Pisces woman confused by mixed signal cancer man
Posted by tiki33
P Angel per my own experience for myself ......
Typical commitmentphobe/player behavior is attempting to keep things at a certain place/level, he's resistant to anything else, that's why he want back to flirting b/c that's his comfort zone, when she push for me he let her go but they typically do come back to reassert the boundaries that he feels good with, he also does what makes him feel comfortable and not really take into consideration the womans feelings.
So what?
He's allowed to choose who he wants to have as a fuck buddy and who he wants to have as a partner. If he is coming on as a man who wants to fuck without having to give forth any emotions .. that's his choice.
Every person, whether they have a phobia or not, have a right to keep things at levels according to their comfort level. You are making the assumption that because SHE desires to have more of him, then it's his duty to rise to her expectations.
I have terms and conditions for myself also, am resistant to certain things, attempt to maintain my comfort zone ... and have been married for nearly 3 decades ... that doesnt' make me a commitment phobic person, it makes me a person who has a right to my choices, and I exercise them.
He's not obligated to give her any more than what he chooses, and if he chooses not to give her any more than that ... then that doesn't make him a loser, lack depth, a commitment phobe, or any of those other bashing characteristics you imposed on a man to whom you don't even know. You only know what she tells you, and her perception is slanted in an unsavory fashion towards him because she has uncontrolled broken feelings ... and you comment on his state of being, as it pertains to a relationship as if you know anything about the truth of this man?
She stated in the Opening Post that she ran away from him due to her own fear of what it MIGHT be, based on unrealistic expectations she has on him ..... and you would explain to this young girl (obviously) that it's because he has a commitment phobia and is a loser?
It's up to the reciever, in this case, her, to decide whether what he has to give is acceptable to her, or not ... and not up to him to abide by her desires to suit her if she's too afraid or deluded.
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Pisces woman ... he has a right to decide how he wants to proceed in this relationship just