World?s Biggest Bastard??

So again, all week i?ve been without communication from the man who, only last Sunday, was looking for a "serious relationship" with me. So I told him Friday night i was having dinner with some old colleagues from last year, but that we could meet afterwards...he said no. Then yesterday i told him i was going out wth my forends for a birthday lunch, but that i didnt have plans for the evening so we could meet if he wanted...he said no. So i said, "well lets just finish this "relationship" already, i never see you, and clearly you?re no interested in making time for me..i prefer we have nothing"..an hour later he replied "nothing happens, i advised you what happened?" What the fuck is that supposed to mean— Ive a?ready deleted all hte messages and his number (again), but really, can there be a bigger bastard in the whole world??

I dont know whether to laugh or cry!! I just said, dont you ever speak to me again, i dont want to be the one asking for time from you because its not fair, and that its a shame that he?s like this, but he didnt say anything. Whatever..i want to go home.

Sorry for the spelling..i?m angry!!!

Yeah? We?re both Libra, but we?re nothing alike..i dont understand him at all. He did the same thing last year..he?s just all talk and no action, the worst kind!! Im so hurt, why start something and not see it through, there?s no sense in this at all. He?s all hot and cold..anyways, i dont intend to dwell toooo long!

he's bad news. 'sorry for your frustration, Sola. concerning ALL guys, ALL guys: if they're interested in you, they'll show up. you gave him EVERY opening---I'd be panting! write him off NOW! permanently. you deserve so much better.

*largest*....largest bastard...

Sola go read my post in Astrology and Relationships. We are going throught the same damn thing almost. Stupid Libra men. It's titled confused libra ... someone please ...

Maybe it will help you some how. How can they be so stupid, stubborn, jearks and so different from us? I'm a libra and he is too. I will delete his number and he'll call and I'll give in. They know this but when you ask them what they want from you they have no response. We don't need that crap. I'm sure you are beautiful and deserve much better. Someone who wants to spend time with you. Does he say hey lets meet and then cancel? Mine does ... it pisses me off!! Really girl go read my post.

My best wishes ...

No, he begged to come to my HOME and speak to me last Sunday because we?d had a few shitty days and i had been ignoring him. He told me he wasnt looking looking for casual fun and that we should start a serious relationship (albeit starting slowly)..and THEN when i meet him in public, he physically holds me away from him and then when i make suggestion that we meet, he says no. So, what part of "serious relationship" did i not understand?? I will read your post sweetie, but not because i want to underdstand him. I already know that he?s a lying bastard and i cant be bothered anymore, ever again. 🙂

Im sure he?s gone for good this time.

Does he still call you and try to act like nothings wrong? Mine keeps calling ... he can call all he wants ... I'm not answering.

Well no..it only happened on Saturday night so i dont excpect to hear from anytime soon..if ever!! I mean i am upset but i?d rather hurt myself than have him do it to me, y?know?

These guys (some of them) are the most annoying men on earth...They like you, their scared, they don't like you, your too emotional for them, they miss you, they want to date other people...and on and on and on ....They do this until you are not sure anymore and you have doubts about yourself, them , love and just about everything...Now let me guess what happens next...when they finally decide that they do want you and they come back, your so goddamn sick of their crap that you don't want then anymore...then they will probably think see I knew she really didn't care for me blah blah...Pity the next girl he meets...Screwed up men... - uck them...They should be science experiments...

Libra men who are sure what they want act the total opposite. You can't make someone do what they aren't ready for or don't want to. Simple.

Sorry, but being with librans who were actual "in love" with me, I know they can be different and you will never doubt when they are sure. It is when they are not sure and when they are not ready, but might still like you, or don't want to have a relationship with you, but still want to be intimate with you that they act this way.

Bottom line, we have to learn to take it for what it is and nothing more.

I keep thinking he is or thinks he is a "playa"---you are too *mmmmm* total package to be treated that way. Take a stand, Sola. I KNOW you are one strong woman and THAT is part of what makes you mmmmmmmmmmmm.

Nobody forces him into anything QS..he?s the one who came to MY house asking for a relationship, so it was idea to start (what he couldnt handle).

Atom..I am strong 🙂 You guys have helped a lot..i feel better already (although i wonder how he is)..how sad is that??! He probably has someone else on the go already, ha!! I wouldnt even be surprised..he likes playing the game it seems..but im the winner this time 🙂

Joi, I too would love to know that answer to that.

And dear sweet Sola, I have been on that push and pull thing myself far too long with my Libra. HE came looking for me and begged me for an exclusive/committed relationship. I caved. After 2 months of vanishing and canceling I told him I had made a mistake in agreeing to the relationship with him and ended it. But he poured his heart and soul out in an email and asked for a second chance. After an email like that I believed he was sincere and I caved again.

He was a good boy for about 2 weeks. Then.......same old same old. I gave him the gift of missing me straight thru the holidays. Then, he came around again. I was very distant with him and he keeps asking to make everything up to me. Well, go ahead Mr. Libra. Start trying. But the thing is Sola, QS is soooooo right. They aren't ready. They WANT something with you but their not totally sure about how MUCH they want to give back. They of course want you 100% but they're only willing to give you about 10% in return. That is NOT balanced or fair and you Libra's are supposed to be all about fair, right?

Sola, your Libra is selfish, as is mine, as was Chatz's, as are a few others who've posted on this board. They take, take, take, but they don't give.

It hurts like hell to have your heart twisted inside out and then handed back to you. You have done exactly what any woman should do when they are treated this way. Say, "no thanks" to the invitation to being used.

(((((((((((( hugs ))))))))))

yup, they like to disappear.

***Nobody forces him into anything QS..he?s the one who came to MY house asking for a relationship, so it was idea to start (what he couldnt handle).***

Uhhh sola, my statement was general, not directed toward your specific situation it was actually a response to hurt-heart's post. However, if they want you they don't play these games. They can say anything, if their actions don't back it up, then they aren't sincere.

100% Agree with KG. Exactly my point. Why dwell on a damaged libra, when there are others who are undamaged in all sun signs.

***a puzzle to me they keep hanging around for some purpose that only tends to cause hurt to us anyway and the thing is that ppl keep saying that they dont' like to cause hurt to people so then in this instance why not just back off why hang around if we are not the ones that you need instead of wasting other ppls time not being sure. if you're not sure hit the road but some of them meaning the men ( no offence) stay milling around and setting you up for some of the greatest high falls can anyone explain why this is and why they always move like they want to, but then they dont know if they really want to, and if so why they hang around? what is the purpose of this, what are they trying to prove here really—?****


First, librans care and love on many levels. They can love you and not be "in love" with you. They can care about you and you not be their object of affection. So because of this they don't want to hurt you and the ones who have a spine. Leave you be when they think you can't handle it. The ones that are damaged don't want to let you go as a friend, but runs because they don't want you or are not ready to have you as a partner. Get it?

So in essence, we have to take them for what they say. When they say they aren't ready or don't want a relationship they don't and sometimes it is not with you for whatever reason. They can tell you that and a month or so later be in a relationship with another. However, if you can truly accept it and not hold it against them and be a platonic friend or strictly fWB's (if he is sexually attracted to you) then they would love to still have you there in their lives. However the ultimat power is with the woman. YOU control what he does to you, not him. You make the rules.

If you love him and he isn't ready for anything serious and you are - walk away. If he changes his mind eventually good, if not - his loss.

***QS is soooooo right. They aren't ready. They WANT something with you but their not totally sure about how MUCH they want to give back. They of course want you 100% but they're only willing to give you about 10% in return***

BTW, this is true with any man... Even a scorp... LOL!!!

Doh!! Right again. LOL

lolz yea libra males will do that. they come n go as they please and get angry at u for having good reason to be annoied with them. then they pull the 'i never said a dam thing', which in theory is partically true, but in the end you just get a headache. just let him hang himself on the clothes line and make it known u have a life and wont wait for him. best advice, ditch him and do ur own thing, let him miss u, make him want u, make him need to talk to u... and dont respond for shit. make him think ur mad when ur not and when he flips and asks why ur mad... say 'why is there something i should be mad about?'.. i did that, guys on my booty like white on rice. and the whole giving 2nd 3rd and 4th chances... yea just let him do what he wants and make sure he knows ur far to busy having a life to deal with someone who cant make up there mind.

ANY man, QS— *offended*

Its funny that the shortest realtionships hurt the most isnt it!! After i split with my ex of 7 yeard i didnt shed a tear (or for this one) but the feelings here are stronger..weird.

You?ll be glad to know i?m much better, in fact..back to my old self, nice and quickly!! This is when this town is too small..i only hope to God i dont bump into him at the weekend!!

*ANY man, QS— *offended*

Accept for you Atom... You are the only man in the world who is sure when you are sure and go for it! The only one baby! But I thought that was known on this board... 😉

Yay, Sola! Thanks, QS, sweetie!

Aquiella..i feel epowered too!!! It must be the right time for us mving on..its in the air!! Whoop, im so happy that its Friday🙂

I don't understand how texting is finaling an ending, especially since he didn't respond back. Maybe some people can do that, but if you don't get the closure you want (especially from a text message), then chances are the situation will bug you until you get some response from him.

To each their own...

It's been rocky with my Libra boyfriend. In the past month, we've broken up twice - only to have him come back the next day saying it hurts too much to let me go. He was the one who got scared, he has been the one to rush this relationship even though both of us have said we need to take it slow...he's the one who backed up, but I was the one who said I deserved better. He now knows and believes that although i love him, I am strong enough to walk way.

You ladies have to have the same conviction.

Eh..we all walked away already??

how are you, Sola? I'm same-o same-o.

Im good sweetie, a little tired, but fine!! Hope you had a good weekend..flirt 🙂

it's still Sunday here---catching up on chats and picking a ripe red apple for my favorite teacher (misspelled "pademonium" on the last quiz).

no pressure, eh? is time away in a motel room a waste of money?

I'm sorry Sola the trophy for the World's biggest bastard doesn't go to your Libra ........It goes to my now EX Libra.

We've been on again off again, with the same BS get-together-games your Libra was playing with you. However, after patiently waiting to see him for the last couple of weeks, I am of course assuming he had every intention of spending Valentines with me in the evening on the 14th. I sent him an ecard in the morning and he responded with one 10 minutes later. But it wasn't all that romantic. It was the same kind of card I sent out to some friends (girls and guys). Immediately, I'm thinking WTF?

By late afternoon I realize WE have no plans for the evening and since he never answers his cell phone at work, I sent him an email telling him that I honestly had been anticipating Valentines Day would at least be the one day he would give to me alone considering we didn't spend Thanksgiving, Christmas, or even New Years together.To not receive any time to spend with him must be the gift he chose for me. I thanked him for it and got an email 4 days later saying how embarrassed and speechless he was that I didn't give him a chance to "call me after work" (he finishes at 7pm) and tell me then we'd celebrate Valentines another time and he had plans.

Yeah, that's just what I wanted to hear on Valentines Day about "another" day he'll celebrate with me when the actual day is already gone. What a jerk!

I wrote him back a couple of days later about how he never mentioned in his Ecard any plans and he never called days before like he said he would. His response was an apology and that he wanted to make it up to me. I wrote him back and told him to call me and we'd talk about everything. It's been 5 days and he hasn't called. Oh,well! I think he knows HE is the world's biggest Bastard !!!!

And I too Sola, have kicked a Libra to the curb recently. It hurt me to do it but.....who needs that ongoing disrespect?



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wheeeeeeew! glad I'm not a Libra! ((('sorry, temple)))

up to you, sweety---if you're SURE it will play out like you think and you're EMOTIONALLY okay w/ it and it won't affect any perception of another you're close to / want to be close to.

er, KNOWING Libras just because he's been gone doesn't mean anything!

Libras disappear and can be gone for a long time then come back as if nothing happened. they may even think they're still in love with you and you're waaaaay past that. check and verify. HAVE TO if no communication for a while.

Sola, I brought an apple to the teacher. where are you—

aquiella

Personally, I would stay in a hotel room...I wouldn't give him the opportunity to think that I was staying at his house to see him or to chase him...

what's his sign?

Cancer's ARE very intuitive. 😉

That's the spirit Aquiella 🙂

Libra hasnt been in touch 😢 I saw his best friend on Saturday night (also libra) and i usually speak to him..but i couldnt in case i started to cry.

You just don't know whom you wan't to be intimate with, that's your problem.

You yearn for intimacy but just don't know if you wan't it or not.

And what?? At least i admit to it.

Good for you aquiella

Go to the party and have a great time...If he's there don't avoid him, have a general conversation with him and carry on...But I am glad you made the decision not to stay there..

*hurting for Sola*--- you so sweet. I'm just having coffee, thinking of Spain.