libra/scorpio

This topic was created in the Libra forum by shirley61953 on Friday, January 26, 2007 and has 6 replies.
starting a new one: I guess i cant let go of this yet:
"on my libra man who wants to be friends after intimacy" any you libra men have any ideas how i can turn this relationship around my way? i do just have this scorp feeling, he does have feelings for me just by the way he acts and things he says. when we went for drinks i offered to pay and he said i could next time and the kisses . . . do you all think maybe he is insecure and wants me to do all the asking out?
i hate being left up in the air - know i should take your advise and just leave - but "that feeling i get" like he is testing me to see . . . . according to what you all write about libra men.
he has told me stories about how he just got rid of women he was not into by telling them he did not want to see them anymore and by just not answering the phone, he has not done that to me.
AKAIK the "Scorp feeling" is inevitable. Just try to relax, other than you having some intuitive feeling about something nothing seems wrong. My scorp ex always had some feeling burning inside that I couldn't comfort no matter what I did. Don't let it get to you because if you do it will get to him, and then you will both be in trouble.
Hey, I am a scorp and over half of my relationshiips have been with Libra men, including a 6 year marriage - 8 year relationship...
Check out a couple of my threads "Libra man Scorpio woman", Weakness and Lonliness - most recent...
I am now in a similar position as you... I have a lot of experience with the Libra lad, however I have learned much more on these threads...
Don't let your emotions get involved yet. If they do back off so you don't get too caught up. You can easily run a libr man away by getting too emotional or letting him know you are and as scorp woman we can't help it some time. He will make you feel like the most important person in his world when you are with him, and he will holdp to the FWB... and actually mean it. Libra men can have sex and make love and not get emotionally involved. Trust I know. It takes awhile to get them hooked, but it is very possible... Once you get them though, it so hard to get rid of them... My ex after 2 years is still holding on...
They are great charmers and admireable men, especially to us scorp girls. The good side is Scorp girls/ Libra men have the best sexual repoort and can have a deep friendship above all things... If you play your cards right you can definitely get him.

My FWB guy I am now involved with has been back and forth with a Sag ex... I was fine with the FWB for the past 7 months because I wasn't looking for a relationship. When he did get emotional about us I pulled back and now the tables are turning... I am ready to atleast try a relationship and because we were friends before FWB he would be a good candidate. We are very close. We discuss his situation with his ex (for now)...

Whatever you do be very careful and candid how you communicate with him. We Scorp girls are very blunt. Their feelings get hurt fast and they take things in a way we don't intend for them too. Never be pushy - it is hard as hell. Let him call you more than you call him - that is hard too. They are soo polite and the perfect gentleman by nature don't translate that into them being serious about you.
FYI.
Thanks QS and nic - so are libs really worth it? takes a while huh. i feel like if i leave him alone he'll just walk away and wont persue. how can i get him interested again? I read your threads - amazing how they are all the same. I DO wanna do this.
ummmm....from what I can gather shirley, its best for you to actually leave him be...if he walks, you know your answer and you can move on, but from the advice i have received from here - invaluable I might add too smile, he will probably start to miss you and seek you out.
As difficult as it is...and yes I struggle often LOL, learn to enjoy your own company, get on with your life, but enjoy the times you do get to hang with him and be ready for that rollercoaster ride happening time and time again....one day you'll be on cloud 9, the next you'll wonder why you haven't heard or seen from him in over a week....that seems to be the norm.
Oh and keep coming to this site to keep your spirits up - we're all going through the same thing except for the Librans themselves!! They know what they're doing LOL
Good luck smile
"ummmm....from what I can gather shirley, its best for you to actually leave him be..."
This is the one sign I would not follow my own advice to you on this. With a scorp girl, they come across as so sure, that we will not likely give chase. My advice instead, which is only good for Libra/Scorp, show him your wild side.
It sounds to me like you have been "playing it safe" because you really like him. Stop holding back. Take a look at the last couple of pages of the "Hard times" thread, and you will see that if the Scorp girls lets herself be the bad girl that she is, the Libra will open up and be the bad boy that he is. It is a hard combo because the only real initial compatability is in the bedroom, everything builds off of that with a Libra/Scorp combo which is completely backwards I know, but I think that is why this pairing seems so right and so wrong at the same time.