The ups and Downs of being a Libra

This topic was created in the Libra forum by MissFury91 on Thursday, March 21, 2013 and has 33 replies.
Do any of you feel like it's hard being a libra sometimes? Being judged for being too nice, when those who comment have no idea of the inner struggle that comes with being diplomatic? Why does it seem that we are often the most underated of the signs? Aries and Scorpio, ruled by mars are seen as the warriors of the zodiac typically. Though every sign is special in it's own way, I think we librans understand the nature of the warrior in a unique, duel-sided fashion. I honestly believe that most who were born under the libra star were once warriors in a past life. But now we understand the emotional side of war in this life, considering we put peace and harmony above all else. And if any libra lives long enough, we will all learn that before there can be true peace... Peace within ourselves and peace with others, war will have to proceed first. I think many of us will find ourselves hating conflict, but always in the middle of it. Why? Because in some way, we are diplomat and soldier all in one. Two extremes, this is what truly keeps us in search of balance at the end of the day.
I'm sorry, but that's a lot of B.S,
Most libras I know just can't admit that they put the wrong priorities first before anything else and call it being fair, they do too much, but don't calm down to do step by step things, ur not going to finish everything, and you can't please everybody, get use to it, u balance so much but could never make a decision about anything, but yet u call it fair, you guys worry so much about so little, but don't have the heart to say no to anything, then u miss out on a lot and blame other people for your own slow ways of doing things
Posted by SweetLibra
I don't think I find it hard per say, but we do struggle at times. It can be very difficult to find the balance at times. Staying balanced is the biggest struggle for me. But I'll tell you Missfury that the older you get the less you care about what others think of you when they get it wrong. The more secure and comfortable you get with yourself that will shine through and the conflicts become few and far between. We can't expect a life with no conflicts. They are bound to happen. Focus your energy internally and build yourself up so that people can not tear you down. The ones who can see the work you've done will get it and appreciate it. The rest you don't worry about.


I hope at some point I do stop caring. I always welcome the conflict because I try to trust in myself enough that I can make way for justice, fairness, and equality to prevail. it doesn't always happen, but I NEVER stop trying. EVER. But comments like the one above (not sweetlibra) is what frustrates me so. I guess this was why I left DXPnet at first. This place seemed to be a mirror of how diverse, yet unfair and insensitive the world can be. Why can we work to understand each other better? I suppose it sounds silly to those who view themselves as "Realists", but I promised myself that no matter how hard life gets, never to let those experiences harden my heart, and to always trust that justice and harmony will prevail.
Thanks Sweetlbra

My BFF is a libra and trying to get her to understand that u can't please everyone is hard for her to do, it's like she has to do it to keep peace, but life is about give and take, love and pain, that's true balance otherwise life would be torture without it, you have took take something away in order to get something back
This is base on what I have seen, and what was told to me, and I based it on what I think, it all goes to the pint that libras need to please people, when they should be pleasing themselves first, you can't balance everybody if your not balance yourself, who's being fair in that fact, no one cause in the end u still end up being disappointed just for the simple fact that the balance is off
^^^^^^ that's what I'm talking about
If one can except that one can't change the world, but to except it for what it is, balance will come, ignorance will follow those that try to seek otherwise instead of trusting what's In front of them not trying to worry about what others think and taking a decade to decide what's right and wrong
Yo, this post blew up! My computer had like, 6 trojan horses earlier.... So i had to take care of that.
I see where taurusnikki is coming from, because all the taurians in my life are like that. They truly don't get us, but that's okay. I can't concieve the notion of simply accepting that you can't change the world, or that you should accept things as is. To me, this idea of "Accepting" is complacency. For me that isn't good enough. I think most librans draw the line somewhere, sure we can spread ourselves too thin, but i think in some ways we are backwards. Most other signs might need to put themselves first in order to become more balanced, but i find that for librans, we need to put others first, and in that we find our balance. This doesn't mean that we constantly need to please others, if anything it's just as fruitful for us as it is for the other person. I view "People pleasing" as allowing yourself to be taken advantage of so people will like you.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
welcome back SS91 (I'm that guy that shares your birthday)
my memory of you = a fiery, argumentative girl .. looks like you've calmed down a lot ^^
later



What up? where u been, man?
Loves libra here, most of my friends are libra tho. Witty, chatty and classy and never felt bored with them.
Posted by Leeeebra
Posted by TaurusNikki
If one can except that one can't change the world, but to except it for what it is, balance will come, ignorance will follow those that try to seek otherwise instead of trusting what's In front of them not trying to worry about what others think and taking a decade to decide what's right and wrong


So what? it's their decade, not yours, why do you worry about it silly promoter of no worries? and are you? truly? worry about it?
Only those who genuinely care gets to worry about it, and girl, it aint you.
That's truth within that one inch you understand. Winking

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The same reason your worried about my statement, if it don't pertain to you, then why are u so worried about it, did I hit a nerve, I guess so, I can care less about what your so call theory of your mind states what I am or not, good luck with that thinking process, another decaded coming, it's my say and what I say goes, obviously u can't handle what I said which mean you a don't understand or try to get others opinions, which at in this case it ain't you, the only truth I see is what's left of the scales that weigh u down, and that's enough to let me know how selfish the brain is
I love my BFF who is the best libra girl I know, I absolutely adore her, but sometimes I wish she would say no, and stop people pleasing others for the sake of peace, when I know she has a voice, and the only time I see her get take that option is when someone pisses her off, and believe me I just love it when she shuts someone down, it's fraking beautiful
My male libra friend, he's ok, but at times he hides things from me, like last night, we were going out to dinner and he told he some personal things thati could have sworn that he told me everything about or at least that's what he said he did, but anyway he had a breakthrough and confess everything to me, and get way he did.......because he was afraid if I got to know the real hi that I would leave the friendship, cause I haven't been around to hangout with him, plus I had a feeling he was hiding something, it's like he had to please me in order to be liked, which I hate because u don't know the real person, my libra BFF never did that to me, she told me straight who she was, but the libra guy just let loose, and in the end I told him I'll still be his friend but the lies and false advertising has to go, or I'm gone
I doubt you know what anybody needs, and the same goes for me, to even think that u really know what people need is a joke, everbody needs to figure out for themselves what they want period, all anybody can do is be a listening ear and give their opinion, whether they take the advice or not, I highly doubt with the inability you have shown for others opinion would be acceptable to others in that matter, there are two sides to everything, if you can't understand that, your help is useless, which brings me back to the form of balance, it would be reccomended to get both instead of one, no one can be right or wrong, but to put your justification on another persons insite is ridiculous, without just cause to understand reason
Posted by Leeeebra
Posted by TaurusNikki
I doubt you know what anybody needs, and the same goes for me, to even think that u really know what people need is a joke, everbody needs to figure out for themselves what they want period, all anybody can do is be a listening ear and give their opinion, whether they take the advice or not, I highly doubt with the inability you have shown for others opinion would be acceptable to others in that matter, there are two sides to everything, if you can't understand that, your help is useless, which brings me back to the form of balance, it would be reccomended to get both instead of one, no one can be right or wrong, but to put your justification on another persons insite is ridiculous, without just cause to understand reason


Will you read your own comment from the first of this thread and this one? you are wearing Libra now, that is ridiculous, ridiculous is a tangible thing that can be actually displayed, and you are displaying it. There is no point or view or stand in your comment because that point or view or stand can be manipulated any min to suit your need to "win" an argument. What you have is an agenda, serving a hideous thing called ego, and ego can be beautiful, when it strive to be the best one can be, but when it is not, when it's out to twist truth to feed that insatiable hunger.
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Depends on who s ridiculous it what appears to be a point of view in which u don't understand, as it states ego, is a self portrait of ones insecurity of ones one fear to accept one self, u can only manipulate ones own view to may your own point true, to manipulate anyone is a form of control, to secure ones own right to be satisfied to gets wants or right to someones emotions just for the sake of getting what you want, there is a lot of point to what I said otherwise u wouldn't even comment, I would be a waste of time, in this case u find it time to comment on what u don't understand, once again the libra in you doesn't have balance, your way or my way is not the right way, it just a point of view in which I have, in this case u don't, to get any point would be for you to understand to agree to disagree, get over it, nothing u can say or do will change the world, live it the way u can, and screw the rest, you seem to have problems on the phase, which leads me
To believe that your ego card is showing, not good
Your B.S is another persons treasure, it's as simple as that, it's not that serious, for an intelligent point of view it's obvious your garden need flowers for they only have weeds to speak of, not only do u not water your garden u let I fend for itself which means your selfish, don't plant a seed and expect it to grow on its own, it's just not going to happen, to understand the balance you must be balanced yourself, the formality is not based on your formula of right or wrong it is base on your ego which is not the base of this thread, to stimulate your inner core, would be a waste of time since the scales are not even to stress the nature of your statement, the ridicule to which you state holds no merit, otherwise you would see that your justification of what others opinions are, isn't fact it is only ones point of view it which I'm strongly trying to get you to understand, but it's obvious that part of brain is not working, so in this case you could never be balanced, I pity the mind thats working right now, for it has no rewards in any statement you have shown to prove that what u write makes sense, or even legible to value other views, to which you could never be right, myself included, but at least I understand well enough to know that others have views, it's to,understand the other view to get the point, if no why even bother if u don't even value life and it's creation
leeeebra, I like your spirit, go on, girl! Winking
I think with taurus females, at some point they do stop getting along with libra females. this is not to say that true harmony and deep friendship can't be achieved, but i find that the taurus has to let go a lot and put herself in the librans place, and allow to feel cetain things that most taurians with simply put away. they aren't typically patient people, and i think to really develop a deep connetion with a libra, patience is key with us. but of course, this is only my opinion based on my experiences, as ms.taurusnikki has voiced her opinions based on hers.
I agree with that, I really have no patience, I can't stand waiting for things to happen, I rather make it happen myself, my libra BFF and I have been friends for 22 years, and she tells me a lot I have no patience, that's the bull and other Libra placements in my chart that battle with each other, i can only speak from my experience with libras, but funny thing we balance each other out, keeps things interesting
I have a libra moon, so I fight with myself to just accept for what is, very hard to do I must say
Posted by TaurusNikki
I agree with that, I really have no patience, I can't stand waiting for things to happen, I rather make it happen myself, my libra BFF and I have been friends for 22 years, and she tells me a lot I have no patience, that's the bull and other Libra placements in my chart that battle with each other, i can only speak from my experience with libras, but funny thing we balance each other out, keeps things interesting


I find that this is what keeps the taurus at battle with themselves, and when you are not getting along with yourself, you can't get along with others. Just as the libra has to ultimatly realize that you can't make everybody happy, the taurus must realize that you can't always make things happen yourself, and sometimes patience is the key to getting where you want to be. I do agree that once a taurus and a libra realize their issues, get real with themselves and each other, a true partnership will arise. Plus, there typically is a natural chemistry with the two, but it takes a lot of work to keep it together.
I doubt that you could be a better bully than me, for the simple fact that u even need to state that u would make one, for a scoprio placement, you wouldn't even need to stress that, sorry but I battle for a living and I never give up, i just let you hang yourself and watch, then tell ya ehat u did wrong, thats the only way you'll learn, good luck with the scales, Im always happy, if what I say hits a nerve good luck figuring yourself out, either take it or leave it,
Posted by Leeeebra
haha, now you are just lacking horns, which is silly, you'd be properly weighted and marked as seven stones no matter how you kicks them hoves, who the hell know how much is that. lol. cheers, have a good weekend, I'm off to my fishing trip, my mama just told me there is nothing but fish baits around, the sweet ladies would be without fabulous surprise fish, now that bothers me. Winking




And u lack a human body form which is why there is only an object, it's that simple, u don't even have a form, good luck with the fish, weigh your options if the fish has feelings, when u catch one, to see if it cares to be put back to the water, or if u want to eat it, omg so many to think about,
Posted by tiziani
Yep. My dad was a Libra and my mother was a Taurus. His mistake was not letting her win until after the divorce when he figured it out too late. Better late than never though.




You'll be glad to hear this

Libra and I got back together, o dear god
I'm not trying to instigate, but, lack of horns and human body forms?! sorry but that shit makes me giggle! lol
Posted by tiziani
@Libra1234, it's true. My mother always told me "you know one thing I learned about your father is: he was an adventurer. And you couldn't hold him down. I tried to and then I realized it just wasn't right to even try. He should be free."

@Nikki, Haha! Why am I not surprised? smile



I wasn't trying to be with him, I let him be free, I don't call him, I don't ask to see him, now the guy wants me, gonna meet his sister tonite, wanted to wear a dress, but he wants me to wear pants, good lord, says he may not control himself if I wear one, but it's a party, u gotta wear a dress, but he wants me in jeans, go figure
I must say libra dude said the same thing about me, like when he says something I always have a come back for him, it's like we battle each other, then he has no more come backs for me, he says he likes it, but I strongly believe that turns him on
Posted by Leeeebra
yah, you bull and you die one day, me scale I'm eternal, you lose.
you bully the nice, I bully the bully, I win.
Oh boy I can go on.... but this stuff bore me to tears.
lol, I've a bull mars, you'd only have the last word causes I've got more important things to do. Winking






Um ok, I clap for the scales with no form, and once again I state that if ur that good, them why are ur your own cheerleader, you should have to say how good ur are if u really are, oops I win, and I always get the last word cause I can multitask ...oops got u again, which means ur not that good
Never state what u can do, it only feeds insecurity, like I said before I let people hang themselves and I just watch, see making a fool of yourself makes me smile, I don need to get down to 3rd grade levels to state what is important or not, but to me it seems like this is important which clearly means I'm getting to u, if I wasn't u wouldn't have made ur statement, I win again, sorry honey Taurus sun, libra moon...I never give up double the threat double the fun, in this case proves my theory on why one isn't balanced, good luck with the fish, I'm sure the fish has questions for u, don't think too hard coming up with an answer that fits the fish needs, we don't want you to take forever before the fish cooks itself just to wait on ya
Posted by tiziani
It does. It's the willingness to defend your boundaries that will have any Libra's engine running. And he will push. As long as he doesn't get off too hard on it, it's no bad thing to have passion.



Lol, the man drives me crazy, it's like he can't wait to debate with mejust to see if I will give up, who h I don't ...lmao....like he would say he's the king, I say yea I'm a king too wanna serve me ....he just laughs it off....very weird combo we make, ugg I guess he likes the edge of me instead of nice me, must be boring I guess, i can't help that he makes me wanna deck him with a loaf of bread tho, he really gets me there, until I massage his top head then his more relaxing to talk to
Posted by TaurusNikki
I'm sorry, but that's a lot of B.S,
Most libras I know just can't admit that they put the wrong priorities first before anything else and call it being fair, they do too much, but don't calm down to do step by step things, ur not going to finish everything, and you can't please everybody, get use to it, u balance so much but could never make a decision about anything, but yet u call it fair, you guys worry so much about so little, but don't have the heart to say no to anything, then u miss out on a lot and blame other people for your own slow ways of doing things


So true.
Libra's = "You can have it all, not just all at once." Winking
Fedor Emelianenko is procalimed to be the greatest fighter in MMA to date. He's a Libra born on the 28th and nobody knows where he goes to train because he's smart, strategic and an amazing person to watch fight. Go and watch him on Youtube if you don't believe me. You might learn something about being a warrior instead of preaching on a forum.

Libra is cardinal positive air sign because you can't have 'something' without 'nothing.' Everything comes from air or forethought, an idea, or as the Sanskrit say, Śūnyatā which translates to mean emptiness or voidness. Mythology has presented Libra as the claws of Chalae (Scorpio), the balancing scales of Astraea (Virgo), Themis Goddess of Justice, Athena Goddess of Wisdom and Battle strategy, Venus the Goddess of Love, how many others archetypes it matters not because if you looked at constellations from any other point besides the ground of view on Earth they would be in a completely different position.

I know a Libra who read the A-Z World Book so in conversation he could direct it towards Terrariums.

>.>

Which is an artificial ecosystem made to simulate a natural habitat.

Posted by TaurusNikki
My male libra friend, he's ok, but at times he hides things from me, like last night, we were going out to dinner and he told he some personal things thati could have sworn that he told me everything about or at least that's what he said he did, but anyway he had a breakthrough and confess everything to me, and get way he did.......because he was afraid if I got to know the real hi that I would leave the friendship, cause I haven't been around to hangout with him, plus I had a feeling he was hiding something, it's like he had to please me in order to be liked, which I hate because u don't know the real person, my libra BFF never did that to me, she told me straight who she was, but the libra guy just let loose, and in the end I told him I'll still be his friend but the lies and false advertising has to go, or I'm gone


My boyfriend who is a libra as well started out half telling truths and later confessed and was fearful I would leave him because I wouldnt like the real him. It takes a loooooooot of patience to love a libra man.



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