Manipulative Libra - Stuck In a Hard Place

I previously posted on here about my Libra ex. It has been over a month since we have separated and I still am upset, not because we aren't together but because I feel so manipulated. It feels like I fell in love with a lie because I don't know who this man is. You would think as people get older they would stop hurting people, but that isn't the case here. He recently moved to my hometown and is reaching out to all of the girls he used to sleep with so he can have sex with them. I found out because one of the girls told me since she thought we were still together. My ex flat out told me he would use her for sex and because she edited her papers, he never wanted anything serious from her but he lead her on. This girl has a boyfriend and she told him that, but yet he is trying to ruin that relationship because he wants a quick fix.

I found out so much things about him that I just feel sick to my stomach. She told me that he slept with an underage girl that he met off of Tinder, and that he knowingly gave her an STD. I saw the proof and he even admitted it to me. I feel so helpless, all I want to do is reach out these girls and warn them but I just look like the crazy ex. I tried to tell one girl, showed her the screenshots and everything yet she thought they were photoshopped. I thought about reporting this to the police since those are both crimes, but he said if he goes down EVERYONE is going down with him.

He is very charming and I can see why girls are drawn to him and how these girls go back to him after he treats them so terribly. I just wish I could erase him from my life and pretend like he never existed, but it is impossible. I feel so conflicted in what to do because he still hasn't been tested again and I just don't want to see anyone get hurt. I used to be the strongest person, but after being in a relationship with him I didn't even recognize who I was when I looked in the mirror. I went into a dark depression and thought about self harm because of the treatment. My biggest fear is that he does the same thing to a girl who may not know who to handle it and she ends up doing something drastic to herself.

Hasn't been tested again?

What is the name of the STD he has?

Is it a reoccuring STD with an on and off button?

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Hasn't been tested again?

What is the name of the STD he has?

Is it a reoccuring STD with an on and off button?

It is a curable STD, the problem was that he didn't take precaution with regards to medication he was given. Apparently she found out she had it, they took the medicine, then after getting tested again he found out he still had it. After talking to him about it, it seemed like his knowledge about sexual health is very limited. He was supposed to get tested again to make sure the treatment worked but he has yet to go.

Posted by sierraleone
damn this sounds exactly like my friend's libra ex

what's your sun sign?

Scorpio.

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Posted by Beekay

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Hasn't been tested again?

What is the name of the STD he has?

Is it a reoccuring STD with an on and off button?

It is a curable STD, the problem was that he didn't take precaution with regards to medication he was given. Apparently she found out she had it, they took the medicine, then after getting tested again he found out he still had it. After talking to him about it, it seemed like his knowledge about sexual health is very limited. He was supposed to get tested again to make sure the treatment worked but he has yet to go.

do you think that maybe he uses this situation for him to be able to still have some sort of connection/contact with you?

"look at me doing this crazy shit and i know she'd stick around coz she cares"

does he still text you or message you?

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He tried that whole friend thing after I told two girls about his status. He claimed I was trying to ruin his life. After I saw that the girls turned it around on me and he played the victim role, I decided to leave that situation alone. He texted me saying he still wanted to be friends, but I know he just wanted me to not tell anyone else. I did text him back a few times then I told him I'm not going to fake the friendship thing. Why on Earth would I want to be friends with someone that not only put me through so much but did those things to other women? I may have been dumb to stick with him for so long but I will never make that mistake again, I feel like I am the only person that sees him for what he truly is.

Posted by GC02
Too many child predators are getting away with this stuff these days!

You should show the police the text to prove he slept with a 14 year old girl and gave her an STD.

How old is he?

Her parents need to be contacted also.

Why would you want to be with someone like this?!!

The problem with that one is the girl may or may not have turned the age of consent by the time they had sex. I definitely have proof that he knowingly gave a girl an STD, which is also a crime. I tried to just let some of the girls know but that backfired on me.

I just feel sick to my stomach at times because this is a lot for one person to deal with. It feels like he gets away with everything. He has an excuse for everything, it's crazy.

*sidenote: I don't know where I said that I want to be with him. After finding out the details of this I was so disgusted with him. I wish everyone could find out about him and all of his evil ways*

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Posted by sierraleone

Posted by Beekay

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Hasn't been tested again?

What is the name of the STD he has?

Is it a reoccuring STD with an on and off button?

It is a curable STD, the problem was that he didn't take precaution with regards to medication he was given. Apparently she found out she had it, they took the medicine, then after getting tested again he found out he still had it. After talking to him about it, it seemed like his knowledge about sexual health is very limited. He was supposed to get tested again to make sure the treatment worked but he has yet to go.

do you think that maybe he uses this situation for him to be able to still have some sort of connection/contact with you?

"look at me doing this crazy shit and i know she'd stick around coz she cares"

does he still text you or message you?

He tried that whole friend thing after I told two girls about his status. He claimed I was trying to ruin his life. After I saw that the girls turned it around on me and he played the victim role, I decided to leave that situation alone. He texted me saying he still wanted to be friends, but I know he just wanted me to not tell anyone else. I did text him back a few times then I told him I'm not going to fake the friendship thing. Why on Earth would I want to be friends with someone that not only put me through so much but did those things to other women? I may have been dumb to stick with him for so long but I will never make that mistake again, I feel like I am the only person that sees him for what he truly is.

here is how he is manipulating you

he will try to form some sort of post-breakup friendship with you to keep you in check so that you don't ruin his reputation and his chance to ruin other girls

you know so much about him

you can ruin him

that's why he needs you as a "friend"

classic

this is why i don't date those damn charmers

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Tell me about it. He literally was saying I want to be friends and be able to tell each other about school and work. Then not even a few minutes later he asks "So no more talking about me?". I knew that was what he wanted from the beginning, I have been able to witness his manipulative ways and for some reason he thinks I don't know him.

I will run far away from them because they are too much for me. I may not be perfect but I just can't use and hurt people like that. For a second I felt like I was in the twilight zone because this is a lot of stuff to take in. The people that were involved in the situation made me feel like I was the only normal person left.

Posted by Beekay

Posted by GC02
Too many child predators are getting away with this stuff these days!

You should show the police the text to prove he slept with a 14 year old girl and gave her an STD.

How old is he?

Her parents need to be contacted also.

Why would you want to be with someone like this?!!

The problem with that one is the girl may or may not have turned the age of consent by the time they had sex. I definitely have proof that he knowingly gave a girl an STD, which is also a crime. I tried to just let some of the girls know but that backfired on me.

I just feel sick to my stomach at times because this is a lot for one person to deal with. It feels like he gets away with everything. He has an excuse for everything, it's crazy.

*sidenote: I don't know where I said that I want to be with him. After finding out the details of this I was so disgusted with him. I wish everyone could find out about him and all of his evil ways*

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So from what you've said, this guy is a rapist and assaulting women but you won't go to the police?

There are websites available to 'out' men like this....

Posted by 2Moon
Dammmnn.

I think what you should do is to call the cops anonymously and then move on with your life. Take care of you and stop talking to him, he is clearly dangerous. (Stay away from people like him)

" but he said if he goes down EVERYONE is going down with him. "

Which is why I feel so conflicted. I've heard stories of men being crazy/dangerous, but of course I was naive and didn't think I'd be in that situation. Also since he was so kind I never expected it from him, it's like he had split personalities. I have him blocked everywhere, haven't talked to him since I told him I don't want want to have any communication with him.

Posted by jeane

Posted by Beekay

Posted by GC02
Too many child predators are getting away with this stuff these days!

You should show the police the text to prove he slept with a 14 year old girl and gave her an STD.

How old is he?

Her parents need to be contacted also.

Why would you want to be with someone like this?!!

The problem with that one is the girl may or may not have turned the age of consent by the time they had sex. I definitely have proof that he knowingly gave a girl an STD, which is also a crime. I tried to just let some of the girls know but that backfired on me.

I just feel sick to my stomach at times because this is a lot for one person to deal with. It feels like he gets away with everything. He has an excuse for everything, it's crazy.

*sidenote: I don't know where I said that I want to be with him. After finding out the details of this I was so disgusted with him. I wish everyone could find out about him and all of his evil ways*

So from what you've said, this guy is a rapist and assaulting women but you won't go to the police?

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Oh I have definitely been seriously looking into doing it. I just want to make sure I go about it the right way. I was discouraged and afraid about going through with it after I saw others' reaction and the way he basically threatened to ruin my life and expose me.

Posted by Beekay

Posted by jeane

Posted by Beekay

Posted by GC02
Too many child predators are getting away with this stuff these days!

You should show the police the text to prove he slept with a 14 year old girl and gave her an STD.

How old is he?

Her parents need to be contacted also.

Why would you want to be with someone like this?!!

The problem with that one is the girl may or may not have turned the age of consent by the time they had sex. I definitely have proof that he knowingly gave a girl an STD, which is also a crime. I tried to just let some of the girls know but that backfired on me.

I just feel sick to my stomach at times because this is a lot for one person to deal with. It feels like he gets away with everything. He has an excuse for everything, it's crazy.

*sidenote: I don't know where I said that I want to be with him. After finding out the details of this I was so disgusted with him. I wish everyone could find out about him and all of his evil ways*

So from what you've said, this guy is a rapist and assaulting women but you won't go to the police?

Oh I have definitely been seriously looking into doing it. I just want to make sure I go about it the right way. I was discouraged and afraid about going through with it after I saw others' reaction and the way he basically threatened to ruin my life and expose me.

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Expose you how? Are you complicit?

Posted by jeane

Posted by Beekay

Posted by jeane

Posted by Beekay

Posted by GC02
Too many child predators are getting away with this stuff these days!

You should show the police the text to prove he slept with a 14 year old girl and gave her an STD.

How old is he?

Her parents need to be contacted also.

Why would you want to be with someone like this?!!

The problem with that one is the girl may or may not have turned the age of consent by the time they had sex. I definitely have proof that he knowingly gave a girl an STD, which is also a crime. I tried to just let some of the girls know but that backfired on me.

I just feel sick to my stomach at times because this is a lot for one person to deal with. It feels like he gets away with everything. He has an excuse for everything, it's crazy.

*sidenote: I don't know where I said that I want to be with him. After finding out the details of this I was so disgusted with him. I wish everyone could find out about him and all of his evil ways*

So from what you've said, this guy is a rapist and assaulting women but you won't go to the police?

Oh I have definitely been seriously looking into doing it. I just want to make sure I go about it the right way. I was discouraged and afraid about going through with it after I saw others' reaction and the way he basically threatened to ruin my life and expose me.

Expose you how? Are you complicit?

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No, which is why I laughed it off when he said it. He does have an intimate picture of me, and he told me that there is a lot he can do with that. Obviously that is also a crime if he were to put that online. But who knows what he could do.

Posted by Beekay
I previously posted on here about my Libra ex. It has been over a month since we have separated and I still am upset, not because we aren't together but because I feel so manipulated. It feels like I fell in love with a lie because I don't know who this man is. You would think as people get older they would stop hurting people, but that isn't the case here. He recently moved to my hometown and is reaching out to all of the girls he used to sleep with so he can have sex with them. I found out because one of the girls told me since she thought we were still together. My ex flat out told me he would use her for sex and because she edited her papers, he never wanted anything serious from her but he lead her on. This girl has a boyfriend and she told him that, but yet he is trying to ruin that relationship because he wants a quick fix.

I found out so much things about him that I just feel sick to my stomach. She told me that he slept with an underage girl that he met off of Tinder, and that he knowingly gave her an STD. I saw the proof and he even admitted it to me. I feel so helpless, all I want to do is reach out these girls and warn them but I just look like the crazy ex. I tried to tell one girl, showed her the screenshots and everything yet she thought they were photoshopped. I thought about reporting this to the police since those are both crimes, but he said if he goes down EVERYONE is going down with him.

He is very charming and I can see why girls are drawn to him and how these girls go back to him after he treats them so terribly. I just wish I could erase him from my life and pretend like he never existed, but it is impossible. I feel so conflicted in what to do because he still hasn't been tested again and I just don't want to see anyone get hurt. I used to be the strongest person, but after being in a relationship with him I didn't even recognize who I was when I looked in the mirror. I went into a dark depression and thought about self harm because of the treatment. My biggest fear is that he does the same thing to a girl who may not know who to handle it and she ends up doing something drastic to herself.

Honestly you need to remove yourself completely from his life, business and situations it's not your problem.