Hey blushing. Things are well with my crustacean lol. I try to play it cool and let him contact me as much as I contact him. Were going to go out tonight, which is exciting. I have a 1 yr old so we don't hang that often (well I mean as often as two people in their early 20s whom are interested in each other would like) maybe once a week. But he's such a nice guy.. Aw yeah, I like him a bit. We will see where it goes I like tikis thoughts on men pulling away to gauge whether the woman remains cool or tries to control. I will keep this in mind. I must say.. If the man started to pull away would probably get pretty insecure thinking I did something wrong and swim myself,, so I am not innocent to what your initial post was about blushing. But what you said, tiki, really shed some light on this kind of situation. Rather than swim, play it cool but still be available for him to contact and be in charge of the next few steps of the relationship. Makes sense, thanks for the insight, even tho it was not directed towards me,