Living with libra man

Ok, so now those of you that know my story, my libra man and I are living together, o dear gawd, and don't get me wrong it's nice, but I find myself making all the decisions around the apartment, the man doesn't even want to pick out the furniture at that time, but I made it work, no complaints from him since he likes all the stuff I picked out, but now he doesn't want to go out as much anymore, he just wants to stay home, but when I go out with my friends I get attitude from him, he's been more possessive of me, and dare I say he's been alittle lazy

I see that I got him to open up emotional than logically, and I'm not trying to bore the guy so I do different things just to keep things spicy around the apt. But I don't get why I'm the a aggressor than he is, which is what he likes but can he at least that the lead for once, lol, he likes to argue a bit, nothing serious just alittle here and there to keep they spice going, but um, my libra BFF told me when she had a libra boyfriend she got bored with him, for the fact he didn't do anything, and I can see how she would.

I cook for him, but he rather do the cooking tho, so it's getting to the point where I'm alittle nerous about hanging out cause he wants me to stay home a lot, he be on that dam Xbox and always wants his friends around, which isn't a problem, but dam can we go out sometimes


Anyone lived with a libra man, and what was ur experience

Is that the Libra that was driving you nuts and proposed to you??

More familiar with Taurus women, my 2 BFFs are Taurus. They'd go crazy if any man tries to corale them. They love their men, but they must have a total sense of freedom, or they walk out.

Posted by sweethearts
Is that the Libra that was driving you nuts and proposed to you??

Yup, and he still driving me nutz

Hahaha. can't believe you moved in with him! Tiz was right all along! Wow that's fast moving and yes they can be very lazy. You have to decide what to do and make the plans...but they will drag their feet if they aren't really interested in whatever it is you have planned. And I believe this is with most men, it's like the shopping trip...they don't want to be left behind but they are going to show you that they aren't having fun. Men in general are selfish!! Good luck with that one!

Posted by AriesSweetness
More familiar with Taurus women, my 2 BFFs are Taurus. They'd go crazy if any man tries to corale them. They love their men, but they must have a total sense of freedom, or they walk out.

I give that man so much freedom, u think I was single, I don't smother him or call or txt him, he does all that, but living with him, I swear it's like dammit get off the Xbox foo

But god forbid I go out with my friend I get a grown azz baby, then he wants his friends to come by, but he doesn't want to go out after work or on his off day, I basically have to drag him out the house so we can have some fun, he really is getting possessive with me, then when something is bothering him it takes him, he waits til we are laughing or when I'm comfortable to bring it up for discussion after what ever the hell it was about has been forgotten

Living with a libra is an experience

Posted by sweethearts
Hahaha. can't believe you moved in with him! Tiz was right all along! Wow that's fast moving and yes they can be very lazy. You have to decide what to do and make the plans...but they will drag their feet if they aren't really interested in whatever it is you have planned. And I believe this is with most men, it's like the shopping trip...they don't want to be left behind but they are going to show you that they aren't having fun. Men in general are selfish!! Good luck with that one!

You are so right about that, good lord, libra men are something else, I do all the decision making, so I got his azz in gear and made him decide what he wanted, guess how long that took 3 days, just for a bedroom set

Omg are libra men lazy like that, I think he likes arguing with me just to pissme off, he really gets off on it, I just wanna kick his azz, every since we moved in together he just getting worst with the decision making skills, can't believe that I gotta tell him what to do, but everything else is ok, but then he has a problem with my outfits when I go out, are u serious, but if I wear it for him it's ok, now I find some of my outfits that I have are missing, only to find them in his closet, very slick libra

Sounds like he's gotten too comfortable. I never lived with the ex, but it sounds similar with some of the issues that I had with him- got lazy and wanted to stay in/was playing that effing ps3 alll the damned time- I was a COD widow more or less.

It's fine and nice if they want to let their guard down, but when that proves what a headache they can be, it leaves you wondering wtf happened. I think these guys live in their heads far too much, tbh.

Though I see Libran tendencies, it just sounds like an immature guy thing too- they did the work to get you, now they can relax and do as they please. Oh, what? They have to continue being "mister charming" to keep you happy? Shock gasp. Especially if the guy is a gamer- omg. Talk about the situation having his cake and eating it too- he got you, you're in the same living quarters, AND he has his xbox in the same location? Oh man, lazy guy heaven! Why would he want to leave the house? His source of nookie and entertainment is all under the same roof!

Posted by tiziani
COD widow haha

I am reluctant to agree with Rocky, since Nikki you and your Libra both have strong feelings for one another. But I do agree. I was like this in my live in relationship and all I can say is you want to set things in motion while you still can, so that he sees you as "the beginning" of the next stage of his life, rather than "the end" destination of his current one.

Don't let a Lazy Libra picture you as merely an extension of themselves.

How you do that, only you will know.

Haha, it's truuue. It's one of those things I'd heard about with WOW. He never struck me as the gamer type, but when his roommate got him one of the first COD games for his bday, he liked it so much he preordered MW2. As soon as he got that, the nightmare began. He'd been a pretty good boyfriend up until that point.

OP- I gotta wonder if trying to be the chill girlfriend can bite you in the ass sometimes. You don't want to pressure or nag them and allow them their space. But when it comes to lazy guys like these, I think it just turns back on you and this is what you get. Sometimes I wonder if that's what I'm dealing with right now with the guy I've been seeing.

When he initially got back into the swing of school stuff after break, I was fine with being understanding, and didn't get all whiny when he had to put our dating on hold for 2 weeks for some clinical stuff. I had the major, I understand. Gradually, it's become worse and I can't help but wonder if giving him that laid back vibe has made him lazy in all the other areas I was okay with that made up for the lack of physical time together.

Being lenient with laziness just seems to bring on more laziness. Especially with immature guys. You shouldn't have to be a controlling figure, but damned if you don't need to smack common sense upside their heads in the process.

I mean really, the ex- had me come over after a shitty night at work. Yay, get to see him. He played that gawd damn game for THREE hours and never stopped to do anything with me. So I left. He only realized 40 MINUTES after I'd left that I was gone. "Why didn't you say anything?"

REALLY? WHO INVITES SOMEONE OVER, ONLY TO IGNORE THEM FOR 3 HOURS. Rude!

Dingbats! Libra guys are utter dingbats!

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Omg Rocky, u are so on point with that, he be on that dam Xbox for hours, and I'm like HELLO, WTF, he's like babe I will get off in a minute, so I told him ok, I'll be leaving in about the same time, then that's when the game goes off and I get my charmer back, if it's not the dam Xbox, it's the dam friends coming over, so I'm like f*** ur friends then, now I have to tell him to have the dam friends over at a certain time and leave at a certain time, it's gotten better tho, but dam common sense would tell him that, for god sake man


That got me thinking about what u said the nookie and entertainment, but I will admit this, he does try everything to make me happy now, but it took a lot of work getting there, but he still lazy tho, the azzhole still manages to piss me off about little things,ugggg now I have to deal with his insecurities, my guy friends are a problem, but his female friends are fine, good luck trying to convince me on that, had to really lay down the law on that, found my missing dresses he was hiding from me, now it's come to the point where if I don't want to talk or argue I just shut him up with sex

Posted by TaurusNikki
Omg Rocky, u are so on point with that, he be on that dam Xbox for hours, and I'm like HELLO, WTF, he's like babe I will get off in a minute, so I told him ok, I'll be leaving in about the same time, then that's when the game goes off and I get my charmer back, if it's not the dam Xbox, it's the dam friends coming over, so I'm like f*** ur friends then, now I have to tell him to have the dam friends over at a certain time and leave at a certain time, it's gotten better tho, but dam common sense would tell him that, for god sake man


That got me thinking about what u said the nookie and entertainment, but I will admit this, he does try everything to make me happy now, but it took a lot of work getting there, but he still lazy tho, the azzhole still manages to piss me off about little things,ugggg now I have to deal with his insecurities, my guy friends are a problem, but his female friends are fine, good luck trying to convince me on that, had to really lay down the law on that, found my missing dresses he was hiding from me, now it's come to the point where if I don't want to talk or argue I just shut him up with sex

Haha, the guy friends vs his female friends. I don't know if the guy I'm seeing now has an issue with guy friends, but I can see how he might. Early on in dating, the ex came up briefly (he brought it up, not me) and once the info was given about the ex, he changed the topic real fast. I don't blame him, but I was a tad amused. But that double standard bs is ridiculous, tbh. I think Size zero pointed out that it should be brought up because Libras don't like double standards.

It's good that yours is trying, but I really think it's a big red flag that you're using sex as a buffer/solution for some of these issues.

Why did you move in with this guy anyway? You were totally turned off to him before.

@Rocky

I moved in with him, because I wanted to know if I can really deal with him with all his good and bad traits under one roof as well as him dealing with mine also, I can't imagine marrying a guy or even consider marrying a guy if I can't stand living with him, my libra BFF told me the best way to really know a guy is to live with him, he may be easy to deal with when ur apart not living together, but when ya live with each other it's a whole new ball game


It's getting better, but I feel like throwing that dam Xbox out the window


O the sex is for me, more than for him, it was either that or beat his azz with a loaf of bread or a piece of chicken when he pisses me off

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Posted by TaurusNikki
Omg are libra men lazy like that, I think he likes arguing with me just to pissme off, he really gets off on it

yep, that's a typical lib man right there.. the only thing I can tell u is train him, not potty training lol, well.. u know what I mean 😄

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O I'm trying to train him, believe me, a lot of work, but it's coming along


I got a lot of libra in my chart, so it's not so bad, it my Aries Venus that kicks extra but to his libra Venus

O , ok I will, he stubborn already...lol

It took him forever just to open up to me, he always wanted me to move in with him from 2 weeks of meeting me, but I wanted to get to know him first

Posted by TaurusNikki
@Rocky

I moved in with him, because I wanted to know if I can really deal with him with all his good and bad traits under one roof as well as him dealing with mine also, I can't imagine marrying a guy or even consider marrying a guy if I can't stand living with him, my libra BFF told me the best way to really know a guy is to live with him, he may be easy to deal with when ur apart not living together, but when ya live with each other it's a whole new ball game


It's getting better, but I feel like throwing that dam Xbox out the window


O the sex is for me, more than for him, it was either that or beat his azz with a loaf of bread or a piece of chicken when he pisses me off

It doesn't matter. Sex should never be used in situations like that, regardless who it's for. It's not really a healthy way to go about it when it comes to conflicts. Just sayin'.

Your right, it isn't

I'm not gonna lie, I be too tired to argue, it's so annoying, I don't like to argue

Posted by leoliza
WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTT this is the one that you were bitching about 'wouldn't leave you alone' and you moved in with him!? That makes NO sense. Credibility going down..

You are so late, for the many post I have done, I pourly explained that I was giving the libra man a chance, just to see where it goes, pay attention for god sake

Read first before u even think about stating any bodies credibility

Posted by leoliza
Haha are you fucking kidding me. Sorry I don't revolve my life around your posts. Last I remember, not that long ago, you were PMing me saying you would never take him back and that he was pathetically stalking you..now you've moved in. Anyone logical would raise an eyebrow at that leap,regardless of filler posts. Also note, I'm not the only one that asked this question (Sweethearts) and THATS FOR A REASON. I think you should record a Soap Opera and sell it to a local television station so I can aptly keep up with your Libran drama.

Sorry u do revolve ur life around me, I know I'm fabulous and all, but seriously get ur own life, as u know I never post anything that pertains to ur azz, that should tell u exactly what I think about u, but u seem to care a lot about me, if u didn't why post on my thread at all if u didn't find me interesting, ummmmm maybe because ur a fan

Posted by TaurusNikki

Posted by leoliza
Haha are you fucking kidding me. Sorry I don't revolve my life around your posts. Last I remember, not that long ago, you were PMing me saying you would never take him back and that he was pathetically stalking you..now you've moved in. Anyone logical would raise an eyebrow at that leap,regardless of filler posts. Also note, I'm not the only one that asked this question (Sweethearts) and THATS FOR A REASON. I think you should record a Soap Opera and sell it to a local television station so I can aptly keep up with your Libran drama.

Sorry u do revolve ur life around me, I know I'm fabulous and all, but seriously get ur own life, as u know I never post anything that pertains to ur azz, that should tell u exactly what I think about u, but u seem to care a lot about me, if u didn't why post on my thread at all if u didn't find me interesting, ummmmm maybe because ur a fan

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Bitch please, I'm the one who asked about her moving in with him.

Nikki, I can't help but lol. I get where she's coming from because I, too was baffled that you moved in with someone you proclaimed to be so turned off to.

HOWEVER, this bitch... Gotta love how she's basically skipping around proving what a totally immature pos she is. She gets advice she doesn't like, and the second we bring up guy issues, she's the first to rub it in our faces. Must be sad in the world of a serial dater. The bitch can't even stand to be alone, poor thing.

I sure as hell hope the Libra finds her to be a good lay. Because she's ugly on the inside AND outside.

Posted by leoliza
Haha are you fucking kidding me. Sorry I don't revolve my life around your posts. Last I remember, not that long ago, you were PMing me saying you would never take him back and that he was pathetically stalking you..now you've moved in. Anyone logical would raise an eyebrow at that leap,regardless of filler posts. Also note, I'm not the only one that asked this question (Sweethearts) and THATS FOR A REASON. I think you should record a Soap Opera and sell it to a local television station so I can aptly keep up with your Libran drama.

And for the record I never PM your azz, are upon drugs or something, damn the rocker of urs is really f***ed up, nobody finds u that good honey, I will have no problem telling this on the board ur not worthy of any form of PM other than me telling u PLease Move

The shoes on the other foot liza, they comment on your threads tactlessly without thinking how you may feel about it but don't like the fact that you see their train wreck!

Everyone lives their own lives regardless of opinion..some just take the hard road!! Taurus, you seem to thrive if it!

@Rocky
I understand, he was pissing me off until I cracked to give him another chance, which I did

But leoliza is just jealous that no libra wants her dusty azz, who wants to cater to that, a lot of drugs and drinking won't even help the situation dealing with that, good bloody luck to the guy, if he's smart he wouldn't even try

Posted by sweethearts
The shoes on the other foot liza, they comment on your threads tactlessly without thinking how you may feel about it but don't like the fact that you see their train wreck!

Everyone lives their own lives regardless of opinion..some just take the hard road!! Taurus, you seem to thrive if it!

If u ever seen my post, I have never commented on leolizas threads, she attack mines when I post on other threads, check my history, I don't comment on threads leoliza has made


When u try to come at me without notion u get the horns, it's that simple, we all have problems and like others opinions on them, but to plainly come at me without the proper ammo, I'm gonna get ya

In all seriousness, I don't know how you do it. I'm pretty much on the verge of dropping the one I've been seeing and being done with it and you freaking moved in with yours.

Girl you be crazy. :p I'll admit, I don't think it was a very good move on your part, and the fact that you use sex as a tactic to avoid conflict isn't too promising. The way you taurus women work baffles me. I have a friend who had a lot of issues with her Aries boyfriend. I think they broke up once, maybe twice. Took sorta a long break as just friends, though he was still into her and chasing. Next thing you know, BAM they're back together and they're better than before. It was pretty interesting to see, haha. Earth signs... You lot are strange. I don't even understand my Taurus Venus at times...

Good luck though, but be sure to have an exit plan. It's a little unnerving that you moved in with him on such unstable grounds.

Ask virgoking to do your charts..reason I say this is, I have 4 close friends all Taurus. For some reason I attract them, love them to bits but could never live with any of them! I'm the one always pulling them up on their Shit though..but I also have Taurus rising.

@Rocky

On a serious note, I was kidding about the sex as a stress relief for arguing

Sometimes u gotta take a chance and take a risk when u have feelings for someone, I don't regret moving in with him, because I wanted to get to know him much better, to truly know someone is if you can actually deal with them dam near 24/7, and I took a chance by moving in with him, it's not bad, because I'm learning more about him that I didn't see while I wasn't living with him, you never know who u truly are unless u take a chance and take a risk as long as its not a life or death situation, I'm happy I did the move, I'm learning from him just like he is learning from me, compromise is key as well as trust which we are building on, it's a lot of work, but we both feel it's worth it, hes just a bit lazy, and that dam Xbox

Posted by TaurusNikki
@Rocky

On a serious note, I was kidding about the sex as a stress relief for arguing

Sometimes u gotta take a chance and take a risk when u have feelings for someone, I don't regret moving in with him, because I wanted to get to know him much better, to truly know someone is if you can actually deal with them dam near 24/7, and I took a chance by moving in with him, it's not bad, because I'm learning more about him that I didn't see while I wasn't living with him, you never know who u truly are unless u take a chance and take a risk as long as its not a life or death situation, I'm happy I did the move, I'm learning from him just like he is learning from me, compromise is key as well as trust which we are building on, it's a lot of work, but we both feel it's worth it, hes just a bit lazy, and that dam Xbox

Throw that shit out the window. If he can't get a grip on it, I guarantee that thing will be the center of all your problems. I'm not saying be all boo video games, but if it takes up all hours of the day and your relationship starts to suffer, that's some serious shit to consider.

If he wants to play for a few hours after work and be done with it? Fine. But if it starts turning into relationship neglect bs, you're due for a serious talk.

I had to draw it out with the ex. I let him know I didn't mind the games per se, but the treatment of me that came with them was not fucking cool. It was okay for awhile, then it just got out of control. His roommates told me he'd be in there til like 3 in the morning playing. It was pretty bad and even they thought he was over doing it.

The lol worthy part is when we met up last year, one of the first things he tells me is that he doesn't play that game anymore. I was like great.... little late now, but good for you?

Dingbats!

And I'm all for giving a second chance- with limitations. I know I preach black and white scenarios and discourage women with putting up with shit, but the main thing women need to do is just listen to their gut and pay attention. I still think it was really risky to move in, especially since you had so much animosity toward him, as well as how you refer to him as an asshole. Did you two at least talk out all those issues prior to moving in?

@Rocky

Yea we talked about it, but I didn't think the Xbox would be a problem tho, the dude be getting it in on that dam Xbox, I had to talk to him about it, he seems to understand that I'm around now, so no need to be on that dam thing like that, so I compromise a bit, and started to play with him, so we can play it together, he plays it after work, but when I wanna cuddle he turns it off, but god forbid I go to sleep, yup he be in the dam living room hitting up that Xbox online crap, only problems so far is the laziness and Xbox

Posted by TaurusNikki
@Rocky

Yea we talked about it, but I didn't think the Xbox would be a problem tho, the dude be getting it in on that dam Xbox, I had to talk to him about it, he seems to understand that I'm around now, so no need to be on that dam thing like that, so I compromise a bit, and started to play with him, so we can play it together, he plays it after work, but when I wanna cuddle he turns it off, but god forbid I go to sleep, yup he be in the dam living room hitting up that Xbox online crap, only problems so far is the laziness and Xbox

Headdesk worthy!

Check your PM

Gotta ya

@Leoliza

Look child, how many times must we take ur stupid azz to school, it's obvious ur lonely, not my problem, get ur self a better frame of mind please, cause the real world really eat u up and spit u out,
Why do u really care about anything about me unles ur jealous no man can't even stand the site of u, whatever u claim u have isn't working honey, learn to grow a pair before u step in the ring.

How many men have u been with and still can't get it together, are u really that sad,...look honey I already signed my autographs for ur dumbazz, get off my chest please I no longer need ur sad services since ur value is so low

And once again leoliza why the hell do u care


U can't even answer that question, all u do is try to find friends only to go back to reality that ur alone period, ur blow up doll is ur best friend...why? Because it doesn't talk back


Any advice given to ur azz u just don't seem to understand it or want it but cry when ur method of reason fails to land u a man that wants u

Don't blame me for ur failed personality, u'll have better luck with Fish, but good luck to them also

I'm not interested in u honey, let it go like the men in ur life let u go, it's that simple, THEY ARE JUST NOT INTO YOU

As u can u ur alone,

Posted by leoliza
I've been with............one? Your point? Unintelligent people feel the need to spew lies just to come out on top eh? The ring? Stop, that's just silly. I wouldn't waste an eager punch on your cause you're beneath my level. The second I rebuke a lie from you have to flip the conversation to divert from the fact that you can't keep anything straight. Do I need to t y p e s l o w e r w i t h s m a l l e r w o r d s s o y o u c a n u n d e r s t a n d? Also can you stop with the ebonics and grow an education and some class..if not for me for the Libra that you bore to death on a daily basis.

Look child I'm not interested in u, please stop PM ing me please, I like guys, dam, what the hell is wrong with u, u really must be lonely


I don't do women, i like guys for the 100th time

Don't be mad cause I have one honey


Not my problem in which u have

Well I guess that' explains why no one wants u, ur not enough

I'd leave ur azz too