Need some help with libra guy [oct 22]
This topic was created in the Libra forum by amyrose on Saturday, April 15, 2006 and has 16 replies.
hi,actually i did post a msg on the cancer board as i m a cancerian[june 22].my husband is the libran [oct 22].right now,he is overseas.God,i know i sound like a real fool,but i m getting so paranoid bcs he hasnt called for sumtime n i happened to read the libra horoscopes which say tht libras will embark on an affair with their colleague.i jus cant do anything ow.i m so afraid its going to happen to me n my husband.i cant contact him as well.i feel so paranoid right now.i adore my husband.he is simply amazing..but i m afraid sum1 will seduce him as we r so far from each other.we jus got married in jan 4th n he flew off immediately.I havent seen him yet,he is coming back soon,but i m scared tht sum 1 will seduce him.pls tell me wht shd i do.is astro abby's horoscope accurate n wht abt msn horoscope?both said the same thing.are these horoscopes accurate or not?pls advise wht to do.
Hey chic, forget horoscopes! You guys just got married, he's all yours and probably missing you. Stop over-thinking and being paranoid, he'll be back soon and you'll realize that you were worrying unnecessarily! You are causing your own heartache... it's in your own mind so take a step back and look at reality... WHICH IS... tan ta na nan... you have had no reasons to worry and he's coming back soon! That's it girl! That's it! Ok? Chill out 
He is a libra,lol.He WILLLLLLL cheat on u,wwwooooooo,lol. Now why would someone who is overseas not call,his wiffeee,for sometime.He is busy....with work..But at the end of the day he really should call.Give him a call,tell him what a great day u had,u missin him badly and the ask him what's the food liek overthere,da scenery etc. And busy yourself,go out,have fun with da crew.
Sorry to make you feel worse, but i must keep it honest (Pisces). Libra men lead double lives!!!Just like 007 honey. They flirt, have sex, etc.. And it doesn't take a (Horrorscope) to know that!!!!!!
Do you!
Do you!
Amyrose,
I'm Libra, Oct. 22nd. (female) and my significant other is a Cancer.....
How long has it been since he last called? If he's in the military, does he have email access? And you can't call him????
That's a tough one.
Look, IMHO, if he WAS cheating he would be calling and acting as if all is OK. Libras are NOT sloppy. He'd cover his tracks real well and not bring on suspiscions.
I don't know why he's not calling you but I honestly don't think it's because he's cheating. If he went through the trouble of getting married, and only a few months ago, then it doesn't add up to me.
Can you reach his relatives? Ask them if he's been in contact with them? I think this is your best bet if you can't call him directly. He shouldn't act this way, he SHOULD be calling you. But I don't think that cheating is the reason.
I'm Libra, Oct. 22nd. (female) and my significant other is a Cancer.....
How long has it been since he last called? If he's in the military, does he have email access? And you can't call him????
That's a tough one.
Look, IMHO, if he WAS cheating he would be calling and acting as if all is OK. Libras are NOT sloppy. He'd cover his tracks real well and not bring on suspiscions.
I don't know why he's not calling you but I honestly don't think it's because he's cheating. If he went through the trouble of getting married, and only a few months ago, then it doesn't add up to me.
Can you reach his relatives? Ask them if he's been in contact with them? I think this is your best bet if you can't call him directly. He shouldn't act this way, he SHOULD be calling you. But I don't think that cheating is the reason.
My ex bf was in the Navy and when you're overseas it's not always easy to get access to phone or e-mail... there's a lot going on. They work loooong hours. They're over there doing who knows what! Come on ppl chill out!
Is it possible? Yes! What isn't possible? You gonna be worrying 'bout the 'WHAT IF'S' That is just fukkin stupid. It's unnecessary, seriously, get on with your life, find hobbies and be happy when he comes home. You can ask him whatever you want then, in all honesty, whatever he did he'd deny anyway and you'll be happy so there's no use in over-thinking and being paranoid... no use whatsoever... use your logic.
When and IF you have solid reason for suspecting, THEN you can investigate or worry... if you or anyone else thinks it serves a purpose.
Seriously chic, forget astrology, you have no idea what goes on overseas... things will clear when he's back and you guys will have a chance to talk about things and maybe even solve problems. You knew what was ahead by marrying someone in the military... now you're married and there's no going back so find a way to deal with things in a more positive manner.
Is it possible? Yes! What isn't possible? You gonna be worrying 'bout the 'WHAT IF'S' That is just fukkin stupid. It's unnecessary, seriously, get on with your life, find hobbies and be happy when he comes home. You can ask him whatever you want then, in all honesty, whatever he did he'd deny anyway and you'll be happy so there's no use in over-thinking and being paranoid... no use whatsoever... use your logic.
When and IF you have solid reason for suspecting, THEN you can investigate or worry... if you or anyone else thinks it serves a purpose.
Seriously chic, forget astrology, you have no idea what goes on overseas... things will clear when he's back and you guys will have a chance to talk about things and maybe even solve problems. You knew what was ahead by marrying someone in the military... now you're married and there's no going back so find a way to deal with things in a more positive manner.
hi librat n tauruschic,
Thanks for responding.i really appreciate it a lot.U must b wondering why i m so paranoid.I have been jilted 3 times b4.In all 3 cases,my bfs cheated on me with my good friends.this is why i m so paranoid.thts not all.my ex bf was also my ex fiancee.jus b4 our marriage,i found out tht he had had a 1 nite stand with a hooker.it was too much for me to stomach n i broke it off.since then ,i jus feel like its my destiny to be left in the lurch.i m afraid to believe tht i may have found true love.this libran guy [oct 22] is wonderful.he is simply adorable n soo truthful.its jus i m scared.this distance frightens me.wht if someone seduces him too?i m scared of wht life has in store for me.librat,u r also an oct 22 libran,describe ur traits.u r also with a cancerian,rite.do u think its similar if the partners r in reverse roles?i love him soo much.i jus want him back.he told me tht he is going to book his ticket to come back.tht was on tuesday.i havent heard from him since.these damned horoscopes keep saying tht librans have found a new love n it is screwing my mind as ALL THE HOROSCOPES R SAYING THT.i m not an idiot,its jus i have experienced heartache too many times.i cant bear to b hurt anymore,thts all.wht do u think?i dont want to fight with him n spoil his mood unnecessarily.wht shd i do?plz advise.
Thanks for responding.i really appreciate it a lot.U must b wondering why i m so paranoid.I have been jilted 3 times b4.In all 3 cases,my bfs cheated on me with my good friends.this is why i m so paranoid.thts not all.my ex bf was also my ex fiancee.jus b4 our marriage,i found out tht he had had a 1 nite stand with a hooker.it was too much for me to stomach n i broke it off.since then ,i jus feel like its my destiny to be left in the lurch.i m afraid to believe tht i may have found true love.this libran guy [oct 22] is wonderful.he is simply adorable n soo truthful.its jus i m scared.this distance frightens me.wht if someone seduces him too?i m scared of wht life has in store for me.librat,u r also an oct 22 libran,describe ur traits.u r also with a cancerian,rite.do u think its similar if the partners r in reverse roles?i love him soo much.i jus want him back.he told me tht he is going to book his ticket to come back.tht was on tuesday.i havent heard from him since.these damned horoscopes keep saying tht librans have found a new love n it is screwing my mind as ALL THE HOROSCOPES R SAYING THT.i m not an idiot,its jus i have experienced heartache too many times.i cant bear to b hurt anymore,thts all.wht do u think?i dont want to fight with him n spoil his mood unnecessarily.wht shd i do?plz advise.
I understand where you're coming from amyrose but first of all you really really need to stop reading those horoscopes. If you wanna talk astrology, he's not just a libra... I understand from astrologers that if a person has many planets in one sign and depending upon positions and houses, they could very well be represented more by this other sign rather than their sun sign.
When you read horoscopes, you're reading something VERY GENERAL. These horoscopes are talking ONLY LIBRA... and are not mentioning the so many more influences in his chart. Do you really think that all the Libras in the world go through the same thing at the same time? If they go through this 'certain event' at all? Because honestly, I was supposed to have gotten married last year... la la la ummm didn't happen lol
I so freaken hate reading those horoscopes! They have said the same thing about my cancer and ok I get a little paranoid too... like for a second! Of course he's here so I know what he's up to, but the point is that it isn't true
You've had a lot of heartbreaks but you have to be strong and make an attempt to LET IT GO and be happy. He won't be happy if he thinks that you don't trust him, but more importantly you're bringing unnecessary heartache to yourself... unnecessary. CLOSE YOUR EYES, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND LET*IT*GO...
Smile *really, do it!
Goodluck.
When you read horoscopes, you're reading something VERY GENERAL. These horoscopes are talking ONLY LIBRA... and are not mentioning the so many more influences in his chart. Do you really think that all the Libras in the world go through the same thing at the same time? If they go through this 'certain event' at all? Because honestly, I was supposed to have gotten married last year... la la la ummm didn't happen lol
I so freaken hate reading those horoscopes! They have said the same thing about my cancer and ok I get a little paranoid too... like for a second! Of course he's here so I know what he's up to, but the point is that it isn't true
You've had a lot of heartbreaks but you have to be strong and make an attempt to LET IT GO and be happy. He won't be happy if he thinks that you don't trust him, but more importantly you're bringing unnecessary heartache to yourself... unnecessary. CLOSE YOUR EYES, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND LET*IT*GO...
Smile *really, do it!
Goodluck.
Amy, my boyfriend's sunsign is Libra and he's NOT having any affair with his colleague.. I check on him all the time LOL. Don't worry your husband's probably busy give him sometime. If he doesn't call up, you do.
hi there tauruschic & the_ice_princez,
guess what?my husband called me today.i was so xcited tht i nearly burst into tears.i didnt read those damned horoscopes today.he says he has booked his tickets n shd b heading home soon.i m so happy now.i will tell u more tomorrow.thank you for your opinions.it was great.love u all.
guess what?my husband called me today.i was so xcited tht i nearly burst into tears.i didnt read those damned horoscopes today.he says he has booked his tickets n shd b heading home soon.i m so happy now.i will tell u more tomorrow.thank you for your opinions.it was great.love u all.
Glad that he called you.
When he comes back in to town and you guys are sitting down talking without distractions, just tell him that you are a little insecure at times because of your past experiences.
You have no intention of dwelling on the past but sometimes people need to be reassured.
Now, if you are CONSTANTLY having to be reassured then there's a problem; with you. That's not where you want to be. You also can't take out bad experiences on him. Each relationship is different. Yes, you were hurt in the past but don't get to a point where you are making your present relationship suffer.
Reach out and ask him to help you through this and make up your mind that you're not going to stress yourself out any longer because the relationship will suffer.
Ask him to touch base with you once or twice a week and name the day and time. This way he can plan ahead and try to figure out a way to be able to use the phone when he needs to. Plan a back-up day as well so if he misses one day, you know he will try to call you on "X" day.
I hope you have a good time when he arrives
When he comes back in to town and you guys are sitting down talking without distractions, just tell him that you are a little insecure at times because of your past experiences.
You have no intention of dwelling on the past but sometimes people need to be reassured.
Now, if you are CONSTANTLY having to be reassured then there's a problem; with you. That's not where you want to be. You also can't take out bad experiences on him. Each relationship is different. Yes, you were hurt in the past but don't get to a point where you are making your present relationship suffer.
Reach out and ask him to help you through this and make up your mind that you're not going to stress yourself out any longer because the relationship will suffer.
Ask him to touch base with you once or twice a week and name the day and time. This way he can plan ahead and try to figure out a way to be able to use the phone when he needs to. Plan a back-up day as well so if he misses one day, you know he will try to call you on "X" day.
I hope you have a good time when he arrives
hi,its me again.my husband is coming back on the 9th of my 2006.but i m not smiling.i m crying.he fought with me n accused me of double crossing him with my ex.he still refuses to forgive me for whtever happened on tht nite.now he says he isnt sure he will come back since i can ''double cross'' him.i did no such thing,but he has lost all trust in me.i give up.i dont know how to win back his trust or love,he seems so bitter towards me.i m fighting a losing battle,i feel.somebody tell me wht to do.i feel like dying right now.he scorns my love n distrusts everything i say.i m truly broken here.
Amyrose......your husband may be overseas in battle.....but now it's time for you to go to "battle"!!!!
You sure sound like a lovely, sensitive soul and we know you adore you husband.
However, love is a two-way street and at the moment you are doing all the two-ing! and not getting what you deserve.
Next time he rings with his huffing and puffing about whether he will be home or not with his "I don't trust you - you double-crosser" line.....you very slowly and with a determination in your voice like you have never ever used to him before, tell him in no uncertain terms, he either gets his butt! back to your base on the date he stated, believes you about what you are saying about your ex or else it's you who will be doing the walking away!....and then you hang up on him.......men hate to be "flat-lined" (ie that's hung up on without having the last word!) - and oh yes, before you hang up, you demand an apology from him for his "misplaced accusations" about the ex!!!
If he loves you - always remember......love is always in the heart, moods have no loyalty! You have a right to be in a foul mood when next you communicate with him....fight fire with fire my lovely (no crying or letting him get the upper hand in this conversation) - let nobody trample on you or make you feel worthless and down....and as I say if he truly loves you, of course, he will be back on that phone apologizing big time after getting a royal dusting down from you.....think of yourself as a queen and goddess when he calls and acts and speak accordingly:-) - I bet he'll get the surprise of his life and you, my lovely, will feel surprisingly lovely and wonderful within and with yourself......flatline, flatline, flatline never ever fails amyrose. Also working on your own self esteem would seem to be pertinent your your own sake Amyrose.....
Wishing you great things........and knowing that you will do what you gotta do.
Alana x
You sure sound like a lovely, sensitive soul and we know you adore you husband.
However, love is a two-way street and at the moment you are doing all the two-ing! and not getting what you deserve.
Next time he rings with his huffing and puffing about whether he will be home or not with his "I don't trust you - you double-crosser" line.....you very slowly and with a determination in your voice like you have never ever used to him before, tell him in no uncertain terms, he either gets his butt! back to your base on the date he stated, believes you about what you are saying about your ex or else it's you who will be doing the walking away!....and then you hang up on him.......men hate to be "flat-lined" (ie that's hung up on without having the last word!) - and oh yes, before you hang up, you demand an apology from him for his "misplaced accusations" about the ex!!!
If he loves you - always remember......love is always in the heart, moods have no loyalty! You have a right to be in a foul mood when next you communicate with him....fight fire with fire my lovely (no crying or letting him get the upper hand in this conversation) - let nobody trample on you or make you feel worthless and down....and as I say if he truly loves you, of course, he will be back on that phone apologizing big time after getting a royal dusting down from you.....think of yourself as a queen and goddess when he calls and acts and speak accordingly:-) - I bet he'll get the surprise of his life and you, my lovely, will feel surprisingly lovely and wonderful within and with yourself......flatline, flatline, flatline never ever fails amyrose. Also working on your own self esteem would seem to be pertinent your your own sake Amyrose.....
Wishing you great things........and knowing that you will do what you gotta do.
Alana x
* he still refuses to forgive me for whtever happened on tht nite.
What is this about?
What is this about?
**Looks up at Sparrow and raises eyebrow**
Amyrose:
There's more to what you are telling us. We can't help you unless you are honest on this forum and tell us the details.
There's stuff in the last post that doesn't jibe with what you wrote in your initial post.
If you clarify, and we know the situation better than all of us can help you. No one wants to see any of us upset and we are here to help if we can, but you have to be up-front or else it's useless.
Amyrose:
There's more to what you are telling us. We can't help you unless you are honest on this forum and tell us the details.
There's stuff in the last post that doesn't jibe with what you wrote in your initial post.
If you clarify, and we know the situation better than all of us can help you. No one wants to see any of us upset and we are here to help if we can, but you have to be up-front or else it's useless.
hi everybody,
I have told everything,i think.I had an ex-fiancee[we broke up coz he had a 1nite stand with a hooker]. On the eve of my wedding,my ex called my home n was creating a scene.I had to answer his call to stop him.Unfortunately,my husband thought i was still keeping in touch n dangling my ex.Since tht nite,he has been like this.Even after our registry the following day,he was cold to me.I have been doing everything to prove my innocence,but he distrusts me.Even this morning,i made the 1st step n called him to apologise though i didnt say anything.he was like ''yeah ,ok'.Then i called him in the afternoon to ask wht time he wud b landing n he replied''why do u need to know tht'' he was so rude.i said ''cant i ask u that''.N he replied ''why?do u want to cover ur tracks?''.I was so shocked.I asked him wht he meant n he said he didnt know.I was so hurt tht i said bye n hung up.He called me in the evening raising his voice asking me where i was was.Sumthing in me snapped n i yelled back.I told him to speak politely.He shouted asking wht i meant.I jus asked him if he was forcing himself to b with me..i told him i was dying daily with his harsh words n tht i cudnt bear his rudeness.then i jus hung up.I have been crying since.I have never spoken to my ex since i broke up.Only tht nite bcs he called my home n was creating a scene.I have only loved my husband.But he is driving me to my grave with his threats of not coming back etc.I know tomorrow he will say he may not b coming back.i cant take this pain anymore.i m really dying inside.i m truly broken n crushed.this was not my idea of a happy marriage.wht can i do now?nothing seems to b helping.
I have told everything,i think.I had an ex-fiancee[we broke up coz he had a 1nite stand with a hooker]. On the eve of my wedding,my ex called my home n was creating a scene.I had to answer his call to stop him.Unfortunately,my husband thought i was still keeping in touch n dangling my ex.Since tht nite,he has been like this.Even after our registry the following day,he was cold to me.I have been doing everything to prove my innocence,but he distrusts me.Even this morning,i made the 1st step n called him to apologise though i didnt say anything.he was like ''yeah ,ok'.Then i called him in the afternoon to ask wht time he wud b landing n he replied''why do u need to know tht'' he was so rude.i said ''cant i ask u that''.N he replied ''why?do u want to cover ur tracks?''.I was so shocked.I asked him wht he meant n he said he didnt know.I was so hurt tht i said bye n hung up.He called me in the evening raising his voice asking me where i was was.Sumthing in me snapped n i yelled back.I told him to speak politely.He shouted asking wht i meant.I jus asked him if he was forcing himself to b with me..i told him i was dying daily with his harsh words n tht i cudnt bear his rudeness.then i jus hung up.I have been crying since.I have never spoken to my ex since i broke up.Only tht nite bcs he called my home n was creating a scene.I have only loved my husband.But he is driving me to my grave with his threats of not coming back etc.I know tomorrow he will say he may not b coming back.i cant take this pain anymore.i m really dying inside.i m truly broken n crushed.this was not my idea of a happy marriage.wht can i do now?nothing seems to b helping.
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