why does libra keep coming back?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by capris on Tuesday, July 15, 2008 and has 94 replies.
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I think that most of the women on this board feel like that . We love these libra men and deep down inside we all wish that they will come back and be the man we "know" they are. And have the relationship that we have imagined ...
I really don't know why they keep comming back.I just don't get why they doing that.Can't they see that they are hurting you??? I landed up in the hospital... had a nervous breakdown.I did this too myself I should have let go of Libra a long time ago...
I have asked ex-Libra so many times to stay away from me.Yes, I love him and it is very difficult for me to let him go. I have talk to him telling him how much this thing between us hurts. He knows what happend and now he acts surprise... apperently he didn't realise that I was hurting so much...And all the talking was in vain, because he thought I was just emotional.I guess he didn't hear a word I was saying all this time.
I am at my family's beach house now. And he keeps calling... and I don't think it is becuase he cares. IT IS BECUASE HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE THE BAD PERSON IN THE STORY.
Don't get me wrong I am not blaming him. I blame myself for holding onto my love for him for so long...
U guys sound like me 2 yrs ago smile I'm over all my bitterness with my libra guy. I guess there will always be a special place for him in my heart (sounds cheesy ew).
I agree with "this is a song that never ends..." its probably never going to end unless he's sure that I don't hate him.
capris....

well personally if you was thinkin about hookin back up with him my advice would be to just take things real slow an talk it out an make sure that thas sumthan that both of you really want to commit to again and that both of you are on the same page about everything and of course go with your heart..but then again you know how they say let the past be the past!!! an see what else is out there for you 1st..b4 u reach back to the past!!!

Ex-libra is getting married... Saw his wedding announcement in the paper. It was really just a shock to me.I just lost it for a minute. And it just really hurts.
I will be fine.
OMG Capris it must be the time for LIbrans coming back....after 8 months of disappearance and a pretty sad breakup, he suddenly popped back up - Im not sure as to what the reason is but in a way Im glad that I wasnt the exception to all the advice Ive received on here and that being:
IF THEY LOVE/LOVED YOU, THEY'LL BE BACK.....sure enough, I finally see that too LOL. Aaaaaaaand I would like to pick up the friendship where we left off....I doubt he's ready for a r/ship so Im not going there.
If you're over the bad emotions, the disappointment, etc, then why not? you can be friends...I think 2 years is enough time/distance to be able to do that...you neednt toss the boyfriend aside....your Libra friend will just need to deal with you being with somebody else. If he is a REAL friend, he'll understand...if he doesnt understand? he's just out to see if he can bag his ex again LOL
Yah. I looked pics of me n my x and I didn't feel anything. I usually get emotional when I look @ them...
never let their charm fool you, for that will be your biggest downfall. just hear him out, ok hes apologizing now what? dont expect anything and dont get rid of the guy ur going for. it'd kinda be like quiting ur job before u find out if u got this new job, pointless. if its one thing i've learned from libra males is that they're flaky and will continue to walk in and out of ur life as they please...if u let them. if u close a door leave it locked, if they come knocking they better be friends because nothing more should come back than a good hug and another hand shake goodbye. otherwise he cant be that amazing of a person that you'd melt within an second. they like women who have it together, make sure u have it all together and make sure hes not in that picture perfect life u have outside of friendship. never ask for more because then ur asking for to much.
that's very good advice....very good indeed.
Phoenixblaze is right and that is exactly why I personally havent made another move with my Libra coming back into my life. I now remember the distance he put between us, the coming and going as he pleased yet when he wanted to hook up? I was always obliging.....man have I learnt a LOT since that time....my attitude is (and yours may be different coz he probably doesnt hide behind chat and texts) that if he can't ring me or text me to meet him for lunch or a drink or a quick dinner then he isn't worth worrying about....if he can't be a man this time rather than want to spend copious amounts of hours sitting behind a computer on msn chatting about utter crap then Im not going back there smile Life is too short for that BS and I wont re-live it for him or anybody for that matter.
Basically they come back coz they know they can...if you dont make it easy for them, perhaps they'll work a little harder at coming back for the RIGHT reasons. Dont be too eager to please him.
They're sexy, charming, intelligent, and oh so alluring but at the end of the day, if it didnt work out the first time, why would it work a 2nd time? Especially when there has been so much distance between.
Friendship yes but r/ship? probably not.
My new guy n I seem to be getting along great. so yah...closed door for libra. If anything, 2 yrs is a long time. Shouldn't have taken him that long to realize he fuqd up
exactly!!!
Mine took 8 months and I think THATS a long time
and WHO wants to go back anyway? Honestly...if things are working well with the new one, why would you want the old one?
As I said, if it didnt work the first time, it most likely wont the 2nd time. Look at celebrities who go back and forth LOL.
stupid, stupid, stupid....I wouldnt want anybody back when they've been with others in the meantime anyway - ewwwwwww
LOL
lolz, once an ex always an ex. no point crying over split milk, even milk thats gone sour for 2 yrs... i';d just get a mop!
I've come to the conclusion that libras are addictive, but not for any of the right reasons.
yeh, but I'm still going to go dinner cuz i like food smile I kinda waited for this day when he says sorry, i fuqd up, but it doesn't even matter anymore. Just want to catch up I guess. smile
lol, Chatzy. too true. THEY don't know why they come back. WE don't know why they come back. LOVE? maybe. it's weird. more like sentimentiality.
ok. i don't know whassup w/ me and libras nowadays. I was dating this other libra a few months ago and things didn't work out, but we became pretty cool friends and our friends started hanging out w/ each other. Last night, we hung out and kissed (repeatedly). WTF? He told me that he liked me a lot, but he didn't give me that vibe before so I just played it cool and moved on....ah weird! is theres something in the stars about libras/caps lately? As for the guy I'm seeing, he kinda pissed me off yesterday for not having common courtesy to call me back, so moving on. At this point I don't even know what I want anymore. MEN!
so why did this libra come back. wtf!?
I kinda agree with that cappywench. The funny thing is he said he's still seeing his ex and I said, "I don't care" and told him he's weird. I just wanted to make out a little. I don't care about his private life. ha.
I'm pissed at the guy I'm seeing and I don't want to be a one man woman until he tells me he wants something serious. At least that helps me balance my emotions.
No, we don't have sex. This just happened last night and a few months ago when I was dating him. I'm not really interested in this libra emotionally. I think he's fun and cute, but I don't see a future with him. His x and him broke up awhile ago so I don't know what's going on with that.
I think the answer to all of libra problems is to just ignore them. They can't stand being ignored. I know for sure cuz I've been doing it with the exlibra and he keeps coming back, but this time I am definitely moved on.
ok call me confused. I can't stop thinking about what happened with the recent libra I was with this weekend. Why would he all of a sudden say he likes me "a lot"? He said he is still in love with his x...n i didn't care for that info. how could he like me if he's in love with someonelse. is this for real or he's just being a smooth talker. I know he's not trying to get into my pants cuz he's the one who didn't want to do anything. I was just having fun, then he just had to tell me this little detail about how he likes me a lot. wtf? CONFUSED.
moon eyes, ikinda agree with u. dammit...u guys are right, they are addictive. if not this libra, it's the other libra.
i'm so crushing on him now cuz of that little detail he left, "i like u ALOT." wtf. so don't take it seriously and move on? right? ugh f-ers
ok i'm going to give it up bfore i get hurt
Lucky libra, I think I agree with you. My xlibra kept trying to hang out with me n finally we did. I can tell from his kisses that he missed me n he still have feelings for me. Now, I'm just scared he's going to pull some fuq'd up BS again (aka: not ready for a r/ship). We haven't established what we want to be b/c this jus happened yesterday, but after over 2 yrs????!!! It took him almost 3 yrs to realize this?!?!How do I know this guy is for real? I'm trying to keep my distance so I don't get attached to him.
He also asked me I love and missed him. I didn't answer cuz I'm scared to fall in luv with him all over again. :-\ it took me over a yr to get over him.
Great. So he just wants to feel loved?
Oh Capris, if it took you a year to get over him the first time?? run for your life....Im going through the same....8 odd months it took me then up he pops and I started driving myself insane - old feelings and all but he does the same thing as last time so I walked away, closed the door and well I have the key in my hand now...to lock it for good or not? LOL.
3 years is a long long long time and one should most definitely know if you are "the one" or not.....thats ludicrous. Save yourself from the torment you already have known.
WOW!! And they say Scorpio has a hard time letting go?
You Libras are freakin scary!!!! ;P
When ya get the urge to hook back up with the ex, Google "the definition of insanity" instead.
so i told my xlibra that it will never work out and we should go back to not speaking again. He replied to me via text that he's sorry that's he's been busy but he was planning to make time for me after he is done with his military duties in a week. I still think it's BS. Why not make time for me last week? He went to a party last night, he could've made plans with me all last week!? UGHHHHHH!
I was really sad these past few days, because I've been pushing him away and telling him to find someone else when I really want to be with him. I know that even when my heart tells me that I still
OMG that is so true...it wont be the last time...time has absolutely no meaning to these guys
LISTEN to LL and Chatz and run, baby, run!
I wouldn't say run per se but I would ensure that he KNOWS what you will and won't accept, lay down some ground rules and DONT back down and remain strong on your stand...he might take a LONG time to comprehend it, he may never come back at all (but that's doubtful)....make it clear you won't be his toy, that you will only accept him if he gives you exactly what you are after, and it seems its a r/ship not a fling.
These guys appreciate honesty and its only fair to be honest or they will take advantage of anything else. Honesty though? they take seriously.
Its so easy to back down with the charming Libra but they admire women who can stand up for themselves, who are strong and have a life of their own...they dont want clingy, whingy, whiney women who will at the first bump, back down from what they originally wanted - yes they are whishy washy but you dont have to be.
Be strong, be assertive and above all, dont let ANYBODY take advantage of you....not any man, especially not a LIbra.
Maybe, just maybe if you put that into action you might have what you want in the long run but be prepared for the "LONG RUN" lol
check this. i almost laughed. I called him out on some bs that happened on Saturday (PM me if u want to know details). He said all he could think about was seeing seeing me that night. I think it was such freaking BS, cuz he sent me the text this morning and if he really wanted to see me, he could've asked me to hang out yesterday. INCONSISTENCE? YES! such bull crap, don't u think? why!?!?!? why is he doing this???!?!?! I haven't replied and I don't know if I should or if it's even worth it.
What was your sexual relationship like? This is an ordinary squared vibration > you give the impression that you are stable and he is disoriented and needs intimate loving.
I usually don't enjoy it.
I told the x to not contact me again until he knows what he wants...is this going to get him more confused or stay away??? I'm even thinking of changing my number if he continues to call and i'm not able to handle it.
if you dont enjoy the sex, thats a huge problem for the future anyway....??
probably...
I haven't heard* from him
ok. so we almost had a talk, but somehow he manages to make a joke out of it and we start talking about somethin' else. ALthough, he did ask me, "do you want to pretend like we're not in love?" He said he's not ready for a r/ship, but his "heart is there." He's not ready cuz of school (we're in our mid/late 20's, but obviously I'm smarter and I'm done w/ school heeheh jksmile
Is this normal/sincere or BS? I dunno anymore. He also asked me repeatedly if i love him. Usually when he's holding me, like he did tonight, is when he asks. Or he'll say it in our native language, which he can hardly speak. Ofcourse i bust out laughing cuz he can't say it right n it turns in to a joke and somethin' else. I ignore the question everytime, but he knows I do...and I know that he knows that I do smile
""I haven't heard* from him"
yet..............."
LMAO
ok so I closed the deal. I changed my number. He won't be able to contact me anymore. I'm sad and relieved at the same time Sad
"i did the same thing you did once. changed my number, made sure that he had absolutely no way of contacting me, but somehow he managed to weasle his way back into my life, and now i'm back at square one... hanging onto every word. damn their charm and persuasiveness!"
YEP, same here
1st day. Sad staying strong
(("i did the same thing you did once.... but somehow he managed to weasle his way back into my life, and now i'm back at square one... hanging onto every word. damn their charm and persuasiveness!" ))
me to...LOL
capris,stay strong!!!
I blocked all accounts where he may be able to have access of contacting me. I FIltered his (and his sibling) emails to the trashbox and I deleted his sibling on all of my social website accounts...
I am still sad, but I think more mad now. I saw some pics of him and some girl he's seeing or trying to talk to. It's not like their making out on the pic, i Just know something is going on...
capris, it will take awhile for you to truly move on. And usually just taking the 1st step is progress. There will be days when you are up and days that you will be down. And when you think that you have made progress he pops up.
It really is sad that there are so many women hurt by Libra males (and the rest of the zodiac males), just because those few individuals could be straight and honest.
We are stronger then we give ourselves credit for.
HuGs smile
I want libra-x to hate me so he doesn't contact me again. After I saw that pic of the girl with him I was furious. I sent him an email cursing him out and told him he sucked in bed (which is true physically, emotionally it feels good). So hopefully that would make him hate me forever...it would jus be easier for me to get over him (again).
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