but libras can be fickle when things get hard.

i know the stereotype says we are the relationship sign and that maybe true but how that manifests itself can be different. for some they might be serial monogamists, others might be cheaters (all the relationships all at once) and others maybe committed to not settling until they find that one golden relationship to surpass all others.

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I guess telling him to get lost might be a good way of letting him know she’s not here for the bullbutter.
Has she not done that already?
He showed up unexpectedly and she froze but she hadn’t heard since And she hasn’t tried to find him. She’s never been through anything like that so I guess in the moment she just didn’t know what to do but listen to him. Perhaps a text telling her not to do that again
she shouldn't text him. it would just be an opening to start talking again. she should just ignore him. he'll find the next shiny thing to entertain him.

Hahaha shiny things. Can’t be that simple can it? . I thought Libras were the relationship ones. They find true love they don’t cheat but I’m hearing quite the opposite.


cheating is not determined by sign but libras can be fickle when things get hard.

i know the stereotype says we are the relationship sign and that maybe true but how that manifests itself can be different. for some they might be serial monogamists, others might be cheaters (all the relationships all at once) and others maybe committed to not settling until they find that one golden relationship to surpass all others.

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True. I wish he had been Number one or three for her but instead it seems like she got number two.... he Gave her a lot of number two LOL. I can’t say I see things in black-and-white but I kind of do more like all in or all out (Taurus). Cancer sees Black-and-white but if it’s white she hopes There’s a chance of black and if it’s Black then she hopes there’s a chance of white. I will say in conversations with my cancer buddy she felt like he was always trying to smooth things over and not address the underlying issue. I feel like she’s confrontational, he’s not.
Funny update: she installed a video camera on her home (video doorbell). While she was out cyrano popped back up (motion sensor went off) and I guess he saw the lights out but didn’t ring bell. Sigh Cyrano why can’t you just be a faithful person.
Posted by Lionness718
Wow whatever happened to talking it out. That’s sad I thought a Libra would be more communicative with his spouse. She dodged a bullet.
Not all libra man can talk, my ex simply cannot even open up himself to talk

All his problems i got to know from his Taurus friend. His Taurus friend wanted me to talk with him more but how talk when he doesnt even want to open his mouth and share. All he did, i am like that, i dont want to talk about my problem because i dont want to think about it. Fine, he settled all his problem on his own and in the end flopped and he came to me whinning over it..
So.... he popped up tonight. He came to see her and talk. He said he missed her and they talked a lot like they used to. They always had a connection. She told him “you chose someone over us” and he said that when he started talking to her (my friend), he was already compelled to start leaving and that walking away isn’t that easy and that he needed to figure out what he wants. I told her if he wanted her then he would’ve just chosen her but allegedly when a child is involved (now kids) he said it isn’t that easy. She told him a real horror story about someone who was cheating and how the person he cheated with went buckwild (he knows she wouldn’t behave like that, she’s not there to hurt someone). He said he told his wife everything and that she said she had an idea (I think the horror story made him think she would tell when it was just her telling him what happened). He said he is going to give it an honest shot with his wife (yet he ended up at her door after allegedly confessing to his wife and saying they would work on marriage). He asked for sex and she said no about 5 Times but eventually gave in (I know she’s an ass). He said he will really try to figure out if he should stay and he is saying good bye to her to work on his shit.

My take: when you didn’t speak to her after it turns out you weren’t leaving that was good bye so don’t come back. His risky behavior (wife tracks phone) says to me that he wants out, he was hoping for out or he wants his wife to do something. I don’t know you guys tell me wtf is going on with this dude. I know she’s an emotional crab and she has a weakness for their connection because much like him she doesn’t vibe with too many people.
Posted by Lionness718
So.... he popped up tonight. He came to see her and talk. He said he missed her and they talked a lot like they used to. They always had a connection. She told him “you chose someone over us” and he said that when he started talking to her (my friend), he was already compelled to start leaving and that walking away isn’t that easy and that he needed to figure out what he wants. I told her if he wanted her then he would’ve just chosen her but allegedly when a child is involved (now kids) he said it isn’t that easy. She told him a real horror story about someone who was cheating and how the person he cheated with went buckwild (he knows she wouldn’t behave like that, she’s not there to hurt someone). He said he told his wife everything and that she said she had an idea (I think the horror story made him think she would tell when it was just her telling him what happened). He said he is going to give it an honest shot with his wife (yet he ended up at her door after allegedly confessing to his wife and saying they would work on marriage). He asked for sex and she said no about 5 Times but eventually gave in (I know she’s an ass). He said he will really try to figure out if he should stay and he is saying good bye to her to work on his shit.

My take: when you didn’t speak to her after it turns out you weren’t leaving that was good bye so don’t come back. His risky behavior (wife tracks phone) says to me that he wants out, he was hoping for out or he wants his wife to do something. I don’t know you guys tell me wtf is going on with this dude. I know she’s an emotional crab and she has a weakness for their connection because much like him she doesn’t vibe with too many people.
he wanted sex. was prepared to say anything to get it. he'll be back. they'll likely have an affair. he'll promise to leave his wife. he won't. she'll be strung along for a significant period of time.
I Just don’t get why you can’t be faithful to your wife, just be faithful or leave. I understand there are many dynamics to marriage And people marry for many reasons but if you have to keep lying to someone to get sex that’s actually a weak move. She was with them for about three years before all this other stuff went down. Allegedly he’s not coming back according to what he said but as he was leaving she told him since you’re not coming back I’ll see you in three months LOL. She did tell him she was going to start seeing someone and he said that was a good thing etc. etc.
WIth him not them*
I guess she really is like that. She misses him and is sad without him but she’s also tired of being the doormat to Libra. Guess time to put on her big girl panties and let him reap what he sows.
Posted by Lionness718
So.... he popped up tonight. He came to see her and talk. He said he missed her and they talked a lot like they used to. They always had a connection. She told him “you chose someone over us” and he said that when he started talking to her (my friend), he was already compelled to start leaving and that walking away isn’t that easy and that he needed to figure out what he wants. I told her if he wanted her then he would’ve just chosen her but allegedly when a child is involved (now kids) he said it isn’t that easy. She told him a real horror story about someone who was cheating and how the person he cheated with went buckwild (he knows she wouldn’t behave like that, she’s not there to hurt someone). He said he told his wife everything and that she said she had an idea (I think the horror story made him think she would tell when it was just her telling him what happened). He said he is going to give it an honest shot with his wife (yet he ended up at her door after allegedly confessing to his wife and saying they would work on marriage). He asked for sex and she said no about 5 Times but eventually gave in (I know she’s an ass). He said he will really try to figure out if he should stay and he is saying good bye to her to work on his butter.



My take: when you didn’t speak to her after it turns out you weren’t leaving that was good bye so don’t come back. His risky behavior (wife tracks phone) says to me that he wants out, he was hoping for out or he wants his wife to do something. I don’t know you guys tell me wtf is going on with this dude. I know she’s an emotional crab and she has a weakness for their connection because much like him she doesn’t vibe with too many people.
He just wanted sex and that's obvious. I doubt he has told his wife anything. All cheating married men use the kids as the reason to not divorce. The truth is they have no intention of leaving the woman they married but do want something on the side when they have a fight with their wife or get bored. Any woman foolish enough to put herself in that position deserves what's coming. She should have never given him sex. He got what he came for.