still confused
This topic was created in the Libra forum by browneyedgirl on Sunday, December 3, 2006 and has 7 replies.
tell him you want to spend some time with his asap.
Libras reinvent themselves.
I just went through a MAJOR reinvention. It often means reevaluation interests, new hobbies, changing style s, meeting new people, and leaving some of the old ones behind. This is kind of how we evolve. We drop an old identity and form a completely new one that is more inline with who we are.
Usually when a Libra is in love, we try to adapt to our new lovers identity. When we are no longer in love, we peel back the layers to our underlying self. This must appear confusing to the observer although I think my closest friends are more fascinated by the process than worried.
I think most Libras are multi-faceted, multi-talented, and have multi-interests.
And remember, just because he is rocking your boat does not mean he is rocking his own. He may be in upheaval for a few months but he will come back down as a new person stronger than the last.
And you can't really guide a Libra through it. He is making his own way. He may have even met someone who has sparked a reinvention.
In your case, I sincerely believe he thinks you want more from him than friendship. I believe he knows you are in love with him and that is more than he can or is willing to give you. He probably sincerely cares about you and may even love you, as a friend, but knows that it cannot work out between you romantically. He is probably backing off to protect you down the road. I have cut off friendships for this reason and would do so again.
I just went through a MAJOR reinvention. It often means reevaluation interests, new hobbies, changing style s, meeting new people, and leaving some of the old ones behind. This is kind of how we evolve. We drop an old identity and form a completely new one that is more inline with who we are.
Usually when a Libra is in love, we try to adapt to our new lovers identity. When we are no longer in love, we peel back the layers to our underlying self. This must appear confusing to the observer although I think my closest friends are more fascinated by the process than worried.
I think most Libras are multi-faceted, multi-talented, and have multi-interests.
And remember, just because he is rocking your boat does not mean he is rocking his own. He may be in upheaval for a few months but he will come back down as a new person stronger than the last.
And you can't really guide a Libra through it. He is making his own way. He may have even met someone who has sparked a reinvention.
In your case, I sincerely believe he thinks you want more from him than friendship. I believe he knows you are in love with him and that is more than he can or is willing to give you. He probably sincerely cares about you and may even love you, as a friend, but knows that it cannot work out between you romantically. He is probably backing off to protect you down the road. I have cut off friendships for this reason and would do so again.
we are so damn naive pls remember. May be he is wondering if you are in love with him or is it just his imaginations. Unless a girl tells me openly that she loves me, I keep wondering even if I am having a relationship with her at that time.
I agree with Sparrow and thelibran of course. Sometimes I am baffled at how naive a libr man can be. You will probably have to spell it out for him. He might be trying to protect you and not be interested in you in that way (like sparrow said)or he might now know if you really are and instead of him just asking he might be waiting on you (the good old waiting game)remember coast, coast, coast along. Either way he will find a respectful and diplomatic way to tell you where you might be like "I should be hurt by this, but for some reason I'm not". They can change any wrong to a right. One of the things I love about them...
I act like that when I got hurt badly. Did someone hurt him (physically or emotionally)?
OK, Here is the scoop. He broke up with an ex 2 mos ago finally for good. We started as friends and I helped him through that. I have been divorced from my libra ex for a year now (he is still in love with me).
My new Libra friend and I initially got really close, then we crossed the line a time or two. Towards the beginning he told me he was starting to get emotional about us and he knew that was bad for us both because neither of us needed or were ready for that. I totally agreed and still do, however, we remained friends and kept the great sex going. Then he decided to abstain from sex - that lasted 3 days - he called for a sleep over.
Recently, we both ended up at a Kappa party (He is a nupe) and some of his frats were talking to me, he did give me the stare down and a grin, but didn't really and shouldn't have been acting jealous as he was constantly swarmed by females the whole night. I, having lots of experience with Libras, didn't mind, and we aren't a couple anyway and niether did we come together. After that he has did the holding sex thing again and acting distant. I see him at the gym every morning but lately we haven't really spoken, just waved or say hi.
I emailed him yesterday letting him know I would like to talk to him about something (a week after the incident) no response. We have a great sexual and emotional connection but niether of us are ready to take it to the next level.
I miss my buddy though. I can totally deal with just being friends, that is how we started - without the sex, although I will miss that too.
Help!!!
My new Libra friend and I initially got really close, then we crossed the line a time or two. Towards the beginning he told me he was starting to get emotional about us and he knew that was bad for us both because neither of us needed or were ready for that. I totally agreed and still do, however, we remained friends and kept the great sex going. Then he decided to abstain from sex - that lasted 3 days - he called for a sleep over.
Recently, we both ended up at a Kappa party (He is a nupe) and some of his frats were talking to me, he did give me the stare down and a grin, but didn't really and shouldn't have been acting jealous as he was constantly swarmed by females the whole night. I, having lots of experience with Libras, didn't mind, and we aren't a couple anyway and niether did we come together. After that he has did the holding sex thing again and acting distant. I see him at the gym every morning but lately we haven't really spoken, just waved or say hi.
I emailed him yesterday letting him know I would like to talk to him about something (a week after the incident) no response. We have a great sexual and emotional connection but niether of us are ready to take it to the next level.
I miss my buddy though. I can totally deal with just being friends, that is how we started - without the sex, although I will miss that too.
Help!!!
From my pov, it seems like he is interested in you, but unsure if the feelings are mutual. So, when he sees you flirting or stuff with other people (even partying), he gets a very upset feeling, because he wants you to acknowledge him.
And the best way to get away from that feeling is actually burning the bridges for a while.
So, imho, the worst thing you can do is ignoring him. Don't get on his nerves, but show him you care and that you miss him. You have to make sure you talk earnestly (Libras can detect lies pretty good - even if it's just a white lie or not being 100% earnest) and be nice. But also straightforward, just not too much.
And the best way to get away from that feeling is actually burning the bridges for a while.
So, imho, the worst thing you can do is ignoring him. Don't get on his nerves, but show him you care and that you miss him. You have to make sure you talk earnestly (Libras can detect lies pretty good - even if it's just a white lie or not being 100% earnest) and be nice. But also straightforward, just not too much.
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