An epic fight.

I was on here a few weeks ago complaining about how much I hate my ex husband. He pushes my buttons and I usually just shut my mouth to keep the peace. I don't know what got into me this morning but I just snapped. I'm still shaking.

730am he shows up at my house. I live in the country and don't lock the doors during the day. I was up and cleaning the house. The boys leave for school at 710.

He just walked in without knocking and preceded to MY bedroom and laid down on my bed and went to sleep!

Me: wtf are you doing? Get out of my room.

Him: leave me alone. My back hurts and I need a good mattress

Me: then go home. Not my problem. Get out of my room.



Him: leave me alone

This exchange continued for a few minutes until I finally snapped. I threw water on him. I tried to flip him off the mattress. I was screaming like a crazy person and he still wouldn't move. I threatened to call the police and he still wouldn't move.

Finally, I told him that I was going to the courthouse to file a restraining order and I never wanted to see his ugly face again. After everything, that is what got him up. He chased me to the other room, tossed a clothes hamper at me and left. I did call the police. They will just talk to him but I mainly did it for the police report. I left a message for my lawyer. I think it's time to do something drastic.

We have been divorced for years. We haven't even kissed on the lips since I was pregnant with my youngest who will be 14 in December! This is just ridiculous. Move on already.

I just don't understand why he can't just let it go. I'm not leading him on or even pretending that I like him. Some things I say are downright cruel but he still comes around. My only calls to him are regarding the kids. I text him their sports schedules etc. we are not even friends and haven't gotten along in years. I did have a 5 year relationship after the divorce. I didn't flaunt it but he was aware.

Posted by Sagsagsags
have you ever been with another guy after your divorce? does he know?

Yes, for over 5 years

Posted by seraph

Posted by Deedee86
I was on here a few weeks ago complaining about how much I hate my ex husband. He pushes my buttons and I usually just shut my mouth to keep the peace. I don't know what got into me this morning but I just snapped. I'm still shaking.

730am he shows up at my house. I live in the country and don't lock the doors during the day. I was up and cleaning the house. The boys leave for school at 710.

He just walked in without knocking and preceded to MY bedroom and laid down on my bed and went to sleep!

Me: wtf are you doing? Get out of my room.

Him: leave me alone. My back hurts and I need a good mattress

Me: then go home. Not my problem. Get out of my room.



Him: leave me alone

This exchange continued for a few minutes until I finally snapped. I threw water on him. I tried to flip him off the mattress. I was screaming like a crazy person and he still wouldn't move. I threatened to call the police and he still wouldn't move.

Finally, I told him that I was going to the courthouse to file a restraining order and I never wanted to see his ugly face again. After everything, that is what got him up. He chased me to the other room, tossed a clothes hamper at me and left. I did call the police. They will just talk to him but I mainly did it for the police report. I left a message for my lawyer. I think it's time to do something drastic.

We have been divorced for years. We haven't even kissed on the lips since I was pregnant with my youngest who will be 14 in December! This is just ridiculous. Move on already.

A woman divorced from her husband for FOUR YEARS keeps finding him around her house, in her bed, in her garage drinking beer with his buddies – like a long-term roomie, and with HER (registered and INSURED TO HER) vehicle... because she allows it. She makes it easy for him – whether explicitly or implicitly, regardless of whether it's "for the kids." There is no such thing as visitation and shared custody (or whatever you've got going on) without clear ground rules from Day 1. You invite this.

These stories of yours are mind-boggling in the extreme.

Will we hear of him tanning on your roof next?

Whatever you're communicating to him, whether overtly or very subtly, the message needs to change. From what you're saying, though, it seems you're finally taking the necessary action.

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Oh, it's been way more than 4 years. We have been officially divorced for over 7 years and separated for even longer!

The tanning on the roof would not surprise me either. That's the sad thing.

I am not nice to him in any way, shape or form. A mutual friend got married a few months ago and I did not attend. When he asked me why, I told him because he would be there and I didn't want him to get drunk and think that I liked him.

I know that some guys like women who are mean to him but this is ridiculous.

But, he doesn't act like he likes me. He is nasty. He acts like I am his property and my things belong to him. He gets away with too much because he just yells louder or convinces me that I'm the one being unreasonable. Today I just snapped. I don't get mad often but when I do, I go all in.

Posted by Sagsagsags

Posted by Deedee86

Posted by Sagsagsags
have you ever been with another guy after your divorce? does he know?

Yes, for over 5 years

urgh.. your ex is sick then. point blank period

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I agree 100%

On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

YES!

About time.

Yer a badass.

So happy for you 😄

Posted by Deedee86
On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

you are so insane with drama you don't even realize what you are doing - you would have taken a chance at burning your place down ? how ridiculous is that ?

yes you do invite drama and then get off telling other people what happened - I guess your life would be boring without both your antics - I feel for your children growing up in that atmosphere but I guess children grow up under worse conditions

if you truly didn't want it, you would have ended this properly years ago but you are weak for the drama apparently - you must like it otherwise you would have slapped an order on him the first time it happened

Posted by Se7en

Posted by Deedee86
On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

Childproof? You mean Scorpio proof! You almost burned down your house, lady.

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Actually it was a SCORPIO lighter! That's the only reason why I bought it.

Posted by tcta

Posted by Deedee86
On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

you are so insane with drama you don't even realize what you are doing - you would have taken a chance at burning your place down ? how ridiculous is that ?

yes you do invite drama and then get off telling other people what happened - I guess your life would be boring without both your antics - I feel for your children growing up in that atmosphere but I guess children grow up under worse conditions

if you truly didn't want it, you would have ended this properly years ago but you are weak for the drama apparently - you must like it otherwise you would have slapped an order on him the first time it happened

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You guys are the only people that I tell so if you call it getting off then so be it.

My kids are doing fine but thank you for your concern.

Posted by Deedee86

Posted by tcta

Posted by Deedee86
On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

you are so insane with drama you don't even realize what you are doing - you would have taken a chance at burning your place down ? how ridiculous is that ?

yes you do invite drama and then get off telling other people what happened - I guess your life would be boring without both your antics - I feel for your children growing up in that atmosphere but I guess children grow up under worse conditions

if you truly didn't want it, you would have ended this properly years ago but you are weak for the drama apparently - you must like it otherwise you would have slapped an order on him the first time it happened

You guys are the only people that I tell so if you call it getting off then so be it.

My kids are doing fine but thank you for your concern.

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right and right

Another episode in the Stomach Churns ...stay tuned for next episode, guaranteed to be even more dramatic

Posted by P-Angel


Another episode in the Stomach Churns ...stay tuned for next episode, guaranteed to be even more dramatic

Oh P, so nice of you to chime in. I'm surprised to hear from you on Halloween. I thought you would be busy slipping needles into candy.

Posted by DivaCanLeo
This is the father of your children correct?

Yes

Posted by Sagsagsags

Posted by Deedee86

Posted by Se7en

Posted by Deedee86
On a humorous note....

When he was in my bed I was doing everything to get him up. At one point I told him that I was going to light him on fire and burn him out. I picked up a lighter and tried to light it but couldn't get past the childproof mechanism.

At the time I was too pissed to laugh but looking back now, it was pretty funny.

Childproof? You mean Scorpio proof! You almost burned down your house, lady.

Actually it was a SCORPIO lighter! That's the only reason why I bought it.

HAHAHAHHAHAA...

wait you're a scorp? And you let someone get away with this for 7 freaking years?

out of curiosity what's your ex hub sun sign?

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Cap

always keep your doors locked

Posted by MagicMona
is it bad i would have shot him? not to kill him, i have excellent aim. just to let him know i was not playing with his dumb ass..is that bad?

I wish I had the guts. I would be lying if I said that it didn't cross my mind. The anger and hatred is there but he's so much bigger and stronger. I would've beat him with a bat years ago if I thought I could live to tell about it.