Pissed Off

This topic was created in the Libra forum by CasperAries on Tuesday, December 18, 2007 and has 30 replies.
Ok, I need help here. I pissed off my Libra man who I like more then anything right now Sad Like I really feel my heart breaking in two right now. I pissed him off last week with something I did- on spite, I was drunk, but anyway- I thought he would get over it honestly. I've pissed him off in the past too, but he's never carried it on for 4 days. But I saw him today for the first time since it happened, and he's like not even speaking to me. I know I need to back off and give him space and stuff, but is that the only way to get him over being mad at me?? Is there anything I can do or say that will fix up the situation a little? Any insight from a Libra man that has had an Aries girl- or any girl- for that matter, piss him off?? I really could use the advice right now, like seriously- my heart is breaking. I'd take it back if I could but I can't.
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Librans don't stay ma long. Give him space and time, then he will come back around.I too did something horrible to my dear libra friend, who used to be FWB, and he is currently angrywith me as well. I know too well that I must give him space a lot longer than you will as it seems the two of you are in a relationship.
Good luck, if you have told him you were sorry then just wait. I know it is hell, but wait they forgive and don't stay angry long.
Good luck.
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Thanks so much Queens! A little light at the end of my tunnel :-) Yeah I asked him today on IM if he was mad at me, and he didn't answer me, so I shut up after that. I figured if he was gonna get back to me, he will do it when he's ready.
Well sounds like we got alot in common Queens! LoL There is no "relationship" really- we are casual friends who work together and are FWB's. I want more, but he just got out of a relationship so he's not ready. So I too- have angered an FWB who is also just a friend for the time being lol. What sucks is that I fell for him, underneath it all. Sad
I apologized thenight I upset him and I also tried to apologize again today. None of this was said from my mouth though, it was written- written and I got no reply either time. I'm too scared to say something in person. I'm very intimidated by him, but I think that's cuz I just like him so damn much Sad Time will tell.
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Dont back off and give him space. He will interpret it differently.
"I am really sorry. you know!!!!(try to look a bit confused when you say it)...
if you dont understand, then i dont know what else to say
(this line is meant to provoke him and challenge him on his capabilities of understanding)
//a bit of pause
may be you should tell me what i must do so i will see you smiling again"

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I have kept a distance from all my aries females after they stopped communication. Not bcoz I wasnt interested. Bcoz there is a solid amount of respect btween Aries and Libra. It makes the gap remain there for long.
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Hmm it may be a bit late for that answer though. After I got him mad, I sent a text saying "Im sorry for that." basically. then again today i tried again. i was ignored. so i mean i dont want to get him SO mad that he yells or something. i also said in the text "i feel like a real asshole and that i bother you with this? im sorry". thats why i figured to give him space until he talks to me? idont wanan seem like an idiot who doesnt understand when someone is mad at them andi keep picking and prying and apologizing asking him whats wrong??
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LOL! it replaced my curse word with "marker" what the hell?!
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You know what? I like that line you gave me. if he continues on with this behavior i will use it. i can say "ya know, i dont quite understand why you are mad at me? didi do something THAt wrong? whatcan i do to make u smile again?" thats good stuff! lol
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dont sms. talk to him. there is more information conveyed in the sounds and gestures one produce. that makes a person react. sms cannot do that magic after a certain period of time.
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I personally know that they need time especially after you have already apologized. It will become annoying if you continue,constantly. Give him some time a week or so.
BTW, my Libra friend and I were FWB's and decided to be friends only (or I decided)too manhy emotional feelings started getting involved. Things were good but a little wierd. He even called to ask me to help pick out furniture and to come see his new condo he just baught. I was shocked. I did and we actually picked his new furniture together online. I screwed some things up, yes because of alcohol as well. He is special to me and I know I will miss him. I will let him contact me. If he doesn't then maybe we aren't as close as I thought. I did apologize via email. He initially sent me an email, so I responded.
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who did you sleep with?
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oh cheer up.... SMILE!....PUT ON A HAPPY FACE smile... he'll get over it and you will too...
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who did you sleep with?"""
Oh...now is this the case???...theres just something about that loyalty/faithfulness thing...kinda hard to get past...
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Tis tis tis ~*shakes finger and nods head in disapprovement*~
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Thanks for all the advice guys! Everything seems to be cool with us. He flirted with me today so I guess he's over it. But I'm still gonna back off for a while, I can sense he's getting a bit "bored" with me :-/ Gotta make him want me again, so I need for him to make this first move, cuz I always do. While on the topic lol- do they usually make moves when they want something? Or do they just kinda suck up the pride and not say anything and make you go after them?
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This time though, I'm not going to just sleep with the guy. I want him to want me cuz he actually wants to get to know me.
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Quit backing off and go ahead as usual. You are suppose to be in charge and you must be. I dont enjoy taking charge when an Aries girl is around. She is the boss and I respect every decision she makes and just follow it. Bcoz she hardly makes mistakes compared to any other sign. But once in a while she is wrong and fail to see some angles and then I pop in and suggest whats the better solution and she agrees.
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If he is back to his old self and flirting, why not have a talk with him and let him know you want to be more than FWB's? Don't play games, you might play yourself right out of pocket. He is probably expecting to have what the two of you always have had.
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What's your venus sign in thelibran? Just curious.
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Thelibrian- yeah a part of me just wants to go ahead and be normal about it, but he rejected me twice in the past month about seeing him. He told me "another time". I HATE rejection! It's hard to keep pushing him right now cuz he's still sitting there crying over his ex girlfriend. I heard him talking about her today to a coworker. He's not over her at all yet and I just feel like an idiot by trying to push and push him to hang out with me. He's like dead inside right now. I think with the holidays approaching and stuff, he's just really down in the dumps and misses her.
And Queensscorpio- I want nothing more then to say that to him I really do, but if you read above- he doesn't exactly want to hear stuff like that right now lol I actually said something to him a month ago about "liking him" and "wanting more" and he asked me to give him time cuz he just cannot jump into a new relationship with anybody right now. And it wasn't a BS line cuz like I said- I overheard him talking today about his ex and he's so down about it all. I don't want to keep bothering him with this "please be my boyfriend" stuff right now. He needs time. I haven't spoken to him since the incident last week where he got pissed at me, I just smile back at him when he smiles at me. I do notice him looking at me though at work and trying to gain some attention, but I want to show him that "yes I'm interested, but No I'm not waiting around forever while you mend your broken heart." He's looking for attention from me right now cuz he's still hurting and probably wants someone to make him feel better. Why should I do that for him? When he does nothing for me? He needs to get over this girl and he needs to do it without any "fans" making him feel better lol..But I really do wish i could just ask him out it's like one of my many wishes right now, and I want nothing more then it to come true. Sad
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If he isn't ready than he won't be until he is over her. You cannot rush these guys into anything. If he isn't emotionally available, then he won't be until he decides to be. There is nothing you can do for now.
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Pull those emotions waayyy back. He isn't emotionally avaialable. Believe me. I have been there. However we were able to remain friends.
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(( What's your venus sign in thelibran? Just curious. ))
Its in Virgo. Does that make me a bad boy? Sad
"I just feel like an idiot by trying to push and push him to hang out with me."
Casper,
Its exactly what he needs now and probably what he may hesitate to accept for the same reason. A part of him dont want to get over his ex and is afraid he might forget her. A part of him want to move on. He probably dont know which is better for him. Thats where you have to butt in and hide are the wounds and keep trying on him. He wont enjoy it for a while.. but in the long run, when he looks back, he will definitely appreciate all your efforts.
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***He wont enjoy it for a while.. but in the long run, when he looks back, he will definitely appreciate all your efforts. ***
Or get aggrevated as hell! and think you are psycho!
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"If he isn't ready than he won't be until he is over her. You cannot rush these guys into anything. If he isn't emotionally available, then he won't be until he decides to be. There is nothing you can do for now" OH YEAH, just get on with life and maybe he'll turn around one day (and this could be 6 months or 6 years), and you'll still be available...who knows? but dont sit and wait for him, he'd not appreciate that either.
Friendship is amazing if you can keep that up smile....I have been trying to remain friends with my Libra for the past 2 months...he's been luke warm and cold but today I tried one more time and sent a text and OMG 5 minutes later he sends the most inspiring text in return and gave me plenty of hints that we'll be catching up in the new year....these guys are totally unpredictable and I now believe it when everybody says it takes them forever to figure out what they really want.....I think at the end of the day, those who continue to be there through thick and thin will retain their respect and most of all, their love...i think it takes an amazing woman to handle one of these wishy washy men...they also know it!!! THATS why they take so damned long to make up their minds....just my $ 0.02 worth. In my case, I really just want to remain friends as I dont think i could go back to the FWB thing and maybe not even a r/ship if he were to want one....but OMG when they are your friend??? that is so wonderful smile
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All I can say is he has made my day!!! and I dunno why, its not like I've seen him over the past 2&1/2 months....its just those few words that make it all worth it sometimes smile
Anyway I am going on holidays and I wish you all well smile
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Going on holidays? Shoot! I was hoping you'd get this e-mail from ME to make your day! Ha!

Winking
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Its in Virgo. Does that make me a bad boy?
No, but it does seem to make you like the virginal ones (virgo:virginal?) Tongue
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"who did you sleep with?"
If you said exactly what you did to make him mad I am pretty confident I could tell you how to fix it.
In my experience Libras are more forgiving when it comes to infidelity than a lot of other people. Like actually forgiving not just trying to work past it. BUT you have to be completely honest in the underlying reasons that brought you to that point.
Just in case that is the case. You never said what it was that you did. That specific information will dictate what will work in trying to get back to a good relationship.
Don't take his flirting with you as a sign of him being over it or almost over it. It could very well be that what you did was bad enough that he couldn't give two shits about making you feel like everything is ok to get the last bennifits out of your relationship before he decides to turn it off completely.
Libras are not the kind of people you can just smooth things over with. We are not vengeful in the traditional definition, if only because we can turn off how much we care about someone. If I was in a relationship like yours and was hurt to the degree you described I would maintain composure long enough to arrange for the break up to be as easy and painless on my end without regard to your experience.
The way to avoid this is to be genuine and truthful. We are natural truth filters. As you explain yourself we take the words you say and how you say it to uncover the real underlying reason behind the action. The simplified truth. The one word answer so to speak.
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Thanks nicodemus..Yeah he was flirting with me a day after I thought he was like done with me lol I just kinda smiled back and stuff, didn't say a word to him all week. He tried cracking a joke with me friday and I just laughed and dropped it. I'm just trying to back off for a while cuz I just really get the feeling he's becoming bored with me. I wish I knew what to do to bring back the excitement of what we had?? Any ideas? Now it just feels like a case where I'm still chasing and he's rejecting. But I just hate the fact that he flirts and does all this stuff to lead me on making me think he wants to spend time with me, then rejects me when i finally give in and ask. Then I just feel stupid. Which is why I thought I should back off. I don't like to be rejected it hits my ego pretty hard, especially when it comes to this man.
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