I've been married to my Libra man for 15 years, so communication and compromise is pretty good...
But.. one argument has always been his temper, like his loud voice with the kids.. Short fuse, little patience.
Is this typical?
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Sep 01, 2011Comments: 37 · Posts: 496 · Topics: 28
A Scorp Mars will have that effect on a Libra , or a fire Mars
Well im pisces with mars in Libra.
He is libra with mars in scorpio.
Im not really sure what that is supposed to mean but after 15 years we still dont agree on the "tone" to take with the kids...
I have so much more patience and understanding.
Aesma-
Thank you. Yes. I see that.
when we attempt a project.. I want to get it done.
he wants it perfect.
It makes working together on certain things VERY difficult.
Holy cow. I even tell him, "you bark at them like a drill instructor"
and yes, he used to be a Marine until he was medically discharged.
I guess he just is who he is and maybe that is why I need to be the opposite
I will try letting him take the lead on some stuff. Haha..
but like home-improvement is creative and expressive and FUN project time!
And to him.. it is work, to be done perfectly.
Opposites attract I guess
Well. It's funny because I see some of that and then I don't. Rarely are things simple to explain and analyze I guess.
We have been compromising well for a long time, but there are always things to improve on.
discipline is a big one - I guess I just forgive instantly. Im easier on the kids. Understanding. Let's talk about it.
he is very different instinctively - yell, punish, spank
I think he expects too much from them.. or is too dissappointed.. maybe.
We do talk about it. Sometimes he apologizes. Sometimes he disagrees with me and says a father needs to be like that.
it is a fuzzy gray line.
You are a libra/ pisces pair too? Oh I love that because I havent seen much of it and our charts dont really say we match well do they? But we have been together 15 years - finding a way so far to make it work!
His perfectionist streak. - yes. Not in all aspects.. but I cant figure out what DOES hve to be perfect and what doesn't. There doesnt seem to be a rhyme or reason. At least I havent figured it out yet.
Aesma- yes he is pretty good at playing with the kids. Wrestling, or fun on the playground, or soccer. Sometimes it doesnt always end well if the kids get frustrated (like kids do)
if they whine because they lose, etc. Sometimes he isnt great at staying level headed.
Mr balance. Lol @ menopause. Seems like that with my moody libra sometimes.
im a moody emo fish and I know I feed into it sometimes.
I hear you on balance. That makes sense and I may need to analyse that a bit.
Free time? With full time jobs and 4 kids? Hahahahaha
I actually have encouraged him to go out with the guys..but he wants to go with me. And isnt that just what a married couple should do? So I love that about him... but have you tried to find a babysitter for 4 boys? Lol no one is really volunterring much! Haha I dont blame them.
I'm a Libra sun with aquarius moon and a virgo ascendant and I also have Scorpio in Mars. I hate waiting in line, tardy people, and my temper is explosive when it's too much. When I get really upset, I would raise my voice, have the urge to break stuff which follows through sometimes, and be really cold, mean, and sarcastic with the way I speak.
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Jun 08, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 4581 · Topics: 75
How old are the kids? I'm a libra with mars Scorpio and most of what you said my ex could have said about me. I had a short, explosive temper with the kids when they were real small. I'm not proud of it and know I was too hard a few times. I kind of cooled off with time, as they got less annoying and I worked on controlling myself. I have always loved them and was never abusive, they just pushed my buttons bad.
Try talking to him. If you think he is going too far, say so. Tell him he scares you. Tell him he scares the kids. Tell him he is ruling by fear and not love/respect. Whichever, if any, of those you feel.
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Oh, libra scales don't represent us always being in balance. A scale never stops moving. It's a constant swing trying to find balance. I think that more closely represents a libra.