Libras like confidence?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Cancerleo32 on Thursday, December 23, 2010 and has 8 replies.
Or not?
Just curious on if you guys prefer like a really confident woman over like a normal one?
Like I am not confident, I am more humble.. Well i am confident in certain ways, I am confident of my potential and confident of who I am on the inside. I know like God made me beautiful, or I feel like averagely good looking.. but I wouldn't say I am confident.
My Libguy compliments me constantly, but I have trouble accepting the compliments.. I always say like "Thank you" Or "no no.." Like I have trouble accepting them lol
I wonder if that gets on his nerves. Would it get on your nerves? As a guy.. or girl dating a guy, if you can switch the scenario around.
From my experience they do like confident women.
Confidence is a weird subject. People are confident about different things and view confidence and arrogance differently. But generally everyone agrees confidence is sexy, arrogance is not... neither is insecurity.
There are some things I am very confident about, some I am down right cocky. I have joked many times that "I"m not cocky, I'm confident". If you mix in humor with a bit of cockiness, it's magic. However, there are also things which I am insecure about. Everyone is like this too, regardless of sign.
You can be confident and humble. They are not mutually exclusive like say arrogance and humility.

As for dismissing his compliments, BelovedAssata and QLM are right. It always bothered me when I'd compliment an ex and they'd shrug it off or disagree. When he says you're beautiful and you say no... it will eventually make him stop saying it. At first he'll laugh and say you are even if you don't know it, but it'll wear him down. If you act like you don't like hearing it, he'll stop saying it. We try to keep things calm and agreeable and this is an easy fix. It doesn't hurt him not to say it and if you don't like it why should he continue?
We are generally optimistic, glass half full, people too. If you constantly turn down compliments it can make you seem negative. A bad self image is a pet peeve of mine (although I carried my own for a long time). Libras like to receive compliments so we give them out generously too. I know I have a mentality that "everyone is like me"... maybe more along the lines of the golden rule. I treat others how I want to be treated. I think this plays into our mirroring too.
Posted by QLIbraMale
most libras act confident but secretly aren't, and if your having trouble accepting the compliments. its gonna make your libra uncomfortable without you knowing it til its too late.


this.
i know that if someone disagrees with a compliment i give them, i feel like they're insulting my taste. and i have excellent taste, so they should learn to agree with me. plus, we really don't like unneccessary arguments, unless they're with ourselves.
but i also do like a "healthy" dose of insecurity. cockiness is a huge turn-off. but i blame the leo and scorpio in my chart for that. most libras i know (male and female) seem to like a bit of cockiness in a partner. especially the males. but that's cos it makes it easier for them to worship you.
"mst libras act confident but secretly aren't, and if your having trouble accepting the compliments. its gonna make your libra uncomfortable without you knowing it til its too late."
I've noticed this about my Libra friends as well. Especially the ones with Libra moons. I don't necessarily agree with the notion that they are not confident, but they just do not want to come across as aggressive or confrontational. I WILL agree with the males liking for the female to go first. My male friend is a Libra and he LOVES that I am not afraid to "go first" in certian situations. ( I usually call him a chump, but I think he likes that the MOST) Damn Aries moon! Tongue
Another thing that I notice with my Libra friends, is that they seem to be VERY easily influenced by those with a stronger personality than theirs, so much so, that I wonder where the Libra begins and the other person ends. Don't get me wrong, I am in no way saying that ALL Libras are like this.....just the ones that I know. I also know some LIbra males that are very balanced and very secure/confident with themselves and their lives. The ones that really did find balance.
As for the compliments, yes.....the Libras LOVE to dish them out, but not all are sincere. Tongue Cancerleo, if your guy pays you a compliment and you are uncomfortable with receiving it, just let him know. He will appreciate your honesty, share with him how you feel and hopefully things will work out for both of you and you will feel more comfortable around him.
Posted by BelovedAssata
who doesn't like confidence?
Are you talking about being cocky and being arrogant?
For me personally, I think cocky is a bit endearing with some guys(I like Leo's, and Sags for that.)..it spices things up but, please lose it when we're a couple, will you?
Arrogance is irritating as hell to me. I can deal with if its directed at me but i'll lose respect for you and def. think you're a moron. Big turn-off,

Hmm..he gives you compliments and you turn them down...look at it this way, what would it hurt if you said "thank you" vs. "no, i'm not." Do you not like the compliments, do you no thtink they're true? Or that you will be seen as "more than what you are?" Do you want him to stop?
I think you'd benefit with a little cockyness too...even if it feels a bit awkward just try it to see how he'd react.
THe next time he compliments you, say "I know, I am" and see what he says..or better yet, do what I used to do when I was awkward with accepting compliments...throw one right back at him, with a "you don't look so bad yourself..." "you like my jacket? well I like your shoes." etc.




Ah I do that lol I always give a compliment and always say thank you, I just have trouble like accepting them and he can tell. I guess I feel like I don't deserve it.. ahh that's bad. Not like I'm not good enough.. Just like.. Ah I don't deserve it.. Like more in a humble way? I guess lol
Thank you for the advice smile
Posted by Archimedes
"mst libras act confident but secretly aren't, and if your having trouble accepting the compliments. its gonna make your libra uncomfortable without you knowing it til its too late."
I've noticed this about my Libra friends as well. Especially the ones with Libra moons. I don't necessarily agree with the notion that they are not confident, but they just do not want to come across as aggressive or confrontational. I WILL agree with the males liking for the female to go first. My male friend is a Libra and he LOVES that I am not afraid to "go first" in certian situations. ( I usually call him a chump, but I think he likes that the MOST) Damn Aries moon! Tongue
Another thing that I notice with my Libra friends, is that they seem to be VERY easily influenced by those with a stronger personality than theirs, so much so, that I wonder where the Libra begins and the other person ends. Don't get me wrong, I am in no way saying that ALL Libras are like this.....just the ones that I know. I also know some LIbra males that are very balanced and very secure/confident with themselves and their lives. The ones that really did find balance.
As for the compliments, yes.....the Libras LOVE to dish them out, but not all are sincere. Tongue Cancerleo, if your guy pays you a compliment and you are uncomfortable with receiving it, just let him know. He will appreciate your honesty, share with him how you feel and hopefully things will work out for both of you and you will feel more comfortable around him.



Many people have given me great advice, thanks guys ^^
And you are right. I'm not uncomfortable.. like I appreciate it, I tell him all the time. I just get this weird.. I do't deserve this thing that goes when he compliments me, so I say thank you.. or I'll like smile and put my face in his chest and shake my head. Than I compliment him back.. I can't seem to say like "I know.." It feels weird to me lol
Posted by PandorasBox
Yes. Dont we all? Were lookin for someone who isnt confused, who knows where they are and where they are going. It fuels the feelin of security.. Id hate to be in love with someone who's lost or insecure. You gotta know, own, love, and embrace who you are in order to be able to provide any other source outside of yourself with real love... Atleast, thats the way I see things.


Agreed!
Like I am confident in my own ways I guess. Not with looks, but with who i am. I am secure in where I am going who I am. What I want and what I don't want. ect. Just not good at accepting compliments.