With no expectations...
This topic was created in the Libra forum by hurt-heart on Thursday, March 20, 2008 and has 17 replies.
What I wanted to ask was do you think,if you realize that a relationship will not work but you have a physical attraction and a friendship should you enjoy what you have for the time?? If you can separate the emotion and place no expectations on anything??
Only when and if you truly can.
I'm a Leo...He's a Libra..
It would probably be best to decide against this...but the right things are always the hardest to do...He is pretty screwed up right now to, over his marriage (wife cheated on him and he stayed with her for two years)...I'm sure doing this would not help him either...
We already discussed it once and he said he would like a casual relationship with no emotions, but then he said maybe we'll fall in love..He also wanted us to see other people but to tell each other if we became intimate with someone else...This made no sense to me, so I told him if we did the casual thing, I would not look for a relationship in the future with him...He changed his mind and said he wanted nothing..
at this time I was too emotional and I didn't want him to see other people..
Now that we have had time apart I can see that a relationship will never work..But I am attracted to him and I enjoy his friendship and company...
We already discussed it once and he said he would like a casual relationship with no emotions, but then he said maybe we'll fall in love..He also wanted us to see other people but to tell each other if we became intimate with someone else...This made no sense to me, so I told him if we did the casual thing, I would not look for a relationship in the future with him...He changed his mind and said he wanted nothing..
at this time I was too emotional and I didn't want him to see other people..
Now that we have had time apart I can see that a relationship will never work..But I am attracted to him and I enjoy his friendship and company...
Hurt Heart if you go back there you will be prolonging the pain...he will want to have the casual thing still.....let him go
what was his ex's zodiac? His recovery time is based on that plus the new girls zodiac nd how honest she can be with him. You may be honest with him and not playing behind his back. but the way you communicate it to him is not convincing enough. Something doesn't match when he keeps deducting.
If you keep trying for another couple of years, it might work to ur advantage. Just bcoz u like him is not good enuf reason to hang around him. Walk away and let him sort out his mess. It takes a long time for us to sort out our own problems.
If you keep trying for another couple of years, it might work to ur advantage. Just bcoz u like him is not good enuf reason to hang around him. Walk away and let him sort out his mess. It takes a long time for us to sort out our own problems.
agreed 
Maybe in a few years he'll come back to you...that's always a possibility, ANYTHING is but go out and date, have fun, enjoy the different types of men out there....Libra is not the be it and end all of life.....he's just one man and trust me there are PLENTY of hot men out there willing to take you out, spoil you and do all the things you only dream of doing with Libra.
I know, I've been there (I still miss Libra) but life goes on...as thelibran said, let him sort his own mess out - he has to, to move on
Maybe in a few years he'll come back to you...that's always a possibility, ANYTHING is but go out and date, have fun, enjoy the different types of men out there....Libra is not the be it and end all of life.....he's just one man and trust me there are PLENTY of hot men out there willing to take you out, spoil you and do all the things you only dream of doing with Libra.I know, I've been there (I still miss Libra) but life goes on...as thelibran said, let him sort his own mess out - he has to, to move on
his ex is an aries...I am dating other people...
***sometimes it is too hard to put an end to something that you know isnt the 'real thing', and sometimes it just hurts less to let it play out...and of course, keep dating and not hoping that it will change....***
This is true irishlibra, but what if the feeling intensifies wouldn't it make it harder to leave and it seems that the sooner the better (the less both parties get hurt?)
This is true irishlibra, but what if the feeling intensifies wouldn't it make it harder to leave and it seems that the sooner the better (the less both parties get hurt?)
I guess you guys are right...I hate to lose his friendship but it would probably be best for both of us...I am kind of being selfish in not letting him go...
***This made no sense to me, so I told him if we did the casual thing, I would not look for a relationship in the future with him...He changed his mind and said he wanted nothing..
at this time I was too emotional and I didn't want him to see other people..***
Because he knew you couldn't/can't handle it right now.
at this time I was too emotional and I didn't want him to see other people..***
Because he knew you couldn't/can't handle it right now.
((his ex is an aries...I am dating other people...))
Thats a big wound. Leo cannot replace an Aries when it comes to a libra man.
Thats a big wound. Leo cannot replace an Aries when it comes to a libra man.
I would think any replacement would be better than a woman who cheated on you for 2 years...But I do agree it is a big wound, not because she's an Aries but because of her actions and the length he tolerated it..He is really knocked down and insecure about himself right now..
Qs
It made no sense to me because he came to my work (after we had decided friends only)and told me he was scared because he was thinking too far ahead, about me moving in ect...apologized for being hurtful to me and promised not to be like that anymore...Said he wanted to see me again and maybe we would fall in love...Called me the next day and wanted to still see me but with conditions which were:
-If it got too emotional we would stop..
-That we could date other people, but had to tell each other if we were going to be intimate with others..asked him if I was with someone else intimately would he still want to have a future relationship with me...He said no..
-said once again that he wanted to put no emotions into it , so if I did go with someone else he would'nt be hurt.But maybe we will fall in love..
I told him that casual was hard to do and emotions are still invested and if he is scared and dosen't trust people, why would he want to do this...I also told him that if I did this, it would be this only and I would not consider having a relationship with him in the future...He said well what if we fall in love and said that he would maybe want to date me after his divorce goes through...Then he said if it was that way then he would prefer to do nothing...
I Personally think he was too emotional, he came up and spent time with me and when he was here said he wanted to see me again...But then when he left, I think he changed his mind...Same as the last time, when were together he is emotional but then changes his tune after..
It made no sense to me because he came to my work (after we had decided friends only)and told me he was scared because he was thinking too far ahead, about me moving in ect...apologized for being hurtful to me and promised not to be like that anymore...Said he wanted to see me again and maybe we would fall in love...Called me the next day and wanted to still see me but with conditions which were:
-If it got too emotional we would stop..
-That we could date other people, but had to tell each other if we were going to be intimate with others..asked him if I was with someone else intimately would he still want to have a future relationship with me...He said no..
-said once again that he wanted to put no emotions into it , so if I did go with someone else he would'nt be hurt.But maybe we will fall in love..
I told him that casual was hard to do and emotions are still invested and if he is scared and dosen't trust people, why would he want to do this...I also told him that if I did this, it would be this only and I would not consider having a relationship with him in the future...He said well what if we fall in love and said that he would maybe want to date me after his divorce goes through...Then he said if it was that way then he would prefer to do nothing...
I Personally think he was too emotional, he came up and spent time with me and when he was here said he wanted to see me again...But then when he left, I think he changed his mind...Same as the last time, when were together he is emotional but then changes his tune after..
***Thats a big wound. Leo cannot replace an Aries when it comes to a libra man.***
Not true for all librans.
I guess you would say a scorp couldn't replace an Aries or a Sag when it comes to a libra man?
Huh, if your answer is yes. WRONG...
Not true for all librans.
I guess you would say a scorp couldn't replace an Aries or a Sag when it comes to a libra man?
Huh, if your answer is yes. WRONG...
***If it got too emotional we would stop..
-That we could date other people, but had to tell each other if we were going to be intimate with others..asked him if I was with someone else intimately would he still want to have a future relationship with me...He said no..
-said once again that he wanted to put no emotions into it , so if I did go with someone else he would'nt be hurt.But maybe we will fall in love..****
So he is basically saying he wants a FWB situation with you nothing more. You want more so leave it alone!
Did you notice all the if's in the last paragraph in your previous post?
-That we could date other people, but had to tell each other if we were going to be intimate with others..asked him if I was with someone else intimately would he still want to have a future relationship with me...He said no..
-said once again that he wanted to put no emotions into it , so if I did go with someone else he would'nt be hurt.But maybe we will fall in love..****
So he is basically saying he wants a FWB situation with you nothing more. You want more so leave it alone!
Did you notice all the if's in the last paragraph in your previous post?
((I guess you would say a scorp couldn't replace an Aries or a Sag when it comes to a libra man? ))
a damaged libra will easily fall for a scorp. bcoz its one place where his emotional needs are fed well.
a damaged libra will easily fall for a scorp. bcoz its one place where his emotional needs are fed well.
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