My Libra Girlfriend is losing interest, told me she went on a Blind Date

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Praisee on Sunday, September 25, 2016 and has 30 replies.
I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.

Its been cozy for just 1 month. She told me she demands time, and gets jealous easily, I made sure I gave her my attention, and never did anything to make her jealous.

She has NEVER ever said "I love you" to me, either by word of mouth or text, but has told her siblings about me, and we're cool, she even wanted introducing me to the aunt.

She asked earlier on what if she asks me to meet her parents so we get married, I said that's what I wanted too, maybe in a year time, she was OK.

But this is a girl that hasn't ever wanted knowing my house, in fact, it was even by my pressure that I knew her own house, only the gate, she wouldn't allow me get pass the gate into their house... She's staying with the siblings.

She hasn't hugged me, nor allowed me to hug her, no touching, she never allows it.

Two weekends ago, she started complaining I don't call her enough, but I feel I do, and I don't need to bug her always. I promised to change, I started calling, texting and all that, sometimes, she ignores the calls, and won't call back, till I call, she also busies the calls, which she hasn't done before.

I had to apologize to her profusely if I ever made her doubt my love for her, but this is a person that has never professed love to me, nor act in any caring capacity, like asking me if I've eaten, where am I, and all that. She doesn't just care.

She now only reaches out to me if she wants something, like food, I will bring it to her house, she'll thank me n gets back in, never calling if I got home or not.

2 days ago, she told me she wanted staying away from me for a day. I called through the evening, she never picked up. Yesterday, she called she needed food for herself and the sisters, I bought her those, then asked her where she was, she told me she went on a blind date with friends. I was mad, but never showed it. I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".

I honestly don't know my stand with her. I don't know what to do to get her back on side. I don't know how to move forward with her. I so much love this girl and want to marry her.

Am Aquarius, 26 she's 22. Any idea or comment will help, thanks all.
Damn boy this girl is using you. Grow some balls and find a girl that appreciates you.

Look up the movie "norbit" lolyeh right thats what u gettin yourself into! Run.
Posted by Libra82
She doesn't even treat you like a friend. More like a servant. What exactly do you like about this person? Just no no no. Find someone better. It can't be that hard.
I like her cos of her intelligence and beauty tho. She once told me she's weird. I was just hoping she will get herself back ones she's gotten used to me and be more romantic, but no. She doesn't even allow as much as hands holding when we go for a little stroll when I accompany her home.
Are you serious OP? Can't you see what's going on here? Stop being a doormat and put her in her place.

She is using you and she does not respect you. And you don't respect yourself either...

You used the word "allow" quite a lot there. It's pretty obvious the kind of relationship you are in.

And stop apologising, she is the one who should be apologising to you.

Jesus...
Posted by stopbeingdelusional
"She hasn't hugged me, nor allowed me to hug her, no touching, she never allows it."

Are you indian or muslim???????
No, none of that
Posted by Praisee
Posted by stopbeingdelusional
"She hasn't hugged me, nor allowed me to hug her, no touching, she never allows it."

Are you indian or muslim???????
No, none of that
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We're Christians
Hey buddy ummm, your in the "friend zone". There's no escape.
Maybe my way of thinking is to old school, but... how can you acknowledge her as your girlfriend - if she never expressed her love for you? Confused
She sounds insensitive! Please drop her else you will be hurt!
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Posted by LuckyLibra979
I hope this is fake. Even sugar daddies get to touch
Gonna be honest, I hope its fake too.

At the age of 26 he should've know about this. Especially for 2 months!
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It sounds super fake to me.
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Posted by LuckyLibra979
Yea it's fake AF. Gon listen to my Spidey senses lol
Then let's report this thread! Big Grin
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Nah nah nah. It ain't fake, its real, am the victim here, I can't make stories up!
I even tried to smoothen things out, I called her, asking her to make me lunch as I want to eat up with her in her place, she bluntly refused, saying she's on menstrual cramps. I called her 3hours back, she even became angry at me that I should not call her line again, that I should have called her earlier to find out if she's eaten, not minding my request for her before. I really loved her, thought I had found my ideal girl after she introduced me to her siblings, but am beginning to agree that she's using me for her selfish gain.
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Posted by stopbeingdelusional
"She hasn't hugged me, nor allowed me to hug her, no touching, she never allows it."

Are you indian or muslim???????
No, none of that
We're Christians
I didn't know Christians can't hug????!!!!
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I don't know about hugging but I knew of one couple that didn't kiss until after they were married.
Send her a text: it was great knowing you, i will go now and i will be happy..

And never call that ungreatfull bitch again..
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Posted by hera
Send her a text: it was great knowing you, i will go now and i will be happy..

And never call that ungreatfull bitch again..
Nah.. selfish people dont deserve a closure. They'd probably see you as a pathetic drama king/queen if you ever bother to give them a closure.

Just ghost
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She is a libra.. He needs to text her and than ghost, that will piss her more.. smile))))
Honey, just run. Run before she makes you too jaded to date again.
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Posted by Praisee
I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.

[...] I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".
You just recently started dating, and she can only guess you're dating?

It doesn't sound like exclusivity has been established if you need to ask her what you're doing with her.
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Its because she had the boldness to tell me the reason she ignored my calls that night was that she went for a BLIND DATE. You can imagine the pain I felt Even with my gift in her hand. She told me she went on a blind date. I only wanted to know my position in her life, so I asked her what then I was doing with her, to which she replied "I guess we're dating". It so stung me like bee, but I didn't show it up.

She sent me a text that she was calling it quits after I texted her that "she doesn't just care".

Minutes later, she then texted that I should learn how to treat my lady with soft gloves. For a girl that hasn't ever professed Love for me, or showed any caring character.

I haven't replied her, or called her again, I hope to find the strength to not talk to her again.
You're the pizza delivery boy.

Like you said, you only walk up to her gate and bring her food. That's it in a nutshell.

Lmao @ girlfriend.
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I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.

[...] I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".
You just recently started dating, and she can only guess you're dating?

It doesn't sound like exclusivity has been established if you need to ask her what you're doing with her.


Its because she had the boldness to tell me the reason she ignored my calls that night was that she went for a BLIND DATE. You can imagine the pain I felt Even with my gift in her hand. She told me she went on a blind date. I only wanted to know my position in her life, so I asked her what then I was doing with her, to which she replied "I guess we're dating". It so stung me like bee, but I didn't show it up.

Okay...but did you both agree on being in an exclusive (i.e., monogamous) relationship?
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yes, we did, even agreed to get married, she even was telling me she shouldn't ever catch me cheating, but she had the nerve to go on a blind date, while I was busy looking for ways to keep her happy. I felt broken.

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Posted by LuckyLibra979
Yea it's fake AF. Gon listen to my Spidey senses lol
Then let's report this thread! Big Grin
Nah nah nah. It ain't fake, its real, am the victim here, I can't make stories up!
So you knew you are a victim and yet you wanted to do some validation on the internet. You knew you have a chance to leave her if she treated you shit (especially your age!), but no you just wanted some sympathy from others. Especially that you have created an account just a few days ago.

Cased closed, OP is just bullshitting.
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Have you loved before with noticeable shortcomings from your date and you still seek for a way to make them realize it and reciprocate the love, and seemed advice before? Have u ever still wanted to cling onto someone hoping they might ever change if given the right advice? That is my case here. Am not looking for sympathy, I was looking for a possible advice on how I might move forward with this, and I've seen how people think about my situation with loving this girl, so I'm being decisive about it. I've gotten the advice I needed.
OP, you cant know love, and you cant love anyone before you learn to love yourself...

Sorry, you have no idea what love is.. You like this girl.. You are blinded.. She is using you.. She is immature.. Do yourself a favour and move on.. You dont need this..

Dont think you can change someone.. You shouldnt..
Posted by blackphase
I'm with the others.. You don't deserve that.. Tells you that she demands time and gets jealous then goes on a blind date when *she feels* you haven't given her enough attention.. Very selfish! You could be on her ass 24/7 and it could still not be enough. Girls like this need a swift kick in the ass.
and/or a swift ass kick out the door
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I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.

[...] I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".
You just recently started dating, and she can only guess you're dating?

It doesn't sound like exclusivity has been established if you need to ask her what you're doing with her.


Its because she had the boldness to tell me the reason she ignored my calls that night was that she went for a BLIND DATE. You can imagine the pain I felt Even with my gift in her hand. She told me she went on a blind date. I only wanted to know my position in her life, so I asked her what then I was doing with her, to which she replied "I guess we're dating". It so stung me like bee, but I didn't show it up.

Okay...but did you both agree on being in an exclusive (i.e., monogamous) relationship?

yes, we did, even agreed to get married, she even was telling me she shouldn't ever catch me cheating, but she had the nerve to go on a blind date, while I was busy looking for ways to keep her happy. I felt broken.



What you say is quite sceptical considering her actions and your explanations.

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How is it skeptical, please relate it

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Posted by Praisee
I started dating my Libra gf the last 2months.

[...] I then asked her what I was doing with her, she said "she guess we're dating".
You just recently started dating, and she can only guess you're dating?

It doesn't sound like exclusivity has been established if you need to ask her what you're doing with her.


Its because she had the boldness to tell me the reason she ignored my calls that night was that she went for a BLIND DATE. You can imagine the pain I felt Even with my gift in her hand. She told me she went on a blind date. I only wanted to know my position in her life, so I asked her what then I was doing with her, to which she replied "I guess we're dating". It so stung me like bee, but I didn't show it up.

Okay...but did you both agree on being in an exclusive (i.e., monogamous) relationship?

yes, we did, even agreed to get married, she even was telling me she shouldn't ever catch me cheating, but she had the nerve to go on a blind date, while I was busy looking for ways to keep her happy. I felt broken.



What you say is quite sceptical considering her actions and your explanations.



How is it skeptical, please relate it

Any individual with strong conviction towards marrying someone wouldn't treat the one they decide (and desire) to marry with such disrespect and lack of intimacy. Also, they wouldn't undermine the relationship through questionable acts; you would know where the other stands within the relationship, if you both truly want to marry or if she is truly your girlfriend.

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Its true tho. I was hoping she would change, that its just a phase, but its obviously not to be. I've now moved on

If she's going on dates w/ other people, she ain't yours bruv.

That bitch would have starved waiting on me to bring her something to eat. You teach people how to treat you. You're a push over because she is cute. Guys love to run after the women who could care less about them then hurt the ones who reciporcate their love. Ask yourself what are you getring out of this?
Sorry this happened to you. But i hope you figure things out. Go with your gut feeling sometimes that's the best instinct. You only been in a bliss yes it hurts like hell but you can do alot better. Only person that can do that is you. Don't listen to others no one vanw tell you how to feel bout yourself. Hope things get better for you.
Posted by liteskingreatness
Sorry this happened to you. But i hope you figure things out. Go with your gut feeling sometimes that's the best instinct. You only been in a bliss yes it hurts like hell but you can do alot better. Only person that can do that is you. Don't listen to others no one vanw tell you how to feel bout yourself. Hope things get better for you.
@ Praisee, yea bring her more and more food and once she gonna be fat and ugly maybe she falls in love with yousmile). You did the rigt step to move on. This cookie monster doesn´t deserve your attention at all.