Libra man is playing mind games

This topic was created in the Libra forum by eskay on Saturday, July 27, 2013 and has 33 replies.
I am a Gemini female usually independent and free well I got caught in the web of a Libra man who has loads of girls on his phone and who makes out like I am so important then drops me like a pin. He says he cares and his actions sometimes show it but then when he just ignores me it upsets me I created a drama about it but he was cool with it we remained normal then out of nowhere he starts with his lies about going sleep early too busy to text when you blatantly know that person is lying. No'one is too busy to text if they are into you. He just continuously plays games one minute he will buy me red roses and take me out always wanting to see me and the next he will stop replying to messages or take hours to reply I know about the disappearing act and then comes back again randomly phones me soon as he gets close to me or his feelings start to show he backs off I honestly think he is acting aloof cause I played bit too hard to get or that he lost interest because it is boring our conversations we used to talk for hours but now its like there is not much to talk about. How do you know when a libra guy genuinely cares about you and has feelings?
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so generally when do you men show your serious ?
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With libra men, they can talk some pretty words, but their actions will show how much he cares, nd when he does wrong, it's ur job to corrected him, otherwise libras but you through cycles with that libra charm
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When they aren't pulling the shit this guy is pulling.
I was dating one like this. I said eff it and backed the hell off. I hear from him on occasion but I more or less have emotionally backed out and just threw him in a friend's category for my own sanity/protection.
The question is why are you tolerating his crap?
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friends* category
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We won't play games with the people we truly care about. You'll know we are interested by our actions and that when you with us, even in a crowd, it will feel like there is just the two of us.
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Thanks for the comments everyone @ rockyroadie i have become attached thats why i think i tolerate it but recently i have thrown him off and just havent bothered like i use too. I care about him a grear deal and like anoyone i hoped he would too i dont know he gives me mixed signals :/ one minute i mean everything my opinion counts he tries to impress me wants to know what i like in a guy or what he should wear. He also plays the jealously card says this girl is fit then when i respond with go for it he would be like " nah not interested" this is quite often its different girl but he is always not interested just looks for a reaction. He acts jealous when i talk about another guy yet he comes bacj and fourth now he has come into that habit.
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Yeah, not worth it.
That guy I was dating actually showed some jealous tendencies recently (still hear from him) and it's like wtf dude? None of this cakey eaty shit. Though I think the idea of my having guy friends was part of why he became so flaky to begin with awhile back. He can have his female friends, but a girl he's interested in can't? Nuh uh. Ain't nobody got time for that.
I continue to remain indifferent to the best of my ability. I just emotionally removed myself so I don't get caught up in his bs. I'm okay with being friends if that's the case. But guys, regardless of sign, who act like this just aren't worth the heartache and drama. It will baffle the hell out of you though because morbid curiosity will get to you because it's like omg why are you doing this??
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Yeah i totally get what you mean so what do i do now?
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Libra males are like this: When you are all on their balls they don't want to have anything to do with you. As soon as you have a life and not paying them much attention they act like spoiled brats. The thing to keep a Libra man is to have your own life. Danger in that is he may become clingy. The Libra I used to see had my cell, home, and work phone. He also had 2 ways to email me. I almost never call him and a week would go by (shrug). If he didn't hear from me he'd use all of the above to try to contact me. He'd tell me he felt "distance" between us. SMH. Oh boy he'd call everyday twice a day then and once he felt he "had" me I wouldn't hear from him for a few days. Fine by me I like my alone time; he hates that.
Bottom line; have your own life.
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Posted by eskay
Yeah i totally get what you mean so what do i do now?


You seriously need to ask this?
Don't bother. Stop giving a shit.
Posted by GemStar05
Libra males are like this: When you are all on their balls they don't want to have anything to do with you. As soon as you have a life and not paying them much attention they act like spoiled brats. The thing to keep a Libra man is to have your own life. Danger in that is he may become clingy. The Libra I used to see had my cell, home, and work phone. He also had 2 ways to email me. I almost never call him and a week would go by (shrug). If he didn't hear from me he'd use all of the above to try to contact me. He'd tell me he felt "distance" between us. SMH. Oh boy he'd call everyday twice a day then and once he felt he "had" me I wouldn't hear from him for a few days. Fine by me I like my alone time; he hates that.
Bottom line; have your own life.
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Haha thiiis. These guys can be such masochists. Treat them like crap/ignore them and it keeps them keen, the strange creatures.
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thanks for you all your feedback and I shall take on board everything you all said, I need to get my own life and be independent again. He always contacts I rarely do but I think I should not reply always or maybe it leave a few days then reply now, rather than replies few hours later. I hate the games they play and the disappearing act but I am Gemini I do not mind the space smile Libra men are douches.
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I love people who are independent. As weird as it sounds, I like that healthy balance of contacting me, but doing your own thing. I say this because usually I end up feeling like I'm coming on too strong and then think I'm clingy when the other person is like "you aren't contacting me enough". Actions speak louder then words though, so if it's ticking you off just ignore him and go about your day.
Generally, my head is a constant mash of I'm doing too much, no I'm doing too little, she's interested, she's not interested. Oh why'd you say that it was dumb. Bah you're seeming too smooth. Constant contradictions and questioning. We're the most indecisive people you'll ever meet and it seems as much as I say it people get annoyed about it. Don't you think we're annoyed with ourselves for being that way? I'd love not to be the way I am, but there's no changing it. Believe me, I've tried.
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there is no end unfortunately
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by eskay
Yeah i totally get what you mean so what do i do now?


You seriously need to ask this?
Don't bother. Stop giving a shit.
Posted by GemStar05
Libra males are like this: When you are all on their balls they don't want to have anything to do with you. As soon as you have a life and not paying them much attention they act like spoiled brats. The thing to keep a Libra man is to have your own life. Danger in that is he may become clingy. The Libra I used to see had my cell, home, and work phone. He also had 2 ways to email me. I almost never call him and a week would go by (shrug). If he didn't hear from me he'd use all of the above to try to contact me. He'd tell me he felt "distance" between us. SMH. Oh boy he'd call everyday twice a day then and once he felt he "had" me I wouldn't hear from him for a few days. Fine by me I like my alone time; he hates that.
Bottom line; have your own life.


Haha thiiis. These guys can be such masochists. Treat them like crap/ignore them and it keeps them keen, the strange creatures.
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Libra men make me not so happy about being a libra :/
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Posted by eskay
thanks for you all your feedback and I shall take on board everything you all said, I need to get my own life and be independent again. He always contacts I rarely do but I think I should not reply always or maybe it leave a few days then reply now, rather than replies few hours later. I hate the games they play and the disappearing act but I am Gemini I do not mind the space smile Libra men are douches.


its sad to say but that how you get us libra's guys hahaha.... once we feel ignore we want that person more , as a libra guy its bullshit to do that... trust me sometime we don't know why we do that.
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ESKAY
YOUR WRONG LIBRA MEN DON'T HAVE MINDS
THEY ARE LUCKY TO PUT A FEW WORDS INTO A STATEMENT
YOUR DEALING WITH A SUBHUMAN HERE
HE MIGHT HAVE AN I.Q. SOMEWHERE ABOVE A BLADE OF GRASS
JUST LOOK AT THE PHOTO OF
DIZZYLIBRA
I AM GUESSING HE DOESN'T KNOW WHY HE DOES ANYTHING
IF YOUR GOING AFTER SOMETHING LIKE THAT
YOU HAVE SET THE BAR AT A RECORD LOW
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Posted by XOG
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by eskay
Yeah i totally get what you mean so what do i do now?


You seriously need to ask this?
Don't bother. Stop giving a shit.
Posted by GemStar05
Libra males are like this: When you are all on their balls they don't want to have anything to do with you. As soon as you have a life and not paying them much attention they act like spoiled brats. The thing to keep a Libra man is to have your own life. Danger in that is he may become clingy. The Libra I used to see had my cell, home, and work phone. He also had 2 ways to email me. I almost never call him and a week would go by (shrug). If he didn't hear from me he'd use all of the above to try to contact me. He'd tell me he felt "distance" between us. SMH. Oh boy he'd call everyday twice a day then and once he felt he "had" me I wouldn't hear from him for a few days. Fine by me I like my alone time; he hates that.
Bottom line; have your own life.


Haha thiiis. These guys can be such masochists. Treat them like crap/ignore them and it keeps them keen, the strange creatures.



Libra men make me not so happy about being a libra :/
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Aw, overall they aren't bad guys. Just suffer from a lot of bs at times (mostly the immature ones).
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And for you to hate on my photo and CAP your words clearly see that your a childish person at the age of 46 , grow the fuck up.
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I think you taking this too serious Jame tate.. libra's are known for there indecisive , it jus that fact that this libra she talking about can't make up his mind of what he want. Neither she deal with it or move on.
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So when they come close, love 'em like crazy. When they pull away, act like you couldn't give less of a shit whether they were dead or alive? Got it! I think..(?) lol...maybe...???
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Posted by arletteleigh
So when they come close, love 'em like crazy. When they pull away, act like you couldn't give less of a shit whether they were dead or alive? Got it! I think..(?) lol...maybe...???


Yes. It's hard not to snap & go crazy at first, but eventually you get used to it. It's about their "balance" thing, togetherness + time away = balance. Giving you attention + ignoring you = balance. In a way I think it's a good thing, I mean, nobody wants a person to breathe down their neck 24/7, 365..it gets predictable & boring. Space is good. To avoid feeling hurt, DO NOT contact them when they take time off cause they might not answer, or at least don't expect to get an answer. It's way better if you let them come find you.
It gets confusing though cause you might end up feeling like you're letting him get away with disrespect. But the good news is that, the "balancing" periods become shorter as they get more attached to you. They'll still go away, but it wont be for mnths, weeks..it'll be days! That's when you know you got them. They are quite clingy once they are all in lol, so clingy that you'll pray they disappear! Hahaha
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Let me add that, it's a slow process to get them to the point where they need less time away, so be patient & don't fuss asking them 99 questions about why they didn't reply, etc. Live your life the way you lived it before. A boyfriend shouldnt be your world, just an added piece of your world..an extention of sorts. If you dont let him be your reason for breathing, believe me, it wont bother you if/when he chooses to take a breath away from you & you all's relationship. Independence, ladies, independence!!
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
When they aren't pulling the shit this guy is pulling.
I was dating one like this. I said eff it and backed the hell off. I hear from him on occasion but I more or less have emotionally backed out and just threw him in a friend's category for my own sanity/protection.
The question is why are you tolerating his crap?


Fuck yes
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Posted by GemStar05
Libra males are like this: When you are all on their balls they don't want to have anything to do with you. As soon as you have a life and not paying them much attention they act like spoiled brats. The thing to keep a Libra man is to have your own life. Danger in that is he may become clingy. The Libra I used to see had my cell, home, and work phone. He also had 2 ways to email me. I almost never call him and a week would go by (shrug). If he didn't hear from me he'd use all of the above to try to contact me. He'd tell me he felt "distance" between us. SMH. Oh boy he'd call everyday twice a day then and once he felt he "had" me I wouldn't hear from him for a few days. Fine by me I like my alone time; he hates that.
Bottom line; have your own life.


+1.
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Posted by WaterCup
Posted by arletteleigh
So when they come close, love 'em like crazy. When they pull away, act like you couldn't give less of a shit whether they were dead or alive? Got it! I think..(?) lol...maybe...???


Yes. It's hard not to snap & go crazy at first, but eventually you get used to it. It's about their "balance" thing, togetherness + time away = balance. Giving you attention + ignoring you = balance. In a way I think it's a good thing, I mean, nobody wants a person to breathe down their neck 24/7, 365..it gets predictable & boring. Space is good. To avoid feeling hurt, DO NOT contact them when they take time off cause they might not answer, or at least don't expect to get an answer. It's way better if you let them come find you.
It gets confusing though cause you might end up feeling like you're letting him get away with disrespect. But the good news is that, the "balancing" periods become shorter as they get more attached to you. They'll still go away, but it wont be for mnths, weeks..it'll be days! That's when you know you got them. They are quite clingy once they are all in lol, so clingy that you'll pray they disappear! Hahaha
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I feel like libra moons do this 2.
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Leave him as soon as you can ! You will save your life from sufference ! If you do it later, he will continue to play this games without limits !
Yes, they show to you you are the most important for them when you are somewhere together, but next, he ignore you or disappear , so where is his care then ??? All Libras are like this ! Even they don't say this so. I took with lots of Libras and no one want marry, all think marriage is not for them and they want be free and single ! Libras women the same. I have 4 Libra women friends, they are all in some relationships for years, but no want to marry ! If someone push them to marry or ask this,they acting the same as Libras men, disappear and ignore ! And one of the women is single, she say she feels no love for anyone and for her all peoples are the same !!! So, you can image how hurt will be the one who will fall inlove with her and she will consider him the same as those men ! So weird ! They are not good for marriage and serious things, only for playing games !
Take care !
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I know 4 librans & all are married. The two ladies, one is married to a gemini for 17 years..she is not happy thou for he is abusive and a cheater. And the other one has been married for 8-9 years, I don't know her husband's sign, but she is also not happily married. Her husband has an ongoing affair with a married woman that he refuses to end. Their happiness as husband and wife depends on how things are going between him & his mistress. Example, if they get into a fight then he becomes intolerable to live with & the wife has to call the GF & beg her to take him back. It's weird.
The two libra guys, one married his gf of 12 years last year. She is older than him, is fat & unattrative but he loves her just the same. He is GORGEOUS, btw. They remind me of that libra guy, the one who plays Wolverine in Xmen..his wife is overweight & you'd think he'll want a Hollywood size zero, but no, he wants her.
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so , i haven't read any of the comments, so i might be totally off the subject ..
but.. do libra's really play mind games? plus.. mind games with a gemini ? as if they can win that one .. it's sounds like the guy is still young, doesn't wanna grow up, likes playing around, doesnt want anything serious .. its not really a personal thing towards the other pple.. its just their own self centerdness..
(i am kinda with a libra now.. he apparently used to be like that
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Posted by WaterCup
Posted by arletteleigh
So when they come close, love 'em like crazy. When they pull away, act like you couldn't give less of a shit whether they were dead or alive? Got it! I think..(?) lol...maybe...???


Yes. It's hard not to snap & go crazy at first, but eventually you get used to it. It's about their "balance" thing, togetherness + time away = balance. Giving you attention + ignoring you = balance. In a way I think it's a good thing, I mean, nobody wants a person to breathe down their neck 24/7, 365..it gets predictable & boring. Space is good. To avoid feeling hurt, DO NOT contact them when they take time off cause they might not answer, or at least don't expect to get an answer. It's way better if you let them come find you.
It gets confusing though cause you might end up feeling like you're letting him get away with disrespect. But the good news is that, the "balancing" periods become shorter as they get more attached to you. They'll still go away, but it wont be for mnths, weeks..it'll be days! That's when you know you got them. They are quite clingy once they are all in lol, so clingy that you'll pray they disappear! Hahaha


I feel like libra moons do this 2.
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Lol, I'm a Libra moonsmile
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What arletteleigh and Dizzylibra said is true, give him love then take it away, it makes them feel like they need you, they have to feel like that, otherwise it's too easy and boring. You are a Gemini, you should think this through til you are bored with thinking about it and act accordingly. If he is a game player then just enjoy the game, Gemini's can play the meanest game and you will win if you take your ego out of it, your heart knows he's a player but your ego doesn't want to accept that he wants to play you. Get over that and give him the game of his life, it'll be fun whilst it lasts. Libra males that have lots of girls after them, don't have to make choices, they have too much attention and don't want to lose it. The grass is always grener for them, so you have to stand out and be a little different if you want his undivided attention, this means being more aloof and having a 'whatever' attitude, but giving attention when it is deserved, don't forget to pull back and leave him wanting more.
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IMO Libra are extremely easy to know if they are into you seriously or playing. You will feel and see it, I don't feel its something they make a concentrated effort to hide from you. Its then up to you whether you are willing to accept it or not. I'd remember that with all men, what you allow is what will continue.
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Some of these posts are on point.
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