What to do? Really confused about libra man

This topic was created in the Libra forum by nisha1490 on Monday, August 26, 2013 and has 14 replies.
Hi. I am aries who is hell confused abt this libra man. Things were going fine and one day he shares that he isn't ready for relationship because he really doesn't have time due to his course load and work pressure. He doesnot want to push things unnecessarily so we should stick to friendship till his course gets over. I tried understanding his situation. In between I was getting insecure and kind of clingy. I was approaching him so he kind of took me for granted and became less available to me. Whenever I used to ask him why isnt he seeing me or giving me time, he used to tell me his work schedule and how busy he is with work and studies and he isnt avoiding. Its work thing and nothing else. I gave him a 5 day gap and he dint approach me so i called him on 6th day and asked him to clarify what is really happening. He told me hes dealing with mess these days. he doesnt really have time because his work has increased and he sits for long hrs at work, his course has finished but hes busy studying for interviews and doesnt really get time to go to gym since last 2 mnths. he isnt really thinking abt relationship right now as hes tense abt his career so later he will think after getting a new job. Hes been undecisive and i was no where in the picture. He mentioned that as far as our status is concerned we are friends for time being.
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I was all upset and I wrote a message to him-
What you did me that was really not justified. If u knew u gonna be busy u shudnt have let me on. U had decided that we will limit ourselves to frndship n later u back turned it n made moves on me. U been all selfish n really nt thinking what I am gng thrgh n a true frndship is nt like tht. I truly liked u but I guess u will always hav reasons like u will always be busy n I dunt think so I will b there waiting fr u to get free. I tried understanding ur situation bt u will always have reasons cos reasons hav their reasons. U been avoiding me n actions do speak louder than wrds. You been taking me fr granted n I dunt want tht to happen anymore.
Guess what? He dint reply. I knw libra men hate conflict. But do you think he will contact me or understand that I am hurt.
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but why should I apologize? I am hurt when I see hes thinking abt himself only. I guess i am easily available so thats why i am nt on his priority list.
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I'm going through a break up and trying to understand why my libra ex he hurt me and doesnt seem to care. I seen a guy i used to deal with yesterday and he just so happen to be a libra. we stop talking two yrs ago and he hurt me and he would say one thing but do something different with no apologies. to this day I was explaining to him how he treats ppl and all he could say was he was going through things, but we're cool now. Come to find out he was talking to me and several other females at the same time. We're cool NOW, I wouldnt say he's a friend to me because of what happened but I tried to explain how wrong he was in how he handle things. He justified every part of it.
It hurts but their fickle as hell and if their going through something, you will not know but they will get distance in a minute. If you really like him just get ghost he'll come back but you might not want him because this may be a pattern like so many others.
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Isn't it clear???
If he has even started feeding you the Bullshit that he is feeding you here in your OP then you really need to walk away and not except his crumbs!!!
You got all tied up in him and he didn't feel the same, yes he probably fucked you and told you sweet nothings but guys do that...sleeping with a woman doesn't mean what it means to a woman...you catch feelings, he only feels with his dick.
Walk away and don;t look back...you are only going to appear desperate and more unappealing to him!
Sorry if the truth hurts..
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FYI to those not aware- she has posted this thread like 572985 times here, almost copying and pasting the previous thread that asked the same questions. Giving advice to this chick seems pointless, tbh.
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No hadn't noticed..but then again no matter how they paint the picture the end result is always going to remain the same.
We want to hear what we want to hear when a relationship or what we think is one ends...but the truth prevails always!
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i guess i need to disappear.. @rockyroadicecream-you are really mean. I can and will write this post1 cr times whenever i feel like.
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Don't be so bad with her ! Why so many judgements here always ???? She need help only, same as all of us here !
I can tell you , just let him alone. Because he does not deserving you . I know very very very well this game of friendship/gf, he is very confuze and when you speed up a little the things, he will say he is busy and more bad, he will starting say lies and lies and lies... and yes, at least, he is the victim and you must say sorry to him .... No no no ! Do not say sorry to someone who does not deserving this and do not wasting your time ! He will always be "busy" , it means you are not on the first place in his life, he is busy, yes, but probably with other things like going out with his friends and so on... For you he will have no time, you will feel not respected and used by him .. Is a hottible feeling that Libras give to a woman ! Do not accept be hurt anymore by him ! A man should always know what is a friendship and what is a love . When they just change from friendship to love and exchange, it means they are imature, acting like a child and they don't know what they want. He will always be the same . A character never can be changed ! Remember this . Exactly as mine, when things becomed more serious, he told me his mother no like foreign girl, then if I pressed him much, at least he said the truth : " I don't want to marry NOW " and after this, disappeared with phone power off, with messenger and not other contact on . Only a crazy people can do like this, and Libras all do this way.
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After that kind of text, more possible is he will not contact you back for a long period of time. After a long period of time, if you will tell him something sweet, he may back to you with the same sweet answer, but remember, he was hurt you before ! He will use your way to make him back to you, just to hurt you again ! I told to my Libra the same as you 2 yars ago, exactly similar things and he disappeared 1 year ! Deleted me from QQ, from phone , changed his number.. until appeared again and the story I think will be repeating one more time next year maybe.................in his mind , this things are just NORMAL ! WE ARE COOL NOW ... as yours said, my Libra said thiss too when appeared after 1 year. The last time I told him something like this after he told me few reason for his disappearing act, and again, deleted me from QQ, changed the phone.. but I am not wonder ! Usualy they acting like this when you make them angry or create pressure over them and they lose the balance. When they find the balance again, they will be back to you, but usualy if you still contacted him in some way in this time when he disappeared. I heard little stories about Libra to come back by theirself if you don't give any sign, because they are faint-hearted peoples. they are unable to take a decision , imature also. They need something to push them from back to do something, just like a hand of help. If you do first, they will feel better, they will feel easy . If you let them decide and choice, they will feel difficult.
If you want him back, you can text him after a while, but do not say anything bad again. If you say a simple " I miss you" , he will reply back " me too" if he wants you back. But if you are expecting from him to say first " I miss you" , maybe is 1 from 10000 who do this the first.
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Nisha, I'm an Aries dating a Libra.. All I can say is be the strong aries you are... I've never had a male hurt me as I never put up with their crap. you're an aries... Onto the next conquest, you'll forget him fast! Hurt doesn't last long for us... Plus, we're always progressing forward, don't let someone change the aries you are by standing grounded or taking a few steps backwards... It will screw with your emotions. Up & out of there sweetheart! Be strong xx
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@Alisiyaabcd- I guess i was pressurizing him because he was pampering me initially and hes really tense about finding a new job. Moreover he spends long hours at work. He did tell me that because of this he is unable to go to gym since 2 months. I have been pushing him to meet me and talk to me so may be hes avoiding me because of that. I realized I screw things and over reacted when he said right now his priority is his career and not relationship and as far as our status is concerned, its friends for time being. I wrote a message to him yesterday saying that if I would have been in his place, even I would have given my career the priority. I know I over reacted but I felt bad that i was no where in the picture. I should stop expecting anything because once someone (he only told me)told me thats the best thing to do and see how things turn out on their own. I did not get his reply.
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Its like hes been undecisive and prioritizing his career and taking me easy because I have pressurizing him and chasing him. I really like him and want to mend things. I guess I should give ourselves some break and get busy in my own life. Hope he does contact me once his career is all settled.

@rockyroadicecream- You are mean!
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I think you two are the same person. This is what, the second thread, where two unknowns go back and forth the entire thread, both with spotty English, and that is all who participates.
Seems a bit coincidental.
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