Releasing Karmic ties

This topic was created in the Metaphysical forum by aNEWday on Sunday, September 18, 2016 and has 31 replies.
I've written on some of the twin flame topics about someone who i thought was a twin flame, and later realized we may just have a karmic link, or be soulmates.

After a lot of trying to figure out, obsession, trying to box this feeling i decided to not try anymore hahah. All i know is that I am quite certain I have some kind of karmic link with this person.

Long story short, I am now at a place where I haven't talked to this person since the beginning of the year. I would see him around.. even at the freaking airport (but he didn't see me).. and I feel that was because I had not let it go and my energy may have kept him appearing.

Here I am today. I am in a better place regarding this situation. I dated for a while to get me out of the rut and that was fun until I decided I need and want to focus all of my energy on my career and in my spare time decorating my apartment, travels, keeping the right people in my life.

This guys stays in the back of my mind but not in the way it was before. Its more like a "oh we had this nice memory, but I am happy to move on and hope to find a great man in the future" type way.

I know mercury is in retrograde, and I have been watching some youtube videos on scorpios (we are both scorps) talking about needing to go back and cut karmic ties.

My wonder is if I still have ties with this person and is it possible to NOT go back (aka speak to him) and feeling safe knowing that there are no 'blockages' for me to move forward. I don't know what the future holds, I gave up caring tbh - but 80-90% of me wants to move forward with life, find a better job and just move on really. I just wonder if there is something still residual there that needs clearing?

Anyone have experience with something like this where you were able to move on with life and eventually start over without keeping that person around or going back? Im sure its possible, I just need confirmation lol.
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Soulful connections are hard to break.

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I would say if you feel there is something more to you, you stay and will see.

Though you want to move on, your subconscious is sending those messages to make you stay. In many cases, there is something more to you that you have missed to experience within the relationship to really move forward. (not necessarily nice things...)

But wait till mercury is direct again.
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Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

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Posted by Saturnlady
I would say if you feel there is something more to you, you stay and will see.

Though you want to move on, your subconscious is sending those messages to make you stay. In many cases, there is something more to you that you have missed to experience within the relationship to really move forward. (not necessarily nice things...)

But wait till mercury is direct again.
Right. I would agree.. I think maybe 3 months ago that's where I was. I thought there was something that needed to be finished or released.. And during the beginning of the year I felt like his presence was haunting me (literally I would see the guy in random places and just when I was getting somewhere he would pop up on dating sites lol) but then I wondered why I was the one seeing him and he not seeing me. I decided I need to just move on, really make a hard try at it.

Today is say it's worked, but now I'm wondering if I can move forward. I'm avoiding any not nice things (I can't knock that deep gut feeling telling me he is bad news) that I may need to clear. Just being super stubborn and want to press a big fat button where poof I'm in the next chapter of my life.



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Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for

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Posted by RomanticGhostLoaf
Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

Aww. Well that must mean something.

I actually was searching online and did find meditations, none of which I actually tried. Do you feel any difference?
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Yes, it's possible. :-)
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Posted by aNEWday
Posted by Saturnlady
I would say if you feel there is something more to you, you stay and will see.

Though you want to move on, your subconscious is sending those messages to make you stay. In many cases, there is something more to you that you have missed to experience within the relationship to really move forward. (not necessarily nice things...)

But wait till mercury is direct again.
Right. I would agree.. I think maybe 3 months ago that's where I was. I thought there was something that needed to be finished or released.. And during the beginning of the year I felt like his presence was haunting me (literally I would see the guy in random places and just when I was getting somewhere he would pop up on dating sites lol) but then I wondered why I was the one seeing him and he not seeing me. I decided I need to just move on, really make a hard try at it.

Today is say it's worked, but now I'm wondering if I can move forward. I'm avoiding any not nice things (I can't knock that deep gut feeling telling me he is bad news) that I may need to clear. Just being super stubborn and want to press a big fat button where poof I'm in the next chapter of my life.



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Someone needs to have those 'bad news' to beat herself down and really move forward with fresh flowers.

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Posted by RomanticGhostLoaf
Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

Nice ur getting ur energy back?
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Oh, those cutting cords I've also tried. It worked for some days then all of those gloomy feelings came back. :/ So, I had to start again to close myself out.

I had to find an equally deep thing to focus on. Meditation is good but that just wasn't enough.

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Posted by Saturnlady
Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for

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Many clever people have already written about this I can't express it better I think.

But if you have already started to operate/communicate on a deeper level with someone and send them those deep, meaningful energies of yours (which are the actual YOU of course) it all comes back on you if the relationship ends before its time is over or before you 'empty' yourself- mostly if it ends suddenly.

So, I guess what is hard to swallow here is your own feeling that backfires on you. The deeper, the harder. And this wounds you most not the other persons energies.

What do you think?

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Posted by aNEWday
Posted by Saturnlady
Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for

Many clever people have already written about this I can't express it better I think.

But if you have already started to operate/communicate on a deeper level with someone and send them those deep, meaningful energies of yours (which are the actual YOU of course) it all comes back on you if the relationship ends before its time is over or before you 'empty' yourself- mostly if it ends suddenly.

So, I guess what is hard to swallow here is your own feeling that backfires on you. The deeper, the harder. And this wounds you most not the other persons energies.

What do you think?

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Hmm you lost me. I don't follow what you are saying...

I did understand the part about my feeling yes. There is fear. Due to my nature I am afraid of going all in and getting hurt even more. It's better to move on. Things should also not be so difficult right?

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Posted by Saturnlady
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Posted by Saturnlady
Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for

Many clever people have already written about this I can't express it better I think.

But if you have already started to operate/communicate on a deeper level with someone and send them those deep, meaningful energies of yours (which are the actual YOU of course) it all comes back on you if the relationship ends before its time is over or before you 'empty' yourself- mostly if it ends suddenly.

So, I guess what is hard to swallow here is your own feeling that backfires on you. The deeper, the harder. And this wounds you most not the other persons energies.

What do you think?

Hmm you lost me. I don't follow what you are saying...

I did understand the part about my feeling yes. There is fear. Due to my nature I am afraid of going all in and getting hurt even more. It's better to move on. Things should also not be so difficult right?

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I tried to explain the source of the pain. So it might be easier to handle this or guard yourself against it.

Don't fear pain. It is a friend.

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Posted by RomanticGhostLoaf
Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

Aww. Well that must mean something.

I actually was searching online and did find meditations, none of which I actually tried. Do you feel any difference?
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Well, I started having this kind of dreams after doing this meditation. I consulted someone who said I also have to work on breaking ties with my parents, so I use this. I find it quite difficult to concentrate with meditation as I either start thinking about other stuff or fall asleep, but I found this quite a nice and simple exercise. Also, every time I've done it the person I'm trying to cut cords with sits further and further away.

"• One method for removing the energy cords is to imagine yourself sitting in a beautiful natural setting. Imagine a circle around you. The circle can be made of fine silken rope - literally a "cord". Sit in it, feel yourself protected by it. Imagine a column of light coming from the heavens encircling you in high frequency pure light.

• Then imagine the people you want out of your life also sitting in a circle made of cord. The two circles are close to each other but not touching. Look at the other people from your circle and wave good bye! You are gently and peacefully allowing other people their space while affirming your own. Instead of cutting, you are transmuting the cords. Let their cords remain whole. Let yours remain whole. Just disentangle and detach. Stoke the fires of love and compassion. Say good bye with love and move on!

As life is lived, the process of sorting and disentangling is obviously much more complex and subtle. As you make the music of your life less dysfunctional, the people attracted to the dysfunctional part will fall off"

Let me know if you try it and find it helpful.

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Posted by RomanticGhostLoaf
Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

That dream does make it sound like you are moving in a positive direction! Heartbreaking but beautiful all in one. I think the stuck "feeling" likely lasts longer than we are actually stuck.. if you know what I mean. It's a hard one to escape.
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Agree! And some people linger longer than others, even if the relationship was a short one. I would like to meet someone, but I'm working on feeling totally whole on my own. Easier said than done, but I think it's important in order to have good relationships.
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Posted by Saturnlady
Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for

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+1 exact same position here. i am truly accepted that we have karmic ties holding on to one another... i'm trying my best not to fight it but just to let it flow..love myself and give those love i would have given to him to others instead. self healing + pursuing my drems+ and having a baby boy is also a great focus..well not really as he is the father of my child so cutting all ties with him is impossible but i'm accepting the fact that we can never be together.

Karmic ties or soulmates i feel like ..are not always meant to be together..the union is always about bringing the worst or the best out of each other for further healing...so we are ready for someone who's meant to be for us ( life partner)...howeveer i will always love him..which is different coz all my past partners once i move on,,i just move on.. but this one i will always have those feelings for him..he's my weakness..but its ok..i'm growing from all of it..and without him, i would have not been the strongest person i am today ( blessed). but once u figured out how to cut it completely..let me know smile
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Saweetz, this was GREAT!
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I have found some thoughts about this love thing. Mostly the same as things have been mentioned here.


http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-9984/the-truth-about-chemistry-between-two-people.html

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Posted by aNEWday
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Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

Aww. Well that must mean something.

I actually was searching online and did find meditations, none of which I actually tried. Do you feel any difference?
Well, I started having this kind of dreams after doing this meditation. I consulted someone who said I also have to work on breaking ties with my parents, so I use this. I find it quite difficult to concentrate with meditation as I either start thinking about other stuff or fall asleep, but I found this quite a nice and simple exercise. Also, every time I've done it the person I'm trying to cut cords with sits further and further away.

"• One method for removing the energy cords is to imagine yourself sitting in a beautiful natural setting. Imagine a circle around you. The circle can be made of fine silken rope - literally a "cord". Sit in it, feel yourself protected by it. Imagine a column of light coming from the heavens encircling you in high frequency pure light.

• Then imagine the people you want out of your life also sitting in a circle made of cord. The two circles are close to each other but not touching. Look at the other people from your circle and wave good bye! You are gently and peacefully allowing other people their space while affirming your own. Instead of cutting, you are transmuting the cords. Let their cords remain whole. Let yours remain whole. Just disentangle and detach. Stoke the fires of love and compassion. Say good bye with love and move on!

As life is lived, the process of sorting and disentangling is obviously much more complex and subtle. As you make the music of your life less dysfunctional, the people attracted to the dysfunctional part will fall off"

Let me know if you try it and find it helpful.

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Thanks for sharing! Will try this. For some reason I don't think I'm good at these visualization meditations which is weird bc I'm good at being i the moment and just thinking crazy things in my mind lol.

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Same here. I've been working with some meditation to try and cut cords, but not sure how well it's working. Also I tend to fall asleep when I'm meditating... :/

However, I did dream last night that I went round to my ex's place with a backpack (he was there with his new girlfriend but I never chatted to them) and collected all the things I'd left at his apartment. In real life I didn't leave anything, but in my dream there were plenty of things. I took all of them and put them in my backpack. So maybe something is happening, even if I still feel a bit stuck.

That dream does make it sound like you are moving in a positive direction! Heartbreaking but beautiful all in one. I think the stuck "feeling" likely lasts longer than we are actually stuck.. if you know what I mean. It's a hard one to escape.
Agree! And some people linger longer than others, even if the relationship was a short one. I would like to meet someone, but I'm working on feeling totally whole on my own. Easier said than done, but I think it's important in order to have good relationships.
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Totally agree. This is basically my situation.

I was never in a reathionship with this person I have a link with. Even at first when I met him I was interested in someone else but there was always a strange feeling about him, one that never went away. I had first met him years ago and then ran into him again last year and we were both single.. That's when I realized there was a deeper thing connecting us.

It was short, never left the ground but it's been very significant for me. Like you said part of it was for me to realize that I need to love myself more. Focus on me. Realize and truly feel that I deserve the best.

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I do have to say what mad things hardest was that it was difficult for me to *accept* the situation. "Why?" Has been the biggest question I've come to answer in many ways.

I have accepted whatever it is, but it it's easier for me to do blind. That is, cut contact with him and focus on myself.
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Posted by Saturnlady
I have found some thoughts about this love thing. Mostly the same as things have been mentioned here.


http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-9984/the-truth-about-chemistry-between-two-people.html

Thanks for sharing. Just read this and it was so eye opening.

"The people you're most attracted to are your greatest teachers in love" So true

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Posted by saweetz1988
Posted by aNEWday
Posted by Saturnlady
Soulful connections are hard to break.

Tell me about it. I'm just glad the very worst part is long past me. When it was hard, it was the worst thing I've gone through. But really, as cliche as it seems, it was like a catalyst to make me better. For that I am (cringe) thankful for



+1 exact same position here. i am truly accepted that we have karmic ties holding on to one another... i'm trying my best not to fight it but just to let it flow..love myself and give those love i would have given to him to others instead. self healing + pursuing my drems+ and having a baby boy is also a great focus..well not really as he is the father of my child so cutting all ties with him is impossible but i'm accepting the fact that we can never be together.

Karmic ties or soulmates i feel like ..are not always meant to be together..the union is always about bringing the worst or the best out of each other for further healing...so we are ready for someone who's meant to be for us ( life partner)...howeveer i will always love him..which is different coz all my past partners once i move on,,i just move on.. but this one i will always have those feelings for him..he's my weakness..but its ok..i'm growing from all of it..and without him, i would have not been the strongest person i am today ( blessed). but once u figured out how to cut it completely..let me know smile
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Im curious to know where you are with this?

Those thoughs continued to linger way back in my mind but I was living life the best I could, for the past few months. I was fine.

There are new beginnings coming this month for me, and it could not be more horrible timing for me to start thinking heavily about this person. I did some digging and see that he seems to be getting serious with someone, and he looks like hes grown a lot this year as well.

It was painful to see, but after some sorrow I start to realize why we may not be meant to be and why it had to work out this way. Im still pretty sad, but im hoping this will pass and that this new chapter will bring fresh energy. still hoping to full "let go"

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Ladies, i found this invaluable...helped me to let go a lot....i did the ritual for 3months running and now i am free of the unhealthy tie...thankfully smile

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Ladies, i found this invaluable...helped me to let go a lot....i did the ritual for 3months running and now i am free of the unhealthy tie...thankfully smile


Thank you for sharing! I'm going to try this.

I'm currently trying to train my mind. Cold turkey need to cut these ties. Enough is enough
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That's what I love about karma. It embraces the fact that we are all connected to everything.

After my divorce I took a personal approach to cutting the karma ties. Technically with a child involved, I decided that it was impossible as our daughter is the embodiment of our love. So based on that I decided that focusing my energies on the most positive thoughts that I could think of with the simple fact that we were simply not meant to be. I still wish her the best and most happy life she can have. I also focused on my own energy and made it positive and thought about positive living. We get along great. She has some guilt issues but I let go of it all. It costs so much to be negative spiritually and physically it's not worth it. Hope that helps.
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That's what I love about karma. It embraces the fact that we are all connected to everything.

After my divorce I took a personal approach to cutting the karma ties. Technically with a child involved, I decided that it was impossible as our daughter is the embodiment of our love. So based on that I decided that focusing my energies on the most positive thoughts that I could think of with the simple fact that we were simply not meant to be. I still wish her the best and most happy life she can have. I also focused on my own energy and made it positive and thought about positive living. We get along great. She has some guilt issues but I let go of it all. It costs so much to be negative spiritually and physically it's not worth it. Hope that helps.
Thanks, I agree. It must be difficult with a child.

Funny I was talking to my dad about stuff I'm going though and he said something along the lines of our spirt has no emotion, but we as humans do. It made me realize that spirituality and these karmic ties are meant to teach us, but we as humans make it an emotional thing. It's like a tough love for humans, i guess.

That's why like you said it's about your thoughts. I'm getting there and I know I will. The universe is testing me lol

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Ladies, i found this invaluable...helped me to let go a lot....i did the ritual for 3months running and now i am free of the unhealthy tie...thankfully smile


Dows this work even if you were never all the way sexual with the person (as in my case)?

I'm guessing yes especially if this is someone from a past life?
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It's never worked for me I've tried countless time

But what's worked I channeled my love towards hate so I hate him n moving onsmile

I acknowledge I have hate yippi embracing the left
Lol isn't that what is NOT supposed to be done?

Honestly if I look ahead 2 yrs from now and if im in happy place with a happy relationship I don't know if I will not have bitter or ill feelings toward him. I just don't feel like I cannot feel that way. Looking back at guys in the past I have indifference, but I would never like to run into them. This one especially. I'm afraid of running into him. I want all parts done, universe don't torture me any longer.

At this point I'm trying to teach myself, and I don't understand why it has to be so difficult.
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It's never worked for me I've tried countless time

But what's worked I channeled my love towards hate so I hate him n moving onsmile

I acknowledge I have hate yippi embracing the left
Lol isn't that what is NOT supposed to be done?

Honestly if I look ahead 2 yrs from now and if im in happy place with a happy relationship I don't know if I will not have bitter or ill feelings toward him. I just don't feel like I cannot feel that way. Looking back at guys in the past I have indifference, but I would never like to run into them. This one especially. I'm afraid of running into him. I want all parts done, universe don't torture me any longer.

At this point I'm trying to teach myself, and I don't understand why it has to be so difficult.
::Hypothetical::

If this was someone you truly loved with all you had and you knew they did also, why would you want to just kill it all and send it all to hell?

If that is what you truly want to do then my thing is you never loved them at all? I'm just curious how one would want to even think about doing this. It just feels wrong on so many phathoms deep in the ocean of many choices to bring forward and going about life.
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In my case the relationship didn't get to "love" bc i didn't allow it. Either way, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have been pure love and that's why I still feel the same.

I could see what you are saying though. I don't know how I would react in that case but I'm sure if I would have loved this guy all the way it would make it worse to see him. So maybe I wouldn't feel so much negative feelings toward him but still would could not look back.

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Posted by Impulsv
It's never worked for me I've tried countless time

But what's worked I channeled my love towards hate so I hate him n moving onsmile

I acknowledge I have hate yippi embracing the left
Lol isn't that what is NOT supposed to be done?

Honestly if I look ahead 2 yrs from now and if im in happy place with a happy relationship I don't know if I will not have bitter or ill feelings toward him. I just don't feel like I cannot feel that way. Looking back at guys in the past I have indifference, but I would never like to run into them. This one especially. I'm afraid of running into him. I want all parts done, universe don't torture me any longer.

At this point I'm trying to teach myself, and I don't understand why it has to be so difficult.
::Hypothetical::

If this was someone you truly loved with all you had and you knew they did also, why would you want to just kill it all and send it all to hell?

If that is what you truly want to do then my thing is you never loved them at all? I'm just curious how one would want to even think about doing this. It just feels wrong on so many phathoms deep in the ocean of many choices to bring forward and going about life.
In my case the relationship didn't get to "love" bc i didn't allow it. Either way, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have been pure love and that's why I still feel the same.

I could see what you are saying though. I don't know how I would react in that case but I'm sure if I would have loved this guy all the way it would make it worse to see him. So maybe I wouldn't feel so much negative feelings toward him but still would could not look back.

Why didn't you allow it to get to "love"? What happened? Confused

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I got scared and ran away. Every time.

It was like a strange inner feeling or knowing if it went further I would get hurt so I decided to run away. Well little did I know it would not be that easy and today I have learned my lesson. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have ended well but I had to listen to my inner guidance, despite the strong attraction there. I believe emotional connection wouldn't have been developed

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