My date with a super cute Libra...

I think I could post something here in case anyone wants to pop in with questions or comments or simply read.

After ending a relationship with a fun aqua girl, I didn't think I would feel attracted to anyone ever again. My x was fun and very loyal to her friends.

I know my username includes the Libra word, but it's only because I have Libra in Venus and most of the other planets, according to my chart (I'm new at chart reading and such) but I'm actually a Virgo (Sun), Leo (Moon), and Libra (Venus)

Sigh, so I met this very cute girl, who is Libra (Sun), Sagitarius (Moon)....and guess what? Virgo (Venus)=)

We've only gone in group dates so far, since I didn't want to rush into anything, but I have to admit, I already feel attracted and drawn towards this Libra girl, it's weird.

We are going out in our first 1-on-1 date this week for my bday, so it's all nerve-wracking and yet exciting somehow.

I feel as attracted to her as I did to my x, which is very weird, since I never thought I would feel attracted to someone like that again.

And I'm sure not all aquas are like my x, but with this Libra, I truly feel a sense of safety by the constant communication we have, the honest conversations, and just the little considerations she had w me, like the fact that she considers and asks my thoughts or feelings about things she does or plans to do.
I would never stop her for doing what she wants, but is the thought of her asking that counts so very much for me...

She doesn't always say the right thing at the right time, lol, and sometimes I feel a little overwhelmed with all her confessions and questioning, but she seems so honest and sincere. She doesn't put a "cool" outlook for me and she doesn't mind sharing her thoughts, and she doesn't seem cold and distant yet.

I've never dated a Libra girl, ever...and I'm not even sure what will come out of all this. I'm very scared to develop any sort of feelings later on and get hurt again, but right now, I'm trying to take the happy moments she brings in my life and not think too much...always considering her feelings and heart of course...and mine.

I told her that regardless of who she ends up with, she could make someone extremely happy and that above anything else, I want her to be happy too.

If anyone of you have learned something about yourselves from relationships in the past, my question to you is, what bothers you the most and what helps you the most to feel loved and respected?

VLL

Hey VLL

Its sad to hear it didnt work out with aqau girl, but I hope this one works out great for you.

By the way, don't completely right-off aqau girls.

Lady M,

Hi there! I was wondering whatever happened to you. How is your life going these days?

Yeah, it didn't work out with the aqua, but maybe later on in life she and I can be friends at least...we'll have to wait and see. I need a time of healing from it all, I'm sure she does too. I'm respecting her thouhgts and opinions and I'm feeling better about things bit by bit.

I defenitely don't want to come across as a non-aqua-fan =) I'm still very attracted to that sign, we prop just met at the wrong time, or just didn't handle things properly towards the end...but defenitely I'm not discounting any aquas at all!

I'll keep you posted with how things go w this Libra girl...if they develop into something.

Feel free to keep me posted about your situations too =)

VLL

No Problem VLL...let me update you right now

Well [I Think] I'm in love with a Libra...typical aqua (we tell our feelings through our brain). Well I have been chatting with him for awhile and I like his personality alot not to mention he's tall, dark, and handsome and very smart...A WAY TO THIS AQAUA GIRLS HEART.

We're both busy at the moment...i went back to school and he's dealing with work projects and a hurricane (im in Florida).

By the way, if your aqua girl is true blue aqua, you'll probably/definitely be friends in the near future...and maybe more if she comes to her senses (we do in the end) 😛

LadyM,

How funny is it, that we are both intrigued by a Libra's charm right now! =)

Good luck with your Libra, he sounds like a good type. We, virgos, like smart people too...so I know the thrill...oh and I have dark hair and tan skin, so I hope my x aqua misses that a little bit! lol

I know the fact that he's busy attracts you too. At least for my x aqua, my independence and busy life did seem more attractive than a problem for whatever reason...and yeah she's has e-mailed me and I e-mailed her back once. I think she is trying to remain friends...I'm taking things really slow and taking a bit of distance...I'm afraid to get all hooked again. I don't know that things will change one day, but if she would come to her senses (which would seem like a miracle to me) then maybe we would have a chance again.

Meanwhile, I'm moving on with my life. I told her that I'll always have her in my heart for the sake of the good memories and love we did share...but that is all I can say right now, maybe one day...

My Libra date though, is pretty sweet. She is also an air sign, so she's impulsive and a bit shocking at times too,lol, I don't know why I feel attracted to the opposite of me, lol...but she's also smart and so very cute...I mean, phew, I must be a lucky person.

Somehow once I set my eyes on somebody things seem to work out...for at least a year =)

Well, I gotta talk to cute Libra girl in a bit. I hope you have a wonderful time next time you see yours. Good luck!

VLL

The more space- the more we miss- the more we want you, clingy is a big NO NO.

Thats good your moving on, even if its againt the aquas LOL. Whatever happens jhust make sure your happy.

I love a man with a plan. I absolutely hate "where would you like to go for dinner?" type questions. I freeze. I suddenly have all this pressure to make you happy. Know what I mean? You could ask do you feel like Indian or French but ask me what I want to do ... it is too big a question.

I like a guy that makes me feel like I can rely on him for anything, like he is a true partner, and always has my back. Virgos are naturally good at this and generally make me feel safe for this reason.

Other than that look good, smell good, be good. Spend time and attention on the way you present yourself. Allow me to be proud of you. That is the greatest gift you can give a libra.

I also adore safety and stability. They are doors to my heart. I am not sure about other libra girls.

Hi little sparrow,

Thank you for your insight =)

I'm having dinner plans with her tomorrow, so I'll give her options or plan the place where we could go.

I'll pay very close attention to how I present myself.

So far things are good...and I'm getting more used to seeing her, not rushing into anything...not labels yet, but I'm defenitely interested in getting to know her better mroe and more...and as you know, we Virgos can't like or persue too many people at the same time, so that is good for her 😉

I'm all about stability and a sense of security in relationships too, so we agree on that.

She seems to be very sweet and charming, and very much a girlfriend material (uh I'm scared already!! lol)

Is there anything a Virgo shouldn't do or watch out for with you Libra girls?

Hope you are having a grear day Lil' Sparrow!

VLL

"I love a man with a plan. I absolutely hate "where would you like to go for dinner?" type questions. I freeze. I suddenly have all this pressure to make you happy. Know what I mean? You could ask do you feel like Indian or French but ask me what I want to do ... it is too big a question."

am sure if u date a libran, he will ask your opinion. I do and have wandered with my libran frnd a lot unable to take a decision... but the way i see it is, i want my girl to voice out her tastes and opinions and take a joined decision than me driving her into a restaurent like am the boss... i feel bad when i have to pull a person to dance to my tunes so i avoid doing that.

*** me driving her into a restaurent like am the boss

yeah ... but that is hot. lol!

Women like confident, assertive men.

Good luck with your date Virgowithlibra. I will give your question about what to watch out for some thought.

thank you thelibran, i'm keeping that in mind..."options and suggestions"

and

little sparrow,

yes think about what are some things that turned you off from people in the past...

my dates with the cute libra was great...she is SOOOO sweet and so sincere (seems like so far).

i had to tell her i wasn't ready for anything physical beyond kissing at this time, which she understands and agrees with...
i just want to get to know her better much better before i decide what i'd like to see with this ya know...

i feel like i made the mistake to not ask enough questions to figue out someone before i like them more last time...so i'm being better at that now...

also, i like her already, so i want to get to know her mind and heart first...to know what could make her really happy one day.

well, get back with me when you get the chance.

have a great day!

VLL

HiYA VLL

Nice to know things went great! And your taking your time this time...GoodLuck.

the only thing that really disturbed me about my virgo ex was his criticism and nit picking...i didnt show it but my feelings were easily hurt and his need to pick a fight didnt fair well with my nonchalant ways. Funny, like you say of her, he thought i was very "cute" and was before with an aqua he thought he'd never get over, and seriously--->"I told her that regardless of who she ends up with, she could make someone extremely happy and that above anything else, I want her to be happy too." This is a line he told me.

lady m,

thank you, i'll keep you posted =) are you still seeing yours?

lovelylibra,

thank you so much for your input.
i'll watch out for my criticism and nit picking habits too...
i already had some nit picking thoughts the last time me and this libra hung out.

i'm terrible at that, i don't ever say it, but my attitude changes inmediately...i get a bit distant when that happens.

i'm like that usually at the beginning of any relationships though...but once i cross into the comfortable zone i relax and don't get bother by silly details as much.
for example, everything was so great the other day...we had a wonderful time, but we had plans to meet up some friends at night....and then she decides to wear something that i didn't like as much for the party we were going to...and of course i couldn't tell her, bc i didn't wanted to hurt her feelings...she looked great but not for the type of party we were going to...so why do i do? i started acting weird and distant instead...shame on me!

how do you tell a girl that you don't like what she's wearing for a certain party you know? so then i remembered how my ex aqua and i never ever had problems with that, bc she and i had very similar taste for clothing...

i know it sounds silly, but these are things i need to work on at the beginning of new relationships...it gets much better after a while...

btw, i did apologize about my attitude later on and we did end up working things out..i saw the deeper issues behind my thinking, so it's all good now.

is very interesting how your ex dated an aqua before you too, lol.
those aquas! i'm still unsure what to think about my ex aqua...not even sure if i want to be friends...we'll have to wait and see...

i'm sorry things didn't work out with your ex virgo...what happened, why did things end?

so far my 'seeing' stage with this libra is going great...
we are taking things slowly but surely, lol, just how i like it =)
she couldn't be any sweeter and more understanding...i feel very lucky right now.
she's simply adorable.
i'm still getting a feeling over her past little wild ways, trying to see if those times are over...and analyzing just some other factors about her and her life...and where i am...before i get any deeper.

life teaches us good lessons if we pay attention it seems...

have a great day,

vll

"how do you tell a girl that you don't like what she's wearing for a certain party you know?"
Just tell her...unless she's super sensitive she should understand, I would I'd thank you for being helpful and not allowing me to look and feel like an idiot.

It ended b/c I couldn't handle the arguments we fought non stop over things that were not important or could be fixed w/ a little ocmpromise, and he kept trying to distance me from my friends,always thought I would leave him, and he had cheated.

We libras can't handle too much negativity we go crazy and become withdrawn, I know I rather be mute than to say something that could potentially start a fight. I was extremely faithful to my virgo too... I can only seriously date one guy at a time anyone else might get a little conversation here and there but only one can have my time,love, and attentions, I may flirt a little, but the idea of cheating disgusts me

and don't get distant women in general can sense that, and it makes us uncomfortable and will make a libra very insecure about your feelings for her.

Oooh gossip! What is her wild past? What did she wear to the party and how was it inappropriate?

My look is librarian chic. Some people might find it too formal for a BBQ or something, I wear it anyway. It is me. 🙂

lovely libra,

those are good advices. i never realized until this year how some of my observations about making things perfect could be taken as something negative...i'm working at being much better at that.

i will try to communicate more and not get distant when i'm uncomfortable too...is so hard though, bc i thought blunt honesty could hurt people, but maybe i can say things in a smooth way (which i can do) next time...like "hey, you look so awesome in that outfit, but woulnd't you like to see how this would look like too?...i think you should give it a try...especially for this crazy party?"

would that work? lol i'm just want to make sure she wears what she wants though...but i just get very picky about things like that...sigh...

anyhow...about you ex bf.

cheating is defenitely a no no for me too. i can handle girls that are flirtatious and friendly, but more than that...even constant exclusiveness with one ex (like my ex aqua did have) gets a little weird for me...i tried to be ok with that for the year we were together, but only got worst and worst over time (it started with little trips and it became an on-going 1-1 planning for them)...so i had to let her go...

i'm sorry to hear that guy wasn't ready for the type of relationship you deserved at that time...you deserve good things!

btw, what are some examples of little fights, that shouldn't have been a big deal, you think?? can you at least share one?

little sparrow,

your username is so cute! =)

well, so i can't talk about details about her past wild ways...just bc id kinda feel bad, and you know how the wwb is becoming these days, but let's just say, she's a very good girl, just a little (much) more impulsive/naive that i am when it comes to making certain decisions...yep.

she has shared some stories...woah...i didn't know what in the world she was thinking when she did that...but she says she learned her lessons and got over that (let's cross fingers lol).

so far she did seem much more mature than where she used to be years ago, but i still need time to observe with clarity the responses she has now to the same situations you know?

she's defenitely sweet and seems very commited though, which makes me really happy...

the whole "what was she wearing" thought...came acroos to me the other night, bc, we were going to an after game (football) party to see some of my friends that invited me to this bar to celebrate their victory...

well ... what was she wearing?

so it was a very laid back scene you know...
everyone was wearing t-shirts and jeans...is an after-game party you know?

so, as we were getting ready to go, she changes at my place, and as i'm looking for a shirt and jeans to wear...she comes out with this super formal outfit...ahhhhhh....

she looked really nice, but a bit too formal for the occasion i thought...

so not only did i not know how to take that, but in order to not make her feel bad once we got there *i* also had to change and dress up more!!!

because my thought was, i don't want to look like a kid next to her...and also if she goes over-dressed, at least i'll help her out by matching her...lol

but i was kinda bothered by the whole idea....didn't tell her a thing...i tried to keep it cool, but like you guys said...she notice the change in my attitude and was frustrated with me the whole way there...

i tried to think why i felt that way on the way, bc i thought my reaction was rather superficial...and i was scared that maybe i didn't like her as much as i thought...but then i remembered that i reacted the same way at least once in the past with my exes, even my x aqua that was very good at dressing properly...so i apologized to my cute libra and told her it had nothing to do with her...but with me and my silly ways...

we got into the party, of course were the one and only dressed-up couple there...but at the end of the night i didn't care as much anymore. i thought at least we were in this together...and her sweet ways with me always help me to overpass those little details that drive me crazy at times...

she hates dancing, and i'm such a dancer...so she even made an effort to dance with me that night =)

we had a wonderful night overall...

so that is the story of my last date with her.

i hope this makes more sense littlesparrow!

Libras can be VERY naive. We generally understand people's motivations at such an intimate level that we are quick to try to forgive. As a result, we can be manipulated. We live in the positive side of life. We believe the best in people and it can get us into trouble.

Yes. It does make sense. That is exactly what I thought happened. She dressed up for you.

Libras like to look good. We like to dress up. See if you took me to a party, I would wear skirt, blouse, heels ... that is just the way it is because I want you to be proud to be seen with me.

I wear jeans in the winter only. And not because I really want to but because it is cold and I have fewer options.

The girl is going to dress up and look good. That is just the way it is. You can appreciate the fact you are with the best looking, best dressed woman in the room or you can allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. But she does it because she wants to be admired for you.

Libras see beauty as a personal resposibility and I believe, a gift they give their partners. 😉

"We believe the best in people and it can get us into trouble"

yes, i can see that...which to be honest makes me a bit concerned at times, bc i wouldn't like to fall for someone who wouldn't be able to discern well in certain situations...i don't know that i couldn't take well seeing someone i love getting hurt over a naive decision...

however, i think we all have moments when we trust and hope for the best...so as long as lessons are learned and the knowledge is applied for the future so we don't make the same mistakes (mine included) she and i could do fine...

"Libras see beauty as a personal resposibility and I believe, a gift they give their partners"

that sounds pretty nice littlesparrow!

if she truly dressed up for me or to make me look good in front of my friends, i think that is very sweet of her!

i just wished she knew that it is ok to feel low-key with me too.
i'm very much into the girl-next-door look as well ya know...especially at certain ocassions, like an atheltes informal party...lol...but i know next time i'll try to overlook the overdressing and/or suggest something...

what matters the most is her intentions with me though, that is very sweet.

because my ex gf, although she always dressed the way i did and i liked (we were a good match in that sense) she wasn't as considerate in other ways...so at the end you can't have it all ya know...and maybe you can, but you have to work a bit at it in order to get it =)

i'm happy with my libra date.
i like her and i'm VERY nervous about her expectations in this relationship (she is like my ex aqua, very optimistic and hopeful about us) but to me, only time shows the real meaning and essence of my relationships.

no matter what the girls may say about how awesome things could be and how much i am this or that to them...what really gets to my heart are actions over time.
words are nice and i love encouragement, but i've been there before and heard it all...had people who felt they landed in this ideal relationship at first...but when problems came theere were nowhere to be found...so as idealistic as i can be, my feet are on the ground and all i want is to wait and see how this will develop...

excitement is defenitely part of this new chance though...we'll have to see how this goes...

vll

It doesn't sound like you are over your ex. You keep comparing the poor Libra to your ex. That isn't fair.

It also doesn't sound like you like her. Maybe this Libra isn't for you.

little sparrow,

i do like my libra tons...i just was being processing my thoughts here.

i don't mean to compare her with my ex in a bad way, but rather to help me realize that this may be a much better relationship for me. my head needs to get it, because even if i do still care for my aqua, logically speaking i shouldn't anymore nor want to.

i think i'm scared to get involved again in a relationship...and i seriously see the potential here with this cute libra...so sometimes i find ways to protect myself by being complicated you know...

she's not my gf, we are just seeing each other...and she knows i need time...i told her we could be friends if it was easier that way, but she said she is okay with us hanging out and seeing each other as long as we are exclusive and honest...not matter what the label...

so, that is where we are.

i'm not interested at all in anybody else, not even a bit...and i don't even feel like talking to my ex either...

i just think as time passes by i'll come to my senses and realize more and more how lucky i may be to find the girl i found right now...

so maybe this libra it is for me =) i'll be careful with her feelings and i defenitely see a future with her...whatever that is...

anyhow, i gotta go back to work.

thanks for your honest words little sparrow.

[ [ [ [........Libras can be VERY naive. We generally understand people's motivations at such an intimate level that we are quick to try to forgive. As a result, we can be manipulated. We live in the positive side of life. We believe the best in people and it can get us into trouble................] ] ] ]

Thanks LS. I was wondering how to put this situation in a proper sentence for long time. Forgiveness is the word. stupid me. wasted long time wondering what was that factor.

VLL

I hear you. You get to a certain age and we all have baggage. I think everyone is scared to get involved in a relationship after a big break-up. It took me about a year and a half to say okay ... I would like to find a mate.

A year and a half for a libra is a long time. It is like seven years in dog years. 😉

thelibran

I think it is even a bit more than forgiveness. It is forgiveness coupled with empathy, mercy, and optimism.

We believe people mean well despite all their flaws. That is not a bad thing especially since we usually can see their flaws so clearly but are too polite to comment.

[[[I think it is even a bit more than forgiveness. It is forgiveness coupled with empathy, mercy, and optimism.

We believe people mean well despite all their flaws. That is not a bad thing especially since we usually can see their flaws so clearly but are too polite to comment.]]]]

Empathy, mercy ect are quite obvious but I guess true subconcious intention is to forgive and accept as whatever sh!t they are and have peace. lol. 😉

I just cant avoid noticing the bright sides of every useless I meet in day to day life. 😢

true subconcious intention is to forgive and accept as whatever sh!t they are and have peace.

HA! I think you are right.

I prefer looking at the bright side of life too. Life is too short not to be fun.

little sparrow and the libran,

if it's true that libras are empathetic and optimistic...i think me and the libra i'm seeing will get along well.

she seems so far...able to carry all those qualities you mentioned...
so it's not the naive aspect the cause of some of these actions...so the deeper feelings and perceptions you have about people and life...hmmm....very interesting. makes sense...

then i'll take care of her heart even more bc of that...

we are taking our first trip together this weekend, we are going to see her friends and mine...exciting! it will be good for me to observe her and see how she acts about friends that know her for a while now...including exes...part of the things i need to consider in order to get more involved as time passes by.

we are going to play some miniture golf tonight and then movies, i love how she is so easy to get along with and so open to do whatever...as long as we hang out!

i think i kinda like this girl...which in virgo language means more than what i just said 😉

little sparrow,

good for you to wait up for all that time...i was planning to do the same...but it just sort of happened...

i think is awesome to take time to heal though...not rushing is a good thing.

vll