When a Libra ignores you

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But texts you sprurradically, & then says "Im sorry" wth is he thinking???
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Well the last one was he didnt have his phone on him. He was eating & helping his nephews & he just saw my messages. Merry Christmas & he was sorry if he ruined it.
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The one before that was in response to me saying I would drop off his gifts I bought him.
He said he was sorry things turned out the way they did. & to please not send him any gifts. That he doesnt mean any disrespect but he know i need the money & thats the only reason. To spend it on my son & myself. & if i cant return them, hed pay for them. That hes sorry.
Sorry for what?? I bought them thinking of him. & the joy theyd bring him with the smile on his face when he opened them.
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Maybe by ruining my Christmas?? He didnt. I just miss him horribly, but thats all. I just dont get why he apologizes all the time. He did it before to, when we were dating.
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Libras dont ignore you unless they are unsure about you
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@uniqueunicorn- you are right! I got a response from him today. That hes sorry if he hurt me, but i smothered him beyond repair. That he will leave money in my mailbox for his presents. That i couldnt go 8 hours without contacting him & to never contact him again.
I responded, nicely by telling him he never told me why he needed space. & i dont want his money. That if he would have talked to me, like girls do...then get over it this may not have happened. That he didnt even have the decency to talk to me in person or on the phone, & i hope he knows for the next girl. That he didnt even give me a time frame!
I will be ok. There are lessons for me to learn!!!
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I am sorry Nikki for your dilemma. When I am ignoring a person, it usually means I have detached and will more than likely move on. I will shower the object of my eye with lots of attention and nice deeds as well as compliments. If all of that stops, you have fallen out of favor with me some how. And we can sometimes be cowards and not let the other party know just what we are feeling. I try to be upfront now, but I still give mixed messages--not as direct as the other person needs me to be.
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MzDiana- exactly what he did!! My post to uniqueuniorn says what he told me today.
I took the advice of someone else instead of following my gut & i ruined a great opportunity with a wonderful man. Sad
Once you detach & move on, is that it? Theres nothing the other person can do to fix it or make it better?
I only knew him for a month, so when my ex came back & threw me iff balance, he told me he needed space. Didnt tell me why or for how long.
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
MzDiana- exactly what he did!! My post to uniqueuniorn says what he told me today.
I took the advice of someone else instead of following my gut & i ruined a great opportunity with a wonderful man. Sad
Once you detach & move on, is that it? Theres nothing the other person can do to fix it or make it better?
I only knew him for a month, so when my ex came back & threw me iff balance, he told me he needed space. Didnt tell me why or for how long.


Yep, he will most likely move on bcos he wants to be your everything. All or Nothing is my favorite saying no matter what my heart may be feeling bcos 1. I am that much into being THE ONE and 2. I do not want to get hurt. I am not jealous, but I want someone just as dedicated to me as I am to them..no matter how flaky I am myself.
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I wish he could of been my start of something grand! It was...he showed me affection at first. He made me be myself! He treated me how I should be treated.
The fact is my ex contacted me. My reaction to that made me doubt myself. Doubt what i was doing...which was moving on & which was finally healthy for me!!! I had that one phone call from him, & plenty of txts that i ignored. The Aqua ex made me, not me. I finally see he is a horrible person whos is toxic. Tikki was right!
I reacted wrong towards the Libra. I tried to speak to him, in person. He only txt me. & now, he said what he said.
In you opinion is it best to leave well enough alone? Or should i finally give him space, & space for myself...then try again? I wont be upset by what you say to me. So please be honest.
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
MzDiana- exactly what he did!! My post to uniqueuniorn says what he told me today.
I took the advice of someone else instead of following my gut & i ruined a great opportunity with a wonderful man. Sad
Once you detach & move on, is that it? Theres nothing the other person can do to fix it or make it better?
I only knew him for a month, so when my ex came back & threw me iff balance, he told me he needed space. Didnt tell me why or for how long.


Yep, he will most likely move on bcos he wants to be your everything. All or Nothing is my favorite saying no matter what my heart may be feeling bcos 1. I am that much into being THE ONE and 2. I do not want to get hurt. I am not jealous, but I want someone just as dedicated to me as I am to them..no matter how flaky I am myself.
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Do libras not know anything about the word "communication"???
I'm kinda going through the same thing as Nikki...but the only thing me and my libra left on a good note. I'm beginning to think it was because the last time we were together I brought up my ex 2 times unconciously (I am soooo over the guy),but if that was the issue I don't understand why was that not communicated?? I've tried to reach out to mine but all i've gotten so far was 4 text messages saying "I miss you" all in the same night...and that was a week in half ago.
Oh the fuck well.....
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@Cap. Im sorry to hear. Sad
Im thinking they know about communication but have trouble verbalizing their feelings. My Libra said that...he said hes not good at saying how, why or when, or what hes feeling.
I didnt expect our end to be different bcus i made sure it was that way, by not giving him space. Space to process all ive said.
I like him, & ill try again soon. If i get no response then ill move on. I dont want to be second ( if he has someone else already). Or to make an arse if myself!
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
@Cap. Im sorry to hear. Sad
Im thinking they know about communication but have trouble verbalizing their feelings. My Libra said that...he said hes not good at saying how, why or when, or what hes feeling.
I didnt expect our end to be different bcus i made sure it was that way, by not giving him space. Space to process all ive said.
I like him, & ill try again soon. If i get no response then ill move on. I dont want to be second ( if he has someone else already). Or to make an arse if myself!


Same here...I've tried to date other guys theres just no connection. I have a feeling he'll be back but i'm not holding my breath.
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What is the feeling you get? Any words of wisdom for me?
I put another post before this. My aqua ex came back and ruined it...if you want some background. smile
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
What is the feeling you get? Any words of wisdom for me?
I put another post before this. My aqua ex came back and ruined it...if you want some background. smile


Its a gut feeling. My gut is always on point!...lol
I've been following your story on here...and my words of wisdom to you is keep living your life. I know it hurts like hell and being that its the holiday season makes it worst but you gotta find your happy place. Theres nothing wrong with not wanting to date around but keep yourself busy...it works wonders!!!
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I got a response from him today. That hes sorry if he hurt me, but i smothered him beyond repair. That he will leave money in my mailbox for his presents. That i couldnt go 8 hours without contacting him & to never contact him again.
What are you thinking...or not at all!! He doesn't communicate well yet he has communicated enough to tell you directly to "never contact him again"
Read and listen, if you contact him he will think very little of you. You're only chance if you left any doubt for the guy, is to do exactly as he has asked. If he contacts you again after searching his own soul and realising he was too impulsive, then and only then should you act!
Sucks that it ruined your Christmas Day though...sorry for that
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
What is the feeling you get? Any words of wisdom for me?
I put another post before this. My aqua ex came back and ruined it...if you want some background. smile


Nikki my husband was a Libra and I will tell you this..Leave him alone..when he met me I was not interested in him..He asked me for my nummber and I gave it to him but just because he was cute..but I forgot about him the min I turned away...He started calling and calling and leaving messages..I was out of town...what Im trying to say is that they will go after what they want...But if you hurt them they will leave...you cannot hurt them because they will hold a grudge for a long time...they dont like women that are clingy at all!! They like strong women, One last thing..they are selfish in a way that if you let another man come in between you and your Libra he will be heartbroken and leave..you are his and no one elses..dont ever forget that. Libras are possesive with what is theirs.
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I have no choice but to leave him alone. He sent me his final text yesterday morning. If you read up a bit you will see what he said.
I did hurt him. And he did leave. I am not clingy, I just wanted a chance to talk to him about how I was feeling and how he was feeling before it turned into something like this. In my effort to fix it and to hold onto him, I did further damage by pushing him completely away.
I never let my ex come in between us. That is just it. He called, I told him not to contact me. He texted I ignored him and now here I am. Libra-less!
I only wanted to be honest with him to tell him I chose him! He is the one for me! But it fell on deaf ears bcus he didn't even want to talk to me.
I plan on calling him in a few weeks (or when I feel the time is right, may be more, may be less) to see if I can correct my mistake one last time. If I can't then I will learn my lesson and deal with it.
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Posted by NikkiMse1978

I never let my ex come in between us. That is just it. He called, I told him not to contact me. He texted I ignored him and now here I am. Libra-less!
I only wanted to be honest with him to tell him I chose him! He is the one for me! But it fell on deaf ears bcus he didn't even want to talk to me.

It doesn't sound to me like you did anything wrong. Sounds to me like he just wanted an excuse to stop seeing you.
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Posted by NikkiMse1978

I never let my ex come in between us. That is just it. He called, I told him not to contact me. He texted I ignored him and now here I am. Libra-less!
I only wanted to be honest with him to tell him I chose him! He is the one for me! But it fell on deaf ears bcus he didn't even want to talk to me.

It doesn't sound to me like you did anything wrong. Sounds to me like he just wanted an excuse to stop seeing you.
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Hmmmm I didn't think of it that way. I keep saying I pushed him, but then again, you can't push someone who wants to be pushed. I think that is how my friend said that! LOL.
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You don't have to prove anything to him. But if you continue to contact him when he has told you not to, what you will prove is that you don't think very much of yourself.
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I got a response from him today. That hes sorry if he hurt me, but i smothered him beyond repair. That he will leave money in my mailbox for his presents. That i couldnt go 8 hours without contacting him & to never contact him again.
What are you thinking...or not at all!! He doesn't communicate well yet he has communicated enough to tell you directly to "never contact him again"
Read and listen, if you contact him he will think very little of you. You're only chance if you left any doubt for the guy, is to do exactly as he has asked. If he contacts you again after searching his own soul and realising he was too impulsive, then and only then should you act!
Sucks that it ruined your Christmas Day though...sorry for that


He didn't ruin my Christmas-it would have just been nice to spend part of the holiday with him. We originally had plans to see each other on Monday (we were both off of work)
I asked him to talk to me in person or on the phone 1. Bcus text is misread & misconstrued and 2. So we could see the emotions, facial expressions and tone of voice to go along with what we were both feeling. We did not have a communication problem before, I feel he just couldn't communicate his feelings to me. There is a difference.
When I started to text him again, 4 days went by. And by sending 3 texts to him over the weekend, he interpreted it as not giving him space and not going more than 8 hours of contacting him in a 24 hour period. I waited 4 days to contact him again!
He already thinks little of me.....and what do you mean by "if you left any doubt for the guy"?
I hope he contacts me, I really do!
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Posted by pathfinder
You don't have to prove anything to him. But if you continue to contact him when he has told you not to, what you will prove is that you don't think very much of yourself.


I know I don't. I am just trying to bring it back to what it was. I think highly of myself, but when it comes to love, I am totally confused! At least I can admit that.
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Posted by Pecheresse
Maybe "mean" is not the right adjective, but it's proven right more than once that Libra dudes think they can have anyone they want by the click of their fingers. Turn the tables on him & watch him eat in the palm of your hand. It's all too easy. lol PS: It works with Geminis too.


Have you seen the post by Sweethearts? Now, I am torn on what to do. I want to give him space, but in a week or two, call him.
He was very clear in his text to me yesterday morning to "Move on with your life and don't contact me again. I wish the best of luck2you."
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You don't have to prove anything to him. But if you continue to contact him when he has told you not to, what you will prove is that you don't think very much of yourself.


I know I don't. I am just trying to bring it back to what it was. I think highly of myself, but when it comes to love, I am totally confused! At least I can admit that.
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If you insist on contacting him, when he has respectfully asked you not to, then in my opinion, you are being disrespectful. Just let it be what it IS. He will value you respecting his decision, even if you don't agree with it. Those are first steps in keeping things congenial and friendly between two people. He will think of you as mature woman. If he has a change of heart, he will be more inclined to contact you knowing that you are not desperate for any attention from him. You can be confused, there is no shame in that, but keep it to yourself while you are learning how to manage it. He doesn't need to see that side of you right now.
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Posted by Pecheresse
Libras are good at the NC rule (non contact). By giving him no contact you will make him wonder how the hell you could move on so fast? That will tickle his ego & it wont take long until he sends you a random text again.

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Posted by Pecheresse
yes i agree with her? I mean he's probably pissed off & confused. Give him spaaaace.


Yes, I am giving him his space.
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Posted by Pecheresse
Libras are good at the NC rule (non contact). By giving him no contact you will make him wonder how the hell you could move on so fast? That will tickle his ego & it wont take long until he sends you a random text again.


Why do Libra's do the "NC rule" in the first place?
I have not moved on, yet. I do not know what may lay ahead, but eventually my "feelings" will dissapate the longer I am left-alone. It is also my understanding that Libra's do not like to be alone. Am I correct? This makes me think, that if he can let me go so fast, who's to say he doesn't have someone waiting in the wings himself, ya know?
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You don't have to prove anything to him. But if you continue to contact him when he has told you not to, what you will prove is that you don't think very much of yourself.


I know I don't. I am just trying to bring it back to what it was. I think highly of myself, but when it comes to love, I am totally confused! At least I can admit that.

If you insist on contacting him, when he has respectfully asked you not to, then in my opinion, you are being disrespectful. Just let it be what it IS. He will value you respecting his decision, even if you don't agree with it. Those are first steps in keeping things congenial and friendly between two people. He will think of you as mature woman. If he has a change of heart, he will be more inclined to contact you knowing that you are not desperate for any attention from him. You can be confused, there is no shame in that, but keep it to yourself while you are learning how to manage it. He doesn't need to see that side of you right now.
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I was disrespectful to him in the fist place, hence why I am so inclined to "fix it". Like a man. I am a girl but my front is that of a man. I just want to be the soft, strong, light hearted woman (and sometimes girl) that I am.
I am not desperate for his attention, but just to say I am sorry for all that has happened. I am taking a step back and learning many valuable lessons right now, whether he speaks to me again or not.
I am keeping my confusion to myself, now, even though it is a little late. That is what I should have done from the start when the ex contacted me.
Thank you for your heartfelt words! I needed them!
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Nikki what is your sign again?
I've been reading this story and the comments, and I want you to be careful with this libra. Sadly I've done what he is doing, and people who constantly bug me look weak to me, and NO ONE wants someone weak. Libra's value independence so naturally they are attracted to fun, independent strong people. If you made a mistake, then boom, so be it. But that doesn't give him the right to hold it over your head, and you shouldn't give him that power. Now I can tell you he's either getting a kick out of you chasing him, or it is really REALLY irritating him. Either way, if I were you I would cool it completely. I wouldn't so much as lift my finger to press talk to dial his number period! No matter how much it hurts. Let it burn girl!! No emails, no text, no nothing. Realize your worth, you WILL run into him, and I'd speak and keep it moving like he had no effect on me. Hopefully when it happens your looking like supermodel. One thing though, I was dating this Taurus guy, he was really really cute, but dawg he would not let me breathe. He wouldn't let up. And when I stopped contact, he still wont give up, im like have you no pride. Leave me be, like the other poster said, if I want you I know how to get you. If not, see you when I see you. It's cold but thats a libra, if they are not in love. And don??t be fooled if he comes back around, seemingly sweet and into you. I say be careful when this happens because libra's have a tendency to back track over old relationships to see what went wrong with it to help them learn for the future, once they discover what it was they're gone with the wind again like lightening and you will be crushed. I wouldn't let him in. He'd have to start ALL over, beginning with a frienship. Libra's like a challenge, don??t be afraid to let him fight for you, he will if he wants you bad enough. Dangle a little, then run. Then dangle some more then run. This works with libra's and aries. Although they will NEVER admit it. You have to do this, because they get bord easily. And if you make them question their feelings about you, it will darn near send off an alarm, and they will head for the heels turning cold, and acting as if nothing matters, including the relationship.
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He already thinks little of me.....and what do you mean by "if you left any doubt for the guy"?
I hope he contacts me, I really do!
Libra the scales....what we have weighed up in our minds in order to make a decision can be quite definite at the time but after a week or longer especially with no contact from that person can make those scales start tipping in the opposite direction which makes us doubt our original conviction! I'm not saying it is the case here but a definite possibility. Done this myself sooooo many times that when in doubt I come back to DXP land!
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There's only one way to treat Libra males : Treat them mean to keep them keen! By all means never show him how lost you are without him. It's pressure to him. Just go on with your life as if you just could care less what is going on. He will come back to you.
And yes if he does come a calling, mean as in, you have moved on and oh really didn't expect to hear from you again. Give him attention but after you have done whatever you were doing before he decided to call you back again and certainly don't let him know you are dropping everything to be at his beck and call....or he will become bored quickly
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He already thinks little of me.....and what do you mean by "if you left any doubt for the guy"?
I hope he contacts me, I really do!
Libra the scales....what we have weighed up in our minds in order to make a decision can be quite definite at the time but after a week or longer especially with no contact from that person can make those scales start tipping in the opposite direction which makes us doubt our original conviction! I'm not saying it is the case here but a definite possibility. Done this myself sooooo many times that when in doubt I come back to DXP land!
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There's only one way to treat Libra males : Treat them mean to keep them keen! By all means never show him how lost you are without him. It's pressure to him. Just go on with your life as if you just could care less what is going on. He will come back to you.
And yes if he does come a calling, mean as in, you have moved on and oh really didn't expect to hear from you again. Give him attention but after you have done whatever you were doing before he decided to call you back again and certainly don't let him know you are dropping everything to be at his beck and call....or he will become bored quickly



So are you saying if they ignore you for longer then a week or two that means the "scales" didn't tip in the other party favor??
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that's the general period when I start to think again...however, I might not act on it til I weight everything up all over again. I can take 4-6 weeks to swallow my pride and try and contact again and YES, there have been people that have moved on and said *fuck you*!
Not in those words to me personally but in a round about way just leaving me wondering.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies!
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@ALibra-
I am a Saggie smile
I want to be careful with this Libra too. It is bad enough I fudged it up when it was going so well! I just need a clearer understanding of the sign, I guess you could say to see how I made him feel. Screw how I feel. I feel horrible that I did this to him. That is a big reason why I wanted to fix it.
I beleive it is REALLY irritating him. Or it was. Since he has told me to never contact him again, I haven't. As much as I want him to contact me again, I don't beleive he will. What is done is done, as you state, "If you made a mistake, then BOOM, so be it!"
I was not in love with the Libra-I probably could have been! That is why it baffles me that it ended so soon. We didn't even get a chance to start-well, anything really! That is sad to me. Sad
If he does come back (by your post you are back and forth-typical Libra! YEH!) what are the steps to take from there? You stated he would have to start ALL OVER. How? In what way?
That is the one thing I have always wanted too! A man who would fight for me!!!!! To me know, it seemed the relationship we were starting didn't matter to him in the slightest since he was so quick to dismiss me. He didn't even want to talk about what happened. What we were both feeling and how to make it better for the both of US. Guess he just didn't want an us.
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He already thinks little of me.....and what do you mean by "if you left any doubt for the guy"?
I hope he contacts me, I really do!
Libra the scales....what we have weighed up in our minds in order to make a decision can be quite definite at the time but after a week or longer especially with no contact from that person can make those scales start tipping in the opposite direction which makes us doubt our original conviction! I'm not saying it is the case here but a definite possibility. Done this myself sooooo many times that when in doubt I come back to DXP land!
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There's only one way to treat Libra males : Treat them mean to keep them keen! By all means never show him how lost you are without him. It's pressure to him. Just go on with your life as if you just could care less what is going on. He will come back to you.
And yes if he does come a calling, mean as in, you have moved on and oh really didn't expect to hear from you again. Give him attention but after you have done whatever you were doing before he decided to call you back again and certainly don't let him know you are dropping everything to be at his beck and call....or he will become bored quickly




How does he think little of you? I meant that if you like him, tell him! That is all. smile I hope he contacts you too! I wish they both would. smile
I really don't want to plan for if he does contact me. I just want it to happen how it is supposed to. Now I am just calming my nerves, and learning alot. For that I am grateful! smile
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Posted by firewaterearth
some people are life lessons and not life partners. you had to lose something good before you would kick the aqua out for good..the good news is that the aqua is finally out of your life. smile you are going to be fine. heal a little bit, do some self-reflection and keep it movin'!



Some people are life lessons and not life partners! I agree! I do not agree though that I had to lose something good to push the Aqua out. It is almost like a punishment then, when really it is a lesson that needs to be learned. I learned it, bcus as you said "...the good news is that the Aqua is finally out of your life. smile" And you could not be so right!
Thank you for the encouragement! smile
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Posted by sweethearts
that's the general period when I start to think again...however, I might not act on it til I weight everything up all over again. I can take 4-6 weeks to swallow my pride and try and contact again and YES, there have been people that have moved on and said *fuck you*!
Not in those words to me personally but in a round about way just leaving me wondering.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies!


Did I miss part of your post? The general period of what? Wait time? Figure it out time? Dare I say...space! AGHHH-Life lesson here I come!
And when you say "weigh" you mean all the aspects that took place?? Do Libra's usually contact again??
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Posted by somaspecialist
Hey Nikki,
Sorry for the dilemma......what happened exactly that made him disappear or start drifting......Being a libra male, we tend to run for the hills when we feel that the person we're interested in (like you), doesn't show the same interest back.....you see, libras are push and pull type of people....that's how we know you like us....if we smile....smile back......if we cherish you with love, and you pull away....then it's bye-bye libra.....We librans are very sensitive, especially when it comes to relationships.....but we hide it very well......how......by disapppearing..........can you tell us what happened?


Hi Somaspecialist-Thank you, but you do not need to apologize. It is what it is. What happened is my ex contacted me. I started to question my Libra and I needed reassurance from him, so I asked him where we were going?
He did not respond to me right away, in fact it took 3 days. There was small chit chat in between but that was it. I called him to talk and he ignored my call. At this point he did not know what had happened, but I assume he "felt" the change in me. I most certaintly felt it in him. Needless to say, I eneded up leaving him a voicemail telling him kind of what happened. I never got to fully tell him my side or to express how I really felt about him, before I pushed him away. He asked for space, and I did not understand why. Space from what? Me, us, him, he needed to think, he wanted to not be with me. When men say they need space it means more or less depending on the man. So I asked him about it, he ignored me. I didn't understand what was happenening, so I pushed a little harder. I ended up backig off, after the 2nd time he told me he needed space for almost 5 days. I then sent him a text saying I was dropping off his xmas gifts by his new house and he didn't respond till the next day. He always seemed to be a day behind my texts. Needless to say I pushed a little more, sending a text on Sat and one on Sunday. Finally Monday is when he sent me his final text. Saying he didn't mean to nor want to hurt me. That he will pay me for the gifts and leave the money for them in my mailbox this weekend. That I couldn't go more than 8 hrs with our contacting him and I smothered him beyond repair at this point (his words). That all he wanted was space and I couldn't even give it to him. To move on with my life and to never con
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contact him again. That he wishes me the best and good luck to you too.
I showed him interest that is just it. I know now that my negative feelings about myself I projected onto him, but I never got a chance to tell him nor see how he was feeling. I never got to talk to him in person or on the phone. To me, that is unfair to both of us!
I know I hurt his feelings somehow so that is why I wanted to make it better. I even told him in text that I wanted to look him in the eye and see his handsome face when I told him I was sorry.
I never got the chance to explain-that hurt. I just needed to talk to him to reassure myself and him. I told him I was the same girl he liked (the one he originally told me he liked me for me) and that I wanted a second chance. It bothered me that he ignored me and said the hurtful things he said.
So that is the jist of what happened. I do not want to be judged, I already know I did it all wrong, And I know I am learing lessons but I feel horrible. I still like him!
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OMG YOU DID NOT DO NOTHING BUT BE HUMAN and make a mistake. Did you even peek at my post for this message???? I guess not. This libra is using that a reason to get away from you. If he really liked you, someone in crevises might've alerted him to back up, like he did. But when you came back and asked for forgiveness, he would've at least heard you out if he cared. Libra in love, most likely will always forgive but NEVER forget if they feel the apology or mistake was genuine, and truly unmeant to hurt us. This guy is a not like that about you. He only liked you, he didn't love you or you wouldn't have had to beg him this long. Im sorry. Libra's just don??t hold grudges like that. He fooling you.lol. I mean its not funny but ive been a libra for 23 going on 24 yrs, I think I'd know. Libra's are too fun, and bouncy for drama. Infact we spend most of our life avoiding it. And that the situation he saw with you, that It could have been drama. He needed time to weigh the pros and cons of what he'd have and loose in the situation with you, had you allowed him that space he might've felt he deserved an explanation and would've contacted you on his own. But you wouldn't let up. If your would've read my other post, I TOLD you to leave it be, and let him come to you. But now he straight dissed you, and he will continue to do it, IF you let him. You have to show some sort of backbone and get a grip or this libra will never chase you or want you romantically. They value strong, beautiful, and smart, and fun women MINUS the drama, DOUBLE the independence.
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AND OMG DID YOU SAY YOUR A SAGG!! GIRL BYE! YOU COULD'VE HAD THIS LIBRA EATING OUT THE PALM OF YOUR HAND.LOL. Sagg's and Libras are the bread and butter of a relationship. You should've showed him your flock of handsome men chasing after you, looked like super model when he saw, smelled of roses, and did your own thing and let him know his childish way of handling things was NOT going to stop your flow. He either would've settled down and came around, or you two would probably at least still be friends. I LOVE SAGG'S. Sagg men that is. They are so effin fun!
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OMG YOU DID NOT DO NOTHING BUT BE HUMAN and make a mistake. Did you even peek at my post for this message???? I guess not. This libra is using that a reason to get away from you. If he really liked you, someone in crevises might've alerted him to back up, like he did. But when you came back and asked for forgiveness, he would've at least heard you out if he cared. Libra in love, most likely will always forgive but NEVER forget if they feel the apology or mistake was genuine, and truly unmeant to hurt us. This guy is a not like that about you. He only liked you, he didn't love you or you wouldn't have had to beg him this long. Im sorry. Libra's just don??t hold grudges like that. He fooling you.lol. I mean its not funny but ive been a libra for 23 going on 24 yrs, I think I'd know. Libra's are too fun, and bouncy for drama. Infact we spend most of our life avoiding it. And that the situation he saw with you, that It could have been drama. He needed time to weigh the pros and cons of what he'd have and loose in the situation with you, had you allowed him that space he might've felt he deserved an explanation and would've contacted you on his own. But you wouldn't let up. If your would've read my other post, I TOLD you to leave it be, and let him come to you. But now he straight dissed you, and he will continue to do it, IF you let him. You have to show some sort of backbone and get a grip or this libra will never chase you or want you romantically. They value strong, beautiful, and smart, and fun women MINUS the drama, DOUBLE the independence.


Hey ALibra! I read your post in its entierty. Coulnd't see all of it bcus you hid it! LOL.
I stopped contacting him on Sunday night, so this is all new. I got your post yesterday! Where was it 5 days ago!!! HAHA J/K. In all seriousness I have not contacted him since then.
I know he didn't love me. We only dated for a 1 1/2 months. Not long enough to LOVE someone at all! I just thought he respected me enough or at the very least liked me enough to hear me out. He didn't.
The situation he saw with me was not drama. That is a very harsh judgement when you think about it, bcus he didn't know me really at all. I just wanted to talk to him, reassure both of us and move on. He brought it to the next level by avoiding me, and accusing me of things. I didn't even have a chance to talk. Which being a Sag-I love to do. As
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AND OMG DID YOU SAY YOUR A SAGG!! GIRL BYE! YOU COULD'VE HAD THIS LIBRA EATING OUT THE PALM OF YOUR HAND.LOL. Sagg's and Libras are the bread and butter of a relationship. You should've showed him your flock of handsome men chasing after you, looked like super model when he saw, smelled of roses, and did your own thing and let him know his childish way of handling things was NOT going to stop your flow. He either would've settled down and came around, or you two would probably at least still be friends. I LOVE SAGG'S. Sagg men that is. They are so effin fun!


YES I SAID I WAS A SAG! HAHAHAHA smile smile smile I read that Sag's & Libras make a tremendous pair! His childish ways did stop my flow. It rather boiled over if you ask me. He had me second guessing his intentions with me....if you look at too...were right on!
He told me I was fun too! I didn't know what he meant. So in the texts (the break up texts that is) I asked him. He said he was describing me, not our relationship. HMMMM, didn't know unless I asked right? smile
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His lost in my opinion. I don??t feel you did anything wrong, except leaving it be when he asked. But trying to close one door before completely opening a new one, is no crime. Its smart. So don??t let this get you down. I love my libra's but, we can be unfair in the way we choose to handle things sometimes.
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His lost in my opinion. I don??t feel you did anything wrong, except leaving it be when he asked. But trying to close one door before completely opening a new one, is no crime. Its smart. So don??t let this get you down. I love my libra's but, we can be unfair in the way we choose to handle things sometimes.


It is. Most people regret things, then feel guilty. What they do with it is another thing entirely. I am not sweating it. I just wanted to understand his motives to his actions is all. And same for me.
I did not give him space, you are right. My problem is I heard that once before (from the Aqua ex). He said that to me and it meant we were done. Over. Broke up. So I was unsure, I had to ask. I guess I asked too much.
Every sign, man or woman is unfair. I just thought Libras were all about fairness! LOL.
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He already thinks little of me.....and what do you mean by "if you left any doubt for the guy"?
I hope he contacts me, I really do!
Libra the scales....what we have weighed up in our minds in order to make a decision can be quite definite at the time but after a week or longer especially with no contact from that person can make those scales start tipping in the opposite direction which makes us doubt our original conviction! I'm not saying it is the case here but a definite possibility. Done this myself sooooo many times that when in doubt I come back to DXP land!
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There's only one way to treat Libra males : Treat them mean to keep them keen! By all means never show him how lost you are without him. It's pressure to him. Just go on with your life as if you just could care less what is going on. He will come back to you.
And yes if he does come a calling, mean as in, you have moved on and oh really didn't expect to hear from you again. Give him attention but after you have done whatever you were doing before he decided to call you back again and certainly don't let him know you are dropping everything to be at his beck and call....or he will become bored quickly




the top of the question was a quote from you...my answer started Libra the scales...
And the other was an answer to Cap girl smile
How does he think little of you? I meant that if you like him, tell him! That is all. smile I hope he contacts you too! I wish they both would. smile
I really don't want to plan for if he does contact me. I just want it to happen how it is supposed to. Now I am just calming my nerves, and learning alot. For that I am grateful! smile
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They are all about fairness. He felt it was unfair for you to crowd his space when he asked you to back up.lol. He gave you space while sorted things out with the aqua, then it was your turn, and you didn't pony up.
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They are all about fairness. He felt it was unfair for you to crowd his space when he asked you to back up.lol. He gave you space while sorted things out with the aqua, then it was your turn, and you didn't pony up.


Yes, it was unfair. But it came out of left field to ask me for space when I didn't know why. Then I told him (semi told him) about the Aqua. I didn't even really get the chance before he decided he wanted to go. I didn't have a chance to pony up! haha
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"the top of the question was a quote from you...my answer started Libra the scales...
And the other was an answer to Cap girl
How does he think little of you? I meant that if you like him, tell him! That is all. I hope he contacts you too! I wish they both would.
I really don't want to plan for if he does contact me. I just want it to happen how it is supposed to. Now I am just calming my nerves, and learning alot. For that I am grateful!"
HAHA I saw that! I am a ding bat today. My mind is wandering. Not a good thing.
He thinks little of me bcus of what he said. It was not good. It put me in a solemn mood on Monday. I was off from work too! Should have been a good day! If you go back into my feed you will see what he said.
I have told him I liked him. It is out of my hands now. Can only pray he contacts me once his scales are even again. I hope your guy contacts you too! smile
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If we ask for space, give it to us...for as long as we need it. We will contact again when we are ready. When I need space I can take easily 3 days to think things through.
I am with a Leeb, he and I were at our differences the other day and I went around to see him and asked a few questions about how we were going. We spoke without much resolve at that point and he told me to leave...WOW!! I didn't want to and more because he was telling me to. I questioned him and he insisted he wanted me to go. After about 5 minutes I said Really, are you sure you want me to leave?? And he said "yes" so I said alright, Goodbye and got up and left!
He was sucking up the next day, just couldn't be with me right then until he figured things out. It was all too hard at that time.
In your case though, his asking you not to contact him again feels final, especially when you take the time you were together into consideration. 6 weeks can feel enormous while being in lust but the reality is it is hard to feel real feelings of permanancy in that short period.
And yes it is unfair that he hasn't let you explain or he hasn't explained himself but "GUILTY" I have done this numerous times, can't get the words out, they come out wrong. It's easier to let it go without more drama, so I have! And when the shoe is on the other foot I hate it as much as you!! But what can you really do??
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I have no problem with someone asking for space. I ask for it myself from time to time. Not as often as most since what I think is usually what I say. My problem was that in the past I have been told by someone that they needed space, and space to that person was it was the end. No more relationship, no talking about the issue, no seeing or sympathizing what the other person involved was feeling...nothing. That is where my fear came in. I thought that was happening all over again. As twisted as it sounds, it is one of my insecurities I am trying to make head way in. When I spoke of lessons, this is ONE lesson I struggle to learn. Hopefully now, I have. smile
"In your case though, his asking you not to contact him again feels final, especially when you take the time you were together into consideration. 6 weeks can feel enormous while being in lust but the reality is it is hard to feel real feelings of permanancy in that short period."
I agree with you whole heartedly! I was starting to feel for him, as my friend pointed out to me a week before it all started to fall apart. I just did not want to beleive it. I was not in love with him by any means. I just wanted an opportunity. I thought he did too. Libra's go to all the stops to impress someone but when the going gets tough, they run. I know that now too. Another lesson! smile
"And yes it is unfair that he hasn't let you explain or he hasn't explained himself but "GUILTY" I have done this numerous times, can't get the words out, they come out wrong. It's easier to let it go without more drama, so I have! And when the shoe is on the other foot I hate it as much as you!! But what can you really do??"
Why is it so hard to get the words out? I am not trying to be mean, but I am just curious. Being an air sign, do you battle with your emotions? I have let it go. I already created enough drama, to make him run for the hills! At this point, I can't really do anything. I am trusting my gut, by not contacting him. It is what I should have done all along. smile
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