The Libra man in my life...

is the best ever. Well actually he isn't in my life yet. He is smart, reserved, polite, respectful, uber-caring(like most libras).

My libra is 38 yrs old man and asian (He is a Libra, his moon is either cancer or gemini as I don't know at what time he was born. I am a 24 yrs old woman and caucasian, I am a scorpio with my moon in sagittarius and leo rising.

I have know him since Feb. of this year. We go to the same gym. We went out for a walk at the mountain after 4-5 weeks of knowing each other. It was great a nice afternoon.

About 10 days after the mountain event, I asked him to go grab a quick bite after work to which he responded:

Him:"You mean after the gym??"
Me: "Well you could miss a work out?"
Him: "Well you know that after work I always go to the gym and same with you, we are both always here after work!!"
Me: "Well I'd take a day off!"
Him: "I'll tell you what, let's play it by ear!"

Anyways after that things were a bit odd, I would say for about the next week or so...I'll never know whether circumstances made it so that we say each other maybe once or so...As it happens I was truly very busy that week with work and couldn't attend the gym as usual.

Anyways a few days past by, about 10 days since the "quick bite incident" and things were slowly coming back to how they were originally.

Now we have a routine...he comes to say "Hi" to me at the gym when he sees me and we chit chat about what we did...when the convo is usually about me only and he also always makes it a point to come and see me before leaving. I have learned to give him quite some space and it seems to work.

I mean for example yesterday, I got to the gym later than usual and when I got there he had finished his routine.

I started talking with this girl and he didn't interrupt us, he actually waited by that I was done talking to say bye to me which I thought was the cutest thing ever! I had a guy friend standing by a bit further and he saw my Libra actually pace for left to right to wait to say bye to me!!!

Any Libras out there or Scorpios that can give me some insight!!!

BTW me thinks he is still a Virgin...which btw I don't care about!!!! 🙂
My venus is in Scorpio....I'll take care of the fun part when I and If I get to it!!!! lol

MMmmmm dont mean to rain on your parade but check he hasn't got a wife or significant other.
Most libra man flirt but things are often slow to develop if they ave a partner.

The general feeling is that he is interested. We flirt with everyone but he is doing certain things to show his interest. The big one is waiting until you finished your conversation to come say goodbye. If he wasn't really interested he would have walked by (making sure you saw him) and given a casual passing goodbye. The pacing back and forth waiting is a definite sign. Many of us are incredibly shy once we take an interest. We are also painfully slow at making decisions. I can imagine what was going through his mind while he was pacing.

Should I keep waiting...
Maybe I should just go...
Do I look desperate...
No I'm fine...
She likes me...
A few more minutes..
Maybe I should go...
Oh look she's done...

Many Libras are also creatures of habit. It comes from our desire for balance. Once we find a routine that works we stick to it. We can change patterns and habits but remember we are slow at making decisions. That could be why your suggestion to break the routine (exercising right after work everyday) seemed so awkward to him.

Most Libra men wouldn't mind (we actually like it) if the girl is a little aggressive. The key word is a little. Let him chase a little but reward him when he does. We have to know that we are desired and and you can see from the thought pattern above, we doubt that when we are interested.

I know that someone is going to come in and say something about insecurity or low self esteem. Please do not confuse the thought patterns above with bad self esteem. We are generally confident people and once we make a decision we take action. The hard part is making sure our decision is the right one.

Posted by FemmeScorpion
MMmmmm dont mean to rain on your parade but check he hasn't got a wife or significant other.
Most libra man flirt but things are often slow to develop if they ave a partner.

Things can be slow to develop anyway.

I for one, would NEVER cheat on a partner (married or not). I hate that Libras have a reputation for cheating. We do flirt a lot but it is usually innocent... that's just how we communicate. Yes, some Libras do cheat but that can be said of any group of people.

@Librasid: OMG...you have portrayed him so well..I always feel like there is an immense amount of tension in the air when we speak to each other. Librasid, thank you very much for this much appreciated insight! Very interesting...I'll just let him take his time...after all he is worth it...other than the slow process he is always so respectful, polite even tries to be funny...which is cute because he isn't always successful at it!!!! 🙂

I am a Scorpio so I can be very intense, but I also have a moon in Sagi...I think that he is drawn to my Scorp side which is mysterious, I am not one to talk a lot about myself (the real me; what I do for a living; about my parents) but yet he always questions me and he has this way of doing it where at times I feel naked because when he asks me a question about my work for example; well i ll answer vaguely and then he ll be like oh but whats the name of the company and then i ll reply and then he ll be like what do you guys and then ill say : ?? its boring, we take care of this and that ?? and then he ll say no its not boring so do you guys distribute the products and??_and then ill go on explaining more freely what it is we really do??_

I couldn't do this to him..I'd be like what is it you do and if he replied something like sales rep...I'd be like cool, do you like it..he'd say yes...I'd be like "cool" again. You see what I mean...I am very curious but at the same time I feel rather indiscreet about asking direct questions. I mean he knows precisely where I live, I still don't know because I haven't asked him.

@FemmeScorpion: I did question it in the beginning...like back in February that he was too perfect to be single or not gay! lol But I have got to know him and he really is a respectful and polite guy who's not taken and who's not gay.
Also don't forget that no one plays a Scorpio...if a sign is hiding something sooner or later we (Scorpios) will figure it out. Mystery, lies, deceptions are part of our evil side!!!

Posted by ScorpSage
@Librasid: OMG...you have portrayed him so well..I always feel like there is an immense amount of tension in the air when we speak to each other. Librasid, thank you very much for this much appreciated insight! Very interesting...I'll just let him take his time...after all he is worth it...other than the slow process he is always so respectful, polite even tries to be funny...which is cute because he isn't always successful at it!!!! 🙂

I am a Scorpio so I can be very intense, but I also have a moon in Sagi...I think that he is drawn to my Scorp side which is mysterious, I am not one to talk a lot about myself (the real me; what I do for a living; about my parents) but yet he always questions me and he has this way of doing it where at times I feel naked because when he asks me a question about my work for example; well i ll answer vaguely and then he ll be like oh but whats the name of the company and then i ll reply and then he ll be like what do you guys and then ill say : ?? its boring, we take care of this and that ?? and then he ll say no its not boring so do you guys distribute the products and??_and then ill go on explaining more freely what it is we really do??_

I couldn't do this to him..I'd be like what is it you do and if he replied something like sales rep...I'd be like cool, do you like it..he'd say yes...I'd be like "cool" again. You see what I mean...I am very curious but at the same time I feel rather indiscreet about asking direct questions. I mean he knows precisely where I live, I still don't know because I haven't asked him.

Once you have the basics down and you are comfortable with his "current situation" (others suggest he may be involved with someone else) open up some. The tension you feel could be his nerves. If you are right about his "past experience" I imagine he'd be very nervous.

Libras are famous for our "courting" ability. We are generally very respectful, proper, polite, funny, gentlemen. Women eat this shit up! While I make a joke about it here, it is no joke to us. It is how we are.

The way you describe his questions is exactly how I am as well. We are not satisfied with a superficial understanding of something. Personally I find that people open up to me very quickly and have heard the "naked feeling" you mentioned frequently. It is not just with people though. I took a military ASVAB test in hi

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I took a military test in high school. I scored off the charts in everything except mechanical/automotive so I went and got a job in an auto shop and learned. We are very analytical and want to know what is really going on before we take action.

If you trust him, open up.

If you are interested, show it... none of that subtle crap either, we won't catch it.

If you have a question, ask... we love talking about ourselves. We also are great listeners and genuinely care what you are saying.

whamt makes you think he ks a virgin, esp. at 38 for a libra man thats kinda odd but im not judgin no one

Posted by coorkie
Maybe I'm not ready for a relationship... Something just keeps telling me to back off, to close off, to end it... But there is no one logical or rational explanation behind the feeling besides the fact that I'm terrified of lettin it all go for him (or anyone) and getting my insides pulled out and held in front of me to see.

x_X

I have issues.

There is a lot more than what is being said here, but if you don't think you are ready for a relationship, don't do it.

You should not have a fear of opening up in a relationship. What would you have to let go of? A good relationship will develop naturally.

He's not interested. I say this because he distanced himself after you asked him out. If he was interested, he would have counter offered. He is now hanging out and talking to you because he figures you are over him and it is safe. He probably likes you as a person, but doesn't want to get nakid with you.

Coorkie

Some Libra are gluttons for punishment. We can shoulder a lot of abuse before we shut a person out. if the person shows us a change we can move on like it didn't happen... for a while.

As to your questions, "The thing is, I'm wondering if he's capable of playing me as a way to get back at me and teach me a lesson..." Anything is possible but that is not typical Libran behavior. I do not hold grudges and would never lead someone along just so I could hurt them... it just isn't right. I can forgive and look past a lot of faults for a long time. If the person continues to show that they are beyond help or that their only intention is to hurt me, I shut them out. At that point I have no more contact for ANY reason. I never realized that this was a common in Libras until I started reading around on here a week or two ago.

"I'm ready to ditch his ass at a drop of a dime buuuut... He's such a nice guy that I don't wanna miss out on him... " This is a terrible reason to want a relationship with him. Hopefully I don't offend you too much saying this but I hope (for his sake) he runs away from you. You don't want to be with HIM, you want the nice comfortable feeling he gives. He is a good guy and you think he may be a smart choice but you are already talking abut "ditching his ass" and hurting him again. I have been on his side of this before and it is a bad place to be.

If you want to explore the possibility of a future with him, slow down. You have known each other for a few years and he hasn't ditched you yet, he isn't going anywhere. Be his friend.