Libra with Aquarian...has me not being myself!

This topic was created in the Libra forum by sakesumo on Tuesday, January 15, 2008 and has 9 replies.
I was just hoping some of my fellow librans could help me figure this one out...I have been seeing an Aquarian guy for 3 months...In the beginning I really started to develop feelings for him, but he told me that he was not good at being in relationships, and from what I knwo about his past...he has never kept a relationship going for more than a few months...after reading about aquas...he seems to be a textbook aquarian, totally afraid of being in a committed relationship, emotionally unavailable...as a libran, I don't understand this at all! I think I've been able to deal with it because I have a very busy social life and he keeps himself busy too...STupidly, I have been hooking up with him and hanging out with him as friends, which rarely works...I am good at relationships and hooking up, Separately, but when feelings are invovled..well, it's basically impossible to feel satisfied at that point. Normally, being a libra I am open and honest about what I am feeling, I really like this guy, I find him to very interesting, and honest..but somehow, I don't feel like I'm being true to myself. With anyone else I've ever dated, I have had no problems telling my feelings too..of course those relationships in my past always started off as good friendships first (this one started off as just casual friends)...I want to tell him how I feel, but this aqua seems so emotionally detached and protective about his feelings and opening up just seems impossible for him...so I have adjusted how I normally interact- and it feels strange...they say aquas are one of our most compatible signs, but I just don't see how it could be. I want to tell him so badly that I like him, and want to see where things could go...but we have spent limited time together because he is a SLOOOOOOOOw Moving aqua! Everything I have read on this site has indicated that aquas need time, and not to scare them away and to be patient...but I feel like I'm not being true to myself by not saying something...I can hardly be comfortable around him these days because I know I feel things, and he has given me nothing! He has such a hard time expressing feelings...and it's rubbing off on me I think! Any thoughtS?
ANybody!?
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ANd...it almost seems like the advice I've received from other Aquas has been to play mind games wit this guy...maybe that's how they need to be dealt with, but I don't like playing games...I would rather just put it all out there...
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My sister is an aqua and she says, whenever somebody gets too close too fast, she starts to panic..
Yeah so definitely take it slow.
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aquas wont have any feelings till you become their best friend. so you are in right track. And they are not ready to talk about everything in one go. takes them time and mood. Sometimes they wont talk to you for days. means nothing. they will be back as normal in a while. Patience... you can ask him if he keep imagining having sex(not making love. dont try to put it mildly) with you and all bcoz moost of them normally keep doing diff simulations of future events inside their head. You can catch him there and then drag him out. Else it takes a lot of time.
Treat him like your best friend. unless he see you as one, he wont begin to have feelings for you.
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TheLibran, I'm a little confuseda bout your last comment....about the sex part, and imagining it in their head? huh? I agree about the friends thing..but If I continue to stay his friend, and we continue to trust eachother just as friends...how do I know that he would actually be open to being in a relationship? Especially, since in the way beginning he did not know about being in a relationship....he seems to be scared of that...will he ever initate that again? Should I just be friends with him, and tell him I can't sleep with him again if he tries, which he hasn't really tried to do anyways the last couple of weeks? Do I tell him I like gettign to know him right now, and I think that I want to keep it that way?
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aquas hate the word "relationship." I know you're feeling closed off by his seeming lack of emotion. But Aqua is known for a deep sensitivity. They also have an innate understanding of how another feels about them...
I am smitten with an Aqua myself, but he has made it clear he doesn't want a relationship, at least with his words. His actions are the complete opposite. I'm confused and hurt by it...but I feel clear headed now. Granted, I've had months of space to clear my head... I know now not to focus so much on what he thinks of me, but rather of what I want from him and what he may --or may NOT--be able to provide.
This is about you and about what you want. Be clear with him on that. If you are looking for something long term, he needs to know. You tell him this with an honest tone, without placing any expectation on him. What I mean by that is, not to reveal your emotions too intensely. Aqua's are not comfortable with emotion, but they do appreciate and understand honesty. By telling him what you want he will respect you more. He may not respond the way you want, but it will build your friendship.
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they have more sex inside their head than physically doing it. Tongue if you expect something to happen with an aqua, the best is to say nothing and carry on as if he is the one.
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I feel a lot better today about my aqua man situation. I played it a little cool with him at work on Sunday, but he told me he wanted to hang out with me this week before his trip...I explained I had a busy schedule bet. work and school but to call me if he wanted coffee sometime. I called him yesterday with a car problem question, and he called me later to talk and asked if I wanted to meet up with him for coffee eearly this morning before work...I'm starting to see some changes and growth in our friendship, which is fun and interesting to see it develop....I think I'm ok with the way things are and I like that he is respecting me, it probably won't stop me from falling for him though! But A Muse for A Libra, you have a point about figuring out if he could even provide me with what I want to begin with- at this point it is a No. I want to continue our friendship, but I will probably always hope that it could lead into something more...I can't help but find this guy to be so interesting and adorable...even the fact that he is a little on the dorky side... I find it endearing!
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hi sakesumo, I am also a libra and i am hanging out with this ex and at the same time childhood crush aqua..And I don't understand him too.. When we broke up before, i cried a lot and almost came up to the point that I beg.He told me that he already have a gf and we can only be friends....hhuhuh...now we are communicating again after the 2years and 6 months break up and dine out together as friends i guess last week..He invited me to their place for a vacation with his family there..why do he do that if he have a girlfriend already? I am playing cool on this and no expecting anymore...but really confused...
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