Love, Loss, and a Libra—

Let me preface by seeing, I do believe my Libra friend deserved to be told off... The question is have I completely ruined my chances with him?
Greetings all... I met a Libra (Sun and Venus) male online a little over a month ago. I'm Aquarius by sun sign with a venus in Pisces. We kicked it off platonically immediately and a part of me instantly knew we could be great friends. Needless to say he was out of town on business for the first 2 weeks after we met so our communications were mainly that of text, phone, and skype. Initially, I was NOT looking for anything, and I did explain this to him. I tried to play up the friend bit, and told him how this thing(love)just never works out, and that I was okay with being single (which I am). However, he seemed to have other plans for him and I, and almost convinced me of them as well. He said he hadn't been looking for anything either, but then I appeared. I have NEVER EVER had a man come on to me so strong, so smooth, or with such charm in my life. He said things that I've never heard, said things that I'd only wished in the crevices of my Piscean (Venus) heart, and made me believe that love actual could exist for a bruised girl like me. That I'd perhaps found my friend, and my knight in shining armor too. By the time he came home, I was completely SMITTEN and his words revolved around him wanting me to be his and him wanting to come home to me. And this is where things fall apart. He initially told me he would be home for three weeks, which turned into 3 and a half days. 2 of those days we'd made psuedo plans, but they fell through and I really wasn't concerned as I understood the circumstancers behind them. The third day (The day before he was going out of town for the Holidays) he made definite plans to see me. He texted me 30 minutes before saying he could not make it because he was completely running behind schedule. I was disappointed, so much so that I did'nt text him til the next morning after I'd gotten my bearings together. We texted casually. I wished him well on his trip, and he was off. While he was away we spoke via text maybe 4 or 5 times. I did not want to be a hindrance to him, but I literally felt like I was crashing down from a high. I missed our communication that much!!! During that time I clung to his words when he said that he "hadn't forgot about me," and that when he got home we "would spend time together... Needless to say last Jan. 2nd he comes home...

He texts me about getting uo last weekend... I tell him that I going to an art exhibit, but other than that I'm free... He asks can he come. I tell him yes, but am no longer excited (I've been excited before and received nothing but frustration). Friday comes, we speak verablly he tells me he forgot about it being his frat's founder's day on Saturday and that he would be hanging with his boys Saturday night. We text later on that night and I ask him if he is till meeting up with me he says he isn't sure but will let me know (REALLY!?!?). The next morning I text him, and he tells me to go ahead, that he won't be able to make it. I think to myself if he make no attempot to see me Sunday after all that has transpired verbally with him I'm done. I don't see him Sunday, he doesn't call or text. Things have changed and I've had enough. How do you go from 110% to -5% ... I guess only a fickle Libra would know (Even when my Aquarius is in full rage my ficklness is not that bad)! Then he likes pics on my FB page and I'm even more livid... He hasn't even seen me and its been almost a week since he has been home is all I can think. I send him a barage of messages. Not angry, but stern. I tell him off... That he is all words but NO action... That I can't deal with his bs... That he is stringing me a long... I tell him that I am done, ending it with "Bye Baby".

And I didn't expect a responce. In the heat of it, it felt soooo damn good... and he in my opinion deserved it, you can't play with pple's emotions like that. But now I miss him so. I miss him so...He hasn't contacted me, and he didn't delete me from his FB page. Will I ever speak to him again? How do you Libras out there handle daggers when there thrown in your direction. Just looking for some clarity...

Thanks!

A little over a month—

You know you should be married by now.. right??!!!

"Sweetmess"... Don't patronize me b*t% $ ... If you don't have anything PRODUCTIVE to say about the question I posed then F*** OFF!!!

Hence the reason he's jerking you around...you're acting like he owes you something after 1 month...good luck with that 🙂

Two fu##k you's b $ @ $ % ....BYE... If u had something pertinent to say you should've said it the first fuck $ $ time!!!!!

...you REEK DESPERATION but clearly can't see it. He can!! Men do not like to be smothered when they first start dating. He's probably got a few of you on the go as you did meet online...

You'll get the truth from others here too but already it's evident that you only want to hear what you want to hear

and you're quite the angry little girl when you don;t get what you want...

Bi#_ $ ... I aint desperate....I haven't even called that man....Even if I was a wouldn't call him... I havr way too much pride for that... I got on his azz for not keeping his word! Just like I got in ur azz for not choosing ur words wisely! And u right, I will get in a fucker's azz real quick!!! Hence me letting ur sour mess azz have it!

Bi#_ $ ... I aint desperate....I haven't even called that man....Even if I was a wouldn't call him... I havr way too much pride for that... I got on his azz for not keeping his word! Just like I got in ur azz for not choosing ur words wisely! And u right, I will get in a fucker's azz real quick!!! Hence me letting ur sour mess azz have it!

Did you use the same "colourful" language on him that you just used on here?! If so no wonder he's gone. Nobody likes a potty mouth haha especially a Libra man. They like women with class. Also humour goes a long way with a Libra. I personally have never understood why astrology puts these two signs together as IMO "serious Aquarius" and Libras should just be friends.

But anyway if you are going to "tell a libra off" and have them listen to you you need to have done it in a diplomatic way not aggressive or attacking or accusing but more explaining

O_O ........................................Ok. I am no Libra so I can't particularly speak on that but I hope you didn't normally go smooth off on him like you did Sweethearts, there. Libra guys are not fond of heated scenes in no way shape or form. Was he flaky, from what I see, yes. Is that mess frustrating, fuck yeah it is. What's a different avenue to take on that? When he starts to fluff about, back off and do you. He'll float back and see what you are doing if you back off and give him his space. When they are trying to figure you out, they have a habit of kind of flitting about trying to figure you, them, and the direction of the relationship. After this though, I don't think he'll be floating back and from the looks of it, you wouldn't mind it as much.

Libra Sun... I actually did not use that language with him... Lol... I really was looking for earnest opinions, and I wasn't too keen on getting a sarcastic comment like that of "sweet and messy" ...Thanks to the rest of you though for your commentary, its actually very helpful! I appreciate them all!

TheUltra79... Ur right its best its over... All I really want is someone who will keep their word... Say what they mean, and mean what they say... Point. Blank. Period. Thanks!

ReinaDelMar23... Yes, he went to complete flake zone on me, and I'm in a place in my existence where I just can't deal with that at ALL. I told him off, but not in the way I've exhibited here on this thread (he doen't even know this side of me). I am way more gentle in matters of the heart... Lol... I was direct, poignant, and poised. I understand that he can't hear what I'm saying if the tone is argumentative and accusatory. At any rate I can't deal with his changing temperatures... I do not deal well with instability, particularly when my emotions get involved because their a flood even I rather not deal with... I digress... It is done... Thanx!

I can understand that. If you know what you want, then have what you want but if he floats back around let him know it so he doesn't linger. I love my Leebs to death but I know them and most of them know that the flakiness is not my cup of tea. Good luck to you, and I am sure you will find better.

Leoliza... Ego bruised... I'd like to think not, but then I would be lying to myself... All I can say is.... I'm working on it... O' and f% #* and his mouth... Just like I told him, his mouth is slick, but my mental is slicker! THANK YOU!!!