Sagittarius male confused by Libra love Interest.

I really need some help here. I do not know how to proceed and I do not want to screw up any opportunities with this female.

Brief overview

We met in our field, and have developed a awesome relationship/friendship outside of our career. I was immediately attracted to her even before meeting her in person the first time. I adore her personality, work ethic, and other features.

Once I met her in person, I completely melted. We have always had a nice connection and we make each other laugh alot. Its an effortless type of connection which is so rare.

I have been on my best behavior and we just click. Well, one day, I had a melt down and was verbal about a few things. She told me it made her uncomfortable. However, she has not been as open with me since then. She said "everything is fine", but it is not....

This woman is the most beautiful women I have ever seen, and my wild side is over. We would talk about possibilities of stepping up a degree, but suddenly she has retreated back into her walls again.

I wrote her a letter explaining my true feelings and intentions. No, i did not mention the L word, but told her from my heart how much I respect her ect.

I would always do what I could within my power to make her laugh. I would bring her various surprise items like flowers or whatever. It would melt me when I saw the sparkle in her eyes, and it all made it worthwhile.

However, since I gave her the letter, I cannot seem to get her to drop that damn wall.

I dont know what to do. I dont want to be too aggressive for sure. How passive do I need to be— I am biting my tongue by not sending or calling by fear of letting frustration say something I do not mean or intend.

I have only had one other female have this effect on me in my life. At that time, I was not ready for a relationship because I was too wild and did not want to end up hurting her. However, I am ready now and I need some advice on how to proceed with her so my fiery sag and sarcastic cap tendencies poison this.

Me Dec 19th Sag/Cap Cusp
Her Oct 13th Libra III

What did the melt down consist of? In my opinion, Libras don't like conflict, especially when it's least expected or even worse, in public. And Sags have a bluntness which is not..adequate in some social situations.

LOL Damnata.... You must have had the opportunity of seeing a Sag melt down before!!! It was a variety of issues and unfortunately I chose to vent in front of her. She really did not appear to offended or offput until later in the night.

Anyway, I told her it was mostly theatrics and she could check me when she felt I was being too dramatic ect.....

Ughhh. I knew I should have listened to my instinct to stay isolated from people that day as I was in one of our famous dark moods...

She said it made her feel uncomfortable, and the next day she said eveything was fine....

Yes, it was in public. Further, it was not a conflict involving her or anything related to.

Just back up and give her some space. You're probably coming on too strong.

For the note, it was not like some head turning event from spectators. Yes, I understand its all about behavior.

Yes, we both respect each others space ect. But, as I said earlier, I do not want to be too passive either

I know it's hard for us fire signs to take it easy and slow but I feel like that would be the best for this situation. Not sure what the meltdown was about, but since you weren't yelling at her I'm sure you'll be able to move past it. Maybe call her tomorrow and apologize. Idk.. don't have a lot of personal experience with libra's.

My Libra friend was dating a scorpio who had a freak out and she was so upset she left her phone with me. Then he proceeded to text and call at least 30 times before she returned and she nearly threw the phone. Libras don't like to feel cornered. They will love you but they need their freedom.

Well she ended up dumping the scorpio. Not just cus of that but because of other reasons as well. He pulled away and it actually worked because she got back with him and shes been with him for a couple years now. Helps to really back away so you can give em breathing room. They are really ones to enjoy their own time, but when you back away they get curious and I bet she will open up more. That and as time goes by she'll begin to trust you fully again

Hey There. I understand that connection you are describing. Libra goes excellent with the two fire signs Aries and Sagg and honestly she intrigues them and vise versa with half the effort for some reason. I have a Sagg interested in me right now, however he may be experiencing some distant behavior on my end because I feel I??ve dated him before in a different guy. His approach is very similar, and I'm a firm believer in learning from my mistakes. Another reason I'm distant is because he comes on sort of strong, not scary strong but strong. Plus I'm unsure of his true intentions. However in your case, if he sent me flowers, or did all the cute little things you mentioned I could imagine entertaining ideas of being with him in a solid relationship. But he dips out just as much as I do, so that doesn't help. There's no solid median. Then he's very sexual and while I find him very attractive I hate to be treated like a piece of meat, I love to be courted and taken out. I have to feel like I matter in his life, and I'm not just a temporary fix.

In your case, I'm shocked that a Sagg man showed his gloomy side. That is very rare. Every single sagg I??ve met is always sunny side up, or laid back and chill. Even when they do let something upset them, they are over it and brushing it off in a matter of seconds, sometimes minutes depending on how stressful it is. I had one sagg man have a death in the fam, he wanted me near because he said my presence always made him feel good. He was hugging on me, but no tears, and his face held no emotions. Not even a frown! I mean I couldn't read his emotions on that day for nothing. He wasn't sad, but he wasn't happy, he wasn't angry either, but I could tell he was hurt and even that emotion was hazy. If you??ve let her in, she maybe a bit overwhelmed but just remember sagg, you can use that brash bold behavior on other women, with a Libra you MUST know when to soften your approach. If she has any pisces or scorp in her chart, she's very VERY sensitive and more cautious than most. The over-thinker. I??d say just cool it. You like her, cool. She's knows that. Let her do some of the work. If she truly liked you, she won't go far.

Pinklibra

Awesome response.... The exact feedback I was seeking.

Well, I am a cusper/ sagicorn. That is probably why the meltdown occured. Under normal operating temps, I am your typical Sagittarius. So it was rare behavior on my part.

I am totally sincere with my intentions and actions. I explained all of these factors and why she is so attractive to me beyond physical beauty.

IDK. Maybe she is not prepared to discuss my written letter just yet. Torture. Pure torture.

I did aplogize if i was coming on aggressive. Not looking for one thing ect.

She melts my heart and everytime I do something, even the slightest her eyes light up and it melts me. Ughhh if I screwed this up, I will get a labotomy.

Should I kick back and let her come to me? Or.....

Plus, my instinct is telling me someone is feeding her false info about me. Just a feeling

Well I'm glad I could help. I love saggies, your sign is so much fun, we like fun lol. If what you say is true and she lights up when you do special things for her, then I would say just sit tight. Don't rush her whatever you do or you will ruin it, and she will only run in the opposite direction. If you really want to lighten the mood, invite her out for a quick drink and some good food. Tell her you just want to tell bad jokes and laugh and have a good time with her. Make sure she knows, she doesn't have to answer the letter right now, but in her own time and you are perfectly fine with just enjoying her company because you miss her smile. If she doesn't respond right away, don't lose hope it doesn't mean she's not interested or that you??ve ruined anything. She may just be weighing the pros and cons of having you in her life permanently, or she may be deciding on you in general. We don't like to be pushed and shoved when we are making decisions. However, don't hold your breath; Libra??s can be quite flighty. Sorry but we are.

The Kings and Queens of —here today, gone tomorrow, and back again.?? It's non intentional despite the things you will read on this message boards. Libra??s tend to do this when they can't make up their mind about someone or the situation, or how to react to something the person did or said. We are often afraid of making the wrong decision because we didn't think long enough or take enough time to make the right decision. We simply hate that. So that's why it takes us so long to respond, or react, in our mind it has to be done at the perfect time with the perfect words. In the future though, you being so black and white and carefree and able to take life by storm will help balance out your libra and her timid ways. This very reason is most likely why she was so intrigued by you in the first place. You let her know its okay to let go and live life sometimes without overthinking and planning too much. At least both fire signs I delt with, most of them sagg??s taught me that. Lol. Still I say, invite her out for fun and drinks. If she's a real libra she will never turn down a good drink, free food and happy company. She lives for it, after all she's the social butterfly of the zodiac. Lol.

You're in looove!! But she is balancing, so let her make her mind up = space please!!

Would it be to go with your instinct as thats never wrong and if theres such a thing b/w passive and aggressive wouldnt you take that road

Awww I hope things work out with u OP and Pink Libra

WAIT @Dmv why you put me in that comment? lol. You do know he's not my sagg right?? lol

Oh yeah 🙂 but you mentioned a sag in your comments. I wrote this b4 I read your thread on the sag board.

oh okay. lol