Went through his phone

This topic was created in the Libra forum by Sxlvmne on Thursday, July 9, 2015 and has 18 replies.
We're not dating but we've been seeing each other for almost 2 years and I've asked if he wanted relations but he says he's not ready. So I was at his place last night and we had a good time I think but my temptations took over and I ended up going through his phone and when I was leaving he was being really sweet. Sweeter than usual he kissed me like 100 times, seriously. He even asked if I wanted to stay longer. And by the time I got downstairs he msgd me saying" you went through my phone" but I didn't respond then he msgd me saying " that's not cool" ..

I haven't responded because I don't know exactly what to say I know he's pretty upset I went through his phone and I don't know what to expect from him because that's the worst thing I could of ever done..
I want to apologize but I'm scared that he will completely flip and never talk to me again and things between us will definitely be really bad because he's probably not gonna trust me now.

I guess I'm looking for a suggestion on how I could get back in his good side, if that's even possible.
I really hope he doesn't accept your apology. You're unable to control yourself, and invading someone's privacy as a result of that is not cool nor excusable.
Holy shit. Mind your own business. Scared
Posted by ireallydunno
I really hope he doesn't accept your apology. You're unable to control yourself, and invading someone's privacy as a result of that is not cool nor excusable.

As harsh as that may sound, I wouldn't. I don't care for how long I've known you; once you betray my trust, things won't be the same, and it looks like that's the case for your friend here.

I also find it funny how you're well-aware of that the fact this is the "worst thing" you could've done, yet you did it anyway. To me, it sounds like you're full of shit.
Posted by Vanish
Unless they're hiding something...privacy is for a cheater

It's a betrayal of trust, and if you had read Sxlvmne's post, you'd realize that they aren't in a relationship.
Posted by Vanish
Why are you with this person anyway? He sounds retarded.

Oh BELIEVE ME. He isnt the one soundig retarted atm. They werent "together" having sex and tlking without truely being serious is not a situatiom you roam in peoplesbuisness. thnk u very much.
Posted by Vanish
Posted by Rambunctious76
It's probably a friends with benefits arrangement - in which case, she's not entitled to any knowledge of what goes on in his private life.

Who makes these stupid rules? Stupid people?
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What are u, 12?
Please go, reading you relationship-advising post is lowering my intellegence level.
your* posts*
Why did you go through his phone? What did you find?
Posted by MahoganyLeo
What did you find?

The question we all secretlt wnted to ask.
Don't make this a long drawn out mess. Just apologize and promise it will never happen again. Don't expect things to go back to normal, it'll take time.

Also if you want to be in a real relationship maybe that's something you have to explore on your own. It's important you not place yourself in a dishonest position, for example being his bootycall friends with benefits side chick when really you want a fulfilling committed relationship or being his friend when you secretly crushing and falling in love and hoping for more. It's nothing wrong with wanting what you want but don't settle and it seems you might be settling which is causing you feel all these icky unsure feelings.

If you're not in a real relationship with him then there is a 99.999% chance you are not the only woman he's sleeping with/spending time with, no need to snoop when you're being honest with yourself about the situation you're currently in with him.
Well I finally built up enough courage to apologize to him and he said " I really don't care" but when I called him he wasn't upset at all which is questionable because most people would be. He was even telling me what I went through. And was saying, " you won't even let me touch your phone but you went through mine".. Is it normal for Libras to be this calm about something like this? Or is it because he doesn't care about me or what I think ? He even told me to text him after we got off the phone..
Why on earth are you asking these questions? He isn't as into you as you are into him. Full stop. Maybe he was hoping you'd find all the other women he's dating/sleeping with, and realize what kind of relationship you guys are really in. He may be upset, he may not be. Either way, you're acting like he's your bf even though you say he's not. It wasn't cool to snoop, but what does it matter in the end if you did? If you want a real relationship, he's not the one and you're wasting your time.
Posted by SingASong41
The better question is, why have you been wasting time on this guy for 2 years? It's clear you want a relationship and he doesn't.

Plus freaking one.

Silly bitches.

I mean if it's a fwb and you're fine with that, it's your life. But you clearly aren't and hoping for more. All these baited questions you keep asking us- it's very telltale that you want someone to tell you he has secret feelings.

He doesn't.

He just likes sticking his dick in you with no consequences. That's all.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by SingASong41
The better question is, why have you been wasting time on this guy for 2 years? It's clear you want a relationship and he doesn't.

Plus freaking one.

Silly bitches.

I mean if it's a fwb and you're fine with that, it's your life. But you clearly aren't and hoping for more. All these baited questions you keep asking us- it's very telltale that you want someone to tell you he has secret feelings.

He doesn't.

He just likes sticking his dick in you with no consequences. That's all.

Agreed.

I just don't understand the low mindedness of how some people see themselves.. Why put up with this for two years if the OP wants more... So many women are just like this!!!!!
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Desperation.

We've all been there at one point. You have the exciting stuff going on in the beginning. All those lovey, nice feelings that make it all so exciting that you met someone whom you can be close and intimate with.

But then their true self rears its ugly head and you have to adjust to this troll of a human they turned into. Emotionally healthy women will drop the dude. It's still something that makes most women's head spin, but you gotta come to terms and move along. But some won't. They cling on because they enjoyed that squishy feeling SO much and don't want to let go, even though that phase is clearly gone and they're left with the reality of the situation. They refuse to face it because now they can't fathom not being in something like this, even if it doesn't exist anymore. It was just so nice! Omg single again?? I like being attached to someone!!!

The difference is that some women will do what they have to do and some others are so insecure and emotionally fucked, due to various factors, that they cling on because they're scared. They put too much emphasis on relationships in their life that they have no self worth, no purpose that they've given themselves and are scared to be "alone" when single.

Well did you find anything suspicious on his phone? Was it worth the snoop?
Posted by MrBalance
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by SingASong41
The better question is, why have you been wasting time on this guy for 2 years? It's clear you want a relationship and he doesn't.

Plus freaking one.

Silly bitches.

I mean if it's a fwb and you're fine with that, it's your life. But you clearly aren't and hoping for more. All these baited questions you keep asking us- it's very telltale that you want someone to tell you he has secret feelings.

He doesn't.

He just likes sticking his dick in you with no consequences. That's all.

I'll agree with rocky on this one.... but ANOTHER female victim in the books of the legendary Libra man!
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what's legendary about treating another person poorly?
Posted by jeane
Posted by MrBalance
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by SingASong41
The better question is, why have you been wasting time on this guy for 2 years? It's clear you want a relationship and he doesn't.

Plus freaking one.

Silly bitches.

I mean if it's a fwb and you're fine with that, it's your life. But you clearly aren't and hoping for more. All these baited questions you keep asking us- it's very telltale that you want someone to tell you he has secret feelings.

He doesn't.

He just likes sticking his dick in you with no consequences. That's all.

I'll agree with rocky on this one.... but ANOTHER female victim in the books of the legendary Libra man!

what's legendary about treating another person poorly?
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I think what MrBalance is saying is a person can't treat you poorly unless you allow them too and 2 years is waaay pass too long to still be waiting for someone to come around, and it seems to be a pattern with Libra men according to this site...lol. Seems like it was obvious about 3 to 6 months into the relationship that he didn't want anything more than a FWB. Why go through his phone? Confirmation of what you already knew?..I dunno...either way it was a bad move, and the way I see it, he's not angry because he really didn't care.