Posted by black773
Libras and their damn “I’m single and can’t face conflict” bullshit.
Wah!! Wah!! Wah!!
Posted by black773What sign are you?
Libras and their damn “I’m single and can’t face conflict” bullshit.
Wah!! Wah!! Wah!!
Posted by DonnaLibrai don't know. i've been having a great last few years. after being stuck for a while (probably 3-4 years), things have been moving along quite nicely in all aspects of my life - career, financially, home life, matters of lurve. if anything has been problematic it's that i have recently been tussling over plans for the future but in the last week i have managed to resolve it.
I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.
Posted by BalancedBeanso; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that
Hello fellow Libras,
I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?
I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.
I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.
I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.
I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.
Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.
Posted by DonnaLibraagain, this strikes me strangely - I mean if they were once friends, what makes them all of a sudden be negative to you ? I don't get this. And I wonder this because of a Libra friends I have who did this to me but I think it was her, not me ... if they were friends, I'm not sure why you couldn't work things out - could you explain a bit more ?
I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.
Posted by tctaapit may not be negative towards her but rather just being negative people. i have very little patience for that sort of thing too.Posted by DonnaLibraagain, this strikes me strangely - I mean if they were once friends, what makes them all of a sudden be negative to you ? I don't get this. And I wonder this because of a Libra friends I have who did this to me but I think it was her, not me ... if they were friends, I'm not sure why you couldn't work things out - could you explain a bit more ?
I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.click to expand
Posted by tctaapThat's a great question and yes I do self reflect. My friends may or may not change. I accept them as they are until I feel they Don't truly accept me. One friend I had for years was always mean (her sister and bf would call her out) but she was selectively mean to people she thought she was smarter than. I knew her for years but when I had a tough breakup, no call. When I was in the hospital, no call. When her bf was talking to another woman she called me every damn day that week. I feel used and I Don't really like her. I love her but I just can't be her friend like this and I tried to talk to her but she lied to my face after ignoring and scowling at me a night.Posted by BalancedBeanso; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that
Hello fellow Libras,
I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?
I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.
I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.
I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.
I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.
Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.
of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passesclick to expand
Posted by tctaapAlso, it sounds like both of you are in denialPosted by BalancedBeanso; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that
Hello fellow Libras,
I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?
I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.
I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.
I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.
I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.
Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.
of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passesclick to expand
Posted by BalancedBeanlol ok nevermindPosted by tctaapAlso, it sounds like both of you are in denialPosted by BalancedBeanso; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that
Hello fellow Libras,
I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?
I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.
I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.
I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.
I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.
Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.
of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passesclick to expand
Posted by tizianiaw, thanks tiz. yeah, i feel i'm on the ascent at the moment.Posted by jeaneThis is great to read.Posted by DonnaLibrai don't know. i've been having a great last few years. after being stuck for a while (probably 3-4 years), things have been moving along quite nicely in all aspects of my life - career, financially, home life, matters of lurve. if anything has been problematic it's that i have recently been tussling over plans for the future but in the last week i have managed to resolve it.
I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.click to expand
Posted by tizianiPosted by jeaneIf it does turn to shit then I lean on my favourite line from Edge of Tomorrow: "We've been through worse."Posted by tizianiaw, thanks tiz. yeah, i feel i'm on the ascent at the moment.Posted by jeaneThis is great to read.Posted by DonnaLibrai don't know. i've been having a great last few years. after being stuck for a while (probably 3-4 years), things have been moving along quite nicely in all aspects of my life - career, financially, home life, matters of lurve. if anything has been problematic it's that i have recently been tussling over plans for the future but in the last week i have managed to resolve it.
I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.
health is good - i'm the lightest and fittest i have been for decades
career - earning more money than ever before and had two promotions in the last year and getting a third in the next month
love - the bull and i have turned a real corner for us and are shaking off a lot of baggage that was holding us back.
financial - new car soon, new pet shortly, house renovations underway
socially - friends from all corners are in abundance. i'm not lacking in invitations.
family - finally i have cut the decay out of my life and not looking back
to be honest, as a chronic complainer, i have absolutely nothing to whinge about at the moment. all of this has taken place over the last 18 months.
(it's all going to turn to shit again in a month isn't it?)click to expand