Please help me with this Libra guy. Don't want to mess it up

I've met this libra guy online and we spoke for about 2 months before meeting. He lives 2 hours away and in that month we've met 3 times. He takes me out on real dates and takes good care of me.

Before we've met he made his intentions clear, he really liked me and was looking for something serious. I got cared away and kind of scared him off. He was coming on to strong and when I felt like I could let my guard down he pulled back. I asked him if it was only a physical thing, if he met someone else or if he just wasn't feeling it anymore. He said all of that wasn't the case and he would call me. During that time he pulled away even more and weeks passed by without meeting.

I stopped contacting him because he said he would call me so I backed of for a week to give him space. He never called. After one week I contacted him and we were texting for about 3 days and I decided to end it. Told him I need a man that's sure about me and that I really like him and that I wasnt mad at him but from now on only wanted to be friends with him because I need a man that knows he wants to really give it a try with me.

I thought that would be the end but he never left. Since I've ended it he spend 4 weeks winning me back. During that 4 weeks I reapetedly told him I needed something real and wasn't interesting in casual dating. He said he also wanted something real. So after four weeks I told him OK we can meet and talk about it. We've met and had a great time. He told me there is nobody else in his life and that he wants a relationship with me. That was one week ago.

He's been kind during last week but to me it feels like he's pulling back again. He's not dissappearin but he hardly texts me anymore (again). He'll do the good morning thing (which I sometimes also initiate myself) and he always responds but there's no conversations.

What on earth am I supposed to do? I don't know when we'll meet again and I don't want it to take weeks again. I'm not coming on to strong and I'm trying to be understanding because I'm happy he opened up and didn't let me go when I stood my ground. But I don't know if now if he means it or not. If it's ok to ask him to meet next weekend, or if I should leave him alone again now, or if I need to speak up again like I did last time and tell him what I need: I need to know how we're going to handle the semi long distance when it comes to meeting.

I don't even need to speak to him everyday if I know that we'll see each other like every other weekend or something. But now I'm confused. I've got what I wanted: he wants a relationship, and still I don't know what's going on because it doesn't feel any different to me.

Please libras me out. I really want to make it work.

Update: in total whe have met 5 times (long dates) during 3,5 months.

Just make plans to see him next weekend.

Posted by jeane
Just make plans to see him next weekend.

I've texted him asking if he would like to speak on the phone because I would like to hear his voice. (I was going to tell him on the phone we can meet next weekend).

He replied he would call me in a bit and he didn't. I really don't understand and I'm starting to get mad now, instead of upset. I feel like he's playing games with me and feel like he's being dishonest to string me along for weeks again.

I'm not going to reach out anymore and if there's no initiation from him within a week, I'm going to start dating other guys and try to forget about him. Even though I really don't want to. 😢

So you posted a thread asking for advice when you had already made up your mind what you want to do. Cool.

Posted by jeane
So you posted a thread asking for advice when you had already made up your mind what you want to do. Cool.

No, I've texted him a few hours

after I've posted. Asking him to speak on the phone and he said he would call in a bit. Now a lot of hours have passed by and it's bed time (I'm european so it's a different timezone) that's why I feel angry now, because I've been waiting all day and all night for him to call and was excited to hear his voice and to initiate plans.

Shut up and get off the internet, neurotic case.

If you have to ask strangers, you shouldn't be dating. Go away.

Something is bothering him. If i really want a female im gonna show you, especially if feelings are mutual.

I was dealing with this 1 girl and would push and pull because i was dealing with heartache of ex that finally hit me months after.

Just give him his space and if you do go on a date nothing toi romantic, do something fun!

Thank you for the comments. I'm going to give him space and live my life.