What more does he want from me ?!

This libra and I have known eachother for a while, when we see eachother we are usually around friends never had alone time. I said I wanted to get together alone, I also said I would like for him to hold me and kiss me and he said that he was not tryin to have sex with me yet and that would end up happening. Then I heard that he was trying to get with another girl I flipped out on him because we have been talking for a long time no response from him then we saw eachother one day and he acted completely normal since he was acting normal I decided to text him and say if you dont want to talk to me dont act like everything is all good in person he texted me in the morning and said he was asleep when I texted him I got to the point and asked is this thing we have over and he said it doesnt matter to him and I said it does matter to you because I'm not puting you in somemthing you dont want to be in so did he want me or not and he said he didnt want any girl right now and he just wants to try and be single and if he does want a girl its only for one night. I said ok not knowing what to say and he said Soooo ? and I said idk have fun living the single life then he didnt reply back. I seen him a few weeks later and he acted like everything was fine again after I saw him he texted me about something random I replied back then he didnt respond. I then sent him another text and said just because your single doesnt mean you have to delete me out your life. No response so from there on I didnt contact him. When I saw him he would greet me but wouldnt try to have conversation in person. I contacted him recently after a month and a half and said "Havent talk to you in a while hope everything good". He texted back 2 days later and said I'm good wbu? and I said I was alright he said "good good" the conversation was fine then he asked when I was coming over to smoke with him. I never have smoked but he knows he was the only one I would consider doing it with. I said idk if I want to anymore he said howcome and I said idk, I thought you didnt like me at all anymore he ignored it and said now that I think about it its a bad habit to have and I said ok then and then I said I dont want to smoke, but I do miss you and want to see you. I know you want to just be friends and I'm fine with that. No response. I really just want him back in my life and I cant take losing him again. Do you know why he is acting like this ? Please help !

Hi BadSag,

I am not an expert on Libra's but I will do my best to see give my feedback. This seems more of a male/female thing because your friend told you that he did not want to take it to that level and he wanted to be just friends. Give him a bonus point for not stringing you along. The situation would have been worse if he did actually kiss and hug you knowing that it would lead to sex and that sex would have happened knowing that he was not ready for a relationship so at least he was honest. Now if he was talking to another female then you can assume one of two things: a) he just wanted to be with her b)possible that he likes you as a friend and only as a friend.

Here is the thing - the reason why he is ok and is normal is because to him nothing is wrong or nothing happened. He did not have the issue - you did. So he is not acting or being normal there was no issue to begin with. Libra's are indecisive and they are not going to make decisions for you or tell you what to do. So if you don't want to talk to him you don't have to. If you do not want to be friends anymore even if it may make him sad he will not force you too.

He is telling you he wants to be single and be him asking so he is asking are you ok with who I am as acceptance and people pleasing are apart of Libra's traits. When you told him ok go have fun living the single life you were saying peace be with you and he left it alone. What did you want him to say or expect him to say? Now if you rant and rave to him there is nothing he can do because he did not do anything wrong. He just told you the truth and you have to choose if you accept or not. If you do not accept and bring the rah rah he will NOT deal with you. Libra's like harmony and avoid confrontation. If he feels that talking to you will disrupt his harmony or bring a confrontation he will not deal with you. So when you reached out and he asked if you wanted to smoke he was doing it with the understanding that you were cool and friends and wanted to chill. But because you showed that you still were having issues with the whole thing he changed his mind and sees that by being around you there will be rah rah which Libra's try to avoid at all cost.

So really it's up to you. If you want him in your life then you will have to accept that he wants to be single and enjoy the single life so that means he will be seeing/dating/sexing other females. It also means you are not going to bring up dating, the whole friends thing e

It also means you are not going to bring up dating, the whole friends thing etc again. You need to make sure you are ok with this. If you honestly think you won't then leave it and him alone. Now if he tries to make moves on you then YOU have to set your standards, lay down your requirements etc and it will be his choice to accept or not.

Good Luck!!

For not being an expert, you sure gave a golden answer, jmr!

I did tell him I was ok with it and wanted to be friends, he knows I do not smoke and when he asked me I felt like it was a test of some type. He knows if we chilled alone something would have end up happening he even said it himself when we did talk so I didnt understand why he asked me that question. My feelings were so strong for him that I considerd smoking with him but now its not so thats why I told him idk if I want to because I didnt want to bring up how my feelings changed. I wouldnt just smoke with him then leave, it just doesn't happen that way between me and him lol. I just dont understand I have accepted the friendship thing even though I dont like it. I dont see why he is acting this way still =/

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Posted by BadSag12
he said he didnt want any girl right now and he just wants to try and be single and if he does want a girl its only for one night.

You're right... this is totally cryptic.

I wonder what he meant by this?

Hmmm, Im gonna have to consult with my associates and get back to you.

Hang in there ok? He clearly wants to be with you... and only you.

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Posted by BadSag12
I did tell him I was ok with it and wanted to be friends, he knows I do not smoke and when he asked me I felt like it was a test of some type. He knows if we chilled alone something would have end up happening he even said it himself when we did talk so I didnt understand why he asked me that question. My feelings were so strong for him that I considerd smoking with him but now its not so thats why I told him idk if I want to because I didnt want to bring up how my feelings changed. I wouldnt just smoke with him then leave, it just doesn't happen that way between me and him lol. I just dont understand I have accepted the friendship thing even though I dont like it. I dont see why he is acting this way still =/

BadSag,

How is he acting? It sounds like he is just being himself and you are having a hard time accepting him for who he is. If he wanted you to come over knowing that you would possibly have sex - then wouldn't you just be the girl he had for one night? It really is simple - he does not want a relationship. If you did come over knowing that you would have sex guess what you being over there is okaying the sex - but guess what? Nothing will change because at the end of the love session and all the smoke clears he will still want to be just your friend. This is about you and what you want because he already laid his cards out on the table.

"You're right... this is totally cryptic.

I wonder what he meant by this?

Hmmm, Im gonna have to consult with my associates and get back to you.

Hang in there ok? He clearly wants to be with you... and only you."


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