What MEN find with the other woman ?
This topic was created in the Libra forum by jinggay on Saturday, April 19, 2008 and has 8 replies.
What MEN find with the "other woman" that they leave their wives behind...and even the children?
We sometimes wonder why husbands who are happily
married with beautiful wives, wonderful kids and seems
so well lived lives suddenly found themselves troubled,
bored and (huh!)asking for a divorce. Life seems so full
of complications. We are trying to exert our best effort
and trying it hard to keep relationships work out fine,
but it appears that as life continuously moving things
happen the way we don't expect it to be. We can not question
life since it does not answer back (literally), but wait
for time to bring results later. I have talked to a number
of men, read a lot of articles, witnessed some scenes and
gather insights so as to how I understand why things
happen and justify the just as well as condemn the unjust.
There are number of reasons why happily married men fell
into the "other women's" arms. Maybe our
male friends here can share some of their experiences or
reasons or perhaps ideas why these things happen. So that
women can understand somehow.
I have a male bestfriend. He is young, successful and happily
married. I know his wife too and we went a couple of times going
out. She is gorgeous! Men still whistle, ask her number
and sometimes receive flowers from strangers she has just
passed across a resto. They have 2 kids, both polite and
respectful. One of them is a topnotcher of one of the best
schools in the city. Husband was really proud of them. They
cuddle, snuggle and kiss a lot whenever, wherever. When
one day, husband came to me. He said, help me! Please tell
my wife I want an annulment! What???(why me)Of course I
ask why, i said they had such a perfect lives. And he replied,
"last week, I saw a woman in the mall...as she was walking,
while staring at her i felt a rush of soft cool rain in my face.
I chased her everyday till I realized I'm already wanting
to come home to her all days of my life. She is not that beautiful,
but she is the one I know I would love to spend the rest of my
life with and I know I will not find happiness if I will not
follow my heart."
This is his story, what's yours?
We sometimes wonder why husbands who are happily
married with beautiful wives, wonderful kids and seems
so well lived lives suddenly found themselves troubled,
bored and (huh!)asking for a divorce. Life seems so full
of complications. We are trying to exert our best effort
and trying it hard to keep relationships work out fine,
but it appears that as life continuously moving things
happen the way we don't expect it to be. We can not question
life since it does not answer back (literally), but wait
for time to bring results later. I have talked to a number
of men, read a lot of articles, witnessed some scenes and
gather insights so as to how I understand why things
happen and justify the just as well as condemn the unjust.
There are number of reasons why happily married men fell
into the "other women's" arms. Maybe our
male friends here can share some of their experiences or
reasons or perhaps ideas why these things happen. So that
women can understand somehow.
I have a male bestfriend. He is young, successful and happily
married. I know his wife too and we went a couple of times going
out. She is gorgeous! Men still whistle, ask her number
and sometimes receive flowers from strangers she has just
passed across a resto. They have 2 kids, both polite and
respectful. One of them is a topnotcher of one of the best
schools in the city. Husband was really proud of them. They
cuddle, snuggle and kiss a lot whenever, wherever. When
one day, husband came to me. He said, help me! Please tell
my wife I want an annulment! What???(why me)Of course I
ask why, i said they had such a perfect lives. And he replied,
"last week, I saw a woman in the mall...as she was walking,
while staring at her i felt a rush of soft cool rain in my face.
I chased her everyday till I realized I'm already wanting
to come home to her all days of my life. She is not that beautiful,
but she is the one I know I would love to spend the rest of my
life with and I know I will not find happiness if I will not
follow my heart."
This is his story, what's yours?
Men usually cheat because they are not sexually satisfied. Women usually cheat because they are not emotionally satisfied. Either way..........someone is not satisfied. 
I deduct it all back to one single problem called ignorance.
"I deduct it all back to one single problem called ignorance."
I dont know if i would deduct it down to one 'problem'. People tend to want what they don't have. A person could be quoted to have everything, and yet they see this "opportunity" to have something different, something better for them... The grass is always greener type of scenario... or... Some people just arent meant to be together. The idea of a soulmate is the fascination of many, probably subconsciously.
I dont know if i would deduct it down to one 'problem'. People tend to want what they don't have. A person could be quoted to have everything, and yet they see this "opportunity" to have something different, something better for them... The grass is always greener type of scenario... or... Some people just arent meant to be together. The idea of a soulmate is the fascination of many, probably subconsciously.
((I dont know if i would deduct it down to one 'problem'. People tend to want what they don't have. A person could be quoted to have everything, and yet they see this "opportunity" to have something different, something better for them... The grass is always greener type of scenario... or... Some people just arent meant to be together. The idea of a soulmate is the fascination of many, probably subconsciously.))
It can be actually deducted back to this one problem called ignorance. Ignorance about ones own actual capabilities and faults make him assume things in wrong direction. Which gives him a lot of hard time while he is trying to achieve what he is incapable of achieving and once in a while some luck blesses him. Which makes him further assume the reasons behind all these and end up forming many religious and social theories to support all these happenings. Ignorance of details regarding the entire nature makes him assume so many nonsense while he encounters the dynamics of the system. So he keep trying to find alternate mechanisms to achieve him target. So its a chain of mistakes originated from the simple ignorance of each person about his own positive and negative sides.
It can be actually deducted back to this one problem called ignorance. Ignorance about ones own actual capabilities and faults make him assume things in wrong direction. Which gives him a lot of hard time while he is trying to achieve what he is incapable of achieving and once in a while some luck blesses him. Which makes him further assume the reasons behind all these and end up forming many religious and social theories to support all these happenings. Ignorance of details regarding the entire nature makes him assume so many nonsense while he encounters the dynamics of the system. So he keep trying to find alternate mechanisms to achieve him target. So its a chain of mistakes originated from the simple ignorance of each person about his own positive and negative sides.
((Humans aren't meant to be monogamous, atleast not for the long haul.
The institute of marriage was created for business purposes.))
They would remain monogamous if the entire society around them are like that and they are perfectly comfortable with their first partner. which cannot be achieved unless these idiots understand details of astrology. Marriage was born out of insecurity.
The institute of marriage was created for business purposes.))
They would remain monogamous if the entire society around them are like that and they are perfectly comfortable with their first partner. which cannot be achieved unless these idiots understand details of astrology. Marriage was born out of insecurity.
the guy must be seeing something in the mistress that the wife cannot provide. it could be sex, mutual interests, challenge etc.
or he must be just a complete jerk, like some men who only get to feel self-validation through their conquests.
or his environment sanctions it, like a group of guys i know who are all womanizers. they encourage each other to play outside of marriage becoz they see it as fun. their wives are all simple, average kind who don't have a clue as to what their husbands are doing. of course, the men cover for each other so their families think they are great husbands/fathers.
or he must be just a complete jerk, like some men who only get to feel self-validation through their conquests.
or his environment sanctions it, like a group of guys i know who are all womanizers. they encourage each other to play outside of marriage becoz they see it as fun. their wives are all simple, average kind who don't have a clue as to what their husbands are doing. of course, the men cover for each other so their families think they are great husbands/fathers.
Magic do happens - not a single soul could understand...
Only feel and be delighted about it
Only feel and be delighted about it
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