Libras: how do y'all respond to being hurt?????

This topic was created in the Libra forum by ViewtifulGem on Monday, September 4, 2017 and has 23 replies.
We've been dating for over a month now. And one day I told him goodbye...after being upset with my own shit. Now he's ignoring me.

So the questions I have are:


•How do libra men respond when the women hurt them?


•When women threaten to break if off how do you respond?


•Do Libra men move on quickly?


•Do Libra men ignore after hurt?


•Should I continue to be patient? Or just give up?
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Yes I've reached out. It's a week. I've texted him since then.
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I didn't breakup with him. I just told him goodbye and then immediately explained myself. He said I hurt his feelings and that everyone leaves him and that was it. I've apologized numerous times since.
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Thank you. That's what been trying to do. It's not that I'm reaching out cause I'm afraid of him doing whatever. It's more because I really care about him cause he struggles with depression and PTSD with night terrors. I feel I may have affected him mentally with this. Cause he going thru an episode when this happen. I was trying to be there for him when he was struggling and he didn't want to see anyone and so I kinda started think the worst. He's such a sweetheart and I really like and care about him.
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I have been I last texted him yesterday. To tell him how much I miss him and care. And that didn't mean it. I get anxiety too. The last text he sent was...everyone leaves me. I guessing he has abandonment issues, and so do I which is why I told him that. I like him a lot. Thanks for the reply?
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Thanks for the response. He assured me that he liked me a lot and we been all lovely the entire time I've know him It was the first time we've had a dispute. I don't know maybe he is gone for good. But I'm been trying to reach out to him. And he's ignoring still. He hasn't even been on any social media accounts.
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•How do libra men respond when the women hurt them?

If he cares about you, he would want to know you want to hurt him. If he doesn't. he would react and move on.


•When women threaten to break if off how do you respond?

I would just ask why ? If it's childish reason, I wouldn't stick around. If it's genuinely then I'll give the person some space and get back to her.


•Do Libra men move on quickly?

Again if he cares about you, you'll always be the back of his mind. Us Libras get bored easily, we are charmers it doesn't take long for us to move on. however if you left him a long lasting impression, he'll always compare and think about you and what went wrong blah blah


•Do Libra men ignore after hurt?

Yes , We don't take rejections very well. So get on to him and keep making efforts and don't stop !


•Should I continue to be patient? Or just give up?

Talk to him and be up front about it. Lay it out and deal with whatever the outcomes are going to be.

Libra believed in the idea of love and being happy forever. So if that's what you want. Say it !
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You made your bed basically, and if he was only half arsed, he'll move on without a backward glance..sorry!
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Like a fucking loonball! I go out of my way to consider others feelings and not upset them so when someone does it to us its generally INTENTIONAL, and we ain't got time for that shit!
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Wow thanks for all the replies. Well I'm been trying to apologize and tell him how much he's meant to me. It hurt my soul when he texted that..."everyone leaves me". And I've been trying. I was going to show up to where he is living and tell him face to face but, I don't want to seem like a psychotic bitch. But I can't keep holding on if he's not going to respond. We both have abandonment issues, anxiety and depression.
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Little update I finally had time with my Libra guy today. Let's see how it goes from here.
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
Wow thanks for all the replies. Well I'm been trying to apologize and tell him how much he's meant to me. It hurt my soul when he texted that..."everyone leaves me". And I've been trying. I was going to show up to where he is living and tell him face to face but, I don't want to seem like a psychotic bitch. But I can't keep holding on if he's not going to respond. We both have abandonment issues, anxiety and depression.
Hate to break it to you, but that's the first red flag.


He suffers from depression and he throws out dramatic statements like that?


It's just going to get worse and you'll see some emotional manipulation going on. Enjoy things now, but just keep an eye out because it'll sneak up on you like whoa.


I've yet to meet a guy who reacted similarly that was one worth keeping around. Everyone has their issues but those are some that end up becoming incredibly bad to have around.


In your situation, it's highly disturbing that you were upset about something, needed your space, and he turned it into something about him and made you feel bad about that instead. Nooo bueno. You're going to have to walk on eggshells around this guy.
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No. I told him that I was going to be distant for a few days. He let me be. And then the next day I texted him and asked him why I didn't hear from him and he told me "I thought you needed space." I wanted hang out and he told me he didn't want to see anyone. And I told him "goodbye...hope things get well for you." That was kinda of my fault, but he took a bit more over the top. I can't say for sure that things are ok.


When I went to see him tonight he wasn't expecting it. But he got all nervous. He sat down in Indian style , out his head down, and hands on his eyes. I couldn't tell if he was crying or what he has tailbone length hair, so I couldn't see his face. He did this for like 10 minutes. Then he said..."Should find someone better. I'm a wreck." I felt really bad for him. Asked him if he was ok. And then I told him how much I liked him. Then he, stil looking down grabbed me and hugged and told me he was sorry.


He then got up and started cleaning. He couldn't look at him after that happened. Then after about 15mins he started to ask me about my life. We laughed and talked. Cuddled and watched a movie and a bit making out nothing more.


Then he walked me out to my car where he didn't want me to leave. He hugged me really tightly. And kissed nicely. We are set to meet tomorrow. But I'm taking it with a grain of salt at this point. I'm just happy I had the chance to see him and express things to him.
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Thanks @Cookieo

And @rockyroadicecream, I'm well aware of what I'm taking on. He and I both have abandonment issues with depression and anxiety. I do care for him. And since I'm kinda in the dark in my life with a barely gleaming light, and he is as well, I'll prefer we guide each other out of the darkness we are both facing.
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On the contrary, I hope things will work out from here. I put all my cards on the table and shown that I care. If not then, I'm gone above and beyond of what I can at this point. I just showed up unexpectedly. If that wasn't enough then that just shows me that he doesn't deserve my love and I'll let him go.
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
Thanks @Cookieo

And @rockyroadicecream, I'm well aware of what I'm taking on. He and I both have abandonment issues with depression and anxiety. I do care for him. And since I'm kinda in the dark in my life with a barely gleaming light, and he is as well, I'll prefer we guide each other out of the darkness we are both facing.
Good luck with that.


I'm at the age now where I don't have any tolerance for that shit because of past experiences with crazy like that. Hope it fares well for you, but the sooner you realize relationships aren't therapy, the sooner you'll truly be happy.
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I know. And he's currently in an assisted living apartment. Where he see's his doctors and have meetings weekly. We were supposed to meet up again today and he texted me an hour ago that he has a terrible headache and that he didn't want to see anyone today. I'm honestly not going to try anymore. If it rides out then I'll let it. But I'm not going to wait for him to come around.
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
Thanks @Cookieo

And @rockyroadicecream, I'm well aware of what I'm taking on. He and I both have abandonment issues with depression and anxiety. I do care for him. And since I'm kinda in the dark in my life with a barely gleaming light, and he is as well, I'll prefer we guide each other out of the darkness we are both facing.
I knew what I was taking on too.. thought I was strong enough to handle it and a large part of the reason I stayed is due to the fact that everyone else in his life had abandoned him.. I honestly thought that if I stuck by him he would see that I was not going to leave and things would change.. 3 years later not much has changed. We thought we were going to guide each other out of the darkness too, but it doesn't work like that. You can't help someone when you are down in the dumps yourself, I know I am the same. You won't listen though.. none of them ever do.. Good luck..
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This. When you're dealing with your own issues and try to take on someone else with just as many, one person is going to get weighed down. In this scenario, this guy is going to drag her down and she's going to end up mothering the dude and get burned out fast.
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
I know. And he's currently in an assisted living apartment. Where he see's his doctors and have meetings weekly. We were supposed to meet up again today and he texted me an hour ago that he has a terrible headache and that he didn't want to see anyone today. I'm honestly not going to try anymore. If it rides out then I'll let it. But I'm not going to wait for him to come around.
DUDE, seriously, if that's his situation, jump ship.


My brother's gf had a roommate like that and it was just nothing but crazy shit left and right.


That dude needs to get well before pursuing relationships. He sounds emotionally selfish, tbh. There are better guys out there. This one just needs time to work through his shit.
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
I know. And he's currently in an assisted living apartment. Where he see's his doctors and have meetings weekly. We were supposed to meet up again today and he texted me an hour ago that he has a terrible headache and that he didn't want to see anyone today. I'm honestly not going to try anymore. If it rides out then I'll let it. But I'm not going to wait for him to come around.


I'm sorry, I understand what you're going through but reading your posts makes me realize how ridiculous I sounded when I cried and pined for my Libra on here. I was you.

But reading all of this makes me see how naive I was. It certainly is helping me see the light.


I suggest you read my old posts. You will see the similarities. Maybe it will be therapeutic.

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You are telling the truth. We spent the entire evening texting. I had to get some understanding from him so I can really know if I want to deal with or just walk away. He told me he's lactose intolerant and all those empty empty tubs on ice cream he had all over his apartment the other night, messed him up.


I kinda know that's not the case, I didn't even reply like caring I just kept it one word replys. Then I texted if you really just not interested or if you're dealing with your shit then tell me so I can know to move forward from this. He told me that he was absolutely interested but he's just hard to date because his depression. "And that i wouldn't put it past me if I decided to stay friends I can be a lot to handle from time to time." He then said he likes to be alone during his depression.


But he being in his apartment, on the computer and being a gamer, that's not helping his case. That's more isolating. And also he had his friend over that night I came there. But he also lives in the building with him. It just it doesn't seem the same as before I told him goodbye. He also said that night "yeah I am a bit self-centered, I don't think that's the word." He ask seemed a bit avoidant at first.


I'm thinking this is a test of my weakness. I was that a few years ago. Heavily sedated on zombifiying meds, going to weekly appointments. And wreaking havoc and everyone life. After 3 years I'm not on meds and I'm coping with depression, anxiety, and OCD. Even if I am isolating myself...for the sole purpose to heal emotionally, mentally, and physically.
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Like before all this shit. He was all touchy feely. That night when I went to visit, he wasn't at first. But then by the end before I left he very much was. We did do the deed a couple weeks ago. And the the visit before i texted the goodbye text, he tried to be intimate with me and I told him no. But this time he didn't try. He was just all grabbsy.


Maybe it's because we done the deed and now I feel like...damn no what...???
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Posted by ViewtifulGem
You are telling the truth. We spent the entire evening texting. I had to get some understanding from him so I can really know if I want to deal with or just walk away. He told me he's lactose intolerant and all those empty empty tubs on ice cream he had all over his apartment the other night, messed him up.


I kinda know that's not the case, I didn't even reply like caring I just kept it one word replys. Then I texted if you really just not interested or if you're dealing with your shit then tell me so I can know to move forward from this. He told me that he was absolutely interested but he's just hard to date because his depression. "And that i wouldn't put it past me if I decided to stay friends I can be a lot to handle from time to time." He then said he likes to be alone during his depression.


But he being in his apartment, on the computer and being a gamer, that's not helping his case. That's more isolating. And also he had his friend over that night I came there. But he also lives in the building with him. It just it doesn't seem the same as before I told him goodbye. He also said that night "yeah I am a bit self-centered, I don't think that's the word." He ask seemed a bit avoidant at first.


I'm thinking this is a test of my weakness. I was that a few years ago. Heavily sedated on zombifiying meds, going to weekly appointments. And wreaking havoc and everyone life. After 3 years I'm not on meds and I'm coping with depression, anxiety, and OCD. Even if I am isolating myself...for the sole purpose to heal emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Oh for fuck's sake. It is not a "test." Do NOT be one of those silly hoes who uses that as a band aid and an excuse to stick around with dickish behavior.


This guy is telling you who he is. He's got emotional issues like whoa, he's self destructive, and he uses gaming to escape.


Again, abandon ship. Ruuun bitch, run. This guy isn't relationship material. Move. On. HE'S even telling you what a douche he is yet you think this is some freaking challenge?


Child, how dumb are you, exactly?
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