Libra-Pisces relationships
Hello all. This is my first posting.
I'm in a total quandry. I have been thoroughly infatuated with a Pisces male for two years. Last summer, I got up the nerve to write him an explicit note suggesting we get to know one another (much!) better. He appeared very pleased, but told me he had a girlfriend. Still, that didn't stop him from screwing at least three of my acquaintances. And he continually flirted with me, coming on to me, but never really gave me a firm yes or no. And once, when he saw me talking at length and animatedly to a couple of men, he even reacted jealously (?)-- coming to sit at my table and interrupting the conversation; eyeing me without smiling.
Despite his actions, I am so hung up on with this man. I plan to send him a Valentine's day sms, just to see if there is a vague possiblity that we can start something this summer (that's when he works in my area).
Am I stupid?
Pisceans, is this a typical reaction of your sign?
Help me, please.
Lonesome Libra
Hello lonesome LIbra. I think that this guy is a total player and doesnt really have the capacity to care about anyone but himself. I wouldnt put too much meaning on him getting jealous, either. His actions speak volumes; I would try and forget it if i were you and try to imagine what kind of guy cheats on his girlfriend constantly..do you really want a man like that in your life?
im also a libra who is totally crushing on a pisces. he actually persued me first. he is a bit younger than me and at first i wasnt really into him for anything more than his physical apperance. its wasnt long until i actually started falling for him and he was telling people i was "his girl" well, i guess i came on to strong and scared him away. he said he just wasnt wanting a relationship. i was bummed about it for a few weeks but soon got over it. he actually just recently started calling me again and he always wants to hang out. well, that was until this weekend when a rumor got started and gave him the impression that i hooked up with another one of his friends. he cussed me out and i told him that i was insulted that he would actually believe that. i confronted the guys who i "hooked up with" and asked him why he was telling people that. he was completly baffled and protested that he never said anything like that. i told my pisces about my convo with the friend and he didnt seem to believe me. i cant figure out if this is because he just doesnt care enough and still doesnt want a relationship with me or if its because he is actually hurt by the fact it might have happened and doesnt know what to do. he has to like me or he wouldnt have gotten upset about it, right?
nikki, this is what has caused my depression (referring to another topic we both posted on). im being talked poorly about over something that didnt happen. its degrading my rep. and its hurting my pride.
lonesome, i know that doesnt help you much...im going to have to agree with nikki. but, if you decide that you do want to send him something for valentines day make its very impersonal and more of a friendly theme than a romantic theme. i guess i should learn to take my own advice. its obvious that my pisces is just too immature at this time. if he really liked and respected me he would have approached me in a different nature and would be considerate of my feelings and what i was telling him. he would believe me and would apologize. thats my logic thinking. my heart is saying that he just needs some time to get over the shock that it caused because he really likes me and we are going to work this out and start a healthy, meaningful, fulfilling relationship...YEAH RIGHT!!!
Guys- please listen...i know you are into these "bad boys" but when they say they dont want a relationship, they mean it. It doesnt matter if they pursue you or get jealous over something...the fact that they dont want a relationship wont change. ALso- you dont need his attentions to feel good about yourself..that should all come from within. Libra 20- dont worry about what he thinks of you, you and the people that matter know what kind of person you are.
nikki-
i know i shouldnt care but its not true and i just cant stand when people think things about me that arent true. if i did really do it i would have an "AND??? SO WHAT???" attitude but im not a $ lut and i dont want people thinking i am...
youre right though. the people that i love and love me already know that im not. this guy doesnt know me and doesnt want to get to know me if he is going to allow what other people say have an impact on how he feels/thinks about me.
yes, i know but, he seems to be bringing a lot of negative energy into your life, and who needs that? YOu have nothing to prove to him.
i dont think you are being heartless. youre just giving your honest opinion and i can respect that. it just helps me to re-evaluate everything between us. im going to miss our "alone" moments! they were HOT!
Antibling, I had the same idea myself: that he was keeping me sort of "in the wings." I just can't figure out why he bedded the others and not me. I certainly wasn't the least good looking of the women he was coming on to. So why did he tell me he had a girlfriend, but still went on to dally with those other women? Anywho, I'm still going to send my V. day card. I just can't get him out of my system. I'll see what kind of reaction I get to my sms.
Nikki, your advice is wise and I should probably take it. My head knows it's true, but my heart won't follow.
LilLibra, your Pisces sounds like a f...head, just like mine. As you said about working your problem out and starting a healthy, meaningful, fulfilling relationship... YEAH RIGHT. (Now, I think of it, that last part probably works for me, too.)
Anyway everyone, thanks for your comments and advice. I'll let you know what happens in may case.
well guys i was out last night with friends and got to thinking about my pisces so i text messaged him. he didnt reply or call me but had his friend call me to invite me to the party that they were at. i shouldnt have text him and i shouldnt have gone but i did. i wanted to talk to my pisces face to face about what happened. when i get there its obvious he is with another girl...@ $ $ !!! "why did you have your friend invite me over???" "i dont want to see this $ hit!!!" his friend approached me and told me that he always thought of me as a lady and that i should be around people that are more on my level. my pisces' friend is telling me that im too good for him. he wasnt doing it in a manner that would suggest that he was coming on to me he was just trying to let me know that he respected me and wanted better for me. this was about a 5 min. conversation and as soon as it was done pisces came up to me, "whats up libra?!?!", as if nothing had ever happened. i asked if he had a minute to talk. he stood there and listened as i told him that i was upset with him and asked him why he would believe such a stupid thing. he replied by say, "two of friends were saying it happened and you were really intoxicated...do you blame me?" he has been around me plenty of times like that and he knows that i can handle myself very well. im not a sloppy drunk who goes out and tries to hook up with people. im just always very social and talkative but most of my attention goes towards my pisces. well, it turns out that the whole rumor was started to see if pisces would have a problem with it. they were teasing him about liking me and started that rumor to see how he would react. WHAT IN THE WORLD!!! who does that? if thats your friend wouldnt you be happy for your boy and want to kinda help him out and give him advice? or is this something guys do to each other? pisces ended our conversation really quickly, because his "girl for the night" was walking out the door, saying he does believe me. i followed behind them but only to leave because i had had enough of immature, highschool bu11 $ hit! i graduated two years ago. im so passed that life style . then, some how pisces' friend ends up in my car because they need me to get jumper cables for pisces' car. i see in my rear view mirror that pisces is coming towards my car. he goes to the passenger side of the car to talk to his friend. his friend tell him to get in the car with us to get the cables. but no...pisces doesnt want to leave the party or his car and walks away. friend and i drive away to get the cables and at a light we see pisces, another friend, "girl for the night" and her friend. pisces is trying to talk to us but the girls friend wont roll down the window. we turn different direction and im just venting out all of my anger to pisces' friend. im livid!!! here i am doing that B*TCH a favor and he gets into the car with them. my cell rings and look who it is...pisces. i refuse to talk to him so i hand friend the phone. "are yall coming back?" why do you ever care is what im thinking. friend and i actually are having a very good conversation durning our trip. he asked me what i even saw in pisces. "outside of all the partying and materialistic crap he and i have a deeper connection. we can talk about spiritual and philosophical things. we can talk about religion and things that most people are too scared to talk about. we are both open minded and like to share our thoughts and opinions on things that are unknown to us." you have to remember that we are talking about a pisces here and they just live for stuff like this. friend tells me, "i know that he really cares about you but he is just so wrapped up in the party life style and actual kinda likes drama he just isnt in the right place or time to be in a relationship. he is my friend but you deserve better." i agreed and said that i hope pisces gets it together. you see, he is really into drugs (another pisces trait). my cell rings again and its pi
OH MY GOD! Libra20, that last part sounds so much like what I've been telling myself about my Pisces. I mean, do all Libras think this way or what? The guy has treated you like dog do and you're willing to go back for more? Mine treated me like an old flat tire with no treads and I'm still willing to go back for more. Love is blind and stupid! But love chooses us, we don't choose love. I'm sorry, I'm of no help. I mean, I'm still gonna send my text message. And I'm praying for my Pisces to do anything except ignore it. I don't care if he writes or calls to cuss me out. Just as long as he answers. I'm logging off now. I'm of no help at all.
lol, anitibling, i like your idea of the non-stop sh*gging! lonesome, i dont know if its a libra thing or if is an issue of insecurity...i dont even want to talk about what happened between my pisces and me last night. actually i do but i dont want anyone other than me to know how pathetic it was...
i live in an apartment and the one right next to me is vacant. maintance some how forgot to lock it and didnt shut the door all the way so i took a peek in. it was repainted and recarpeted. it was very clean and still had electricity. well how hot would it be to set up a pallet and light up some candles have a few drinks and have the excitement of not knowing if you would get in trouble or not?!?! i thought it would be a great chance for us to talk and just see what happens. i texted him. "i have a surprise for you." he replied asking me what it was. i told him that telling him would take all the fun out of it. i was in there for about an hour and we basically went back and forth with "tell me!" and "no, just let me show you!" ten or so messages later i finally told him and guess who wont reply or pick up his phone...yep, you guessed it. since the apartment is literately 2 feet from mine, i packed up everything and just went to sleep. i sat around all day hoping he would call or text me but it never happened. maybe, just maybe, this weekend...
i dont know what is wrong with me. i know that im beautiful and sexy. im also very intelligent. maybe im just in love and like a pig i want to wallow in my sorrows...
lonesome, someone great is going to come along and love you for everything that you are and everything thing that you arent. just be patient. you deserve it. you just need to remember that you are perfect the way that you are and that you dont need someone to make you happy. its just in our nature to want to share all of lifes wonderful gifts with someone else. it will happen though. that is if we dont blow up!!! sorry, just referring to my last post (see depression).
lonesome do you have any news about your pisces?
Hello LilLibra20. Thanks for thinking of me. YES! I sent my text message. I had imagined lots of scenarios (that he'd ignore it, curse me out, etc., etc.) -- except the one that happened. Well, he answered and we texted back and forth throughout the day and night. Sometimes his answers came back so quickly I wondered how he could compose them so fast. He asked me questions too. And he never ended his messages with periods. Only with elipses (the three dots ...) I took that to mean "keep writing." I'm so excited. He agreed that we should stay in touch. I'm so excited. But I'll really be in heaven when he texts me first instead of just answering my messages. (Never happy, huh? Always one thing more.) I'm so excited.
Hope things are picking up with you and yours.
i actually saw him sat. night. he doesnt believe that i hooked up with his friend anymore. i spent most of the night talking to his mom. she loves me!!! i just told her how i felt about him and she told me that i should go for it. i told her that i dont want to pressure him so we will just see what happens...
he knows how much i care about him and how much i want to be with him so if he wants the same he will act on it. i already told him that i will always consider him a dear friend and that i hope that we learned something from eachother. i just want him to be happy, even if that means his happiness isnt with me.
im glad to hear that yall are talking. the only thing i can say is just take it slow, be honest, and understanding. expect the worst and hope for the best...
Hello LilLibra20. I wanted to post sooner, but couldn't figure out how to submit a message (I'm still new at this). Sounds like you're slowly getting over your Pisces. I hope someone comes along who will appreciate you and make you happy.
I'd sent my Pisces a second text message -- to which he never replied. Such is life. I'm on to a Leo now. He doesn't talk in riddles, isn't mysterious... He's just a nice guy who is fun to be with. I don't feel anxious or depressed or sad with him. Nothing concrete is going on, but he's just nice to be around. Go find yourself a Leo, an Aquarian... anything but a Pisces. Cheers.
Lonesome,
I actually am getting over my Pisces. I still think about him and I will always remember him but I no longer want to be with him. I glad that you are also starting to move on. Is your Leo cute? I'm sure he is Libras have good taste! There isn't anyone special in my life right now. I'm not looking either.
Take care of yourself,
LilLibra