Paying attention...
This topic was created in the Libra forum by thelibran on Friday, July 27, 2007 and has 9 replies.
ok this is bit confusing for me... you are in a group of friends with the one you are interested in or your current gf/bf... Whom will you give the maximum attention???
I always find it hard to focus on the ones am interested in during a discussion or chat or meeting new faces. And normally I wait to get her alone to have all those chats and avoid talking to her much in the middle of others... Dont know if this gives mixed signals and confuse the person.
Is it just me??
I always find it hard to focus on the ones am interested in during a discussion or chat or meeting new faces. And normally I wait to get her alone to have all those chats and avoid talking to her much in the middle of others... Dont know if this gives mixed signals and confuse the person.
Is it just me??
I do that too. We'll be in a crowd and I'll pay equal attention to my eye candy as well as everyone else, but deep down I know I want a one on one private conversation with this person to confess my love! But I will make some googly eye if I think no one is watching.
I hope it doesn't confuse the person because us libra's have our own way of showing love and no one should expect us to single you out in a crowd, its not our way, it would make things unequal for everyone else. Well thats me though.
I hope it doesn't confuse the person because us libra's have our own way of showing love and no one should expect us to single you out in a crowd, its not our way, it would make things unequal for everyone else. Well thats me though.
Well... I am a Gemini (obviously) with a crush on a Libran (just posted about it). I've noticed in a group, he'll aim to sit with me, but will talk as much, if not more with everyone else. However, he'll always look at me, and come back to me (physically or conversationally) as much as he can.
At first I thought he might not be interested because of this, but the more I observed it, the more I think it's a deliberate action on his part. So it doesn't put me off. In fact, it's one of the things that I find endearing about him. He's so charming so everyone, unlike my Scorpio ex who had eyes just for me (at least when I was around!) but take him out in a group and he couldn't hold his own. He just wanted to talk to me the whole night, and I hated that.
I guess it depends on her starsign and personality. For me, I'm quite independent and would rather not have the guy I like talk to me constantly. As long as he didn't ignore me...
At first I thought he might not be interested because of this, but the more I observed it, the more I think it's a deliberate action on his part. So it doesn't put me off. In fact, it's one of the things that I find endearing about him. He's so charming so everyone, unlike my Scorpio ex who had eyes just for me (at least when I was around!) but take him out in a group and he couldn't hold his own. He just wanted to talk to me the whole night, and I hated that.
I guess it depends on her starsign and personality. For me, I'm quite independent and would rather not have the guy I like talk to me constantly. As long as he didn't ignore me...
***he'll aim to sit with me, but will talk as much, if not more with everyone else. However, he'll always look at me, and come back to me (physically or conversationally) as much as he can.***
This has been my experience with them in a crowd. Even in a relationship or marriage, however, I might get a hand graze accross the ass, or a squeeze here in there. I love it, it makes it an interesting ans sexy evening giving you much to build up for later when alone... Ahhh, that damned Libra love.
This has been my experience with them in a crowd. Even in a relationship or marriage, however, I might get a hand graze accross the ass, or a squeeze here in there. I love it, it makes it an interesting ans sexy evening giving you much to build up for later when alone... Ahhh, that damned Libra love.
Yep. Very cozy that way. And then I give it the oh so slightest 'us against them' spin. I love it...
I was referring to this by the way...
***he'll aim to sit with me, but will talk as much, if not more with everyone else.
***he'll aim to sit with me, but will talk as much, if not more with everyone else.
I honestly have no idea. lol!
I generally need space to float and visit everyone. Makes me happier.
I generally need space to float and visit everyone. Makes me happier.
I do the same thing. I give an equal amount of attention to everyone in a group setting, maybe even if I give less to any one person it is my SO or the person I am interrested in. The reason for this is that your with the group so the group becomes the focus. When you are alone, alone becomes the focus. It is best when I am with someone who understands this perspective. I rarely hang out in a group of strangers, in that case my SO gets a lot more attention than normal, usually when I am in a group setting I have a professional or friendship connection with those I am with and the purpose of hanging out in that setting IS to visit with those people. Otherwise what is the point.
The only times I have noticed this becomming problematic is if when you are alone with your SO you don't give them a lot of attention either. For example when the two of you are home alone and you are working on something for work, playing on the computer, or pop in a movie (I dont watch T.V. ) your not focusing or directing your attention on them. Even this doesn't seem to be too big of a concern for other air signs or often earth signs but it can create problems with fire and water signs who tend to need and desire more attention from their partner than the other signs. The thing about Libras, if they are in love and it is past the point of dating where your still trying to figure out your emotions for them then they/we will choose to just sit and talk or do something playful than the other things I mentioned. That is one way to tell if we are falling for you.
In the end it comes down to balance, we will balance the attention of others with the attention of the one we love. If we are not in love the attention will be lopsided to others, when we are it evens out. We will do things like take care of getting in touch with friends or other associates before we go home, or before the other person gets home so our attention for the remainder of the day will be on our partner. We tend to act more like when were working were working, when were home were home and don't like distractions in either or to mix the two.
The only times I have noticed this becomming problematic is if when you are alone with your SO you don't give them a lot of attention either. For example when the two of you are home alone and you are working on something for work, playing on the computer, or pop in a movie (I dont watch T.V. ) your not focusing or directing your attention on them. Even this doesn't seem to be too big of a concern for other air signs or often earth signs but it can create problems with fire and water signs who tend to need and desire more attention from their partner than the other signs. The thing about Libras, if they are in love and it is past the point of dating where your still trying to figure out your emotions for them then they/we will choose to just sit and talk or do something playful than the other things I mentioned. That is one way to tell if we are falling for you.
In the end it comes down to balance, we will balance the attention of others with the attention of the one we love. If we are not in love the attention will be lopsided to others, when we are it evens out. We will do things like take care of getting in touch with friends or other associates before we go home, or before the other person gets home so our attention for the remainder of the day will be on our partner. We tend to act more like when were working were working, when were home were home and don't like distractions in either or to mix the two.
I would not be confused, the whole point of hanging out with a group is to socialize, and I would want to talk to other people anyway. If my SO did focus most of his attention on me I would actually see this as clingy and be turned off.
"love it, it makes it an interesting ans sexy evening giving you much to build up for later when alone... Ahhh, that damned Libra love."
totally agree - mines very charming, funny and talkative, and I notice these qualities even more when I see him interact with other people so its very cool to watch him. Makes me think of what I want to do to him when we are alone and builds suspense. No jealousy as I know I have his undivided attention when its just us and I love being social and meeting and talking to different people and appreciate this quality in him as well.
I see it being more of an issue when one person feels insecure in the relationship or is just an overly needy or jealous person in general.
"love it, it makes it an interesting ans sexy evening giving you much to build up for later when alone... Ahhh, that damned Libra love."
totally agree - mines very charming, funny and talkative, and I notice these qualities even more when I see him interact with other people so its very cool to watch him. Makes me think of what I want to do to him when we are alone and builds suspense. No jealousy as I know I have his undivided attention when its just us and I love being social and meeting and talking to different people and appreciate this quality in him as well.
I see it being more of an issue when one person feels insecure in the relationship or is just an overly needy or jealous person in general.
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