I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.
Its been cozy for just 1 month. She told me she demands time, and gets jealous easily, I made sure I gave her my attention, and never did anything to make her jealous.
She has NEVER ever said "I love you" to me, either by word of mouth or text, but has told her siblings about me, and we're cool, she even wanted introducing me to the aunt.
She asked earlier on what if she asks me to meet her parents so we get married, I said that's what I wanted too, maybe in a year time, she was OK.
But this is a girl that hasn't ever wanted knowing my house, in fact, it was even by my pressure that I knew her own house, only the gate, she wouldn't allow me get pass the gate into their house... She's staying with the siblings.
She hasn't hugged me, nor allowed me to hug her, no touching, she never allows it.
Two weekends ago, she started complaining I don't call her enough, but I feel I do, and I don't need to bug her always. I promised to change, I started calling, texting and all that, sometimes, she ignores the calls, and won't call back, till I call, she also busies the calls, which she hasn't done before.
I had to apologize to her profusely if I ever made her doubt my love for her, but this is a person that has never professed love to me, nor act in any caring capacity, like asking me if I've eaten, where am I, and all that. She doesn't just care.
She now only reaches out to me if she wants something, like food, I will bring it to her house, she'll thank me n gets back in, never calling if I got home or not.
2 days ago, she told me she wanted staying away from me for a day. I called through the evening, she never picked up. Yesterday, she called she needed food for herself and the sisters, I bought her those, then asked her where she was, she told me she went on a blind date with friends. I was mad, but never showed it. I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".
I honestly don't know my stand with her. I don't know what to do to get her back on side. I don't know how to move forward with her. I so much love this girl and want to marry her.
Am Aquarius, 26 she's 22. Any idea or comment will help, thanks all.
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Feb 08, 2015Comments: 88 · Posts: 2780 · Topics: 55
Damn boy this girl is using you. Grow some balls and find a girl that appreciates you.
Look up the movie "norbit" lolyeh right thats what u gettin yourself into! Run.
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Feb 24, 2015Comments: 1112 · Posts: 2509 · Topics: 34
Are you serious OP? Can't you see what's going on here? Stop being a doormat and put her in her place.
She is using you and she does not respect you. And you don't respect yourself either...
You used the word "allow" quite a lot there. It's pretty obvious the kind of relationship you are in.
And stop apologising, she is the one who should be apologising to you.
Jesus...
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Sep 14, 2016Comments: 28 · Posts: 870 · Topics: 14
Hey buddy ummm, your in the "friend zone". There's no escape.
She sounds insensitive! Please drop her else you will be hurt!
I even tried to smoothen things out, I called her, asking her to make me lunch as I want to eat up with her in her place, she bluntly refused, saying she's on menstrual cramps. I called her 3hours back, she even became angry at me that I should not call her line again, that I should have called her earlier to find out if she's eaten, not minding my request for her before. I really loved her, thought I had found my ideal girl after she introduced me to her siblings, but am beginning to agree that she's using me for her selfish gain.
Send her a text: it was great knowing you, i will go now and i will be happy..
And never call that ungreatfull bitch again..
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Aug 21, 2014Comments: 616 · Posts: 1771 · Topics: 13
Honey, just run. Run before she makes you too jaded to date again.
She sent me a text that she was calling it quits after I texted her that "she doesn't just care".
Minutes later, she then texted that I should learn how to treat my lady with soft gloves. For a girl that hasn't ever professed Love for me, or showed any caring character.
I haven't replied her, or called her again, I hope to find the strength to not talk to her again.
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Feb 11, 2010Comments: 252 · Posts: 38715 · Topics: 473
You're the pizza delivery boy.
Like you said, you only walk up to her gate and bring her food. That's it in a nutshell.
Lmao @ girlfriend.
OP, you cant know love, and you cant love anyone before you learn to love yourself...
Sorry, you have no idea what love is.. You like this girl.. You are blinded.. She is using you.. She is immature.. Do yourself a favour and move on.. You dont need this..
Dont think you can change someone.. You shouldnt..
That bitch would have starved waiting on me to bring her something to eat. You teach people how to treat you. You're a push over because she is cute. Guys love to run after the women who could care less about them then hurt the ones who reciporcate their love. Ask yourself what are you getring out of this?
Sorry this happened to you. But i hope you figure things out. Go with your gut feeling sometimes that's the best instinct. You only been in a bliss yes it hurts like hell but you can do alot better. Only person that can do that is you. Don't listen to others no one vanw tell you how to feel bout yourself. Hope things get better for you.