Libras and Blame

What's up with it? Can you Libras never be blamed for anything? How does it make you feel when someone puts blame on your for something...

We dont do things without thinking and weighing pros and cons in detail. Usually we consider every possible aspect of the situation in hand before making the smallest move. So from our perspective we hardly make mistakes. It might appear as a mistake to others or might hurt others. But for us, those things were essential to gain balance and be fair and square. So we deny most allegations against us and begin to wonder how on earth we can possibly explain things to this person.

Libras are just as aware (the way all the outsiders are) of their since of balancing out things & weighing their options very carefully before making a decision or expressing their feelings. Generally, it's not that Libras are so stubborn & selfish that they don't have it in them to admit they are wrong. No, it's not that. But because they spend so much time & put so much energy into everything they do, they find it very hard to believe that even after all of that "weighing out the options" they were still wrong.

Libras have a way of convincing themselves that the reason outsiders may think they are wrong about something is b/c the outsiders haven't completely weighed the scales or don't know all of the facts the way they do & thus assume, that the other person just didn't think things through all the way. And when they convince themselves of this, it's almost imposslbe for an outsider to convince a Libra that they were wrong & especially when it comes to something that Libra has dwelled on or put alot of thought into.

When a Libra's actions are wrong, they don't have as much trouble saying "I'm sorry" or admitting that their actions were wrong. But when it comes to their own mindsets, they have a bigger problem believing that they were wrong b/c their mindset is not as impulsive as their actions.

Libras almost feel a sense of failure when it's brought to their attention that yes, even after all of the long-term thinking, they are still wrong. although others may see their skill of weighing the scales as annoying or too time consuming, Libras believe that their ability to do this (without feeling guilty for doing it) is one of their strengths.

And telling a Libra that their opinions or mindset about something is wrong is the same as an employee trying to tell the boss that he's wrong. Of course the boss will look at the employee like "who do you think you are. I'M the boss. I'm the one who hired you." And even if the employee is right sometimes, the boss will never admit it b/c it'll mess with his sense of pride & will make him feel that what made him elected as boss has failed him

Ok so I want to know hwo this process works. For example, the Libra is considering a dinner date. What would be going through their mind as pros and cons. (then not called to cancel but a day AFTER calls to let you know how badly they feel about not calling). Why even ask for dinner if they so-called weighted everything out.

Whoa I was just having this convo with a Scorp yesterday...

To be blamed would be to admit a lack of judgement on my part.

Yikes.... me be blamed 4 bad judgement.... I have myself have had extreme bad judgement.

But only at times LOL

Oh to answer your question pr..

The fact that the call was made the day after, to me implies the person did think of it later.

Did you get a re-schedule—? If not don't play... don't even try.. Libra's tend to become "BIG PLANNERS". Then drop the ball when something comes up.

Ask yourself... Do you know this person well?

well like everyone, no one will gladly accept blame... it's easier if you recognise your part in it as a starting point - then feed the blow.

Libras in my experience will not take blame well because they think they're right in all of their logic... and they try to keep peace --- they may turn the tables on you saying you're emotional and stuff... meanwhile they may have seen it coming so ready to deflect it anyways...

princess, you have to not take the weighing and all that so seriously - aries and libra take each other too seriously, it's never going to work. Just because libra's doing all that thinking and weighing doesn't mean they mean it or will follow through... the same way aries puts all that energy in chasing something doesn't mean they will follow through...

opposite signs, the aim is the same, methods are different, both chasing after, putting energy into something or bossing something, someone has to pick up the pieces after they initiate.

if aries and libra take each other too seriously, it's not going to work smoothly --- someone will always detest the other's means of doing things... both have to recognise both pros and cons and live with it.