Newly dating (Libra) a Capri man. Please read! :(

Very confused and torn. much appreciated guys, please read not a boring writer and itll mean the world!! 🙂

So anyways about 3 weeks ago, this adorable guy came up to me while I was coming out of a store and asked me out, I told him I was busy but left him with my number. Since that moment, we've texted from morning to night, and since last week have moved up to him calling me and visa versa. Glad he initiated it! We've hungout about 5/6 times, and had sex the second time. I know it was soon, but couldn't have felt more right. For the first time I felt like I wasnt fucking up. And he hasnt changed at all In the way we talk. We've taken our dogs on walks, went out to eat and have now had two sleepovers. Seems like things are going well, we've had sex twice now. Last guy I dated I had high hopes...very. and was let down because it was clear in the end it was for sex or just didnt workout. I reaaally like this guy. I told him I liked him first, mistake? He's sweet and compliments me but it feels like im the one doing it more. Thats the person I am though, apparently our horoscopes clash. Hes a capricorn, and im a libra. I also have a kid, 2 yesr old daughter. Shes no secret, he'll ask questions about her and well talk about her occasionally. He is 25 and im 21. So idk if maybe him being older will help him not run for the hills over it. Basically, I want us to build up to a relationship. I dont know how to get there though after a 4 year abusive relationship, I feel like I lost myself. We talk about everything, so I know there's more to it then sex or he wouldn't just call me and talk to me all day? Hes had his fair shsre of girlfriends which makes me shy away because I feel like the inexperienced one even tho it doesnt seem that way. Im happy, sad, scared, worried. Any advice please you dont know how touching it will be for me to hear. Anything. Thank you all. Xoxo

His passion isnt where mine is and I dont know if it has to do with our signs. For instance he'll be trying on different hats and hair style s for me, ill compliment him and you can tell he lovezit and is fflattered. And even though when he came up to me shocked saying how gorgeous I was, brags to his friends and his family whi ch ive also met...I dont feel were on the same page and am totally confused st this point. Should I stop flattering him and pull back? Things are going well, and I dont feel I should but one wrong step and I dont want to lose this.

I dunno, women who have a history of abuse tend to pick wrong to start with.

I'm surprised you haven't asked him what his intentions are with you.

If the last guy wanted sex why didn't you wait with the Cap to ensure this guy isn't like the last guy?

"I told him I liked him first, mistake? He's sweet and compliments me but it feels like im the one doing it more. "

Not a mistake to tell him first but don't over do it with the compliments, keep it balanced.

Cap males can be very charming which disarms a woman completely. I suggest you slow down, some men no matter the sign will call you every day just not to appear as if he's using you so you can't really go by him contacting you every day.

Please don't start with the icky emotions (sad, worried) instead trust yourself, just be yourself, be happy, have fun and don't worry about it. Try not to lose yourself which can make you feel powerless and behave in a powerless way which opens the door to be exploited in some way.

Don't put all your eggs in his basket and don't let this guy take you for a ride, it's not hard to do since you do have a back history of abuse. Keep your feet planted firmly on the ground, get to know him first before falling in love, don't just fall in love and notice all his bad qualities afterwards then feel stuck and unable to leave, make sure you know he's worth your time before going all in, you owe it to yourself and to your 2 year old daughter to make the right choices for the both of you.

Thanks for the advice guys ill definitely be taking it. We had the exclusivity talk 🙂 much appreciated. Xo

@Exclusivity talk...details

No offense but I feel like all these comments have no bearing on Capricorns at all.

I dated a Libra guy and it went horribly wrong mainly because I feel like he thought too much into it. (He withdrew) Sounds like the same story only backwards. Fast sexual intimacy, fast emotions, lots of contact.

The worst thing you can do is withdraw. That's the reason why Capricorns and Libras don't work out. Libras are known for their wishywashyness and Capricorns are just steady and want to just keep things calm and moving. Too much drama will cause them to lose interest. Withdrawing and being inconsistent = Drama.

I think the two can work out if both takes the time to get to know eachother. Capricorns are slow to let people in but once your there, you'll have a Capricorn's heart forever. Look at how he treats his family and friends. That will speak volumes about the kind of person he is. Also rely more on actions rather than what he says. You say that you don't feel like he says enough towards you, like compliments. The fact that he puts the effort to text, call, and see you says a lot. We're not people people. Capricorns are the least likely to give you a big ole' hug just because. But we'll show you our affection through actions, because we are doers. And about the sex, We Capricorns LOVE Sex. BUT I've never met a capricorn that would maintain a relationship just for the sex. I doubt he's using you for sex but you know him better.

Hope this helps and didn't come too late. I think that Libras and Capricorns can make an amazing duo if both keep their heads on straight.

Im cappy too & maybe the key is to realise gentleness is beauty too. If you are blasting him with a mass of feelings, emotions etc it can be too much for a capricorn. Capricorn likes things to be chilled out. Its a winter starsign. Everything is quiet in winter & uneventful. But the value of things comes to the fore in winter...friends family. Capricorns are very calm and peaceful in their own way.

What a capricorn struggles with is if someone hides their feelings. Winter all the bad stuff comes and is there in all its rawness. Its not hidden or hated but instead its enjoyed..like going out sledging. This is why capricorns are blunt hard and wear their heart on their sleeve. They dont hide in front of a fire when its cold. They go out and play in the snow. Honest expression of feelings and enjoying dealing with the difficult feelings as a team instead of hiding them from each other out of consideration. Everything is straightforward & no secrets or confusion

the thing that a capricorn hates the most is probably a person pretending to be happy.

if someone pretends to be happy you have to live a life where you know you are making someone unhappy and you dont know why. So you can never be happy because someone you care deeply about is unhappy because of you..or thats how it feels.

If you dont know why.you start imagining all sorts of reasons & doubting everything about yourself....do I have BO, am I ugly, is it cos Ive put on some weight...then you end up hating everything about yourself. So the unhappy persons wish not to burden you or make life unpleasant has actually made EVERYTHING unpleasant. This is how capricorn can feel when they cant get their frank open & honest conversations that unpack & examine any ugliness that has developed.

Just tell the cappy everything & ask him how you can turn everything pleasant.. theyre deep thinkers too & amibitious to help people in an intellectual way

& dont forget to be chilled out

as for him not flattering ..thats not a capricorns nature & from what Ive heard that can appear like indifference to a Libra.

One way capricorn shows love is by being chilled out..they want to put people at ease. They want you to feel relaxed.
Another way is to do with frankness & honesty..they show it by trying to make you feel you can talk to them about anything (ie so chilled out & at home). So if your feeling neglected a capricorns response might be to have a chill out session together, with cuddles & love making maybe. It all appears very cold but when your chilled out thats when the deepest levels can come out. You might be thinking. I dont want a chill out session I want a compliment but capricorn sees compliments as a flimsy crutch. The crutches capricorn tries to lean on are developing a good feeling about oneself such that it can be maintained even in the coldest winter.

If a capricorn loves you they will talk to you about their deepest feelings about the world, philosophy etc...they show love by confiding things they dont feel like they can talk to other people about..sharing special knowledge. these are their treasures. You might want a rose but they think these things are more incredible than a rose. Because knowledge can help you through life whereas a rose cannot. they want to help you through life..to give ease to your journey..make it more .you guessed it!! CHILLED OUT 😛

If you see these behaviours in the cappy and understand how they are love you will feel loved instead of neglected..even if compliments and roses etc arent coming much