libras help me

This topic was created in the Libra forum by MoonshineLeo on Tuesday, September 27, 2016 and has 17 replies.
ok libras please help me here because im not sure if im just being craazy here or if he really isn't interested...short story...

I have been going on dates off and on with this Libra for about five years now. I never slept with him because i did not want him to lose interest in me. Ok so TODAY we were supposed to hang out at his new house, i was going to go there after work tonight for dinner and i guess just hang out. So he texts me this morning still trying to see me tonight and im down to see him and two hours later he tells me he cant see me tonight but can see me for sure next week because something came up. Now he did not give me a specific day for next week. And what could come up at night for a whole week? I was pretty upset on the inside but i played it cool and said thats fine just text me when you're not busy, and he said for sure next week babe. -_- with a kiss emoji.

A part of me thinks he is just trying to get back at me for not sleeping with him and him taking me out on dates for all these years? it feels like a big FU to me, trying to get me all worked up showing me his new house and then last minute pull it from me and then being "nice" about it but not offering another specific date. Something just does not seem right and he has never done this before. He may be busy but he may just be over me or think im not interested in him for not sleeping with him but thats not the case. or he probably thinks i use him for dinner and thats not the case either im just slow when i really like someone and take it seriously i dont wanna mess anything up. Is he not interested anymore, or is he just really that busy?

-confused leo
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Well, 5 years and none of your good good... Are you attracted to him in that way? I think after the first year with no sex, id assume we are nothing but friends.

Give it a few weeks. If he's doing the same thing, he's probably busy with someone else.
Scared

Posted by TheLibraMudra
Posted by MoonshineLeo
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Well, 5 years and none of your good good... Are you attracted to him in that way? I think after the first year with no sex, id assume we are nothing but friends.

Give it a few weeks. If he's doing the same thing, he's probably busy with someone else.
Scared

5 years is a long time!!! lol a dude has needs.

Kudos to you and your will power! I'm pretty sexual. I'll be bangin' within the first few weeks and on n on n on n if the vibe is right with someone.

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well we are very very affectionate when we are together and he is such a gentleman he would never pressure me. I think he is seeing someone else for sure...

*eyeroll*

Another Leo being a drama queen.

First off, you two aren't even all that serious and have been fucking around for FIVE YEARS. If there was actual interest going on, this wouldn't have been spotty bs for FIVE YEARS.

Second, "OMG IS HE TRYING TO GET BACK AT ME???" Stop it with the drama whore stuff. Just stop. This is what you crazy bitches do- you get all insane and make up stories in your own mind of what's going on when you don't even know. You're assuming and making things up to get all worked up and then they wonder why you're fucking insane about stuff.

Chill. Out. You two aren't even all that serious considering your history and you act like he owes you something.

Yes, INCREDIBLY suspect that he suddenly had something else come up. I don't think it's him "getting back at you" for not sleeping with him, it's him not prioritising you because he's not that into you. There is most likely someone else in the picture and he chose that person over you- another flag that he's not all that into you.

So WHY are you on an internet forum trying to decrypt some perceived behavior over someone like this? Do you not believe in any sort of self worth? I get the annoyance with such flaky bullshit, and you have every right to be irritated, but tbh, after this much time of in and out of eachother's lives and nothing coming of it, you really should just drop the dude. Flaky Libras = not into you Libras. If they're not into you, you drop their asses because they will just keep you around for self serving reasons at that point.

Move on.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
*eyeroll*

Another Leo being a drama queen.

First off, you two aren't even all that serious and have been fucking around for FIVE YEARS. If there was actual interest going on, this wouldn't have been spotty bs for FIVE YEARS.

Second, "OMG IS HE TRYING TO GET BACK AT ME???" Stop it with the drama whore stuff. Just stop. This is what you crazy bitches do- you get all insane and make up stories in your own mind of what's going on when you don't even know. You're assuming and making things up to get all worked up and then they wonder why you're fucking insane about stuff.

Chill. Out. You two aren't even all that serious considering your history and you act like he owes you something.

Yes, INCREDIBLY suspect that he suddenly had something else come up. I don't think it's him "getting back at you" for not sleeping with him, it's him not prioritising you because he's not that into you. There is most likely someone else in the picture and he chose that person over you- another flag that he's not all that into you.

So WHY are you on an internet forum trying to decrypt some perceived behavior over someone like this? Do you not believe in any sort of self worth? I get the annoyance with such flaky bullshit, and you have every right to be irritated, but tbh, after this much time of in and out of eachother's lives and nothing coming of it, you really should just drop the dude. Flaky Libras = not into you Libras. If they're not into you, you drop their asses because they will just keep you around for self serving reasons at that point.

Move on.
well damn ok. LOL

Posted by MoonshineLeo
ok libras please help me here because im not sure if im just being craazy here or if he really isn't interested...short story...

I have been going on dates off and on with this Libra for about five years now. I never slept with him because i did not want him to lose interest in me. Ok so TODAY we were supposed to hang out at his new house, i was going to go there after work tonight for dinner and i guess just hang out. So he texts me this morning still trying to see me tonight and im down to see him and two hours later he tells me he cant see me tonight but can see me for sure next week because something came up. Now he did not give me a specific day for next week. And what could come up at night for a whole week? I was pretty upset on the inside but i played it cool and said thats fine just text me when you're not busy, and he said for sure next week babe. -_- with a kiss emoji.

A part of me thinks he is just trying to get back at me for not sleeping with him and him taking me out on dates for all these years? it feels like a big FU to me, trying to get me all worked up showing me his new house and then last minute pull it from me and then being "nice" about it but not offering another specific date. Something just does not seem right and he has never done this before. He may be busy but he may just be over me or think im not interested in him for not sleeping with him but thats not the case. or he probably thinks i use him for dinner and thats not the case either im just slow when i really like someone and take it seriously i dont wanna mess anything up. Is he not interested anymore, or is he just really that busy?

-confused leo
When did he move into this new house?

Posted by rockyroadicecream
*eyeroll*

Another Leo being a drama queen.

First off, you two aren't even all that serious and have been fucking around for FIVE YEARS. If there was actual interest going on, this wouldn't have been spotty bs for FIVE YEARS.

Second, "OMG IS HE TRYING TO GET BACK AT ME???" Stop it with the drama whore stuff. Just stop. This is what you crazy bitches do- you get all insane and make up stories in your own mind of what's going on when you don't even know. You're assuming and making things up to get all worked up and then they wonder why you're fucking insane about stuff.

Chill. Out. You two aren't even all that serious considering your history and you act like he owes you something.

Yes, INCREDIBLY suspect that he suddenly had something else come up. I don't think it's him "getting back at you" for not sleeping with him, it's him not prioritising you because he's not that into you. There is most likely someone else in the picture and he chose that person over you- another flag that he's not all that into you.

So WHY are you on an internet forum trying to decrypt some perceived behavior over someone like this? Do you not believe in any sort of self worth? I get the annoyance with such flaky bullshit, and you have every right to be irritated, but tbh, after this much time of in and out of eachother's lives and nothing coming of it, you really should just drop the dude. Flaky Libras = not into you Libras. If they're not into you, you drop their asses because they will just keep you around for self serving reasons at that point.

Move on.
Damn.

I like @MoonshineLeo though...

Posted by MoonshineLeo
Posted by rockyroadicecream
*eyeroll*

Another Leo being a drama queen.

First off, you two aren't even all that serious and have been fucking around for FIVE YEARS. If there was actual interest going on, this wouldn't have been spotty bs for FIVE YEARS.

Second, "OMG IS HE TRYING TO GET BACK AT ME???" Stop it with the drama whore stuff. Just stop. This is what you crazy bitches do- you get all insane and make up stories in your own mind of what's going on when you don't even know. You're assuming and making things up to get all worked up and then they wonder why you're fucking insane about stuff.

Chill. Out. You two aren't even all that serious considering your history and you act like he owes you something.

Yes, INCREDIBLY suspect that he suddenly had something else come up. I don't think it's him "getting back at you" for not sleeping with him, it's him not prioritising you because he's not that into you. There is most likely someone else in the picture and he chose that person over you- another flag that he's not all that into you.

So WHY are you on an internet forum trying to decrypt some perceived behavior over someone like this? Do you not believe in any sort of self worth? I get the annoyance with such flaky bullshit, and you have every right to be irritated, but tbh, after this much time of in and out of eachother's lives and nothing coming of it, you really should just drop the dude. Flaky Libras = not into you Libras. If they're not into you, you drop their asses because they will just keep you around for self serving reasons at that point.

Move on.
well damn ok. LOL

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I've dealt with Libras like this before. Do yourself a huge favor and move on. It doesn't get better with this type.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
*eyeroll*

Another Leo being a drama queen.

First off, you two aren't even all that serious and have been fucking around for FIVE YEARS. If there was actual interest going on, this wouldn't have been spotty bs for FIVE YEARS.

Second, "OMG IS HE TRYING TO GET BACK AT ME???" Stop it with the drama whore stuff. Just stop. This is what you crazy bitches do- you get all insane and make up stories in your own mind of what's going on when you don't even know. You're assuming and making things up to get all worked up and then they wonder why you're fucking insane about stuff.

Chill. Out. You two aren't even all that serious considering your history and you act like he owes you something.

Yes, INCREDIBLY suspect that he suddenly had something else come up. I don't think it's him "getting back at you" for not sleeping with him, it's him not prioritising you because he's not that into you. There is most likely someone else in the picture and he chose that person over you- another flag that he's not all that into you.

So WHY are you on an internet forum trying to decrypt some perceived behavior over someone like this? Do you not believe in any sort of self worth? I get the annoyance with such flaky bullshit, and you have every right to be irritated, but tbh, after this much time of in and out of eachother's lives and nothing coming of it, you really should just drop the dude. Flaky Libras = not into you Libras. If they're not into you, you drop their asses because they will just keep you around for self serving reasons at that point.

Move on.
This user was into a Gemini man for a long time and used to be all sweet and when it didn't work out for them, she turned 180 degrees and got all salty AF and has been taking jabs at all of us on our board off and on, ever since. She even did it earlier today. Weird huh? I guess she needs to move on from 2 guys now ???

Rockyroadicecream saving the day, dropping the hammer of ruthless truth to one delusional dxper at a time.

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For a second I thought you were talking about me. I'm like what the fucking hell are you talking about?? I've never dated a Gem dude!

I'm... not surprised. The Leo chicks who come to DXP seeking advice are off their fucking rockers. I really don't have it out for them per se, it's just... this is the type I come across too often. Rare are the non nutter ones- I love them though. Not a fan of this psychotic, mentally unstable variety.

Sounds like you are friends. I wouldn't put too much extra thought into it.

@TheLibraMudra "good good"?Laughing

Posted by TheLibraMudra
your good good...
I want summa dat LeebGOODGOOD Crying

Yup, i would have lost interest after few months of no sex... and, sorry, but he is seeing someone...

what i dont understand is: after 5 years, ( from what ive understood ) the two of you are not that close... are you exclusive? You met his family, friends?

To me, you two are friends... thats all..
Lol.... 5 years of "dating" and you been holding out on him. Can tell you right now he been getting it elsewhere..... I reckon you are no more than friends and now feeling sorry for yourself. Arg Leo's and their drama?
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Posted by jeane
Sounds like you are friends. I wouldn't put too much extra thought into it.

@TheLibraMudra "good good"?Laughing

I dunno I've been saying that lately for some reason lol.


Posted by Sagsagsags
I think I need to share a personal experience with my Libra ex who now turned into my bestfriend, so you'll find some clarity @Moonshineleo

You reminded me of his wife before he wed her. So back then, he would go and look for MANY "potential" wives

but will not date them exclusively.

My ex was obsessively looking for a virgin to marry (when he feels he's ready to marry) So he'd come and go, stringing them along, making sure he wont lose contact.

So fast forward to 2 years ago. He finally married one of them. Fairy tale ending much?

Nah.. He still cheats, fucks around while his "good" wife is at home.

How do I know? Well..... we're friends ?
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This is how this variety of Libra operates though. They're caught up on the idea of "the one" and have no issue keeping a line up. This is very apparent in the zillions of stories you see here. They're always looking for options, even if there's a current one taking up their interest. "Grass is always greener," you know?

I think this chick has placed too much value in this dude as being more than what this is and it caught up to her and she got burned. She thought not sleeping with him would keep things pristine between the two and now she's in for the shock that he hasn't been holding out JUST for her.

The fact that she thinks he's some sort of viable suitor after 5 years is just fucking sad, tbh. I'd have written that shit off ages ago.

Hell, my Libran HS crush/bff and I got back in touch years after I'd moved away and he got all amped up and OMG I'M READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND OMG WE HAD FEELINGS FOR EACHOTHER IN HS. LET'S DATE LONG DISTANCE!" Meanwhile, I'm like erm, hold up. I'm not even sure if I still have any sort of feelings like that considering HS was ages ago at this rate and I haven't seen you in 7 years. Shit changes, dude...

Fixed signs... they'll hold a candle for someone over stupid, insignificance if it means being paired off permanently.
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Lmao
That video TOTALLY popped to mind when I realized what context you were saying that haha.

He is getting laid and chose to meet you another time so he can free up his schedule for the chick who is putting out.
Good for you for not giving him 'sum' until he meets your requirements for security and safety.