Serious question for Libra girls-Really need help!

This topic was created in the Libra forum by FieryAries9 on Tuesday, November 9, 2010 and has 31 replies.
What does it mean when A Libra girl ignores you then talks to you then ignores you again? I sent her a message on fb about something and then i realized I totally shouldn't have done that. and I felt horrible (she didn't respond to the first message so i could tell she didn't like what i said), then I sent her a message on fb again (it was like 2 days after), and I sincerely apologized, and she hasn't responded back at all.... Does she hate me? I didn't mean to mess anything up.... and now where i usually see her in school, I don't now this week and, I feel like she is avoiding me which, makes me feel that much worse about upsetting/annoying her if I did, I just want her to know how sorry I am, tomorrow i will be around her for a meeting for a club, should ignore her if she ignores me (we won't have the opportunity to talk but we will be siting in the same room so she might try to make eye contact with me) ? what do you suggest? and please give me serious answers cause I am unhappy about this.
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Posted by TasteOfChaos
What did you say on her FB wall?


It was a private message because i din't want to bother her and It was about how i have really enjoyed getting to know her, and if it was okay if i asked for her number, because i wanted to get to know her even more and that i think she is a really nice person and stuff along that lines.
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Posted by TasteOfChaos
Oh well that's ok... I thought you said something inappropriate! I know how brazen you Aries dudes can be sometimes Winking
Ummmm... If she has been ignoring you since that message it sounds like she is either not interested or is still trying to decide what to say...
We don't ignore people we really like...
Maybe just ignore her back... Walk past her and don't even give her eye contact!
Shell be thinking WTF? Libra is an air sign, you have to stimulate our minds first...
We like the weirdos Big Grin



alright thank you =) and i'll try that.
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*ahem* Is this the same chick that several of us women TOLD you to NOT message on FB to ask for her number, but rather wait and ask her in person, that you would come across creepy at worst and insecure at best? You created a whole thread dedicated to this very question.. then didn't take the advice given?
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LOL I'm not upset.. just feel a little sad.. cuz he REALLY liked this girl it seems... so I really hoped he'd get closer to her, and not get shut out before he had a chance to get under her skin teehee
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Posted by Nefer
LOL I'm not upset.. just feel a little sad.. cuz he REALLY liked this girl it seems... so I really hoped he'd get closer to her, and not get shut out before he had a chance to get under her skin teehee


I think i still have chance with her it's just I have to be more tactful in the way i approach her.....
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^^ Said the Libra chick. And she's right. Libras want what's not easy, what challenges them. And confidence ramps up the attraction ^_^
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Erm... I meant TOC. Whoops. lol
ame's the Aries chick who knows how driven and impatient you are.
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We're going to make this guy's head spin, I just know it LOL
You may be right, Ame... I doubt if many Aries are good at balancing the fun, flirty, challenging game with being open and honest and not a douchebag. I know my own Aries son has ONE direction.. Forward. And two speeds.. Fast and Faster. Glad he's got a lot of Aqua influences, though... maybe he can balance himself out eventually. He's 15, so he's got some time LOL
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Well, Yes i am under 18.... but alright i will cool my jets, learn some patience, and I will ignore her for a little but i promise i won't play too many games, and also I can comprehend the information your telling me it's just i thought i was being too stand offish which is what i was told by Many people on here, so then i tried to do something and now i went over board, which i understand... I will learn some balance and try to work this out, thanks for your advice but i guess it's my problem now because of my own impatience... so you guys agree on the ignoring thing right? I shouldn't apologize more right? cause that's what i want to do but that's probably going over board....
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Posted by amethyst2002
Posted by TasteOfChaos
but honestly, Libras love the mind games...


Really? Are you sure it's not just you? :p I thought you guys just got stubborn and mirrored that shit.
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Oh no.. they don't mirror everything.. mostly just your MOODS.. if you're unhappy, you'll make them unhappy.. if you're happy and upbeat, you'll make them feel good and want to be around you more.
But yeah, EVERY Libra I've ever known likes the mental stimulation.. the challenge.. the ones they have to work for, the ones they can't figure out right away. It's not PLAYING GAMES (with a bad connotation.. the bad ones are just selfish DOUCHES, not simply looking for mental stimulation!).. it's more like what I said... the push-pull, the closeness AND a bit of distance.. the hard-to-gets (BEING, not PLAYING).. basically, BALANCING the two... too much either way.. *poof* Libra's done blowing hot and cold and is simply.. cold. LOL
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Posted by FieryAries9
Well, Yes i am under 18.... but alright i will cool my jets, learn some patience, and I will ignore her for a little but i promise i won't play too many games, and also I can comprehend the information your telling me it's just i thought i was being too stand offish which is what i was told by Many people on here, so then i tried to do something and now i went over board, which i understand... I will learn some balance and try to work this out, thanks for your advice but i guess it's my problem now because of my own impatience... so you guys agree on the ignoring thing right? I shouldn't apologize more right? cause that's what i want to do but that's probably going over board....



Act non-chalant, aloof, indifferent... PLAY IT COOL.
Ignore her on Monday, talk to her on Tuesday... etc
Just dont devote your entire BEING and attention to her... look busy and you have a million other people to catch up with... like your time is precious...

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Alright I will follow this advice
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Posted by TasteOfChaos
Be CONFIDENT... but not arrogant.



also thank you for your advice it's very insightful.
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Posted by FieryAries9
Well, Yes i am under 18....


Aries has "ONE direction.. Forward. And two speeds.. Fast and Faster." My Aries son is almost 16, and pretty mature for his age.. and you DO remind me of him! Good thing he still listens to my advice about girls.. and didn't FB a girl from his old school (Jenny) to ask for her number.. it KILLED him, but he waited almost 2 weeks, until he went to visit his friend Anthony in our old town 25 miles away... so he could ask her in PERSON. (Now they text every night.. on MY phone... hmmm... what was *I* thinking?! lol)

Posted by FieryAries9
So you guys agree on the ignoring thing right? I shouldn't apologize more right? cause that's what i want to do but that's probably going over board....
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Okay.. don't ignore her to the point of being a jerk. Just to the point that says you AREN'T chasing her like a stalker. Just to the point that she KNOWS you aren't going out of your way to get her attention. NOT trying to get her attention will work a little better -- as long as you don't take it too far and be a dick. If she makes eye contact, look back at her, don't ACT like you don't see her. Don't ACT anything -- just cool your jets a little bit. If SHE initiates conversation, be warm and nice and funny, be as NORMAL and regular as you've always been with her, don't LET this FB thing make things weird between you two. And DON'T mention the FB screw up OR getting her number again yet. Let HER bring them up. Basically, you've let her know you are interested. So now let HER decide her next move, don't get impatient and try to MAKE something happen. Be her friend.. Libras LOVE to be Friends First. At the very least, you can maybe have a great friend in her. Libra and Aries ARE opposites.. there is often a huge attraction between the two, you're SO different!
And for the apologizing.. NO. You've already said it, and she KNOWS you're sorry. If you keep saying you're sorry, you will come across weak, needy, insecure, and lame. You DON'T want that.
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Posted by FieryAries9
Well, Yes i am under 18....


Aries has "ONE direction.. Forward. And two speeds.. Fast and Faster." My Aries son is almost 16, and pretty mature for his age.. and you DO remind me of him! Good thing he still listens to my advice about girls.. and didn't FB a girl from his old school (Jenny) to ask for her number.. it KILLED him, but he waited almost 2 weeks, until he went to visit his friend Anthony in our old town 25 miles away... so he could ask her in PERSON. (Now they text every night.. on MY phone... hmmm... what was *I* thinking?! lol)

Posted by FieryAries9
So you guys agree on the ignoring thing right? I shouldn't apologize more right? cause that's what i want to do but that's probably going over board....


Okay.. don't ignore her to the point of being a jerk. Just to the point that says you AREN'T chasing her like a stalker. Just to the point that she KNOWS you aren't going out of your way to get her attention. NOT trying to get her attention will work a little better -- as long as you don't take it too far and be a dick. If she makes eye contact, look back at her, don't ACT like you don't see her. Don't ACT anything -- just cool your jets a little bit. If SHE initiates conversation, be warm and nice and funny, be as NORMAL and regular as you've always been with her, don't LET this FB thing make things weird between you two. And DON'T mention the FB screw up OR getting her number again yet. Let HER bring them up. Basically, you've let her know you are interested. So now let HER decide her next move, don't get impatient and try to MAKE something happen. Be her friend.. Libras LOVE to be Friends First. At the very least, you can maybe have a great friend in her. Libra and Aries ARE opposites.. there is often a huge attraction between the two, you're SO different!
And for the apologizing.. NO. You've already said it, and she KNOWS you're sorry. If you keep saying you're sorry, you will come across weak, needy, insecure, and lame. You DON'T want that.
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alright this clears up a lot but now makes me feel like an idiot but thank you this is so insightful it helps me put things in perspective.
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Heh... apparently Mom's slow or got confused.. not Jenny.. he's over Jenny.. it's was Summer! So I checked her FB cuz I'm curious... glad she has her birth date public, since I'm not her friend.. she's a Leo, on the Virgo cusp LOL So she's not a Libra... but she IS a girl and probably would have found it creepy for a guy to ask for her number on FB. Guys are different about that.. 99% of guys would probably be STOKED if some girl asked for his number, whether it was by email, FB, through a friend, or by messenger pigeon LMAO The GUYS are flattered by that kind of interest and bit of proactive aggression or initiation.. girls, not so much.
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Posted by Nefer
Heh... apparently Mom's slow or got confused.. not Jenny.. he's over Jenny.. it's was Summer! So I checked her FB cuz I'm curious... glad she has her birth date public, since I'm not her friend.. she's a Leo, on the Virgo cusp LOL So she's not a Libra... but she IS a girl and probably would have found it creepy for a guy to ask for her number on FB. Guys are different about that.. 99% of guys would probably be STOKED if some girl asked for his number, whether it was by email, FB, through a friend, or by messenger pigeon LMAO The GUYS are flattered by that kind of interest and bit of proactive aggression or initiation.. girls, not so much.


yea that's true I'm probably being over aggressive about it.
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NOOOOOOOO you aren't an idiot.. you're just an impatient, fiery Aries - I live with one! And I certainly don't want to imply you're an idiot.. you're just young, and there's a cure for that HAHA
Us ladies will always do our level BEST to steer you in the right direction! We aren't here to mess with your mind or see how confused we can get you. We want to HELP you, not HARM you!
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Posted by Nefer
NOOOOOOOO you aren't an idiot.. you're just an impatient, fiery Aries - I live with one! And I certainly don't want to imply you're an idiot.. you're just young, and there's a cure for that HAHA
Us ladies will always do our level BEST to steer you in the right direction! We aren't here to mess with your mind or see how confused we can get you. We want to HELP you, not HARM you!


Well thank you, you really have helped.
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Posted by amethyst2002
You're not an idiot, but it's okay to feel like one. How else are you gonna learn? Winking
I say this because this is just how Aries ends up learning a lot of life's lessons. :p


Also at Nefer and TasteodChaos, i will get the chance to see her Friday, but it will be the first time i have seen her since the fb incident, it's almost a week after it, and she has been out sick Sad, I wanted to tell her to get better but i didn't want to come off as a creeper? do you think i should post on her fb get better or no? and also when i see her friday should i just ignore her, or go up and be like hey, how are you feeling?, i missed you, etc or no?
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if she didn't say anything, she might not have even seen your messages. i've given up on sending them to my brother because he never looks. he's about you're age. or maybe she did and she isn't interested. or maybe your bluntness made her uncomfortable.
either way, it was definitely a bad approach. even if she likes you, you don't know each other well enough for her to give you her number. libras aren't phone people. we're face to face people. you should've just tried harder to get to know her in person for a while.
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Posted by TasteOfChaos
Dont ignore her... but let HER make the first contact...
Ball is in her court... leave it there for now.
AND... DONT say "I missed you"


Alright I will take your advice.
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Posted by curious visitor
if she didn't say anything, she might not have even seen your messages. i've given up on sending them to my brother because he never looks. he's about you're age. or maybe she did and she isn't interested. or maybe your bluntness made her uncomfortable.
either way, it was definitely a bad approach. even if she likes you, you don't know each other well enough for her to give you her number. libras aren't phone people. we're face to face people. you should've just tried harder to get to know her in person for a while.


hmm maybe but yea i was overly impatient and i have to deal with it...
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Posted by FieryAries9
Also at Nefer and TasteodChaos, i will get the chance to see her Friday, but it will be the first time i have seen her since the fb incident, it's almost a week after it, and she has been out sick Sad, I wanted to tell her to get better but i didn't want to come off as a creeper? do you think i should post on her fb get better or no? and also when i see her friday should i just ignore her, or go up and be like hey, how are you feeling?, i missed you, etc or no?


I agree with ToC here. Don't be rude or mean or anything just don't go out of your way to be nice either. If you see her in passing wave or say hi... acknowledge her, but don't lay down and beg! You've already said more than enough, let it ride for a bit. And definitely don't apologize anymore, that combined with thoughts of telling her you miss her or writing for her to get better just sound clingy and needy. You don't know her enough to have missed her.
What image should you be giving off? It's okay that she didn't respond. It doesn't matter. It's her loss. You are not mad or hurt that she didn't respond. You have other stuff to do anyway. That is what I think others have meant when they said appear confident. More importantly, this shouldn't be just an image. It really is okay that she didn't respond... there's a lot of people out there, don't lose sleep over one who doesn't share your interest.
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Everything you do, you should do in person...lay off the FB dude!!! Unless she wants to talk to you thru it, dont even go there again.
I've been offline for months now because I really dont want to talk to half the people that talk to me on FB regularly...sometimes it can be a pain!! If you're there and she wants to converse with you she will but DONT you initiate it!!!
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Posted by FieryAries9
Also at Nefer and TasteodChaos, i will get the chance to see her Friday, but it will be the first time i have seen her since the fb incident, it's almost a week after it, and she has been out sick Sad, I wanted to tell her to get better but i didn't want to come off as a creeper? do you think i should post on her fb get better or no? and also when i see her friday should i just ignore her, or go up and be like hey, how are you feeling?, i missed you, etc or no?


I agree with ToC here. Don't be rude or mean or anything just don't go out of your way to be nice either. If you see her in passing wave or say hi... acknowledge her, but don't lay down and beg! You've already said more than enough, let it ride for a bit. And definitely don't apologize anymore, that combined with thoughts of telling her you miss her or writing for her to get better just sound clingy and needy. You don't know her enough to have missed her.
What image should you be giving off? It's okay that she didn't respond. It doesn't matter. It's her loss. You are not mad or hurt that she didn't respond. You have other stuff to do anyway. That is what I think others have meant when they said appear confident. More importantly, this shouldn't be just an image. It really is okay that she didn't respond... there's a lot of people out there, don't lose sleep over one who doesn't share your interest.
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Alright thank you this makes sense.
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Posted by sweethearts
Everything you do, you should do in person...lay off the FB dude!!! Unless she wants to talk to you thru it, dont even go there again.
I've been offline for months now because I really dont want to talk to half the people that talk to me on FB regularly...sometimes it can be a pain!! If you're there and she wants to converse with you she will but DONT you initiate it!!!


yea now i realize that.
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Posted by amethyst2002
I have a feeling things aren't sinking in, here...
It's been repeated a zillion times- just be indifferent and casual.


actually they are... I have just been being cautious.
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Posted by TasteOfChaos
Good... suppress the fire within you young one!
Treat her like you would just any other girl, she is only your friend at the moment... so just be her friend! Libras prefer to build a solid friendship first anyway...


alright i will, and i will keep that in mind.
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Posted by size zero superhero
Most often, a Libra will make it obvious when they're interested. However we go about it in a way that does not reek of over-enthusiasm. The lot of us consider deliberately drawing immense attention to oneself to be uncouth behavior.
The subtlety throws in-your-face type individuals off. Other signs which act in an understated manner (like Taurus, Pisces, Aquarius) can sense our intentions more easily.


cool,thanks for the advice
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LOL.. you Libras should cut this little Aries some slack.. great advice but somewhat confusing.. some of you just can get enough attention huh? Tongue
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