SAYING BY SOMEONE HERE...IS THIS ALWAYS WORKING ?

Yes. It's hard not to snap & go crazy at first, but eventually you get used to it. It's about their "balance" thing, togetherness + time away = balance. Giving you attention + ignoring you = balance. In a way I think it's a good thing, I mean, nobody wants a person to breathe down their neck 24/7, 365..it gets predictable & boring. Space is good. To avoid feeling hurt, DO NOT contact them when they take time off cause they might not answer, or at least don't expect to get an answer. It's way better if you let them come find you.

It gets confusing though cause you might end up feeling like you're letting him get away with disrespect. But the good news is that, the "balancing" periods become shorter as they get more attached to you. They'll still go away, but it wont be for mnths, weeks..it'll be days! That's when you know you got them. They are quite clingy once they are all in lol, so clingy that you'll pray they disappear!

LOL, it worked for me. But every relationship is different, so...Do what works for you. In your case, try something different because what you're currently doing is obviously NOT working 😛 Drop the "hearts & smiles" that you bombard him with when he is ignoring you. Do not contact him & just watch what he does when you don't act like your usual needy self. You can't act the same way if you expect different results.

Thanks Watercup, you are right, I already changed my way, now I am totaly do exchange of what I did before. He will notice the difference for sure.
I posted your comment here because until now I never tried it. But now I do this. There is a saying : treat something in the same way as you are treated and it's always work. Similar to what you said here.

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Thanks Watercup, you are right, I already changed my way, now I am totaly do exchange of what I did before. He will notice the difference for sure.
I posted your comment here because until now I never tried it. But now I do this. There is a saying : treat something in the same way as you are treated and it's always work. Similar to what you said here.

Weird because I posted the same thing yesterday on that "birthday wishes" thread..Treat people how they treat you. What's the use of running after a person that ignores you? Ignore them back. Sometimes it's good to let people go. Don't bother them & be a nuisance, just let them go! Most men are attracted to women with an "I'll take you or leave you" attitude. Very carefree. Clinginess makes you unattractive.

In relationships I have this thing I do, you know some relationships are painful when you're in them due to different reasons. So if the pain of staying is more than the pain of leaving, I will leave. Better to endure a fleeting pain than be in constant pain due to dealing with a selfish lover. Heartbreak will pass with time, but the constant back & forth is like peeling off a scab off a wound over and over again.

I'm sure your heart have been broken before, this won't be the 1st time, but it DID healed, right? You CAN do it again this time, believe that.

i gave a libra all that would make him feel good, all that would feed his ego, made him right all the time, ne never asked for it, i didnt really do it with a purpose, just happened.. so in the process i got hurt.. he was making me sad, but i never complained not wanting to restrict his freedom .. at some point i had enough so i walked away.. again not blaming him , even ended up a mutual break up.. he wants me back now.. after loosing me he realised what he had.. says he wants me forever now..

i wouldnt recomend this way of dealing with things to anyone..but yeah.. its one libra story..

How did he make you sad?

Your trolling is getting really old

@waterCup

i dunno anymore.. just little things, where i wished he would put me first, or chose me, and he would put himselft first or his friends..

i guess an example: social life and partying is a big part of him..we'd go out.. he'd barely talk to me at the party, but pretty much chat with anyone and everyone.. the funny thing was..i never complained..cos i believe he shoudl have all the freedom he wants.. after we broke up..one of his sentences was also..that he doesnt wanna be out with friends, all he wants is to stay home with me.. kinda hilarious.

it's little stuff .. but it was too often.. basicaly by not putting effort into the relationship but rather into any other stuff.. and by taking the stuff i was doing for the relationship for granted..

Oh there is is mistake with this message. I wanted say, my Libra also put his friends on first place and himself, but not me. Thanks to Watercup and other peoples who give right advice here . I stoped contact him in any any way possible. I hope he will see what he lost. No woman will do what I did for him, he told me already this thing also. But if he wants me ever back, then he must do his best to make me back to him . I am Leo, I have limits, it is true, hard to touch them, but when happen, nothing can make me back . I think he is imature and maybe most of Libras are. Acting like a child and then want come back and say sorry ? I accepted few times this way, but this is not going on forever . If you know the movie called : "On my knees I am back to you" or something like this, when he will do the things like in that movie , I can say yes to him again. But until then, just let him see how is when lose something. Because for them , everyone do a favour because they have their style to use words , to use lies, reaosns and reasons and reasons always..

totaly agree with u Alisiyaa..
i did sooo mcuh , only to be told that he never asked for it.. then i even babysitted the break up, cos he took it real hard.. like literarly ..i was stroking his ego every thime he called after the break up. .. and then after 3 months he bought a plane ticket and came to see me.. but even that ..i had to draw it for him that if he was to do that he could have me back.. u know what though.. i still think he ll never grow over the ;;Acting like a child and then want come back and say sorry ;; .. ahh..

Upps, really true ... I am so wonder how Libras are almost the same , just like we talk about the same person here ........ I can image you did so much for him without his asking , I also done this , but I done this because I was thinking that is right to do, is human to do in a relationship , including much much respect for him... but I got nothing.. when I wanted meet his family ( because I told him I do not want be hurt or to lose time ) , he come up with lots of reaosns ..... first he said he is ill.. but when I wanted see him at hospital, surprise.. the phone power off... second he said he has other serious problem... again I said, ok, maybe he has, I must be understanding with him... MY MYSTAKE !!! , and the last reason... he disappeared and then appeared and said after one month (time when I was like crazy and imaged lots of things maybe happened to him and didn't knew how to find something about him or where he mayy be..) he said that his mother do not like foreigners ( it means no like other rase of peoples) and then I was so angry and I told him I want to die. He implored me do not do something like this and as you say, said sorry... sorry... then he said : I want marry you, but I can't, I have a serious problem ( e personal reason)and we can be friends only . I told him again I will die.. if he saw I am so serious about this tought, he said at least : I don't want to marry now, sorry " After this he disappeared with all the contacts off. But I used to tell him I will die, only because I needd a strong word to make him say the truth. So, at least, not his mother was the problem, not his personal reason, but his mind ! He no want to marry now.... Hm. nice, right? ....
I turned off my enerything now and I don't want to contact him in any way even I would really die !
In one second they say love you and next second they think to disappear ! Then they appear again saying sorry and I miss you ............. Everything has limits. He power the phone off and deleted me from his messenger so many times until now, I always forgived him and no complained as you said too, but until when — Is time to let him see he lost . I can only lose someone who play games as him, but he lose someone who loves him.
Oh, and after 3 days when I didn't tried add him in messenger again, and he saw this, he opened his phone to see what and if I wrote to him there ....... I know this because of the delivery report in my phone , of the message I sent to him b

(to be continue here) before. So, he still thinking to come back maybe in one day, if not, he would not care to check if I sent messages and what I was told him. From now on, he will see NOTHNG from me and as Watercup say, I teat him as he treat me. He will see the difference. No "hearts and smiles", no "miss you my sweet" , nothing from all this. He wll miss my words , my way to be, I am sure of this , but I want he feels what I feld. Why only one to suffer and another one to smile and party ? No way !

OMG @ "I want to die" Never say such a thing to a man again! Are you kidding me? Do you want a man to be with you out of pity or guilt? Btw, I don't "give good advice", some stuff requires that you use your brain & not your heart. I'm sure he felt great & disgusted at the same time when he heard you say that. TBH with you, I think your past behaviour is the reason behind why he is distancing himself from you. "I want to die" is a turn-off. I'm female & I wouldnt like a guy to tell me that he wants to die when I leave him..that's crazy talk.

I'm happy you're learning to control your emotions, OP & I hope you'll continue to do so even in your next relationship. My leo friend reminds me so much of you, the stuff she does in the name of love is embarrassing. She even asked me to tell her boyfriend that she is dying in hospital. Who does that? The guy doesn't want her & no amount of emotional manipulation is going to make him stay. Sadly, she keeps trying & embarrassing herself in the process.

wow..that's pretty heavy alisiyaa.. as in weird heavy, the guy is disturbed..and its kinda irelevant for what reason.. all that is going waaaay to far.. he is just all wrong..he doesnt deserve u .. as in ..no one deserves to do soo much crap to someone and be forgiven.. sorry to be so negative..but there are some limits..

No, he didn't felt great or happy to hear that, you are wrong here. He implored me do not do that and next, he said sorry to me many times, he repeated he loves me and miss me, but I didn't want to hear this because he said his mother do not accept he marry a foreign and I told him, if he would love me and miss me, he would listen his heart, not what his mother say.
About your friend, I know , it is a Leo thing and only a Leo can understand this. She is out of control in some situations . I was not out of control when told him this, I told him exactly what I felt in that moment because I felt a big rasism from his family against me. Nobody can image how is this feeling .... and I don't wish to someone to feel this. I used to say this also , to make him say the truth. At least, after he heard this , he told me he want marry me, but he can't because he can't have kids . So he has a serious problem and he hided this so much time . his ex leaved him when she knew this, but I told him, for me this is a small thing and I can accept it because I love him.
After that, i texted to him and told him : I can't die because "i can't leave you now. I am near you and your pain .. A child is not everything in life, but a true love is everything you need" . Of course, I didn't let him think I was died as your friend did. No, I only let him see I was very hurt by what he said. And at least, he told me this reason and he said he don't want marry now . So not his mother may be the reason here, but he like be free, he no want marry now in fact. Now you understand why I told him that ? If I would not say what I exactly feel in that moment, he would not tell me that he can't have kids and he don't want marry now. He would say only that his mother no agree . But I know this is not true, because first time, he said his parents allow him do as he wants. My mistake was that I huurry up him to meet his family . I should not ask him this maybe. He felt that he will lose his freedoon and I want marry him ! When he saw this, he disappeared and then appeared again telling me that his mother no agree. So there is something make him afraid of marriage . It can be the reason that he cannot have kids . Now he told me this, but he still disappeared. Maybe he need time to think again. I only can let him choice and wait.
You talk about my future relationships, well, I don't think so there wll be another relationship. I can't love other man. I also do not want know other ma

man. My feeling is he will be back, I don't know why. I do nothing now, no contact him, nothing, but I feel this. Only God knows.

Yes UPPS , I did so much for him , maybe he was happy to do a party from all this, but be sure in one day he will be the one who is crying and asking me to come back and I will be the one who play with him until I see he do actions to show his love, because I will can't believe again in his words. Yes, nobody will do this for him, and if I did already, he will think there are many women to do the same, because he think he deserving everything in this world , he is a lord and the rest of peoples are his service peoples ! But when he will see that there is nobody to support his all this things, he will want me back. Maybe will be too late at that time.
I wanted give up after first meeting, when he started the relationship with a big lie . I found all the proofs and saw to him, then he implored me to stay, do not go . I didn't stay there, but after a while, I forgived him , MY MISTAKE ! then if he saw this, probably he tought he can play more. He played, but I know he has feelings too and his feelings will be hurt when he will see he lost me . Now he is still thinking that I will be the same stupid to contact him, to searching for him, but NO ! I sugest him to wake up from this dream!