Thank you!

Thank you, DXP.

yeah. what she said.

🙂

Thank you DXP.. not sure what for.. maybe just for being here.. YUP! Thank you!

Look at you little miss all the excitement! You missed an idiot named suvant.

Oh so that's what this is for...

Oh no.. I saw him here jumpin on HP.. I had a few words.. but then I got off and I was not sure what happened after that.. one of my posts was to HP apologizing for my insensitivity to her.. then today it was gone..

What thread was this idiot suvant on and what did they say to my sista HP!!!!

😛

It's all good.

hee @ QS ready to rumble long after the fight ended.

🙂

BTW, to anyone interested. I just came back from my post-op visit with the OB/Gyn and the biopsy came back normal but I still have minor complications which my doc and I are discussing the best options. Good news is the biopsy is normal - that was the heaviest on my mind.

So again, thank you to everyone keeping me in their DXPthoughts. 🙂

YAY!

That is wonderful news HP! If I had champagne, I would toast to your good health.

I do think Libras can get a little jealous. We have egos. If our egos get bruised, we get hurt. I think we can also talk ourselves out of jealousy. I haven't experienced a lot of jealousy in my life but it has happened on occassion. I don't think any of my exs would say I was a jealous person. I am pretty trusting and generally believe the best.

Ooophs. I posted that in the wrong spot. lol!

mmmm ... where did I see that message?

No problem. 😛

I'm just wondering where Mr. Libra is going with all of his inquiries. I mentioned to him about the Scott Wolf look alike (in text of course) and he replied asking what Jeremy was to me. I dodged the question. I replied with a very vague response and his reply was "You still didn't say. What is Jeremy to you? And what am I to you in this case?"

I turned the question around like Libras are good at doing and I asked "What do you want to be to me?"

His reply (keep in mind, I was having with this because I figured I hit a nerve): "You are still avoiding my questions. And you kind of didn't answer as to what do you consider me in this case. Nice tactic, but not working this time."

Soooo, I reply back "I really don't see why you think I'm avoiding your questions. What am I not answering for you?"

He replied "For the 3rd or 4th time, I asked you what do consider me. I am either a lover or friend or whatever else you consider me to be (and you can't answer a question with a question)"

This morning he sent me a text message sayign good morning and happy Friday and also he "said" this:

"BTW, just to get your mind off of things...I didn't forget that you didn't answer my questions and how you dodged my question about what you thought of me"

So ladies, there you go...decipher for me.

OH! Bad boy! He doesn't like someone else playing with his toys.

Good on him for being aggressive about it though! Very unlibra like.

BTW I would totally do what he is doing and turn it around on you and make you decide what we are.

Be honest ... I like you very much and am very attracted to you but you never have time for me. As a result .... fill in your own blanks here. ... Unless that changes ....

I have told him how I feel/felt about him. I believe I told you guys that...we had a talk maybe 6 weeks ago where I asked him where he saw it going and that's when he turned it around on me and asked me where I saw it going.

So yes, he knows how I feel. that's why I was having a little fun with those text messages at first, but then he started showing signs of jealousy (or what I think is jealousy).

"I like you very much and am very attracted to you but you never have time for me. As a result .... fill in your own blanks here. ... Unless that changes ...."


Yeah, I went this route, too....we tried the FWB thing, but that only happened once for me then decided I couldn't do that. He was leery about getting too involved with me if we did that - or should I say he was leery about me getting too involved. So part of me thinks that he realizes that when I said I can turn feelings off and on wasn't just part of my speech, it actually is true...to an extent.

He was definelty jealous. He no like no competition.

Libras, for being such unfeeling bastards, can be quite sensitive with those we like/love.

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I went through a similar song and dance with my Libra in the beginning. We had been seeing each other for about 3 weeks, when he said something to this effect:

"I really like you a lot. I think we have a great connection. Do you think we could be in a serious relationship and still keep things open?"

Me: "Open as in sleeping with other people?"

Him: "Yes. If I meet someone and share a connection with them, I don't want to limit myself to the experience of sleeping with them."

Me: "Ok, well then I get to sleep with other people too. And if I do, chances are I'll find someone who shares my desire to be in a committed relationship, and I'll have to say good-bye to you. So, no, I don't think that would work in the long run."

Him: "That's true, I didn't think about that. I wouldn't like it at all if you were with other guys."

SO...that is why I broke up with him - a few months later. It was really strange b/c he started talking about a serious relationship so quickly (I wasn't ready for that!) and at the same time wanted to keep his options open. We never declared the serious relationship thing, and after a few months, I felt that I couldn't trust it b/c of his expressed desire to keep things open. We were getting very close and I decided to bolt to avoid getting hurt. Of course, as soon as I said the open relationship wouldn't work for me, he changed his mind about it (if he ever really wanted it in the first place), but I didn't KNOW that in my heart at the time.

So, yeah, they can be really confusing!!

Hmm, ammo...lots of similarities between yours and mine...maybe it's the Middle Eastern thing...who knows? You're is Mid.E, right? Can't keep everyone straight!

I just thought it was cute at first, but then I decided to back off because the more I avoided his question, the more he seemed to press me for an answer. And I hate to be pressured. I thought about sending a reply that said something like "Aww...it's cute how jealous you get", but figured that would be the wrong thing to say, so I haven't replied yet this morning.

He is Moroccan, which is Arabic and Muslim.

I wouldn't accuse him of being jealous - he will be offended at that I think. If you are really into him, you may need to set up a time to talk and lay it all out for him. When I broke up w/ my Libra, this is what I did. I was very honest about why I was doing it, and that was the first time he really understood where I was coming from. It was hard, showing him that I had some insecurities, but in the end it led us to where we are now. It was kind of like he just needed to be told exactly what I wanted and then he was willing to do it. He hadn't slept with anyone else and didn't want to at the point I broke up with him. We were back together within a few weeks.... then I broke up with him again for another week or so. Poor guy!!! I broke up with him instead of discussing with him things I thought were a problem in our relationship.

Oh, Mr. Libra knows how I felt about him. I gave him plenty of opportunity. So I'm just not sure why the jealousy at this point and why he's insisting on me defining what he is to me.

But, yes, they are confusing.

Yeah, it has taken me until this point in the relationship to feel like I really understand him and I KNOW he is into me. 10 months to figure that out!!! But it keeps it interesting for sure.

What do you want with Mr. Libra at this point HP?

Not sure, LS. I was doing fine with his occasional text messaging and very infrequent phone calls. I'm sure I can continue to be fine, but I just wish I could figure out why he, after him saying he couldn't be what I wanted him to be to me right now, acted so jealous last night and this morning in his messages.

If it were me I would play.

How does one define perfection?

or whatever you want to put in there. Just be as ambigious as he is being.

probably better if it were complimentary AND ambiguous. he is set you up. now knock him out.

answer his question in an unexpected clever way.

it will have him pacing back and forth and will keep you on his mind.

and let him wonder if you are being facetious or truthful.

but be a little of both.

you know. .... I will just sit here and keep posting to myself until one of you comes on here and stops me!

give me suggestions....go back to that last post from his text this morning about him not forgetting that I still haven't answered his question...

I'm not any good with this kind of thing because I'm usually an "in your face" kinda gal.

HP what did the two text messages say exactly?

where did you post them? this thread?

Never mind found 'em.

You still didn't say. What is Jeremy to you? And what am I to you in this case?"

You are still avoiding my questions. And you kind of didn't answer as to what do you consider me in this case. Nice tactic, but not working this time."

"For the 3rd or 4th time, I asked you what do consider me. I am either a lover or friend or whatever else you consider me to be (and you can't answer a question with a question)"

""BTW, just to get your mind off of things...I didn't forget that you didn't answer my questions and how you dodged my question about what you thought of me"

Damn. He was more direct that I remembered him being.

yes those are it

Now, can you see why I'm confused?

his last message to me this morning was "Since you're avoiding my questions, Have a great day 😉"

I've sent a two more messages after that, but he hasn't responded, so I guess he's playing the "Let's see how long it takes for her to break" game.

What did you write him?

one was letting him know what the biopsy results were and the other was "Do you like it when ur pants vibrate?" he said he was going into a group meeting and he puts his phone on vibrate in meetings.

LOL!

You are cute HP.

H AHAHA HA

so you gonna help me with a response to his questions? I don't want to answer because I cna't answer. What can i reply with to keep him on his toes?

hmmmm .... my thoughts on you? aren't all thoughts fleeting?

or

I have many thoughts about you.

who is anyone to anyone?

that is all I can come up with at the moment. Just keep evading.

HP..I turned the question around like Libras are good at doing and I asked "What do you want to be to me?"

Hi5! Chic.. Good one! I was laffin when I read this. Sounds exactly like something my libra said last week. Good usage of words. And my libra is the same exact way. He will not let it go if he has asked about my status with another guy, until I tell him. This morning I was telling him about this guy who is trying to sell me a laptop.. he goes "who is this guy someone you're dating".. WHAT? just bc the guy is trying to sell me a computer we are dating? See that is how they think once you bring up another guys name.. Instantly, it is someone your dating or sexing..

I would keep him intruiged.. Maybe say something like, "Well he has made it clear he is interested in me". Keep him wondering what you are thinking about this guy, while still answering his question. What'cha think?