Wanting attention

This topic was created in the Libra forum by aqua4libra on Wednesday, May 10, 2006 and has 137 replies.
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I am a libra, happily married to an Aquarius. However, especially lately I am finding myself wanting to attract another guy (Aries) who I work with, even though he is married and I would never dream of being unfaithful to my hubby! I have been wearing revealing clothes to work just to get this guy's gaze! I always want to look attractive to the opposite sex, but I don't normally do this kinda thing and its scaring me. I don't know what is happening to me right now but I can't stop fantasising about me and this guy - although i know in a million years nothing physicical would ever happen (and I don't want it to)! Any advice or similar experiences, Librans?
weird! I had the same thing years ago. I obsessed over this aries guy. I was engaged at the time. I ended up getting married, but it didnt work out. I tend to look at things as happening for a reason. is there something missing from your relationship with your husband? My extreme attraction to the aries guy had a lot to do with the fact that i was not sexually attracted to my husband, but i was too young to realize the importance of it. However, it could also be that aries and libra are opposites...i am ALWAYS attracted to aries men.
Its really weird and I don't know why I am feeling like this lately. As Librans, I think we like to attract admiration, want people to think were gorgeous and get them to think that by whatever means and sometimes like to shock people! Its like I want this guy to be crazy for me, but also want him to realise that he can't have me, like I am a tease! My relationship with my Aquarius hubby is great and he is the most gorgeous, funny and perfect man I've ever known, but that's Aquarians for you. I think it must be the opposing Libra-Aries attraction thing going on at the moment!!
i have a libra dude that i've been friends with for a long time and he is a player of sorts i know or maybe not. It might just be the fact that he gets bored or feels tied down. i would not trust him with my wife though....unfortunate but true...women seem to be attracted too him as soon as he enters the room. laughable to me because their all being played. Maybe they don't care..evolution you know...just drawn too him. He drops all of them like flies in the end......Sorry girls or maybe you got what you wanted.
From what I know, and know very well, a Libra female should only marry a Aries male, or a Gemini man, anything other than, and you are going to stray, both of you saying you would never be unfaithful & wearing attractive and revealing clothing....Thats how it starts girls...I don't know if you are aware but female libras are known to be THE most unfaithful...not by choice, but once they get used to someone, they will move on to a warmer flame
Evo, excuse me but...HAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHA WHOOOOOAAAAAA WHHHHOOOAAAA LOLOLOL LMAS LMAS LMAS
"That's how it starts girls" Evo said wagging his well manicured finger.."You must always, always, wear practical clothing that no one would ever find offensive lest they think you're trashy..." raises eyebrow and surveys the ladies in the forum.
"We all know that wearing revealing clothing and being a Libra puts you on the road straight to Hell and Damnation. That combination just gets your hormones flowing all over themselves and sooner or later your going to be on the business end of someone's Willie and it won't be that of your husbands' I'm telling you!" Evo starts getting a rash..
"All of you are just Harlots!"
***runs back top the Pisces board in his Manuelos*****

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This guy HAS to be a Pisces.....
Evo Fish
From what I know, and know very well, a Libra female should only marry a Aries male, or a Gemini man, anything other than, and you are going to stray, both of you saying you would never be unfaithful & wearing attractive and revealing clothing....Thats how it starts girls...I don't know if you are aware but female libras are known to be THE most unfaithful...not by choice, but once they get used to someone, they will move on to a warmer flame
You are absolutely correct, Libra's want the fairy tale romance 24/7. When a relationship hits a rough patch, as they inevitably do, they look to jump ship as soon as possible instead of trying to work through the problem. But not before finding another boat to latch on to, Libra women are loathe to be without an audience of male admirers to fan the flames and warm their fragile egos.
Of course, they will string you along because they aren't quite sure whether they're done with you or not. You may come in handy down the road if they need an ego-boost or a favor. Flipflop should be every Libra woman's middle name...
i know that it's supposed to be normal to want attention from the opposite sex, and fantasizing about things, but i was never in support of that. all i can say is, i can understand and respect where you guys are coming from, but the thing that i don't respect are attention whores who do it on a daily basis. such a turn-off. i'm not bagging on anyone, though, so don't get me wrong. i just know that it's not for me; and if i see it too much in a relationship, i just simply see the trust flying out the window. it can also be disappointing and the best way for me to want to move on. however, i know that that's just me, and i hate for being this way; but that's just how i am -- esp. since i know how faithful and strong i really am -- therefore -- i wouldn't want to be taken advantage of, nor do i want to keep someone pinned down. i honestly don't usually think about my best interests, although i admit that life would be easier if i did..
(sorry this doesn't flow, but i felt like it sorta makes sense (?) lol)
Message posted by: SoftCookie on 6/1/2006 6:12:17 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.7
Evo Fish
From what I know, and know very well, a Libra female should only marry a Aries male, or a Gemini man,
Never seen the attraction myself......
female libras are known to be THE most unfaithful...
In who's opinion might I ask??? Yours??
Libra's want the fairy tale romance 24/7. When a relationship hits a rough patch, as they inevitably do, they look to jump ship as soon as possible instead of trying to work through the problem.
Absolute b****cks I have been faithful and committed to my Saggie for 13 years, its him I worry about.
Libra women are loathe to be without an audience of male admirers to fan the flames and warm their fragile egos.
I most certainly do not need to the approval of anyone most of all men.......
Of course, they will string you along because they aren't quite sure whether they're done with you or not.
Only if you annoy me........
Flipflop should be every Libra woman's middle name...
More Jimmy Choo's I think

loudlibra
I was generalizing Libran women based on one particularly gruesome experience, but it seems she fits the stereotype to a "T". Libran females are usually quite beautiful and are used to having their pick of the litter, but her indecisiveness was frustrating beyond belief.
Libra's penchant for avoiding confrontation renders them incapable of forming any kind of deep relationship with a significant other. If you can ever pin them down, they will tell you what they think you want to hear regardless of their true feelings. It's true that they have the capacity to look at all sides of an issue, but innate selfishness guarantees that they will choose the side that suits them best.
Probably the most superficial of all signs, they are happiest hiding behind a facade. Marriage material only for those wanting a trophy wife...
SoftCookie....touch?!
I hear you!
Libra's penchant for avoiding confrontation renders them incapable of forming any kind of deep relationship with a significant other..
Mmm not sure about this part, I'll confront with vigour if need be........but I will give fair warning before I do.
It's true that they have the capacity to look at all sides of an issue, but innate selfishness guarantees that they will choose the side that suits them best.
Doesn't everyone choose what suits them best......
Probably the most superficial of all signs, they are happiest hiding behind a facade. Marriage material only for those wanting a trophy wife...
Balderdash and I'm sure many Librian women would find this tremendously insulting......
If we really cared that is and we probably don't as opinions like these bore us.
Regards
LL
Hey you cant really help it if this is the perception most people tend to carry back home with.
What you need to see here is that this is a side effect of bieng popular, of being considerate, of caring about the feelings of "little" people(or showing that you do), of knowing you can get more from life.
Its just a matter of perception.
Have fun! no need to fret about what a few of us think about you! cos no matter how hard you try you cant be everything to everyone.
Have fun! no need to fret about what a few of us think about you! cos no matter how hard you try you cant be everything to everyone.
Im not fretting Mr K I'm engaging in healthy debate with a little Librian drama thrown in. Feel free to have your opinions I won't hold this against anyone as long as you are cool about it, which I think you are.....
LL
Evo
That is bad advice. Aries are our polar opposites. Having dated two, it is a very love hate relationship and nothing I would care to repeat.
You know nothing about Libra in Love. Libra is a mascohistic sign.
i wearing attractive and revealing clothing
I NEVER wear revealing clothes. I dress in clasic style s, knee length skirts, blouses, etc. I am so not trampy it isn't even funny. Even at clubs, I dress conservative. lol!
female libras are known to be THE most unfaithful...not by choice
lol! So you are suggesting we have no choice? Are we gun-pointed into sex? Then how is that our fault. This is wrong. Libra loves through the mind not the heart or the body.
You do not know Libra in love.
*** Libra's want the fairy tale romance 24/7
Untrue. I hate large romantic gestures including Weddings. They make me uncomfortable. I want a marriage to the right partner. I do NOT want a big wedding with the works. I can't even listen to friend's wedding talk. I think marrying someone is more intimate then sex. It should not be shared with a bunch of strangers. I can't handle the emotional, sappy, outpour.
I feel itchy just thinking about it.

**** Libran females are usually quite beautiful and are used to having their pick of the litter
Yes. We do. We are the best. We expect the best. This gives us a STRONG ego and LOTS of self-confidence.
**** her indecisiveness was frustrating beyond belief.
How does this affect you at all? That is one thing I never understood.
**** Libra's penchant for avoiding confrontation renders them incapable of forming any kind of deep relationship with a significant other..
We sacrifice our happiness for our partner's happiness until we can't take it anymore ... then we blow.
The problem you are having with the Libra female is that you are actually dating a man in a beautifully feminine package.
And Air and Water do not mix well.
little_sparrow
The problem you are having with the Libra female is that you are actually dating a man in a beautifully feminine package.
And Air and Water do not mix well.
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That's very true, I often felt like the female in the relationship because I wanted to talk about problems while she just wanted to ignore them until they went away, or she would just blow her top like a volcano and then act like nothing happened.
Indecisiveness is frustrating because that places the burden of decision-making squarely on the other party. I always felt that it was a cop-out because if the decision doesn't turn out well, the Libran woman can put all of the blame squarely on you. It was always an "I told you so" situation, even though she didn't tell me so. I think that Libran women want more of a father figure than an equal partnership, I have read numerous times that they usually end up marrying older men.
My moon is Pisces, you're right, air and water do not mix well...
What sort of decisions did you want her to make?
There are several reasons why Libras are indecisive. I was thinking about posting my theories, perhaps I will.
smile
*** I have read numerous times that they usually end up marrying older men.
Depends. My placements suggest I will marry a much younger lover. My new Libra roommate is 37 and everytime we go out, she finds the only 25 yr old. It is the damnest thing.
It really depends on how old she is.
Libras need a man they can admire. We need the whole world to look up to our partner. We go out of the way to make sure they do. If they betray that trust, we turn on them.
Looking at your chart, you have enough fire and air you should have been VERY happy with a Libra. What does her chart look like? I suspect there is a lot of water or earth there.
Any decision, from where to have dinner to where to go on vacation. She would provide limited or no input, and then be angry if she didn't like the outcome.
Libras need a man they can admire because their happiness comes from his reflection. If they expect that man to be perfect, they will never be happy. Libran women need to look in the mirror (not that they don't do enough of that as it is) and realize that perfection does not exist, not even in themselves.
jeeeeeez why wud u ever want to do that when ur married....tryin to seduce a married guy......jeeeez.. why are u lookin for trouble when ur already married..... doesnt ur Aqua satisfy ya????? i mean how can u even dream of doing that to a man ur happily married with???
She isn't happily married Eliza. That is the problem. Her needs aren't being met.
*** Any decision, from where to have dinner to where to go on vacation. She would provide limited or no input,
I do that. I just posted about why.
*** Libras need a man they can admire because their happiness comes from his reflection.
I don't really understand your statement. He is a reflection on me, as is everyone in my life.
I don't think Libras want a perfect/flawless partner. My ex, who is the only man I have truly loved, was about as flawed a human as possible. I loved his because of his flaws not despite of them.
little_sparrow
She isn't happily married Eliza. That is the problem. Her needs aren't being met.
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According to her original post, she is happily married. She just has the uncontrollable Libran desire to flirt, probably to prove to herself that she still "has it"...
She isn't. She is just fighting the fact that she isn't. She wants it to look perfect to the outside world, because she doesn't want anyone thinking bad of her mate. If he was giving her attention and affection, she wouldn't even notice other men.
Give her time. She is just now realizing she isn't happy and fufilled. We aren't as in touch with emotions. It takes us longer to suss out why we aren't happy.
little sparrow... if she isnt happy.. then she should get out of this relationship not just hang in there and seduce other 'MARRIED' men.....( jeeez not even single but 'married' men.... why do u wont to ruin others lives too just coz ur NOT happy??? ) and acording to her original post she said shes happily married to this Aqua...
jeeeezzz.... such thingz are soooooooo annoying to me... i would never recommend nor support such a thing ever....
Like I said lol - Its a female libra we talking about here Eliza...married or long term relationship, it doesn't matter lolol
And I don't care what AANNYY Female Libra in this forum has to say about that..Whether the situation as arisen or not..you are ALL very MUCH inclined to be unfaithful
End of argument lol
Yesterday I watched a movie called "belle de jour" (1967) if they could explore such a concept like 4 decades back, why does it has to be such a taboo now.
By the way really nice movie!
Catherine Deneuve is herself a libra cuspy! lol
I guess a women's mind works in a certain way, maybe she cant help it. atleast she is not repressing or lying about it which I guess could be further counter productive.
My suggestion:: role playng!
last semester my friend made a short movie on a similar topic.
*** divorce your husband and give him 90% of the assets as compensation for the fact you couldn't keep up your end the deal.
Who is to say her husband isn't holding up his end of the deal?
We don't know what there situation is. Perhaps her husband has let himself go (Men gain more weight than women after marriage, plus lose their hair, plus forget how to do anything around the house other than use the remote control, forget how to shop for themselves. I have heard American men turn into babies.)
Perhaps her husband isn't attentive and affectionate. Perhaps he has no sex-drive. 1/3 of non-sex marriages are the result of low male libido.
I don't expect her to come on here and reveal everything about their relationship, but to say she isn't holding up her end of the bargin without looking at his end ... that is pretty presumptuous.
The thing is there will always be other people that you are attracted too. If you walk into a marriage expecting never to be tempted by anyone else, you are foolish and naive and doomed to failure. No matter who you choose, you will inevitability go through low points (and high because marriage is about falling in love with the same person over and over again) and one day may find yourself in this situation. It is what you do when you are tempted that counts and ultimately defines who you are.
Sparrow
When is your birthday in the calendar year, if you don't mind me asking?
Libra
Oct 11
I knew it had to be very close to mine. Oct 10.
You take the words right out of my mouth sometimes...
little_sparrow
Or maybe she's just being a typical Libra and flirting like it's 1999. You're right, there is always temptation when married. I'm sure that her husband meets other women that he finds attractive as well. It's just that Libra women have a tendency to lead people on in their quest to prove that they are still desirable. Libra women are the most high-maintenance in the Zodiac. If she's anything like my ex, a lull in the relationship meant that I had gone more than 24 hours without telling her that she was the most beautiful woman on earth.
Primegen
You don't lose your statutory rights to half of the assets just because you leave the marriage because you would like to be with someone else or have sex etc. Absolutely not. In fact, you don't half of the assets even if you cheat. Maybe in Hollywood, but not in the real world.

Message posted by: primegen on 6/7/2006 9:10:20 AM
try and cancel your cellphone contract before the contract is up, see what happens,
Oh for god's sake how can you compare an emotional commitment of any kind to a Nokia........Emotions are not clinical, things happen"
in better or poorer in sickness and in health."
It depends on the situation, you cannot and should not live with anything just because the priest tells you.......
WTF libras can't read and follow directions?
Actually I'm not very good with roadmaps myself, but I can build a set of shelves, does this count???
Message posted by: SoftCookie on 6/7/2006 9:12:39 AM
Or maybe she's just being a typical Libra and flirting like it's 1999.
Poppycock all signs flirt, it's healthy and usually means nothing. I also know Libra's who have put up with so much s**t and have remained constant and faithful and committed to the relationship.....
It's just that Libra women have a tendency to lead people on in their quest to prove that they are still desirable
I'm not sure how may Librians you have actually dealt with Mr Lion, but possibly very few......
Libra women are the most high-maintenance in the Zodiac.
Damn right we expect a lot from our man or men depending on how you look at it, but what kind of high maintenance, I look after his kids day in and day out, while he's buggered off on his adventures, if you call making an effort to go out without chocolate hand prints all over me high maintenance then yes I am.
I'd say both you and Mr P are extremely high maintenance and just too much like hard work. Just my opinion.
Regards
LL
actually that was poppyc**ck but it bleeped me......
Im not arguing about it, you won't ever have the same views as me and I'm not defending myself anymore, now lets talk about something else like........................shoessmile
Primegen
I guess we're in different parts of the world...



Prime
Stop being a Picador.
By your definition, if he beats off to porn ... she gets 90% of his assests because he, by your definition, is cheating mentally.

*** divorce your husband and give him 90% of the assets as compensation for the fact you couldn't keep up your end the deal.
I also hope that you realize by your own definition, men stand to loose more, the majority of time, since men cheat more.
It takes two people to make a marriage work, it takes two people to make it fail. You can't pin it on one or the other because it isn't the action ... it is the why that causes the failure.
**** Or maybe she's just being a typical Libra and flirting like it's 1999.
If she was happy and having her emotional needs met, she wouldn't be seeking attention.
**** It's just that Libra women have a tendency to lead people on in their quest to prove that they are still desirable.
Men find us attractive. There is very little we have to do to prove ourselves desirable. We just are.
You didn't want to be in the relationship and saw her as an obligation hence the reason why she needed constant reassurance Cookie.
lol!
Message posted by: primegen on 6/7/2006 1:22:27 PM
Men already lose more in divorce
What has mine to lose???My earning potential is better than his, but wait no I havent been able to work because of the children, I forgot, looking after his children.
And no, you are not as good as you all think you are. Libra suns are bullbutterters....
How would you say this if you don't even know anything about me, is it logical to assume that I am exactly the same as every other Libra in the world. I'm not sure that it is and I personally think it rude of you to makes these kind of comments....
Message posted by: primegen on 6/7/2006 5:05:23 PM
thanks for playing
Bored with it all now really......
Regards
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