My best friend hurt my feelings

This topic was created in the Libra forum by LovelyLibra on Saturday, November 4, 2006 and has 46 replies.
Shes working on getting this record deal, and she told me that when she "blows up", I won't know where she lives or anything like that ( shes going to be really private with me), b/c she doesn't want any of her personal info leaking out to the public....?.... should I be understanding, b/c I find this a bit offensive and hurtful. Now I have never betrayed her trust,as a matter of fact she has the big mouth and tells ALL of her business, I consider myself to be a pretty loyal friend, but I refuse to try and prove myself to her... shes a Leo, and can be quite full of herself sometimes... And to top it off she stated that she'd tell our mutual friend but not me, and she's known me longer than him, and we've been through waaay more. I HARDLY EVER TALK. My moon and rising are pisces and I am very quiet. But anyway, am I over reacting? She doesnt understand that I'm hurt. In my mind this just shows me the type of friend that she thinks I am... WTF? If I get married I guess I'll be sending her an invitation via Blackberry...
Those damn leos...
If she were thinking this through (leos frequently BS without thinking), she should continue the friendship as to keep you quiet and in HER good graces. Dont take her seriously...for now, but I would be looking elsewhere for a better friend.
Ummmm let me count....6.
I lived with one for about 4 years, nearly drove me crazy...seriously.
Sorry, LL. It would be unsettling to know that she wouldn't trust you yet would trust a mutual friend of the two of you to inform of her address when she "blows up"...the only thing I can see as blowing up is her ego. Let it smooth over. She'll realize her comment was a bit egotistical.
Their impulse is what makes them foolish. Yes I know I dont have a large enough sample kris...weve already discussed this...moving along...
How could you blurt that out to a friend...that was insensitive and foolish. Well lets not based this on sun sign anymore. LOL. That was just mean and after a comment like that there would definitely be some distancing going on.
Just imagine what she'll be like if she ever makes it to stardom....
as i suggested, let things smooth over.
"my best girl friend is a leo.... one real lioness, all she needs is a regular brutal dose of cold reality... and she comes back to senses.... there is no point in being all sweet and sober with leos... they can take an argument very well when they are sure that you are a friend..."
EXACTLY what I always say.
I try not to be harsh...but sometimes it really gets on my nerves so I let 'er rip! I think I've changed her though , I didnt want that...she's supposed to be the idealistic one and me the realist...but now she too is a realist. (she finally came to her senses...this she told me herself)...I felt bad, because it was refreshing actually to have someone like that, it gave me hope in somethings.
BTW, we're both each others first bestfriends...we met the first day of college and have been joined at the hip ever since. We've got the same basic beliefs for the most part and we just get one another....sometimes.
What about that moon Kris...I havent seen it in ages.
No Kris, no mis communication or misunderstanding... we talked for at least 40 mins after she said this... went through her opinion and mine I'm not crying insdide... she knows what exactly what I'm feeling b/c I told her... For the record though leo women are my closest friends...
Her decision is based on this... She gets around my family ( mom and sisters) and talks and talks and talks... maybe not in specifics, but enough to where others can just use context clues... and when they're as dumb as she thinks she accuses me of filling in blanks or telling her business... she really is a case when I think about it... she'll stop mid sentence and give this guilty look like oops I said to much, but they won't understand....
She just gives off this vibe like I'm out to destroy her or her reputation I just need some extra sensitive info.
This is how extreme it can be... last weekend we were in her car and I was supposed to write down a number for her, so I picked up this business card that was just setting in the cup holder, it ws really nothing important or to be secretive about, I just needed something to write on, anyway she looks at me snatches it out of my hand like dont be nosy then hands it back like ok its safe you can use this... WTF???
And she always thinks my family is always asking about her... she has major ego and insecurity issues
I feel like I'm rambling so I'll stop now
Nope, what you say holds some truth...leos tell THEIR own business without you having to ask. AND YES, they have a major ego with loads of insecurities....they are seldom humble/modest.
But your friend is crazy...tell her to keep her mouth closed if she doesnt want anyone to know HER own damn business.
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Let her burst her own bubble. She sounds paranoid. If she didn't want information released, it starts with HER, not your family or you.
Archer:
She said it wasnt me or her family members who gave her reality checks constantly...she just finally got it oneday all on her own. I guess she stopped looking at life through rose colored sunglasses...she's a creative writing major, always in her own world. I guess her expectations of life havent really been met yet, specifically college life...this is the same for me, but I was more honest with myself about it.
That cancer moon doesnt help much.
By standing up for myself do you mean proving to her that I am loyal... sorry, but I've done that I have a life to live outside of her ego trips... I bend over backwards for the people I care about but shes just going off the deep end these days.

Let her burst her own bubble. She sounds paranoid. If she didn't want information released, it starts with HER, not your family or you. If she's afraid of others knowing her life story, then she needs to evaluate what exactly she tells others.
No its not you then LL, its her...she doesnt sound very stable at the moment.
ah i see you figured out my clip art, archer smile
You know we went to church together about 2 weeks ago, and the pastor layed hands on her and told her to not talk too much smile
"She just gives off this vibe like I'm out to destroy her or her reputation "
and you put up with this, why?
OKAY OKAY Kris, sorry...jeez
But I stand by what I say always...Yes aquas have egos, but its only shown when necessary.
Yes, I do hear libras have no backbone. (There something not so nice about a libra...im a fair person...i think)
Message posted by: LovelyLibra on 11/4/2006 8:11:47 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.176
You know we went to church together about 2 weeks ago, and the pastor layed hands on her and told her to not talk too much
LOL
Why is she a best friend?
Idunno Ive just grown to love her I dont hand around any other chics like that unless they are my sisters
Hey, LL...here's what you should do...encourage her to audition for American Idol since she's so sure she'll get a record label...tell her she's awesome and she could totally win American Idol....then make sure to record the show where Simon Cowell tells her she sounds like a sick cat coughing up a hairball.
leos I know love to be talked about and feel great telling about themselves..................."
Maybe thats the problem...WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT HER!!!
no one liked my American Idol comment? I totally think she should encourage her/

Im sure a part of it is my fault...
"""Maybe thats the problem...WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT HER!!!"""
please explain?

She loves to be talked about so much that she makes it up in her mind that I'm talking about her, but in negative ways
I would/could never discourage her...
YOU'VE UNCOVERED THE TRUTH!!! I'M EVIL!!! ALL EVIL!!! MUAHHAHAHA!!!! MUAHHAHAHA!!! MUAHHAHAHA!!!
YES!!!
EVIL!!!
of course it's retarded; just like you are accusing this of being her fault. she didn't raise this girl to be how she is. her egotistical friend needs a crash course in reality.
u guys are crazy!!!
well if kris is taurus like me, then we're not crazy - we're just the "tell it like it is" peeps.
goodnight everyone
LL, she has blatantly told you that she doesn't trust you OR your family, yet you still wonder what to do?
she thinks your family is stupid, yet you put up with that attitude.
she's paranoid that her "best friend" is talking about her in negative ways and that you're out to destroy her and her reputation.
Tell me, how healthy is this friendship? If she can't trust you and you get your feelings hurt, then you are better off looking for a new best friend.
And another thing, you say she's your best friend, but has she proclaimed YOU as HER best friend?
because we're so full of shit?
LOL
Winking
ME!?!?! *bats eyelashes*
lady M, kris, HP and archer are all crazy...!!!
should we high 5 and chest bunt each other now?
well noone wanted to chat about my libra dilemma, so i came to this topic....
I'm an Ox? Is that the same as a bull in some cultures?
Message posted by: houstonpeach74 on 11/4/2006 9:15:12 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.131
well noone wanted to chat about my libra dilemma, so i came to this topic....

Its just the libra board you can never get 'em to comment...
oh some of them commented that the libra has filed what i did to think about for later...and for the record, i don't see libras as not having backbones; from what i can tell, they're just very diplomatic and non confrontational - which doesn't make them without a backbone.
Thank you guys for the opinions/ insights...

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