GeminiSoul
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Understanding a Libra - Help :)
Libras can be really lazy when it comes to communication. I know if someone isn't constantly in my face, I tend to get a lil slack in the communication department. Im always being chased down by my friends and then told off for being all —non-communicative?? I don't mean to be! I guess we can get consumed with whats going in in our immediate world.
lol ok! So you're saying I should give him space and let him contact me? I don't like chasing guys as I like communication to be well balanced between two partners. I'm a busy person to be honest and can distract myself pretty easily anyway 🙂
Yes! We are air signs. We love our space and freedom. We don't like to be fenced in. Independence and having your own life outside your man is a good thing. We are also great problem solvers, as we can see both sides to the coin. So if you have an issue, you don't have to worry about feeling less independent. Libras don't see asking advice as a weakness, we like to help the people we care about.
Great news! I don't like needy partners either 🙂!
Libras have a double standard in this area, we are allowed to be our normal charming selves and do a lil bit of harmless flirting, but you??re not allowed!! 😉
Its only because, we are just being ourselves, its harmless to us??_ but for non-libras to flirt while in a relationship? Tsk tsk! I wouldn't say we are jealous, not at first??_ you would have to give us reason to be jealous I guess??_ we usually trust someone 100% until we are burnt??_ THEN we get suspicious??_click to expand
Aha lol! Well that's good news I love a trusting partner putting my job and life style in mind 🙂.
That was really beneficial - Thank You 😄!
So if he's lazy to contact and it's wrong for me to do all the contact, you're suggesting?
Finally, a thread that would motivate me to come here again...
On Communication issue...
GS, I hope I could help you in a way. I'm a Sag but my SO is a Libra and I'm also in a LDR just like you. As I write this I'm giving my Libra guy a silent treatment for several days now. No mobile text, nor YM messages, nor email for him. Guess what, he is giving me a dose of my own medicine... Why did we end up this way? I kept on telling him that he is flirting with other girls, he is denying that. And with his words he said that he doesn't want to hear any negative words from me so he'd rather be silent than argue with me.
With the help of past threads and mirroring it on my experience with my Libra Man I realized that he will not communicate with you for several reasons:
1. He is too busy working on something.
2. He wants some alone time (this happens when he has personal problems).
3. He wants TV time, lounging or vegging out.
4. He doesn't wanna argue with you.
5. He avoids your prying eyes if he happens to be at fault and would let you feel that you are the one at fault...(lol!)
In my case, silent treatment (for 4 and 5)is broken each time I would calm damn and talk with him in a loving way again. For nos.1-3 he immediately spring back and talk with you once he is done doing those things.
On Communication issue...
GS, I hope I could help you in a way. I'm a Sag but my SO is a Libra and I'm also in a LDR just like you. As I write this I'm giving my Libra guy a silent treatment for several days now. No mobile text, nor YM messages, nor email for him. Guess what, he is giving me a dose of my own medicine... Why did we end up this way? I kept on telling him that he is flirting with other girls, he is denying that. And with his words he said that he doesn't want to hear any negative words from me so he'd rather be silent than argue with me.
With the help of past threads and mirroring it on my experience with my Libra Man I realized that he will not communicate with you for several reasons:
1. He is too busy working on something.
2. He wants some alone time (this happens when he has personal problems).
3. He wants TV time, lounging or vegging out.
4. He doesn't wanna argue with you.
5. He avoids your prying eyes if he happens to be at fault and would let you feel that you are the one at fault...(lol!)
In my case, silent treatment (for 4 and 5)is broken each time I would calm damn and talk with him in a loving way again. For nos.1-3 he immediately spring back and talk with you once he is done doing those things.
A little bit of history: We broke up two years ago because I got fed up of the chasing and doing all the contact while he was the busy partner and because he couldn't make up his mind over serious life matters. Now we're back after him trying for two years to convince me getting back with him and he was all contacting me in a way that surprised me. Now that I agreed and we're back and all he started to loose contact again. Now it hasn't been a week yet, but since I've been through this before I'm a little worried when it takes him a few days of not getting in contact.
By the way, the mirror thing didn't work in my case because I remember before we broke up I was doing all the contact and stuff and he never mirrored it back.
By the way, the mirror thing didn't work in my case because I remember before we broke up I was doing all the contact and stuff and he never mirrored it back.
I'm just curious though...what brought you 2 to communicate once a week? I assume that you used to chat everyday...
Posted by Inertia1128
In my case, silent treatment (for 4 and 5)is broken each time I would calm damn and talk with him in a loving way again. For nos.1-3 he immediately spring back and talk with you once he is done doing those things.
Aha!! Well there's no 4 and 5 in my case so I guess it must be 1-3 so I'm going silent lol and let him contact me.
Thank You 😄
Posted by Inertia1128
I'm just curious though...what brought you 2 to communicate once a week? I assume that you used to chat everyday...
Umm well yeah we used to talk every day and then suddenly he stopped. Now I tried calling a few times and texting and we replies and answers me being happy that I actually contacted him, but I dont want him to get used to it (like before) and expect me to do all the contacting.
Posted by GeminiSoul
By the way, the mirror thing didn't work in my case because I remember before we broke up I was doing all the contact and stuff and he never mirrored it back.
It could be a sign of something...did you try asking him if anything is wrong or if he is mad at you or perhaps you did something that caused him to distance himself?
Being a Sag I always discuss my fears and frustrations with my Libra guy, and I always prod him to speak out and tell me what is wrong. In the past I would experience he would not communicate with me for a day or 2 and I told him that he should tell me why he didn't communicate on those days. But, one week of no communication? That's another thing. My Libra guy and I once had a weeklong of no chatting but the reason behind that is that I want him to initiate the conversation with me. When we had an argument and would have a long silence he would never initiate the communication. So I always ended up breaking the long silence for us. In several occasions he would reply...he will only NOT REPLY if my messages are still full of anger or hatred in it.
I don't know if you are on a similar situation...
"This isn't really a Gemini female thing??_ this is just a female thing Men cant multitask??_ regardless of their sign"
I beg to disagree TOC but my ex-Aries and ex-Sag can multi-task. They can text me while they are at work but my Libra guy once he is at work he is focused on his work and you can't bug him. So it could be a Libra trait. Hahaha!
I beg to disagree TOC but my ex-Aries and ex-Sag can multi-task. They can text me while they are at work but my Libra guy once he is at work he is focused on his work and you can't bug him. So it could be a Libra trait. Hahaha!
Posted by TasteOfChaos
Libras have a double standard in this area, we are allowed to be our normal charming selves and do a lil bit of harmless flirting, but you??re not allowed!! 😉
Its only because, we are just being ourselves, its harmless to us??_ but for non-libras to flirt while in a relationship? Tsk tsk! I wouldn't say we are jealous, not at first??_ you would have to give us reason to be jealous I guess??_ we usually trust someone 100% until we are burnt??_ THEN we get suspicious??_
Oh that is ohh so true...
Thanks 😄 - I'll discuss it with him and see, when I actually have time as I'm pulled deeply into work these days 🙂
Posted by GeminiSoul
Thanks 😄 - I'll discuss it with him and see, when I actually have time as I'm pulled deeply into work these days 🙂
Try to be honest with him, that you really don't like the idea that you keep on initiating the contact. Remind him why you broke up with him in the past...
You're right .. 🙂
Posted by Inertia1128
"This isn't really a Gemini female thing??_ this is just a female thing Men cant multitask??_ regardless of their sign"
I beg to disagree TOC but my ex-Aries and ex-Sag can multi-task. They can text me while they are at work but my Libra guy once he is at work he is focused on his work and you can't bug him. So it could be a Libra trait. Hahaha!
Ehh, Libra men are very good multitaskers.. he just doesn't want to be bothered when he doesn't
LadyLibra,
Thank You! Actually it might be that we're now close and all he's giving it a thought and all that need for balance. I do know that he is much of a thinker as even when we talk he would suddenly go silent and when I'll ask what's wrong? he'll say nothing just been thinking of so and so. Anyway, yes I am a runner, but I do appreciate that Libras take things slow and weigh every option. I do also like the way they enjoy their trip instead of rushing to reach the place they want to be in. So yeah I guess I'll give him sometime to figure things out and get back to me when he's more focused as I tried the whole clinging and chasing thing and it didn't work out as it drew us apart before and bothered us both.
Thank You! Actually it might be that we're now close and all he's giving it a thought and all that need for balance. I do know that he is much of a thinker as even when we talk he would suddenly go silent and when I'll ask what's wrong? he'll say nothing just been thinking of so and so. Anyway, yes I am a runner, but I do appreciate that Libras take things slow and weigh every option. I do also like the way they enjoy their trip instead of rushing to reach the place they want to be in. So yeah I guess I'll give him sometime to figure things out and get back to me when he's more focused as I tried the whole clinging and chasing thing and it didn't work out as it drew us apart before and bothered us both.
PandorasBox,
You really made me laugh! Omg I totally agree with you. Could it be that we're dating the same guy lol? Well thank you and yes I totally agree with your last sentence "things would run smoothly if this Libra guy just did everything I told um!!!"
Thank You 🙂
You really made me laugh! Omg I totally agree with you. Could it be that we're dating the same guy lol? Well thank you and yes I totally agree with your last sentence "things would run smoothly if this Libra guy just did everything I told um!!!"
Thank You 🙂
Posted by GeminiSoul
A little bit of history: We broke up two years ago because I got fed up of the chasing and doing all the contact while he was the busy partner and because he couldn't make up his mind over serious life matters. Now we're back after him trying for two years to convince me getting back with him and he was all contacting me in a way that surprised me. Now that I agreed and we're back and all he started to loose contact again. Now it hasn't been a week yet, but since I've been through this before I'm a little worried when it takes him a few days of not getting in contact.
By the way, the mirror thing didn't work in my case because I remember before we broke up I was doing all the contact and stuff and he never mirrored it back.
Never been attracted to Libras - in any level (friendship, romance) but i am a gemini myself and i can fully understand your need to communicate (although i tend to be a lone wolf myself)
do tell; when you first got together, WHO did all the chasing in the 'courting' phase?? I ll take a guess before that break up you initiated the getting together/relationship? more often than not, the beginning will set the tone for the rest of the courtship AND relationship subsequently...
Good thing you left when u felt like overfunctioning...Males (of any sign) feel more at ease/'natural' as initiators and Libras especially, with all their touted indecisivenss would more than need a 'push' to refrain from getting into that mode.
DONT fall into that old pattern again, and dont nag him...is there any way you can find out if his really busy/has things to take care of at this point? and is it an one-time thing this time or he repeatedly does the 'no contact' again?
dont blow up his phone/email, i understand it's difficult as LDR and often ppl feel the need to compensate for physical distance with more communication - in quantity and quality.
Wait a bit more, dont fret or overwhelm him and try to get your mind out of it...if next time (s) you talk he seems distant provided there is no situation/difficulty that demands his undivided attention I suggest you re-evaluate some things...LDR need more work and patience than others...maybe he is in a dilemma (classically) of whether you ve got potential if your together for a long time and he s decent/serious about you.
In any case, dont chase...! Lean back and dont draw conclusions easily..
Lilith,
Thank you. After reading through this forum I kind of got the idea that the whole communication thing is an issue with Libras. Now to some signs that might not be a big deal, but to a Gemini that's not the case. As you said we need to communicate and stay in touch and LDR makes it worse. When we first started he was doing the chasing because he was afraid to loose me to someone else. Now that we're back and exclusive he somehow pulled away of communication. Now we did talk the day before yesturday and I stated the communication issue in a sweet, serious, direct way and he promised to communicate more. Let see how things go and honestly, I'm too busy to chase or do anything at the moment as I'm caught up with loads of work.
Thank you. After reading through this forum I kind of got the idea that the whole communication thing is an issue with Libras. Now to some signs that might not be a big deal, but to a Gemini that's not the case. As you said we need to communicate and stay in touch and LDR makes it worse. When we first started he was doing the chasing because he was afraid to loose me to someone else. Now that we're back and exclusive he somehow pulled away of communication. Now we did talk the day before yesturday and I stated the communication issue in a sweet, serious, direct way and he promised to communicate more. Let see how things go and honestly, I'm too busy to chase or do anything at the moment as I'm caught up with loads of work.
Good thing you handled it nicely and keeping your dignity intact...
As for the LDR, see it in a positive light; easier to keep him on his toes than if he saw you/were with you 24/7...Libras tend to go full 'togetherness as couple' in relationships 😛 🙂
I'm sure you ll find many other things to preoccupy your mind - as you mentioned - and you wont feel the need to fret over number of incoming calls/emails...
And give him that gemini charm girl, that I am sure you got it in you and attracted him in the first place 😉
Best of luck!
As for the LDR, see it in a positive light; easier to keep him on his toes than if he saw you/were with you 24/7...Libras tend to go full 'togetherness as couple' in relationships 😛 🙂
I'm sure you ll find many other things to preoccupy your mind - as you mentioned - and you wont feel the need to fret over number of incoming calls/emails...
And give him that gemini charm girl, that I am sure you got it in you and attracted him in the first place 😉
Best of luck!
Yup will do 🙂 Thanks!
And the Libra men thread keep coming....😢
From experience libra men seem to have a thing with communication-they would rather see you in person rather than spend hrs texting,emailing or chatting via the net.
Also if other stuff,going on in their lives then they lose focus on everything else and concentrate on the one thing they deem most important.
Mmmmm are libra men jealous— Am not a libra man but my answer would be yes they are.
Are they good at disguising it-too right they are. Making a libra man jealous is never a good call,because they will mirror that jealousy back unto you.
And yes they need their space,but hate to be ignored. Confused?? Yep thats the price you pay for falling for a libra.
However if your both mature,inlove and want it to work. It will work.🙂
From experience libra men seem to have a thing with communication-they would rather see you in person rather than spend hrs texting,emailing or chatting via the net.
Also if other stuff,going on in their lives then they lose focus on everything else and concentrate on the one thing they deem most important.
Mmmmm are libra men jealous— Am not a libra man but my answer would be yes they are.
Are they good at disguising it-too right they are. Making a libra man jealous is never a good call,because they will mirror that jealousy back unto you.
And yes they need their space,but hate to be ignored. Confused?? Yep thats the price you pay for falling for a libra.
However if your both mature,inlove and want it to work. It will work.🙂
Posted by FemmeScorpion
From experience libra men seem to have a thing with communication-they would rather see you in person rather than spend hrs texting,emailing or chatting via the net.
Also if other stuff,going on in their lives then they lose focus on everything else and concentrate on the one thing they deem most important.
So, this also proves that libras are not multi-taskers...lol!
I remember when I was watching with my libra guy with history channel on tv, I asked him something about the show and he got irked and said "sshhh! I cannot concentrate on the show when you keep on talking!" lol! But then again, it's a guy thing too.
GeminiSoul, this could be the answer to your communication problem. Your libra guy considers work as more important than you now. Could it be that recession is the culprit? Lately, most guys focused on their work anyway. They wanna keep the job or the next guy in line could replace them, so they gotta work harder. 🙂 But then again, it's not hard to spare a few minutes for them to send their SO an email or text. Oh well...
Wow - thanks a lot for all the help. You guys gave me more confidence that's not that a Libra man is loosing interest it's more of focusing 🙂!! Oh well lol.
Well lil Gemini let's c where do I start I was in long distance relationship with my libra man n I'm a fire sign well wen it comes to not communicating often no !! All wrong if he doesn't communicate with u alot the relationship is fucked ! My libra n I communicated every second of the day for 3 to 4 months before we moved in together so yup trust me they will make time for u If they give a shit about u second as for jealousy no not only with grminis if they love u they will feel insecure if u don't give them ur full attention n affection I'm a fire sign so I'm not reality lovey Dovey sO we have problems there but we try to work it out n another thing which is so stupid never talk about another man too him becuz he will assume things trust me I learn I'm a sag I have men lining up for me but I love my husband to death n at first I thought it was cute to talk about other guys n make him jealous but wen he did that to me I felt the pain I caused him n I love him so we fought so much becuz he thought I would leave him for another n so many other things but nope I only have eyes for him were not perfect but he noes I'm his go to girl
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