Libra wants to talk
This topic was created in the Libra forum by Lolla123 on Wednesday, December 19, 2012 and has 8 replies.
Was seeing a Libra co-worker. He was going through a divorce, she left him and I am too focused on my career. There was a lot of physical attraction and we had a lot of fun. We lived in different countries .So, when he left we stayed in contact.
I got a promotion and moved to the same city. He was very excited for me. I didn??t tell him. He heard through the grapevine. I didn??t contact him for the first 3 weeks as I was settling in. I went to a meeting and I could see the way his face lit up when he saw me. We exchanged a few pleasantries. I texted him my new number and to see if he would like to have coffee.
We didn??t get to meet as our schedules were out of sync for about 3 weeks. But he saw me having coffee with his friends and a few other people from work.I had to travel for 2 weeks and when I got back I got the following text from him: Lolla123,I wanted for us to meet and catch up but unfortunately we did not have the opportunity. I need to let you know that I met someone last month and don??t think it is fair or appropriate that I meet you for coffee. I trust that you will appreciate and understand, Jordan
My first reaction was what the hell, but thought at least he is honest and I respect him for that. I responded: Hi Jordan, I do understand and thank you for being honest, it is appreciated. Take care. Promise I won??t contact you again.Lolla123
He responded: Hi Lolla123, it??s no problem for you to contact me again and it would be nice to catch up informally over coffee as friends - I just wanted to be honest and let you know that it can??t be more..I appreciate your message, thank you, Jordan.
I responded by telling him that I really don??t know what to say .As I do have feelings for him and I would be lying to him and myself if I say let??s be friends and he should give me so time to think. Anyway,have a great holiday season and an awesome 2013.
He responded by telling me that just because he said that we can??t be more then friends it does not mean that he doesn??t want me in his life. His tone sounded frustrated.
I didn??t know what to say to him. So, I didn??t respond to him that was about a week ago.(I deleted his number)
This morning I ran into him. He was having coffee with a girl .He looked scared/ nervous but pretended not to see me. I waited for my coffee and when they called my order I looked up we locked eyes .We(my boss and I) sat down and I could see him looking at me from the side.
I got a promotion and moved to the same city. He was very excited for me. I didn??t tell him. He heard through the grapevine. I didn??t contact him for the first 3 weeks as I was settling in. I went to a meeting and I could see the way his face lit up when he saw me. We exchanged a few pleasantries. I texted him my new number and to see if he would like to have coffee.
We didn??t get to meet as our schedules were out of sync for about 3 weeks. But he saw me having coffee with his friends and a few other people from work.I had to travel for 2 weeks and when I got back I got the following text from him: Lolla123,I wanted for us to meet and catch up but unfortunately we did not have the opportunity. I need to let you know that I met someone last month and don??t think it is fair or appropriate that I meet you for coffee. I trust that you will appreciate and understand, Jordan
My first reaction was what the hell, but thought at least he is honest and I respect him for that. I responded: Hi Jordan, I do understand and thank you for being honest, it is appreciated. Take care. Promise I won??t contact you again.Lolla123
He responded: Hi Lolla123, it??s no problem for you to contact me again and it would be nice to catch up informally over coffee as friends - I just wanted to be honest and let you know that it can??t be more..I appreciate your message, thank you, Jordan.
I responded by telling him that I really don??t know what to say .As I do have feelings for him and I would be lying to him and myself if I say let??s be friends and he should give me so time to think. Anyway,have a great holiday season and an awesome 2013.
He responded by telling me that just because he said that we can??t be more then friends it does not mean that he doesn??t want me in his life. His tone sounded frustrated.
I didn??t know what to say to him. So, I didn??t respond to him that was about a week ago.(I deleted his number)
This morning I ran into him. He was having coffee with a girl .He looked scared/ nervous but pretended not to see me. I waited for my coffee and when they called my order I looked up we locked eyes .We(my boss and I) sat down and I could see him looking at me from the side.
He and his friend left and he didn??t look my way. He was looking at the ceiling while he walked pass me. I was thinking how childish and I did feel shitty too. The Leo in me wants us to meet and talk it out. I think we both need to have??this talk??. But I am afraid that I might not be able to not get emotional.
Being a Leo, I can be really demanding and bossy. And I hate feeling so unbalanced.
Do you think I should call him (Have to look for his number) and just go have this coffee as friends and get it over with
Do you think I should call him (Have to look for his number) and just go have this coffee as friends and get it over with
The crappy thing about us Libras is we always like to have an exit plan (ie someone interesting hanging in the wings). If I wasn't interested in someone and my focus was solely on someone "new" I wouldn't bother contacting the other person at all.
We (male and libra females alike) enjoy a take charge person. You..being a Leo are just that person. So..if you want him, take him. He's yours. Don't worry about the other woman.. They aren't serious yet as he was checking you out and reassured you that you both could be "more than friends". He's keeping his options open, and you're an option
The only reason he was letting you know is because he didn't want you causing a scene if you saw him out with someone else.
We (male and libra females alike) enjoy a take charge person. You..being a Leo are just that person. So..if you want him, take him. He's yours. Don't worry about the other woman.. They aren't serious yet as he was checking you out and reassured you that you both could be "more than friends". He's keeping his options open, and you're an option
The only reason he was letting you know is because he didn't want you causing a scene if you saw him out with someone else.
Since it is the holidays I got a few invites. It was like we were both in the lounge for a good few hours. It was torture. I really hate that I am so tense and nervous around him. of course we avoided each other. I tried to sit with my back to him whenever I could.And being the Leo that I am I decided to end my misery.
I got his number and texted him. ???Hey. I would really like to have that coffee as friends?? .Let me know.???
He responded." I would like that too "Are you around? Told him I have a few meetings but I can meet him tomorrow.
We are meeting tomorrow morning. I do have feelings for him and it is not easy for me. I really hope after this talk we can clear the air before we both go on holiday.
We can't date each other. It is complicated. We are both in senior positions. He is more senior then me. I don??t report to him, but things can get messy. So, dating is not an option. I or we both have too much to loose.He knows me and he knows I won??t do anything to ruin my reputation or hurt him. I think he is more scared about his job.
We had a fling and maybe he thinks I want more now that I am here. We had an agreement .So, how do I now go back on my word and ask for more from him. I am way to stubborn for that.
I got his number and texted him. ???Hey. I would really like to have that coffee as friends?? .Let me know.???
He responded." I would like that too "Are you around? Told him I have a few meetings but I can meet him tomorrow.
We are meeting tomorrow morning. I do have feelings for him and it is not easy for me. I really hope after this talk we can clear the air before we both go on holiday.
We can't date each other. It is complicated. We are both in senior positions. He is more senior then me. I don??t report to him, but things can get messy. So, dating is not an option. I or we both have too much to loose.He knows me and he knows I won??t do anything to ruin my reputation or hurt him. I think he is more scared about his job.
We had a fling and maybe he thinks I want more now that I am here. We had an agreement .So, how do I now go back on my word and ask for more from him. I am way to stubborn for that.
Well I didn't see him. He didn't get back to me in time. I did tell him that I am leaving the country for a 3 week holiday. So, we would need to meet in the morning.
Apparently, he had a few meetings and he forgot and I should have reminded him because he is very bad with text messages and e-mails. But he still wants to have coffee early next year.
Asked if I could be honest with him. And of course yes, I should please be honest with him. I told him. There must be a reason, why this coffee is not happening. And I think it is best to let it go. He went quiet and said he appreciates my honesty. And that he is sorry that he missed it and that I should have a pleasant holiday with my family.
At the airport lounge. Thinking ??_and watching planes landing and leaving and wondering about a lot of things ??_why I am letting this man make me so crazy... because I let him under my skin and I do love him. But he is not mine.
I really wanted for us to talk. So, I could leave our tension behind and not carry it into next year. The two of us need to get to a point where we can be fine with each other.
Thinking about a phrase I like by Charlie Swan ???... sometimes you gotta learn to love what's good for you." (Hey, I love twilight and it is a thing I do with my girls).
Last night I went out to dinner. One of my friends said to me ???Lolla123, I know you don??t want to hear this but sometimes we need to let God make decisions for you. It will keep you safe.
I know I am a handful and it gets me into trouble a lot. I like to ask for what I want and I do rush in and do things without thinking??_ sometimes. Anything is better than not knowing ??_right? (Hot headed and stubborn Leo that I am)
But I do know that this is not what I want and I also don??t want to be friends because I will be dishonest with myself and I will get hurt.
Hope to rest and sort myself out over the holidays. And hopefully when I get back I would have moved on??_
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE
Apparently, he had a few meetings and he forgot and I should have reminded him because he is very bad with text messages and e-mails. But he still wants to have coffee early next year.
Asked if I could be honest with him. And of course yes, I should please be honest with him. I told him. There must be a reason, why this coffee is not happening. And I think it is best to let it go. He went quiet and said he appreciates my honesty. And that he is sorry that he missed it and that I should have a pleasant holiday with my family.
At the airport lounge. Thinking ??_and watching planes landing and leaving and wondering about a lot of things ??_why I am letting this man make me so crazy... because I let him under my skin and I do love him. But he is not mine.
I really wanted for us to talk. So, I could leave our tension behind and not carry it into next year. The two of us need to get to a point where we can be fine with each other.
Thinking about a phrase I like by Charlie Swan ???... sometimes you gotta learn to love what's good for you." (Hey, I love twilight and it is a thing I do with my girls).
Last night I went out to dinner. One of my friends said to me ???Lolla123, I know you don??t want to hear this but sometimes we need to let God make decisions for you. It will keep you safe.
I know I am a handful and it gets me into trouble a lot. I like to ask for what I want and I do rush in and do things without thinking??_ sometimes. Anything is better than not knowing ??_right? (Hot headed and stubborn Leo that I am)
But I do know that this is not what I want and I also don??t want to be friends because I will be dishonest with myself and I will get hurt.
Hope to rest and sort myself out over the holidays. And hopefully when I get back I would have moved on??_
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE
Finally got back from my holidays on Sunday. I got a text from Libra : ???Hi Lolla123, Are you around this week for us to have our coffee? I am really looking forward to speak to you informally, Jordan??
I told him I am still on holiday until Wednesday. We decided to meet up at a coffee shop near my place. We both agreed that we shouldn??t meet at my place, his or at work.
It was very awkward, both of us being weary of the other. How did the person I love turn into a stranger, someone I am kind of scared off. Where did the person I was free and open with disappear too?
Long story short he does not want me as love an interest, but he wants us to be friends?? .I don??t think I can be friends.(I have feelings for him...I am in love with him). But I know deep down that this is probably for the best to let go and walk away.
Basically he is scared that I will tell people at work about our fling. It is complicated.I don??t report to him but we both swim in the same shark tank. So, I know just how badly things can go... it is easy to have your reputation ruined.
And he thinks I am talking about him with my boss. They are arch enemies. The guy is my boss and we always have meetings, catch-up and follow-up sessions when I am in the country.
I told him that he knows that I have not spoken to anyone about us,(expect you guys on here ??_) I didn??t even tell my friends about him. Everyone knows that I was seeing someone but no one not even my friends know it was him. And if anyone knew it would have been the office gossip by now.
He thinks I am sleeping around with all the male co-workers he sees me with. It was the way he hinted at things. And asking me about the guys he saw me with (JACK ASS) I gave him a piece of my mind. Told him that part of my job is to build relationships with all stakeholders within the organisation at our head office and also in the countries we are represented in and unfortunately most of the senior positions in our organisation are filled with men. And just because I did it with him doesn??t mean I did it with anyone else I work with. And that I never dated slept with or had a fling with a guy I worked with. He looked like a scared little boy then changed the subject.
He congratulated me again and wanted to know how I am settling in. Asked how my holiday was. And he told me about his holiday with his kids, his sister and her family.
I told him I am still on holiday until Wednesday. We decided to meet up at a coffee shop near my place. We both agreed that we shouldn??t meet at my place, his or at work.
It was very awkward, both of us being weary of the other. How did the person I love turn into a stranger, someone I am kind of scared off. Where did the person I was free and open with disappear too?
Long story short he does not want me as love an interest, but he wants us to be friends?? .I don??t think I can be friends.(I have feelings for him...I am in love with him). But I know deep down that this is probably for the best to let go and walk away.
Basically he is scared that I will tell people at work about our fling. It is complicated.I don??t report to him but we both swim in the same shark tank. So, I know just how badly things can go... it is easy to have your reputation ruined.
And he thinks I am talking about him with my boss. They are arch enemies. The guy is my boss and we always have meetings, catch-up and follow-up sessions when I am in the country.
I told him that he knows that I have not spoken to anyone about us,(expect you guys on here ??_) I didn??t even tell my friends about him. Everyone knows that I was seeing someone but no one not even my friends know it was him. And if anyone knew it would have been the office gossip by now.
He thinks I am sleeping around with all the male co-workers he sees me with. It was the way he hinted at things. And asking me about the guys he saw me with (JACK ASS) I gave him a piece of my mind. Told him that part of my job is to build relationships with all stakeholders within the organisation at our head office and also in the countries we are represented in and unfortunately most of the senior positions in our organisation are filled with men. And just because I did it with him doesn??t mean I did it with anyone else I work with. And that I never dated slept with or had a fling with a guy I worked with. He looked like a scared little boy then changed the subject.
He congratulated me again and wanted to know how I am settling in. Asked how my holiday was. And he told me about his holiday with his kids, his sister and her family.
Then he tells me that his girlfriend saw my Happy New Years text and he doesn??t think it is fair to her. Then he said that what happened between us cannot happen again. And that he has never slept with a colleague. And he keeps thinking why he did it with me.
I was really hurt by his words. But told him I appreciate his honesty and I apologise for the text that said "Happy New Year.Have a Prosperous 2013" and told him that I send the same message to everyone in my address book.
I told him if that it will be best for the two of us to away from each other and to have no contact and we can??t be friends as that will not be fair to his girlfriend.
And that he doesn??t need to worry I will always be professional towards him and treat him with the respect that a man in his position should be treated. And that I didn't rape him or made him do anything that he didn't want to. We both knew what we were doing . I took out money to pay the bill. He protested that it is on him. I said I do not want anything from you and got up and left.
He looked frustrated, but didn??t stop me...Thank God I am travelling next week . Will give me time to really put this behind me.
I was really hurt by his words. But told him I appreciate his honesty and I apologise for the text that said "Happy New Year.Have a Prosperous 2013" and told him that I send the same message to everyone in my address book.
I told him if that it will be best for the two of us to away from each other and to have no contact and we can??t be friends as that will not be fair to his girlfriend.
And that he doesn??t need to worry I will always be professional towards him and treat him with the respect that a man in his position should be treated. And that I didn't rape him or made him do anything that he didn't want to. We both knew what we were doing . I took out money to pay the bill. He protested that it is on him. I said I do not want anything from you and got up and left.
He looked frustrated, but didn??t stop me...Thank God I am travelling next week . Will give me time to really put this behind me.
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