When a Libra ignores you
But texts you sprurradically, & then says Im sorry wth is he thinking???...
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Posted by NikkiMse1978
...I just needed to talk to him to reassure myself and him. ..
Reassure him of what? The more you write here, the more bits of info you reveal that makes me think his decision to break it off with you is not based solely on a single little isolated incident of one phone call from your ex as you say. You are making your libra out to be a very petty man on this board
Posted by pathfinderPosted by NikkiMse1978
...I just needed to talk to him to reassure myself and him. ..
Reassure him of what? The more you write here, the more bits of info you reveal that makes me think his decision to break it off with you is not based solely on a single little isolated incident of one phone call from your ex as you say. You are making your libra out to be a very petty man on this boardclick to expand
Reassure him and myself that we liked each other enough to talk about what was bothering us. It is not based off of one single phone call. It stemmed from that, yes. But it also stemmed from his avoidance. How the heck are you supposed to have a relationship if you don't talk? Common sense, it seems to me. Petty? No. Childish, yes.
Also, I didn't come on here to get bashed on either.
Posted by NikkiMse1978
@Sweets-
I have no problem with someone asking for space. I ask for it myself from time to time. Not as often as most since what I think is usually what I say. My problem was that in the past I have been told by someone that they needed space, and space to that person was it was the end. No more relationship, no talking about the issue, no seeing or sympathizing what the other person involved was feeling...nothing. That is where my fear came in. I thought that was happening all over again. As twisted as it sounds, it is one of my insecurities I am trying to make head way in. When I spoke of lessons, this is ONE lesson I struggle to learn. Hopefully now, I have.
"In your case though, his asking you not to contact him again feels final, especially when you take the time you were together into consideration. 6 weeks can feel enormous while being in lust but the reality is it is hard to feel real feelings of permanancy in that short period."
I agree with you whole heartedly! I was starting to feel for him, as my friend pointed out to me a week before it all started to fall apart. I just did not want to beleive it. I was not in love with him by any means. I just wanted an opportunity. I thought he did too. Libra's go to all the stops to impress someone but when the going gets tough, they run. I know that now too. Another lesson!
"And yes it is unfair that he hasn't let you explain or he hasn't explained himself but "GUILTY" I have done this numerous times, can't get the words out, they come out wrong. It's easier to let it go without more drama, so I have! And when the shoe is on the other foot I hate it as much as you!! But what can you really do??"
Why is it so hard to get the words out? I am not trying to be mean, but I am just curious. Being an air sign, do you battle with your emotions? I have let it go. I already created enough drama, to make him run for the hills! At this point, I can't really do anything. I am trusting my gut, by not contacting him. It is what I should have done all along.
- Yes that is a problem and it is a very common problem, I do it myself. You really have to wake up when the situation arises with someone else that your insecurities are unwarranted with that person. Just because you were treated like that with your exs or friends/family. It really is unfair for you to think that the new beau is or will
do the same. It's possible to stop the pattern, I've pulled myself up on it numerous times. Mine are liars, I have experienced in the last 5 years, 4 compulsive liars!!! I've suspected my Leeb of lying because of this insecurity, never accused him of anything because I know this is a constant nag in my system and he really isn't like that. He in turn was cheated on and watches me all the time, and as a flirty Leeb that can play havoc.
I think the first 6 or so weeks is a trial period. We are thinkers and we are constantly weighing things up in our minds. Whether you are compatible? whether when things are rocky you can be bothered to stick it out and amend it? Is it worth it? Are you the one? Whether when you are not around we are thinking of you and missing you or happy to be wherever we are and not bothered to contact you at all? You see when you start hitting rough patches, this is when we are forced to open our eyes and start seeing the reality of the situation. If it is all happening too soon, it can seem all too much to deal with!
idk, I thought it was just me. In my mind everything is clear, all the points are there but when I try to speak it all becomes jumbled and sounds jumbled when I try and tell someone else. Last night I had a talk with my man about a situation which I have been trying to get him to talk to me about concerning his children. He had fobbed me off twice and it had come to a head. His response, "it's my problem I'll deal with it" and then wanted to turn over and go to sleep. I said, Firstly it's not a problem if we talk about it. It took me 10 minutes to get him talking and we managed to resolve it but he didn't want to talk at all. Just wanted to sort it out himself even though it was a weighty issue for him! And we have been together 6 months and were in bed together so he couldn't run off or ignore me, so I can imagine you trying to get your Leeb talking via texting or phone...impossible!
I think the first 6 or so weeks is a trial period. We are thinkers and we are constantly weighing things up in our minds. Whether you are compatible? whether when things are rocky you can be bothered to stick it out and amend it? Is it worth it? Are you the one? Whether when you are not around we are thinking of you and missing you or happy to be wherever we are and not bothered to contact you at all? You see when you start hitting rough patches, this is when we are forced to open our eyes and start seeing the reality of the situation. If it is all happening too soon, it can seem all too much to deal with!
idk, I thought it was just me. In my mind everything is clear, all the points are there but when I try to speak it all becomes jumbled and sounds jumbled when I try and tell someone else. Last night I had a talk with my man about a situation which I have been trying to get him to talk to me about concerning his children. He had fobbed me off twice and it had come to a head. His response, "it's my problem I'll deal with it" and then wanted to turn over and go to sleep. I said, Firstly it's not a problem if we talk about it. It took me 10 minutes to get him talking and we managed to resolve it but he didn't want to talk at all. Just wanted to sort it out himself even though it was a weighty issue for him! And we have been together 6 months and were in bed together so he couldn't run off or ignore me, so I can imagine you trying to get your Leeb talking via texting or phone...impossible!
You are right. It is my problem and I am trying to learn to deal with it. It is so hard sometimes though to not revert back to behavior that repulses you. The Aqua ex did this to me all the time, came back, we fought (obviously for something I always did, bucus HE was always right), we wouldn't talk (I or he would come back) and then WHAM. Same pattern, just a different season! I finally had to stop it from happening again! It was like a frickin Merry Go Round ride and I finally got off the ride!
This time, it has lasting effects. That is why I am here. I am concerned about my treatment of the Libra. It was unfair, unwarranted, as you say and totally dumb on my part, but I couldn't help freaking the f*% & out when he told me he needed space!!!
All in all, what is done is done. I do pray he contacts me, whenever that will be. It seems ALONG time, but it also seems if he even really liked me in the first place. Do you think I can contact him, in 2 weeks maybe? If not, and it is a bad thing, then I won't. My gut says not too, but I am curious (another bad Sag trait-curiosity always kills my cat!)
Trying to talk to him via text was the worst feeling possible. I just needed to talk, to make sure we were ok and I would have moved on. My paranoia kicked in and well, we know what happened.
I like hearing others trials and tribulations. It is healing for me and it give me an aspect of human behavior. One thing I have yet researched! And we know me being a Sag, we love our research!
This time, it has lasting effects. That is why I am here. I am concerned about my treatment of the Libra. It was unfair, unwarranted, as you say and totally dumb on my part, but I couldn't help freaking the f*% & out when he told me he needed space!!!
All in all, what is done is done. I do pray he contacts me, whenever that will be. It seems ALONG time, but it also seems if he even really liked me in the first place. Do you think I can contact him, in 2 weeks maybe? If not, and it is a bad thing, then I won't. My gut says not too, but I am curious (another bad Sag trait-curiosity always kills my cat!)
Trying to talk to him via text was the worst feeling possible. I just needed to talk, to make sure we were ok and I would have moved on. My paranoia kicked in and well, we know what happened.
I like hearing others trials and tribulations. It is healing for me and it give me an aspect of human behavior. One thing I have yet researched! And we know me being a Sag, we love our research!
You'll be fine, but No I think don't contact him. Go about your own and do you for a bit.
I was married to a Sag for 20 years!! We hardly fought but then I had complete trust in him for most of those years. Was an easy relationship, and is a good friendship now
Hope you find what you are looking for.
I was married to a Sag for 20 years!! We hardly fought but then I had complete trust in him for most of those years. Was an easy relationship, and is a good friendship now
Hope you find what you are looking for.
Posted by sweethearts
You'll be fine, but No I think don't contact him. Go about your own and do you for a bit.
I was married to a Sag for 20 years!! We hardly fought but then I had complete trust in him for most of those years. Was an easy relationship, and is a good friendship now
Hope you find what you are looking for.
Exactly what I am feeling (or my gut, whatever you want to call it!)!!!!
I don't beleive this is a fight per say, more like a breakdown in communication. This seems to be the number one reason relationships fail.
Thanks!
Nikki my libra left me too.
He told me never to talk to him again.
3 months later he came back and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me.
Libras are really good people. I really don't think they try to hurt you on purpose. They are pretty logical.
He told me never to talk to him again.
3 months later he came back and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me.
Libras are really good people. I really don't think they try to hurt you on purpose. They are pretty logical.
@Sag89- it was/is too soon for him to say he loves me. A 6 week relationship is too short of a time. Im not contacting him since that is what he asked.
If he comes back he does. If not I will move on & learn.
He didnt mean or want to hurt me. He did only a little. I wont tell him that!!! Lol.
How long were you & your Libra together? & how did he tell you to not contact him? Are you with him now?
If he comes back he does. If not I will move on & learn.
He didnt mean or want to hurt me. He did only a little. I wont tell him that!!! Lol.
How long were you & your Libra together? & how did he tell you to not contact him? Are you with him now?
Posted by NikkiMse1978
@Sag89- it was/is too soon for him to say he loves me. A 6 week relationship is too short of a time. Im not contacting him since that is what he asked.
If he comes back he does. If not I will move on & learn.
He didnt mean or want to hurt me. He did only a little. I wont tell him that!!! Lol.
How long were you & your Libra together? & how did he tell you to not contact him? Are you with him now?
We were together for 2 years just kind of fucking and being friends. He decided he was going to move to cali and that he needs to move on and so do I. I was very upset he didn't hug me or really look at me the whole time we talked.
The next day said it's better if we never talk again. I begged and pleaded put on a whole show. ( I do with every guy really, I'm very emotionally regressed in some ways )
Anyway he left and that was it really.
Didn't hear from him for 3 months. It was really hard but I moved on went to school dated other guys. Than he started popping up on facebook and with texting. He presude me for a while and than told me he loved me and would like us to try and be together.
I said no because I never could see him as a boyfriend I guess. I do love him though.
So no we aren't together.
Posted by Sag89
Nikki my libra left me too.
He told me never to talk to him again.
3 months later he came back and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me.
Libras are really good people. I really don't think they try to hurt you on purpose. They are pretty logical.
I agree with you on that. They are really good people. My brother and my best guy friend are libras. I am very close with my brother and my male BFF...and I have a lil libra influences in my chart...I guess thats why i'm totally blindsided by this libra guy because we got along soooooooooo well. I also noticed with my bro, my BFF, and this libra dude is that they have the tendency to fall in love with crazy,controlling,manipulative women. My lil brother ex-gf was very possessive of him, my BFF wife is very crazy and controlling, and my libra dude said high school sweetheart was mean and manipulative.
I guess I wasn't mean enough...lol!
but back on subject..they are wonderful people.
I can truly say I never met a mean libra.
Hi Nikki! Post 1
Sorry for your situation. I agree with the leave the Libra alone and definately give him space. I also had to learn the hard way. Twice my Leeb has "disappeared" on me for months - yes girl for MONTHS! And we didn't even have a fight. Looking back on it he was unsure of a few things and one of them was could he be the man I needed and deserved and he confessed that he didn't feel good enough for me because of his current situation at the time. Even when we have fought and I was the screw up and I have messed up bad and he needed space - he always came back and I now do not take it for granted.
Because Libra's are Air signs they can appear externally cool, aloof even but they are sensitive. Sometimes I forget how sensitive my Leeb can be. Leebs I think internalize their emotions so you get a cool distant exterior. It's like women we communicate we talk out loud, with our girlfriends, on forums (most of us our women), we are very external with how we communicate and men they do not do that. You mix that with a Leeb male and well he is quiet. BUT that does not mean he doesn't feel, or is doesn't get hurt. Leebs sulk. They do. And they sulk and brood and they do it when no one is around. That is just how they tend to be.
If you showed uncertainty and this Leeb was feeling you...he has flew. Leebs are romantic and loving people and they do not like hurting others on purpose and they do not like getting hurt themselves so now he is internalizing and weighing all his emotions and feelings on the inside and he needs space. And you asked where is the relationship going. If he did not know or had no answer and felt that a conflict would ensue - they disappear. 1. to avoid confrontation and 2. to weight the scales on where the relationship is going. You cannot push Leebs to talk or confess or answer if they do not know or if they do not want to. You can argue and try until you become an alien from outer space and you will irritate them and they will respond and in the way you do not want. AND they will leave anyway.
Yes it can be confusing. I was confused for a loooooonnnnnnggg time. BUT I have learned quite a bit. No contact is simply no contact. When my Leeb doesn't contact me now I know 1. he needs space and its usually he has something on his mind and he needs a moment and he doesn't feel as a grown man he has to explain himself. As his women I should have faith in him, trust him, know him enough that he just needed space.
Sorry for your situation. I agree with the leave the Libra alone and definately give him space. I also had to learn the hard way. Twice my Leeb has "disappeared" on me for months - yes girl for MONTHS! And we didn't even have a fight. Looking back on it he was unsure of a few things and one of them was could he be the man I needed and deserved and he confessed that he didn't feel good enough for me because of his current situation at the time. Even when we have fought and I was the screw up and I have messed up bad and he needed space - he always came back and I now do not take it for granted.
Because Libra's are Air signs they can appear externally cool, aloof even but they are sensitive. Sometimes I forget how sensitive my Leeb can be. Leebs I think internalize their emotions so you get a cool distant exterior. It's like women we communicate we talk out loud, with our girlfriends, on forums (most of us our women), we are very external with how we communicate and men they do not do that. You mix that with a Leeb male and well he is quiet. BUT that does not mean he doesn't feel, or is doesn't get hurt. Leebs sulk. They do. And they sulk and brood and they do it when no one is around. That is just how they tend to be.
If you showed uncertainty and this Leeb was feeling you...he has flew. Leebs are romantic and loving people and they do not like hurting others on purpose and they do not like getting hurt themselves so now he is internalizing and weighing all his emotions and feelings on the inside and he needs space. And you asked where is the relationship going. If he did not know or had no answer and felt that a conflict would ensue - they disappear. 1. to avoid confrontation and 2. to weight the scales on where the relationship is going. You cannot push Leebs to talk or confess or answer if they do not know or if they do not want to. You can argue and try until you become an alien from outer space and you will irritate them and they will respond and in the way you do not want. AND they will leave anyway.
Yes it can be confusing. I was confused for a loooooonnnnnnggg time. BUT I have learned quite a bit. No contact is simply no contact. When my Leeb doesn't contact me now I know 1. he needs space and its usually he has something on his mind and he needs a moment and he doesn't feel as a grown man he has to explain himself. As his women I should have faith in him, trust him, know him enough that he just needed space.
Hi Nikki - Post 2
So what I am saying is your Leeb ran because you stumbled. So he saw some hestiation, some change, you asked a very direct serious question in which he was not prepared for and probaly did not have an answer for and felt some pressure from you. He is a gentlemen knows you are a mom and bought him gifts so he is being a man and returning your money because he doesnt want you to be put out and furthermore he does not want the gifts over his head. Leebs (or at least my Leeb) doesn't like that feeling. If you do contact him again - your going to Lose big time. Leebs value respect and cannot stand being disrespected or others to be disrespected.
Now you two have been dating for about a month maybe a bit or less but right now he doesnt know about you. And even IF YOU want to explain he is not ready to hear it because he is busy figuring out and dealing with his feelings on the inside and he needs space. He is indifferent to you and your feelings at the moment because he is dealing with his own. And right now he is saying you go your way and I will go mine. You may never hear from him again. This you should accept and count it as a lesson. Don't let exes back or get into your space. Take if from Jay-Z "On to the Next". In three months he may send a random text (something Leebs do often) and it will be your chance to say ok we can try this again or you have moved on. Also, do not dwell in the past. Once a Leeb has come back especially after a fight they are ready to move on. Do not talk about the situation unless he asks. He is coming back because he has decided to give you another chance that you are worth the second chance and he is looking to move forward.
If he should ( I hope so) take your time with Leebs. They tend to march to the beat of their own drums and this is what makes them unique. Learn their beat and love it don't ever try and change it. Leeb will love and yes possess you for a loonggg time.
Hope this helps + Good Luck. Happy Holidays and New Year.
So what I am saying is your Leeb ran because you stumbled. So he saw some hestiation, some change, you asked a very direct serious question in which he was not prepared for and probaly did not have an answer for and felt some pressure from you. He is a gentlemen knows you are a mom and bought him gifts so he is being a man and returning your money because he doesnt want you to be put out and furthermore he does not want the gifts over his head. Leebs (or at least my Leeb) doesn't like that feeling. If you do contact him again - your going to Lose big time. Leebs value respect and cannot stand being disrespected or others to be disrespected.
Now you two have been dating for about a month maybe a bit or less but right now he doesnt know about you. And even IF YOU want to explain he is not ready to hear it because he is busy figuring out and dealing with his feelings on the inside and he needs space. He is indifferent to you and your feelings at the moment because he is dealing with his own. And right now he is saying you go your way and I will go mine. You may never hear from him again. This you should accept and count it as a lesson. Don't let exes back or get into your space. Take if from Jay-Z "On to the Next". In three months he may send a random text (something Leebs do often) and it will be your chance to say ok we can try this again or you have moved on. Also, do not dwell in the past. Once a Leeb has come back especially after a fight they are ready to move on. Do not talk about the situation unless he asks. He is coming back because he has decided to give you another chance that you are worth the second chance and he is looking to move forward.
If he should ( I hope so) take your time with Leebs. They tend to march to the beat of their own drums and this is what makes them unique. Learn their beat and love it don't ever try and change it. Leeb will love and yes possess you for a loonggg time.
Hope this helps + Good Luck. Happy Holidays and New Year.
Hi jmr
Yes, it did help! Thank you for the thoughtful response!
You have pointed me to the valuble lesson I have been trying to learn...for some time now. & which I failed at miserably before.
Everything you said has given me the knowledge that HE is going through something & whether I advertantly pushed him there or not. It is the path meant for us to walk..alone.
I slipped, asking if he liked his gifts & wishing him a wonderful New Year.
Mistake, yes. We are all not perfect & will fumble from time to time. Lesson learned, finally!
I have deleted his number from my phone. To cause harm, no. To be spiteful, no. To let it be what it is, yes. He may have been in my life a short time. However the lessons hes shown me will last me a lifetime!
Being a romantic (& a Sag) he showed me what I failed to see plenty of times before...that I deserve more. & I deserve love (friend or romantic) too! Hes was the epitamy of the man I want.
I dont expect he will "come back" but I do expect myself growing from the expierence. Ive read what you said that he may, if so it will be by my choice. Ive also said if I do speak to him again I wont bring up what happened, so I agree with you on that. A breakdown in communication is what happened! Lol.
Thanks for your insight. It was most knd. & duely noted.
Yes, it did help! Thank you for the thoughtful response!
You have pointed me to the valuble lesson I have been trying to learn...for some time now. & which I failed at miserably before.
Everything you said has given me the knowledge that HE is going through something & whether I advertantly pushed him there or not. It is the path meant for us to walk..alone.
I slipped, asking if he liked his gifts & wishing him a wonderful New Year.
Mistake, yes. We are all not perfect & will fumble from time to time. Lesson learned, finally!
I have deleted his number from my phone. To cause harm, no. To be spiteful, no. To let it be what it is, yes. He may have been in my life a short time. However the lessons hes shown me will last me a lifetime!
Being a romantic (& a Sag) he showed me what I failed to see plenty of times before...that I deserve more. & I deserve love (friend or romantic) too! Hes was the epitamy of the man I want.
I dont expect he will "come back" but I do expect myself growing from the expierence. Ive read what you said that he may, if so it will be by my choice. Ive also said if I do speak to him again I wont bring up what happened, so I agree with you on that. A breakdown in communication is what happened! Lol.
Thanks for your insight. It was most knd.
& duely noted.
I agree - just let him have his space. There are a ton of other people out there and this could potentially be wasting your time. I have been with my Libra bf for over 3 years. I came on this board in the very beginning just as confused and hurt and upset. Instead ours lasted, but not without a lot of heart ache in the beginning and a break up.
I fought really hard for him, and thought he was the best man that I could ever find. The truth is - Libras are WORK. They just are. And the decision that has to be made is not whether or not you love the man, it's if you are willing to put up with what it all entails. (the same consideration you'd give anyone)
Like I said - 3 years with mine, and I still question it every now and then.
Libras are a lot more deep than they put on. There's a lot going on inside....
I fought really hard for him, and thought he was the best man that I could ever find. The truth is - Libras are WORK. They just are. And the decision that has to be made is not whether or not you love the man, it's if you are willing to put up with what it all entails. (the same consideration you'd give anyone)
Like I said - 3 years with mine, and I still question it every now and then.
Libras are a lot more deep than they put on. There's a lot going on inside....
@Sucha
What type of heartache are you speaking of? And how long was your "break up?"
My Libra (well, he really isn't or ever was my Libra) and I were only seeing each other for 6 weeks. Nothing really to write home about, but still, not even an opportunity to build on anything or to talk about what went wrong! I basically do not exist at this point. No communication at all. I did send a Happy New Year text, that was it. And no reponse. Did your Libra just leave you out in the cold too?
How did you fight? Can you clarify that for me.
I am willing to consider his feelings on what happened and I am willing to "put up" with all that it entails IF he decides to be fair to me as well. That is what bothers me about Libra's. They are all about fairness, but only to themselves. And NOT to the other person as it appears.
What type of heartache are you speaking of? And how long was your "break up?"
My Libra (well, he really isn't or ever was my Libra) and I were only seeing each other for 6 weeks. Nothing really to write home about, but still, not even an opportunity to build on anything or to talk about what went wrong! I basically do not exist at this point. No communication at all. I did send a Happy New Year text, that was it. And no reponse. Did your Libra just leave you out in the cold too?
How did you fight? Can you clarify that for me.
I am willing to consider his feelings on what happened and I am willing to "put up" with all that it entails IF he decides to be fair to me as well. That is what bothers me about Libra's. They are all about fairness, but only to themselves. And NOT to the other person as it appears.
Lol at 'they march to the beat of their own drum', so untrue. The rest is true though
Posted by NikkiMse1978
My Libra (well, he really isn't or ever was my Libra) and I were only seeing each other for 6 weeks. Nothing really to write home about, but still, not even an opportunity to build on anything or to talk about what went wrong! I basically do not exist at this point. No communication at all. I did send a Happy New Year text, that was it. And no reponse.
I'm feeling like how you feel Nikki..I wonder why do I feel this way when we dated for a short time. I hate it when someone effects me like this. My libra dude (wasn't really my either)texted me on New Years Day/New Years Eve at 4:45am. I was confused...and kinda sad about it because I was like "why 4:45am??" he knew I was out of town for New Years because he "liked" my status about going out of town spending New Years with family on fb?? Whats up with that?? My b-day was yesterday and I haven't got a "Happy B-day" from him yet...go figure.
I so wanna give him a piece of mind telling him that this shit ain't cool...but it will only make me feel worse than I already feel. So i'll just K.I.M (keep it movin) and I suggest you do the same. I really hope things work out for you...I really do.
Nicki if you just forget about him for a while he'll come back. How are you doing?
These people giving you hope are way out of the ball park! You've blown it completely from what I can see. He's asked to be left alone and you didn't hear it. If you acted like a lady and held your own he might have had second thoughts but no you persisted and only made yourself look desperate and undesirable!
He won't look back now! Do some work on yourself, you are a beautiful person and one day someone will come along and you know they will be the one.. Without much effort!
He won't look back now! Do some work on yourself, you are a beautiful person and one day someone will come along and you know they will be the one.. Without much effort!
Posted by WaterCup
Lol at 'they march to the beat of their own drum', so untrue. The rest is true though
They do "March to the beat of their own drum" when the beat is for them, not anyone else! HA
Posted by CapSoulPosted by NikkiMse1978
My Libra (well, he really isn't or ever was my Libra) and I were only seeing each other for 6 weeks. Nothing really to write home about, but still, not even an opportunity to build on anything or to talk about what went wrong! I basically do not exist at this point. No communication at all. I did send a Happy New Year text, that was it. And no reponse.
I'm feeling like how you feel Nikki..I wonder why do I feel this way when we dated for a short time. I hate it when someone effects me like this. My libra dude (wasn't really my either)texted me on New Years Day/New Years Eve at 4:45am. I was confused...and kinda sad about it because I was like "why 4:45am??" he knew I was out of town for New Years because he "liked" my status about going out of town spending New Years with family on fb?? Whats up with that?? My b-day was yesterday and I haven't got a "Happy B-day" from him yet...go figure.
I so wanna give him a piece of mind telling him that this shit ain't cool...but it will only make me feel worse than I already feel. So i'll just K.I.M (keep it movin) and I suggest you do the same. I really hope things work out for you...I really do.click to expand
I know why I do. I got a taste of how I am supposed to be treated by a man, and yet I question it. The Libra told me in the beginning when I asked why he was so sweet to me. He said...1. Because you deserve it and 2. Because that is how my mom taught me to treat a woman I like. WOW! I know right! But yet, I am not confident enough in myself to beleive it. So I keep the jerks around instead of embracing the good guys! They do say good guys finish last. Now I know why!
I think Libras and men in general have a hard time making desicions on what they want bcus of lack of confidence in themselves to. That is why there is wishy washy behavior. I am KIM myself! I hope things work out for you to, but in the meantime let's do US for a change. Ok?? Deal?
Posted by TasteOfChaosss
So it took 86 posts to realize you need to give a Libra space when they ignore you?
Not at all
Posted by Sag89
Nicki if you just forget about him for a while he'll come back. How are you doing?
I have not forgotton him per say, but it is not bothering me as much anymore. Pshh if he comes back. I probably won't be there )or in that place) anymore. I am doing fine! Realized the root of my "problem" and it has nothing to do with him.
YEH! How are you?Posted by LuckyLady
These people giving you hope are way out of the ball park! You've blown it completely from what I can see. He's asked to be left alone and you didn't hear it. If you acted like a lady and held your own he might have had second thoughts but no you persisted and only made yourself look desperate and undesirable!
He won't look back now! Do some work on yourself, you are a beautiful person and one day someone will come along and you know they will be the one.. Without much effort!
I blew it completely bcus it was meant to be blown. He said what he had to say, in lengthy texts and my response was not acknowledged, noticed nor spoken of. His word was just that HIS WORD. Mine did not matter. I do not want a relationship that is one sided anyway. I should be able to express my emotions/feelings as well as my partner. And a discussion/communication should ensue, which in our case did not happen bcus he said so. And to me that is fine by me.
I acted like a lady up until the end. I just wanted to talk to him, so as another poster put he was out 30 days ago! LOL.
I am doing just that! Working on ME! Thank you!
Ya niki lol we already talked about this, but sometimes u just gotta ignore your feelings for somebody. Love finds you I've noticed. After I've "given up" for a while or just decided not to try(but to still look good when I leave the house) is when I've ended up meeting somebody. The key is to get up in the morning and keep things moving. Exercising or doing things to improve your physical and spiritual health also help alot. U know my situation lol I was a mess after that Scorpio chick, but every day that passes I feel less and less attracted to her cause even though we still talk every once and a while her negative attitude and personality just naturally repels me. If it's not meant to be, time will end it. Subconsciously i think we are all able to tell pretty quickly if it's not going to work, the trouble is when u refuse to see it because of other desires or needs that arent currently being met. Just relax, go about your business, and focus on small joys and minor successes throughout your day. A broken heart can be very hard to mend, but think of how much stronger it will be once u fix it. Stay positive! There's sombody for everyone! Be patient
Posted by SrgntLeebz
Ya niki lol we already talked about this, but sometimes u just gotta ignore your feelings for somebody. Love finds you I've noticed. After I've "given up" for a while or just decided not to try(but to still look good when I leave the house) is when I've ended up meeting somebody. The key is to get up in the morning and keep things moving. Exercising or doing things to improve your physical and spiritual health also help alot. U know my situation lol I was a mess after that Scorpio chick, but every day that passes I feel less and less attracted to her cause even though we still talk every once and a while her negative attitude and personality just naturally repels me. If it's not meant to be, time will end it. Subconsciously i think we are all able to tell pretty quickly if it's not going to work, the trouble is when u refuse to see it because of other desires or needs that arent currently being met. Just relax, go about your business, and focus on small joys and minor successes throughout your day. A broken heart can be very hard to mend, but think of how much stronger it will be once u fix it. Stay positive! There's sombody for everyone! Be patient
I wasn't able to "tell" it was going to end quickly with this one. I honestly have to say even admist all the confusion at the end, it was the best relationship (even if it was 6 weeks) that I have ever had!
Posted by oldskoolflavor
sex is one hell of a mindfuck
Sex can be if you let it. Not in this case.
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by CapSoulPosted by NikkiMse1978
My Libra (well, he really isn't or ever was my Libra) and I were only seeing each other for 6 weeks. Nothing really to write home about, but still, not even an opportunity to build on anything or to talk about what went wrong! I basically do not exist at this point. No communication at all. I did send a Happy New Year text, that was it. And no reponse.
I'm feeling like how you feel Nikki..I wonder why do I feel this way when we dated for a short time. I hate it when someone effects me like this. My libra dude (wasn't really my either)texted me on New Years Day/New Years Eve at 4:45am. I was confused...and kinda sad about it because I was like "why 4:45am??" he knew I was out of town for New Years because he "liked" my status about going out of town spending New Years with family on fb?? Whats up with that?? My b-day was yesterday and I haven't got a "Happy B-day" from him yet...go figure.
I so wanna give him a piece of mind telling him that this shit ain't cool...but it will only make me feel worse than I already feel. So i'll just K.I.M (keep it movin) and I suggest you do the same. I really hope things work out for you...I really do.
I know why I do. I got a taste of how I am supposed to be treated by a man, and yet I question it. The Libra told me in the beginning when I asked why he was so sweet to me. He said...1. Because you deserve it and 2. Because that is how my mom taught me to treat a woman I like. WOW! I know right! But yet, I am not confident enough in myself to beleive it. So I keep the jerks around instead of embracing the good guys! They do say good guys finish last. Now I know why!
I think Libras and men in general have a hard time making desicions on what they want bcus of lack of confidence in themselves to. That is why there is wishy washy behavior. I am KIM myself! I hope things work out for you to, but in the meantime let's do US for a change. Ok?? Deal?click to expand
I'm with ya Nikki
@ Cap-Great to hear!
Lot's of self reflection going on here. At times it is PRET-TY scary, but I am able to "see" things that others have all along. It is not easy as Water has said, but by golly this is my year, bcus I had a dream that in 2013-my dreams are coming true! And 13 is a very LUCKY number! HAHA
Lot's of self reflection going on here. At times it is PRET-TY scary, but I am able to "see" things that others have all along. It is not easy as Water has said, but by golly this is my year, bcus I had a dream that in 2013-my dreams are coming true! And 13 is a very LUCKY number! HAHA
LUCKY? Waaaaaaaah! Dont torture me.
Posted by WaterCup
LUCKY? Waaaaaaaah! Dont torture me.
I am not trying to on purpose! I heard a our song today too, getting my morning java at Dunkin Donuts, so it is tortue all the way around!
Posted by NikkiMse1978Posted by Sag89
Nicki if you just forget about him for a while he'll come back. How are you doing?
I have not forgotton him per say, but it is not bothering me as much anymore. Pshh if he comes back. I probably won't be there )or in that place) anymore. I am doing fine! Realized the root of my "problem" and it has nothing to do with him.click to expand
It never does
I'm glad you're good. I'm pretty fine tooYeh!!! I'm excited bcus I finally "see" the lesson my karma has been trying to teach me. It's never too late! Why just ok?
he is thinking why did you not make me the damn sawmich when I asked?
Posted by Mooniemooneyes
he is thinking why did you not make me the damn sawmich when I asked?
He never asked for the damn sandwinch! LOL.
Well then he can just go weep himself to sleep then.
Posted by VirgoDeVille
Ignore them back, ten fold.
Yup, should of done that. But being a Sag, had to send my cleansing text. Now back to ignoring him. Funny too, cuz Libras are good at ignoring you! When they are done, they really are done!!
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by VirgoDeVille
Ignore them back, ten fold.
How is that even possible ?click to expand
It is possible, beleive me! haha
You may miss what they were about, but when it ends you see who they really were. Does that make sense? Don't get me wrong, I need and deserve a partner that treats me equally and with devotion and like the Queen I am, but I also need a man who is strong to talk to me about what he is feeling or to give me some kind of warning before he disappears. A little preperation if you will! All in all I do like Libra's! ^^this is deep Nikki, u really are progressing. To know that ur really over sumone/sumthing, its when ur free of all negative emotions. Sumtimes u can still love them, but accepting that they are not the type of man u want, eases the pain. Im glad that u reached that level of acceptance my friend. Keep it up.
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