Libra why must you be so confused

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Candylipsxoxo on Sunday, January 29, 2017 and has 16 replies.
I've known my libra for 20 years. We dated for 2.5 years (I am cancer) before breaking up. He married the girl (Aquarius) after me (they had a kid pre-marriage and didn't marry until 6 years after). We got in touch in September 2016 and he told me he hadn't stopped thinking about me and he wants to separate from his wife. We agreed not to speak till he got his life together but 2 weeks after, he reached out and wanted to hang out. Nothing happened but watching a great boxing fight. He unloaded on me everything he has done during his marriage including his affairs and how he feels about why he married. He said he ended up with her because he felt rejected by me and hurt (I've noticed Libras play victim). He separated from her and we just started to know each other again. However, one day he is hot and the next doesn't answer any texts (I can see he read the texts and he knows I can see it) . He goes back and forth with all his thoughts and tells me he is of two minds. He says that his heart wants to be truthful but his mind says maybe he should go back to his wife and stay with her. I'm up in the air with this. Does libra ever stick with their decision? I feel taken for granted by him.
Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
I agree ... these type Libra's ... very bad news ... sorry

he will go back and forth until the end of time itself ... you need to be strong and GTFO
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Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
I agree ... these type Libra's ... very bad news ... sorry

Yes there seems to be two categories of Libra men..

Category 1. Fake, self serving, indecisive, manipulative, liars

Category 2. I haven't met these onesLaughing But I am sure they exist.. LOL

But it sounds like OP found a category 1.. and yeah, they are very bad news.
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omg I know - this sounds like the first Libra I knew, but the one I'm dating now is way far better ... and I don't know why ... life experiences and other placements ? ... I took the new Libra to be a Sag at first thought - then found out he was a Libra and it fits him and I can see it but he ain't crazy indecisive like the other - someday I will find out what his other placements are - I know he's got a whole lot of fire though

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Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
I agree ... these type Libra's ... very bad news ... sorry

Yes there seems to be two categories of Libra men..

Category 1. Fake, self serving, indecisive, manipulative, liars

Category 2. I haven't met these onesLaughing But I am sure they exist.. LOL

But it sounds like OP found a category 1.. and yeah, they are very bad news.
omg I know - this sounds like the first Libra I knew, but the one I'm dating now is way far better ... and I don't know why ... life experiences and other placements ? ... I took the new Libra to be a Sag at first thought - then found out he was a Libra and it fits him and I can see it but he ain't crazy indecisive like the other - someday I will find out what his other placements are - I know he's got a whole lot of fire though

You found a category 2!! Yayy, Go tcta Tongue

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yes he is much more solid in knowing what he wants and is devoted and focused and not wishy-washy ...

ya know, it wouldn't even matter what sign he is - the @OP is just an "affair" and how convenient at that ... he can't make up his mind and he is still married and who knows what else ...

his back and forth sounds so familiar and sickening at the same time ...

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Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
Lol woman no, I stick with my decisions. This must apply to men. "They never" you don't know me.
I should have clarified. Yes, this was specifically aimed toward the men. You guys are one sign where the men and women are so very different.
That's the one thing I've noticed. Libra men are like another species entirely then the women and then again you get some crossbred folks that act like the other gender. The men though, no go

I rock pastel pink Drinks

Yeah but Tiz you are your own species

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real men wear pink!

Thanks for insight
No, when men do this they mean it. Life's long.....6 years, or 25 years, is a long time, we change, we become different people. We want to experience something else. But financial and family obligations, and in some sense emotional obligations just keep us where we are. But l believe he wants to be with you with all his heart!
Posted by Candylipsxoxo
I've known my libra for 20 years. We dated for 2.5 years (I am cancer) before breaking up. He married the girl (Aquarius) after me (they had a kid pre-marriage and didn't marry until 6 years after). We got in touch in September 2016 and he told me he hadn't stopped thinking about me and he wants to separate from his wife. We agreed not to speak till he got his life together but 2 weeks after, he reached out and wanted to hang out. Nothing happened but watching a great boxing fight. He unloaded on me everything he has done during his marriage including his affairs and how he feels about why he married. He said he ended up with her because he felt rejected by me and hurt (I've noticed Libras play victim). He separated from her and we just started to know each other again. However, one day he is hot and the next doesn't answer any texts (I can see he read the texts and he knows I can see it) . He goes back and forth with all his thoughts and tells me he is of two minds. He says that his heart wants to be truthful but his mind says maybe he should go back to his wife and stay with her. I'm up in the air with this. Does libra ever stick with their decision? I feel taken for granted by him.
Not just a Libra thing-classic ASSHOLE thing. I've been here with I believe it was a Taurus. It finally came to the day when he said ive got something to tell you, she's pregnant. I talked (of course) The idiot begged me not to leave him and offered to move abroad with me and sent me pics of "my engagement ring and cert"

Piece of shit. Lack of morals and integrity are to be found throughout the zodiac. My advice would be to steer well clear. If this is a grown man the likelihood of him changing drastically are very low.
Posted by blackphase
Posted by Plague
Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
Lol woman no, I stick with my decisions. This must apply to men. "They never" you don't know me.
I should have clarified. Yes, this was specifically aimed toward the men. You guys are one sign where the men and women are so very different.
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This "Libra is a sign where men are so different from women" thing keeps getting on my nerves. News flash: men and women, period, are different. Moreover, individuals, even within the same sign, are different. I find it disrespectful of people when they reduce others to merely a treetrunking zodiac sign. Really?! Who does that? Tantamount to racism!

My last relationship lasted over a decade. I was with an Aquarius. In hindsight, he was way more unsure about things way before I had any doubts.

Yes, I have a hard time making up my mind. Yes, I periodically revisit past decisions. But it is not confusion or doubt: it is a healthy way to make sure that even though some things have changed with time, I still want this. It is mostly a way to make sure my wants, needs and future goals are harmonious among each other (misaligned wants and needs are the single biggest cause of failure, not just in relationships but across the board) and nicely aligned with those of my partner's. It is nurturing a relationship, something many people forget to do in the long run because people mistakenly tend to take relationships for granted.

If I find out that I am not as happy with it as I used to be, I don't jump to conclusions and quit. Rather, I try to see what can be modified to make it happy again. Only once I have tried that several times with no satisfactory results will I start thinking about abandoning ship, and even at that, I will plan my exit in a way that both of us will be happy with it.
I am a Libra man, Libra men speak with their actions, not their words. After 20 years of knowing you and dating for 2.5 years HE STILL never married you. He is in love with the Aquarius and very few women can pull us from an Aquarius or Gemini once they 'have' us.

Did it take him 20 years to propose to the Aquarius? So move on and respect his marriage.
Posted by Goodtimes
I am a Libra man, Libra men speak with their actions, not their words. After 20 years of knowing you and dating for 2.5 years HE STILL never married you. He is in love with the Aquarius and very few women can pull us from an Aquarius or Gemini once they 'have' us.

Did it take him 20 years to propose to the Aquarius? So move on and respect his marriage.
We stopped talking for a very long time. It took him 7 years to ask the aquarius for marriage. Either way i told him i don't want to have anything to do with him anymore. I want someone who chooses me not has me as the in case.
Posted by blackphase
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Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
I agree ... these type Libra's ... very bad news ... sorry

Yes there seems to be two categories of Libra men..

Category 1. Fake, self serving, indecisive, manipulative, liars

Category 2. I haven't met these onesLaughing But I am sure they exist.. LOL

But it sounds like OP found a category 1.. and yeah, they are very bad news.
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Guess who is back to bring you back to reality, dear? No you cannot pawn off all your foolish going back and forth and having immensely low self-esteem issues onto Libra. You are pathetic for that.
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Posted by blackphase
No.. they can never stick with a decision.. But also.. he admitted to having affairs in his marriage. Cut him loose.
Lol woman no, I stick with my decisions. This must apply to men. "They never" you don't know me.
I should have clarified. Yes, this was specifically aimed toward the men. You guys are one sign where the men and women are so very different.
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Aren't you the same person who keeps taking back a Libra that you know treats you worse than you think you should be treated? Clearly you aren't this dumb dear.
Posted by Candylipsxoxo
I've known my libra for 20 years. We dated for 2.5 years (I am cancer) before breaking up. He married the girl (Aquarius) after me (they had a kid pre-marriage and didn't marry until 6 years after). We got in touch in September 2016 and he told me he hadn't stopped thinking about me and he wants to separate from his wife. We agreed not to speak till he got his life together but 2 weeks after, he reached out and wanted to hang out. Nothing happened but watching a great boxing fight. He unloaded on me everything he has done during his marriage including his affairs and how he feels about why he married. He said he ended up with her because he felt rejected by me and hurt (I've noticed Libras play victim). He separated from her and we just started to know each other again. However, one day he is hot and the next doesn't answer any texts (I can see he read the texts and he knows I can see it) . He goes back and forth with all his thoughts and tells me he is of two minds. He says that his heart wants to be truthful but his mind says maybe he should go back to his wife and stay with her. I'm up in the air with this. Does libra ever stick with their decision? I feel taken for granted by him.
You need to watch the movie 'Waiting to EXHALE'. All of what you mentioned happens all across the board, it isn't just a single sign of men who do this.

Also, I do not believe about 60% of what you wrote as you clearly exaggerated a few times and put words into his mouth.